My friend doesn't shave her legs. All the kids make fun of her behind her back.
I want to tell her to shave, but I'm afraid I'll hurt her feelings or she'll get mad at me.
-Can't Break It To Her
Dear C.B.I.T.H,
Maybe your friend is not in a mad rush to grow up and is resisting the pressure others feel. Can you stand up to the other kids? Say, "C'mon, give her a break," or "Who cares about her hairs?" or "I like her—could you please not make fun of her?" It may take guts, but it feels good to defend a friend. And why should she conform to other people's standards?
If however, you decide to draw her attention to her legs, you could walk through a pharmacy with your friend as you casually buy what you need, including razors, or you could even invite her to join you and a few friends for a Saturday spa—you'll provide the nail polish, razors, and shaving cream.

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 8/21/2009 7:00:00 AM 145 COMMENTS