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Religious differences

 

My whole family is Catholic and expects me to go through confirmation soon. I have read about Catholicism and I have kept an open mind. But I’ve decided not to go through with it.


Since I don’t believe in their faith, my parents and brother say they are disappointed in me.


I know I need to stay true to my own values. What should I do?



Hey girl, this is a tough one. There are two topics that are almost always difficult to discuss: politics and religion. In both cases, especially the religion part, you have to follow your heart and stay true to yourself.


Of course, this is probably easier said than done, especially if the rest of your family believes in the same thing. But diversity is the spice of life! Just because you don’t necessarily agree with all of their beliefs, doesn’t mean you can’t all get along and discuss your differences maturely.




First, make sure your parents recognize that while you respect their beliefs, you just don’t exactly agree with all of them. If you explain why you’ve decided not to go through confirmation and give them specific reasons, I’m sure they'll be more respectful of YOUR views, too. More importantly, explain to them what you do believe in and why. This will also help them better understand you.




You should also point out the values that you and your fam DO share. Are you all hard workers? Do you all think it's way important to go green? Let them know that you're still YOU and you still share some of their views. The only thing that's changed is your religious beliefs, and that's only ONE section of your life.


At the end of the day, you can’t please everyone. So there are times when you may have to agree to disagree. When this happens, you could say, “Mom, I understand where you’re coming from and I respect your beliefs, but I don’t exactly agree. I hope you can respect where I’m coming from, too.” Who can argue with that?




Lots of love,

L’Oreal

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Same :/ My family is Christian and I'm not...

by sk8rgrl767 on 12/29/2010 7:15:23 PM

 
 

Im catholic and i have many religious indifferences about it. but anyway ur parents will come to realize that that is what you want and if they really love you it will overcome there issues..

by She's That Sk8r Grl on 10/19/2010 6:13:42 AM

 
 

MOD! MOD! MOD! Please help me i go to a catholic school, but i am not catholic, i am presbytarian. I feel really alone and left out. I have a few friends that arent catholic,but we all feel this way. When we go to church, when everyone else gets their bread I have to put a big X on myself with my arms so they dont give me bread. Also, In all the church pamphlets it says that they hope the sad wrongdoings of other religions will dissapear but until they do they wont permit us to recive communion. When Teachers ask about baptism, and I say I never was, everyone stares at me like im a bad person! Do I have to be Catholic to got to heavan? because thats the message i get from my school. Frown




Hey girlie, that must be a really tough situation. I think you should bring your concerns up with your parents and a guidance counselor at your school. The idea of a "Catholic" heaven is a catholic religious belief. Think about your own faith and what you believe. If your not sure of that again talk to your parents and guidance counselor. 
Paige T.

by Beluga-swim on 9/4/2010 4:50:26 PM

 
 

Punx72, I have a question for you. How do you think single celled organisms appeared in the first place? They couldn't have just appeared. Besides my mom died a few weeks ago and I believe being a christian has helped me through.

by Kayal124 on 8/26/2010 9:55:15 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!
I have a huge problem. I've been Christian for as long as I can remember. I grew up in a Christian family, was baptised, and still go to church every Sunday. But I don't feel comfortable with Christianity and I want to change to Wicca.
The problem is, my parents are zealots when it comes to religion. It's a touchy subject in my household because my parents make it seem like it's the only way. They don't like Wicca at all and view it as ridiculous. How can I approach them without maikng them really angry?




Hey girlie, It can be really hard when you're not the same religion as your parents. I think you should ask your parents if you can have a talk with them, and explain to them the reasons for your discomfort with Christianity. Tell them that you respect their beliefs, and they should respect yours as well. What religion you are should be up to you, but your parents might not be totally cool with that. You might have to keep going to church with your fam to keep them happy, but you can believe whatever you want!
Alissa S.

by TwiHard13 on 7/7/2010 10:50:15 AM

 
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