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Dealing With a Catty Chica

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There’s this girl at my school, and she is friends with all my friends. She hates me for no reason. I didn’t do anything to her; she turns my friends to her side. Recently, I came out and said “It really hurts me when you do this to me; please stop.” She and all my friends just started laughing. I was so hurt.

I came out and said “If you want to be her friend, be her friend. You evidently don’t want to be mine.” I don’t know what to do! Help!

-Susan'

Dear Susan,

Obviously, this girl is pretty awful. She might have issues with self-esteem or her home life. Whatever her issues are, you don’t deserve to be treated poorly. It’s good to hear you stood up for yourself, but it stinks that your friends have ditched you for this Regina George.

Try hanging out with some new girls. Get to know some chicks that are in the same clubs or play the same sports as you. Summer is just around the corner and there are plenty of chicas that you can make friends with. Maybe some of your old posse will come around and realize what a better pal you are.

Love ya,

Lara

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 9/16/2009 7:00:00 AM 24 COMMENTS

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heres some advice ;

get new friends !
this girl is definately NOT worth your time !
beleive me ;)
For someone to judge you, without even getting to know you.
thats just striaght up, RUDE !
& not to mention immature.
I know people like that too,
it made me so angry that i just went up to her and said , WHAT IS YOUR PROBLEM ? who do you think you are to judge me without even getting to know me first? Seriously, you are the rudest person i have ever met.

and then i walked away (:
HAHA, she just stood there in disbeleif.
she never thought someone would have the guts to stick up for themselves like I did.
Ever since, shes never started any rumors or anything about me, or my friends ;)

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nikker on 1/3/2010 5:32:05 PM

MOD in my group of friends i would be considered as the untalkative person of the group. i want to make conversations with my friends but i never know what to talk about. help!

Hey girl! Just ask them questions about school or their after-school activities. Get to know them better by being curious!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

Jgirlox24 on 10/25/2009 9:16:35 PM

ADVICE PLZ!!! this is like the same situation and the catty girl hates all my friends except one of them the and like all my friends hate her except for one of my friends the catty girl is nice to my friend and my friend thinks this catty girl is nice and idk cause if all of us tell the one friend tht this catty girl is not being nice to us she will think we are just trying to tear them apart or tht we r being mean to her.. but i dont wanna lose tht one friend to this catty girl! how do we get this catty girl out of our group PLZ HELP ME!

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blackanaconda on 10/15/2009 6:30:51 PM

i'm in a situation kinda like that...i'm friends with a some girls at school and one of them is friends with my friends but she hates me for NO REASON i'm not even kidding. i hate her she thinks shes SO popular, but she has hardly any friends! but my true friends are still nice to me

MOD!!!!!!!!!! what should i do next time that mean girl disses me or somthin?

Hey missy, just ignore her and show her that what she says doesn't phase you. The next time she approaches you, and you feel like you have to say something, keep it short and sweet with something like, "You know, I really don't have time for drama." or "Are you finished, because I'm so over this argument."

Lynae P.

kittykatz000000 on 9/27/2009 3:49:56 PM

IT SOUNDS LIKE U NEED NEW FRIENDS GOODE LUCK

mylife*11 on 9/24/2009 4:51:33 PM

hey girls! i have lots of experience giving advice here on GL and offline! check out the advice section of my profile for details and leave me a comment!!
~ellie~

hugatree95 on 9/21/2009 3:43:00 PM

omg! if they think that that girl isbetter at being a friend than you are then they are not your real friends. if they were then they could be your friend and hers and still like you.

tain 32 on 9/20/2009 8:19:20 PM

I am so sorry that happened to you!! I would feel awful. maybe you should find new friends though...

silvershadow on 9/20/2009 6:30:29 PM

that is good advice
that situatuin would suck if i were friends with you id never ditch u

dogluver82 on 9/20/2009 5:09:13 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!! Help! i entered this yesterday but you guys were too busy can you help today? OK, so i hang out with like six girls. (I go to a small school and we've known each other and everyone in town for like ever) well about two or three years ago my one "friend" aka A moved to town. since then four of my six bffls have been ditching me for her. the two others and myself are the ones in the group that don't really follow the crowd it's not that we're outsiders or anything we're just shy and kinda nerdy (1,2,3 top GPAs lol) so people tend to not talk with us cause all we do is talk about books and stuff. the other four are my friends from like sports and stuff and they are all cool and stuff but they have way more drama filled lives that drive me insane (come on they fight over the littlest thing A yelled at me once cause i got bangs and she was "going" to get them and all. so the four have been ditching me and coming up with lame excuses like they have to go grocery shopping and stuff like that and then i see them in town walking and shopping together. I've asked them what's up and told them that i really don't appreciate them lying and wish they would just tell the truth. they told me they still want to hang out and be friends but they would rather hang with her so i should just know that they may leave if they get an invite from her. A aways FINDS OUT WHEN MY PARTIES ARE AND INVITES THEM IN FRONT PF ME THEN LOOKS AND GOES OH WHOOPS SORRY NOT YOU OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. (sorry caps lock) plus last year we decided to run for class office (me and three of the four) and A knew but she decided to run for the same thing as me and came up to me and was like i knew you wanted to but I'll win and i think you know everyone wants me to do it and you'll lose. i don't know what to do without my friends but this is just insane. should i just hang with the two friends i know are true and tell the others off or what. I know that if i want to be friends with the other four i can't confront A really cause they all come to her defense. she is just a manipulative person that i don't know how to deal with any advice? sorry it's long it's hard to explain

Hey girl! Sorry to hear about your rough sitch. It sounds like your so called friends aren't really acting like it. A is def not treating you with the respect that you deserve. It's tough, but hang out with the couple friends that have stayed true, and try to meet new people. It's kinda scary, but you don't have to tell off your old pals. Just start hanging out with some new people who share common interests with you like books and sports that you enjoy. Over time, you'll meet new true friends who love you for who you are. Hope this helps! Best, Kristen

Kristen Y.

sneakergirl on 9/20/2009 4:50:12 PM

im so sorry that happened. if i were part of ur friend group, i would never go be friends with that meanie. i would stick with u. cuz that's what friends are for.

PURPLEROX! on 9/20/2009 11:37:54 AM

MOD, My BFF is just so awesome! Though I don't get to hang out with her very often. Because she is friends with the popular people and the popular people hate me. How can I play with her when I want to without asking her to stop playing with her friends for a while? Oh, and BTW, my only other friend hang with the pops too.

Well if she's your best friend she'll want to hang out with her so just ask. I'm sure she'll make time for you xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

glamourgirl107 on 9/19/2009 9:17:22 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!! Help! OK, so i hang out with like six girls. (I go to a small school and we've known each other and everyone in town for like ever) well about two or three years ago my one "friend" aka A moved to town. since then four of my six bffls have been ditching me for her. the two others and myself are the ones in the group that don't really follow the crowd it's not that we're outsiders or anything we're just shy and kinda nerdy (1,2,3 top GPAs lol) so people tend to not talk with us cause all we do is talk about books and stuff. the other four are my friends from like sports and stuff and they are all cool and stuff but they have way more drama filled lives that drive me insane (come on they fight over the littlest thing A yelled at me once cause i got bangs and she was "going" to get them and all. so the four have been ditching me and coming up with lame excuses like they have to go grocery shopping and stuff like that and then i see them in town walking and shopping together. I've asked them what's up and told them that i really don't appreciate them lying and wish they would just tell the truth. they told me they still want to hang out and be friends but they would rather hang with her so i should just know that they may leave if they get an invite from her. A aways FINDS OUT WHEN MY PARTIES ARE AND INVITES THEM IN FRONT PF ME THEN LOOKS AND GOES OH WHOOPS SORRY NOT YOU OR SOMETHING LIKE THAT. (sorry caps lock) plus last year we decided to run for class office (me and three of the four) and A knew but she decided to run for the same thing as me and came up to me and was like i knew you wanted to but I'll win and i think you know everyone wants me to do it and you'll lose. i don't know what to do without my friends but this is just insane. should i just hang with the two friends i know are true and tell the others off or what. I know that if i want to be friends with the other four i can't confront A really cause they all come to her defense. she is just a manipulative person that i don't know how to deal with any advice?
sorry it's long it's hard to explain

Hey chicky, I’m a busy
bee facilitating all the G-Blog jazz. Although I’d love to answer and chat with
all ya gals, it’s just not possible at the moment. I’m sure our lovely bloggers
here would love to help ya out with some great advice! Thanks for
understanding. ♥, Your Blog Patrol Babes

Eryn G.

sneakergirl on 9/19/2009 4:31:41 PM

tatz awful hon (T_T)

chocolatelover13 on 9/19/2009 7:59:28 AM

MOD!!!!!!!!!
Dif subject matter, but still, my friend and i r like Bff's 1 day, and SO mad the next. half the time, it's 'cuz she acts like a total snob. should i keep her or ditch her? AND, she's te hitty type, and it's NON-stop! then she talks to me in class, and gets ME in trouble and doesn't even take the blame. and yeah. when she hits she hits me too. what do i do?!

Hey it looks like your friend is going through something that is probably not related to your friendship. No one deserves to be hit by her friend! Let her know you're upset by the hitting and that you're here for her if she needs you...but not to be her punching bag.

Try sitting away from her in class and near her at the cafeteria...that should keep you from getting into trouble. If she's ditching you, she's not worth it. Hang out with the friends that make you the happiest!

Megan R.

RainBow_cow on 9/19/2009 4:37:45 AM

Omg that sucks i cant beleive they LAUGHED at you !

Maddyrox92 on 9/18/2009 8:15:36 PM

nicee advice!! MOD!!!!i have the samee problem... i hang out with a big group of girls and there is this one girl who talks behind my back to my best friends and says really mean stuff and how i dont belong and...she doesnt like me. but then she is nice to me then she isnt. and it makes me really upset. My friends know she doesnt like me but, they are good friends with her too. i dont know what to do? i havent tried talking to her yet because i am scared..

Aw girl, I'm sorry to hear about your sitch. Here's my suggestion. Grab your BFF and confront her together. It's much easier when you have a buddy right there to support you and your point. Tell this girl that you heard she says mean things about you and you'd like her to stop -- that it hurts you. With your BFF there (or even whole group of girls), there will be more pressure for this girl to change her ways. Remember, when it comes to righting a wrong, there's def strength in numbers.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

misher4 on 9/17/2009 7:25:55 PM

that is awful

GumChewer on 9/17/2009 6:21:35 PM

Pick new friends!

actress96 on 9/16/2009 8:21:05 PM

***MOD***
Ive got a prob:
I hate chorus. not because i hate singing, no way. i love it and almost made districts (missed by 2 points!). my problem is my friend, lets call her 'katie' who is one of my bestest buddies, and as such always stands next to me. The real problem is that she is a REALLY bad singer, like whining, dying, diseased, walrus bad, and she thinks she's great. She got kicked out of the a preformance at school because of this, and i feel soooooo bad.(she gave my friends a very diffrent excuse..) i dont want to tell her this, cuz it would really hurt her feelings, but she would be suspicious if i just stopped standing next to her. its not that i dont want to be associated with her, its that its distracting me and im having a hard time focusing on my own work. is there a way i can get around this prob? she is one of my VERY best friends, and im trying my hardest to remember that. PLEASE give me some advice!

Hey babe,

Unfortunately, the only things I can think of are either asking your teacher or whoever is in charge of chorus to move you or just learning to concentrate on your own voice or the person on the other side of you. Telling your friend will definitely hurt her, so you'll have to look for other ways around this.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

angelfood123 on 9/16/2009 7:49:36 PM

Talk to her and your friends and work this out.

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Abriella123 on 9/16/2009 6:24:37 PM

Ughhhhh

sparky4me on 9/16/2009 4:36:24 PM

Good advice Lara! That must suck, but I'd totally try hanging out with new girls and become their friends...i beat they'd treat u better

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SportyGal on 9/16/2009 8:21:37 AM

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