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My boyfriend just cheated on me with my BFF. I can’t dump him because I like him so much!

And I can’t be mad at my BFF because she didn’t know we were going out. Should I dump him?

—Heartbroken

She’s your BFF, and she didn’t even know you were going out with this guy? That alone is weird. She can’t be that good of a friend if she doesn’t even ask who you’re dating these days. I guess you can’t be mad at her since she didn’t even know you were a couple.

But you can be angry with him, unless there’s a chance he didn’t know you were going out either. If he knew, and was aware you two were BFFs, there’s no excuse for his cheating. Even though you really like him, move on. It sounds like you care about the relationship a lot more than he does.

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 9/24/2009 7:00:00 AM 101 COMMENTS

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can u make one that talks about what to do if ur bff likes the same guy as you?

nessa<3ann on 10/27/2009 4:41:29 PM

dump him rite now. if ur the only 1 faithful in a relationship, its not a relationship. And nxt time, be sure to tell ur BFF ur seeing someone that way u avoid 2 much drama.

Bookworm246 on 10/20/2009 10:54:40 PM

PLEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY.

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

Designer_Girl on 10/17/2009 10:32:31 PM

1. say your name 5x
2. say your moms name5x
3. say your crushes name 3x
post this in 4 other places and your crush will kiss you to the nearest friday

sunnyside on 10/16/2009 9:50:10 PM

hey i read ur situation and i think you should talk to your bf about it

diana4ever387 on 10/15/2009 5:01:36 PM

say your name 10times
say your moms name 5 times
say your crushes name 3 times
then post this on three diff sites and he will kiss you on the comming friday

oochoo on 10/13/2009 9:32:10 PM

DUMP HIM. Tell him to get a life and move on! SERIOUSLY!

almightysneakers on 10/13/2009 6:59:43 PM

well duhhhhhhhhhhhhh break up with him.

emilyxoxx14 on 10/12/2009 3:56:40 PM

Dear Heartbroken;

Your question- Should I dump him?
My asnwer; Yes you should. &the reason why i am saying yes is because you don't and no girls desevres to be cheated by their boyfriends, and it is not right for you to be bestfriends with her still, and staying with your boyfriend.
They both had hurt you, and you shouldn't forgive them. i think it is time for you to say "GoodBye" to both, and forgot them forever, and never talk to them again. Your bestfriend shoudl know this.

<3 Shaa

Shaaa on 10/11/2009 5:15:29 PM

1. say ur name 10x
2. say ur moms name 5x
3. say ur crushes name 3x
4. now post this in 4 other spots and ur crush will kiss u on the nearest friday

allamericanrejectsgirl on 10/8/2009 6:25:31 PM

i can note relate but my bff likes the same guy as me and she knoows i like him she just likes him because i do and she is going to aask him out!!!!!!!!!!

bfflove on 10/4/2009 11:07:55 PM

i would dumb him sorry a cheater alway a cheater

Moo Moo on 10/3/2009 5:25:46 PM

oooommmggg DUMP HIM FAST

meg0502 on 9/30/2009 6:23:47 PM

ravenhatter on 9/30/2009 3:43:07 PM

i think you should just dump him and if he begs for forgivnice dont even talk to him

ravenhatter on 9/30/2009 3:41:56 PM

dump him girly, but why didnt you tell your bestie? that alone just creates drama....
trust me. been there, done that.
secrets arent good in relationships or friendships. (:

babewithbrains on 9/30/2009 1:11:21 AM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD Dear Mod, I've really liked this guy for a while and for a while we didn't talk but after he figured out through my Bff (I asked her to do that she would never just do that) that I liked him when I text him I get a reply and i don't keep the convo going anymore he does. But Today I had a rough day and we were talking on F.B and he was like asking why I was in a bad mood and He actually wanted to listen but before I explained and sent the txt he signed off. I didn't really know how to take this cuz my guy friend was talking to him and my crush told him to txt him instaed but not me should I take this the wrong way or something? thanx in advance!

Hey girlie! I wouldn't take it too personally! Do your thing and everything will work out!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

jblover1101 on 9/29/2009 7:32:43 PM

****MOD***** I have a problem and i was hoping you could help.... One of my best friends is awesome to be around etc. etc. UNTIL she is hanging out with her other group of friends that im not really a part of then she starts insulting me but acting like its nothing and all her other friends laugh and then think its ok to make "jokes" about me too.... i dont know what to do i want to stay her friend and hang out with her other friends but i dont want to be insulted and made fun of what should i do?

Hey girlie! Try talking to her about it. If she doesn't change it up, you don't have to be around her! Sometimes girls can go through some changes while growing up and you should try to be there for her. Do your own thing for the time being and wait it out while she does hers!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

hmhsmrule on 9/29/2009 7:00:39 PM

i have a boy that likes me but wants to go steaby.But there is another boy thast wants to know if i llike him what should i do !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! HELP

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hippyprincess122 on 9/29/2009 6:15:24 PM

lol this is funny bt the bff is kinda gross

Fudgypeachbaby on 9/29/2009 1:03:55 PM

yo that's messed up advice sorry, yeah your friend should know but if she doesn't that's OK. You should totally dump the guy, if the your bf is cheating on you that is not going to create a good relationship, trust me on this one girl!

captainhess on 9/29/2009 12:42:22 AM

MOD MOD MOD
i just made a new frend and we are becoming really close, but my BFF doesnt really like her because she did something mean to her in 4th grade. I think she is super nice and i always want to invite her to the mall with us or the the movies. How can i ask my BFF to give her a second chance?

Hey babe,

Your new friend has probably changed a lot since 4th grade. You and your BFF probably have too! Remind your BFF of that and ask her to hang out just once with her and give her a chance and then respect your BFF if they still don't get along. You'll just have to hang out with them separately.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

animaluver438 on 9/28/2009 11:17:22 PM

I liked the "that alone is weird" part. I hope your relationships get straightened out

QQuinnShoe on 9/28/2009 10:33:00 PM

k thanks Lynae!

hazel_hottie on 9/28/2009 6:47:18 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MoD mod!!!!!!
i am an okay singer and actress. I sing and act outside of school. But I still don't feel like I could get a good part in my middle school play. And my voice is cracking. What do I do??!!

Hey girl! You will never know until you try. Go ahead and try out for the play. Even if you don't get a "good" part, you will still gain experience and that's how you get better. Good luck!

XOXO

Liz

Liz L.

Smileygirl86 on 9/28/2009 9:39:41 AM

what horrible bf and bff. i'm sorry i jut think that if your BESTFRIEND "didn't know" about your boyfriend? come on girlie

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MOD! I didn't get my magazine yet, it was supposed to come a week ago. I checked with the account checker thing and it said "Your current subscription will expire with the Oct/Nov 2009 issue." does that mean the Oct/Nov issue will be the last one or will i not get it?

Hey girlie! You might try checking out our page for more info: https://secure.girlslife.com/Contact.aspx

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Taeler L.

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Club_Paramore on 9/27/2009 8:52:22 PM

Hey Mod, Well as you may have seen in my other posts I was going to talk to Will at the game but unfortunatly I chickened out but we both couldn't stop staring at each other and I almost dropped the flyer (I had to fill in for a base) because it was like magical. But anyways I just couldn't get the nerve up to talk to him. Any ideas?

Hey girl! Since you two def made eye contact, bring up the game next time you're aruond him. Ask him if he had a good time, mention that you should go to another one sometime...together. From here you can ask him how his weekend was or about the week ahead. Best of luck, Kristen

Kristen Y.

That_Girl96 on 9/27/2009 7:48:06 PM

OK,if I were you,I would leave him.I mean,yeah it's sad your friend didn't know you were dating but he knew you guys were friends!You guys would tell each other everything.Don't be mad at your friend.Be mad at him.Leave him and if he wants a second chance don't let him have it.Hope I helped!
xoxo
Kadi!

Kadi on 9/27/2009 5:46:26 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!! ok so my crush has a facebook so i asked to b friends and he sent me a message askin who i was (even tho i've met him b4)so i told him and he said "o" and i said yea & asked if he was doin the upcomin band competiton our skool is having and he replied back and was like "y r u so into me?" i told i thot he was cute but idk y that i just am and i apologized if he had a gf already or felt uncomfortable. he never replied back or added me as a friend. does he not like me? am i being to pushy? what should i do now?

Hey chica, mhmm sounds like he may be a little taken aback. He probably didn't know how to respond to what you said, so he just didn't reply. For now, I don't think you should message him, because it's a little akward between you two. Give it some time and if he talks to you then respond.

Lynae P.

blondie123abc on 9/27/2009 4:12:53 PM

if hes stupid enough to cheat on you, be smart enough to leave him.

but really????? how didnt your bff know?

peacelovecandy on 9/27/2009 3:51:07 PM

~~~~~~MOD~~~~~~ My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago because we live too far apart (aka half an hour aka not that far) and he told my friend that he ended it because he thought it was hurting me which it soooo wasn't. i told him that but i don't think he believes me. i can't get over him and i don't want to. i just want things to be back the way they used to be... wut should i do? i really love him and i can feel myself sinking into a depression

Hey chica, when you just break up with someone, you want nothing more than to have that person and relationship back. But you have to get over them and the relationship (yes this will be hard at first). You should start by hanging out with friends and doing things that you enjoy. That way if you keep yourself busy, you won't have time to think about your ex. Just remember that getting over a breakup takes time, so give yourself a while to get back to normal.

Lynae P.

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Club-Girls on 9/27/2009 3:44:50 PM

tell that dude to get lost!!! no ifs ands or buts about it he is a loser!
and talk to ur friend. it sounds like she knows more than shes letting on...

nerdygal on 9/27/2009 1:09:43 PM

if i were u girl, i would have already dumped him. my mom always says to never settle, and if a guy cheats on you, he doesnt love you with all his heart. everyone deserves that special guy that will walk up to you and hug you for no reason, or tell u ur beautiful everyday. keep ur expectations high. never settle for a so so boy. all girls deserve the best!

nerdygal on 9/27/2009 1:04:34 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!! ok so i know this girl and i cant stand to be around her. we were friends last year but now she is reely annoying and rude and dramatic. shes always interrupting me when im trying to talk to my other friends and she follows me around like crazy! she tells everybodys' secrets so im glad i never told her any of mine! how do i get rid of her! we hav a no bullying policy at my school so i cant snap at her or insult or anything mean like that. the meanest thing i could possibly do would be to state the obvious(like tell her that shes breathing down my neck or hovering)or ignore her. would that be best? oh yeah and shes in most of my classes and always tries to sit by me at lunch. i hate to say this, but i want her out of my life. HELP!!!

Hey chicky, you need to let her know face to face how you feel. Set up a place and time where you guys can meet. Then gently tell her, you enjoy her company but need some space and that you need to spend time with your other friends.

Lynae P.

nerdygal on 9/27/2009 1:02:03 PM

DUMP HIM

pupellie on 9/27/2009 9:17:02 AM

MOD MOD MOD
I feel like my BFF is replacing me. She keeps telling me stories about her new band friends and how they have so much fun together. But the thing that really bothers me is she keeps saying "they are such great friends" Im happy for her but i feel like she doesnt even care about me anymore. And when i try to something with her she is always busy. I dont know what to do! I feel like im losing my best friend

If shes your best friend then you should go to her and tell her how you feel. If you two talk about it i'm sure she will realize that she's been ignoring you lately and she'll stop. Good luck! xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

animaluver438 on 9/27/2009 12:13:13 AM

hey you know what my mom says a lot

a cheater is always a cheater

so never go back with a boy you have dated and he cheated on you

so i think so should DUMP HIM

and try to get over him

hbailey981 on 9/26/2009 9:11:36 PM

Heyy mod,
thanks for all the help i know i've been a real bother

Your welcome!

Eryn G.

That_Girl96 on 9/26/2009 2:28:29 PM

Heyy Mod sorry I'm asking so many questions but should i talk to him today at the football game?

Hey girl! Yea you could if you feel comfortable

Eryn G.

That_Girl96 on 9/26/2009 2:24:07 PM

srry I lkeft this part out he said he had a thing for me (idk if he was kidding about that) then agreed with me that we were never friends and kept talking to my friend Sydney

That_Girl96 on 9/26/2009 2:20:09 PM

Heyy Mod,
Well I know Will pretty well but recently made the mistake of yelling at him and saying he was never my friend what should I do about that?

Hey girl! You should apologize to him

Eryn G.

That_Girl96 on 9/26/2009 2:15:40 PM

Heyy Mod,
I need some advice I'm really stressed out me and my friend LIly are having promblems with knowing who are friends are any more I mean Lily and I are lik sisters but we have no idea who to trust I also like this guy Will but he made out with my friend Mallory and I'm really p-oed at that but I still like him and he flirts with me a bit so any ideas I know this is very general sorry.

Hey girl! Yea its hard to find good friends to trust, but you will with experience. You should just forget about that and just try to get to know this guy better.

Eryn G.

That_Girl96 on 9/26/2009 2:01:46 PM

OK. I get it. So sad! My life is lik URs. MY 7 month boyfriend totally dumped me.He said he likes me still but it's that he can't have a relationship- then he went out with the new girl!
And he totally talks with one friend Tal more than new girl.Which tells me what? I dunno. If he is really having a forbidden (notsomuchromance)
relatonship,Why nawt with his ex,who loved him in the first place,(anddoesn'tlikehowmuchheignoresher...)then why?

marzziPan:) on 9/26/2009 1:03:56 PM

Mod: Okay well last night was my first dance,and I told my crush I like him cause he likes me too, so anyways I told him I like him and that if he asked me out I'd go out w/ him. So everyone was like omg r u finally going out! But everytime we had to say no, cause he won't go out w/ me he said he really likes me. He has some reason but he won't tell me! Then he kept tellin me 2 go back out with my ex, when about a week ago he was telling me 2 brake up with cause he didn't really like me! What should I do, just 4 get him or what, idk what 2 do @ school monday it's going 2 b sooo awkward!

Hey girl! This guy is messing with your heart. Go with what makes you happy. Try hanging out with a different crowd and taking a break from this heart-breaker!

Megan R.

annaclare on 9/26/2009 12:32:24 PM

You deserve better than that.

Katelyn 24 on 9/26/2009 8:30:33 AM

DUMP HIM!!!! BE THE DUMPER NOT THE DUMPIE! I'M SURE HE KNEW HE WAS DATING YOU!

Randafanna2 on 9/26/2009 12:12:41 AM

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