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Last year, one of my BFFs invited me to her birthday party at her house. It was at her house and we were just going to dance and stuff. It was also my first boy-girl party. I knew that my friend's friends were all drinking at parties and even though I don't drink, I still went to the party. I thought it was going to be the perfect way to make new friends, since my BFF was my only pal at the party...I was wrong.

There wasn't much dancing and the only ones who did dance were drunk. My BFF was mostly with the group that was right next to the beer and they were ALL drinking so I didn't want to stay. I didn't have a great time and it was supposed to be a great night, making friends and dancing. What am I going to do the next time someone invites me to a party?

Hey babe, I'm sorry you had to go through that. That must've been such a hard situation, but it sounds like you handled it really well. Kudos to you for not giving in to peer pressure and drinking!

The sad truth is, there will always be groups in school that are into stuff that's not necessarily safe and legal. And even worse, it can be hard to trust new friends because of this. The only thing you can do is to stay true to your values, think about your choices and use your best judgment.

Next time someone invites you to a soiree, make sure you get all the deets before you go. Ask if the parents will be home, who is going and if there is gonna be any drinking. That way you can be prepared. If you hear that there will be alcohol, make plans with other pals. Underage drinking can be really dangerous and teens who binge drink risk getting really sick or can even dying from alcohol poisoning. Plus, if the party gets loud and out-of-control, neighbors could call the cops—and you might get an underage drinking citation just for BEING at the party, regardless if you had a drink or not.

If you're at a fiesta and feel uncomfortable for any reason, call your parents, an aunt or uncle or fam friend who can pick you up. You don't have to make a big fuss about it. Just tell your friends that you're not feeling too great so you're gonna head home and sleep it off. Since you're old enough to go to parties now, it's also a good idea to have an open discussion with your parents. Let them tell you what their expectations of you are and vice versa. I'm sure your 'rents would much rather come pick you up in the middle of the night at a party rather than a jail or hospital.

Most importantly? Don't let anyone pressure you into going somewhere or doing something that you are not comfortable with. If your friends are getting into some bad stuff, it might be time to consider making some new pals, chica. There are boy-girl bashes out there where there ARE just good ol' dancing for the sheer joy of it. How do you find these new pals? Join a sport or club so you can branch out and meet all sorts of different peeps. This could be a great opportunity to make new friends and try new things in a different (ahem, healthy and safe) way!

-Katie S.

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WaffleAddict on 12/9/2009 10:12:15 PM

Alchohol can ruin your life!! Oh im sorry you had to experience that.....that sucks. well you were very responsible not to drink. and your bestie shouldnt have allowed ANY drinking at her party! at leats she didnt get drunk though.but still.

selenaFan97 on 11/15/2009 3:19:23 PM

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sans11 on 11/5/2009 10:22:31 PM

party and alcoho is two differet thing .Ithink you should not drink a lot at a party so.Be careful when you go to.Party with alcoho ok

sexybubblegumgirl on 11/5/2009 9:28:39 PM

hi girls let rock this party down

sexybubblegumgirl on 11/5/2009 9:23:47 PM

is she underage omg get out of there , there could be consquences big ones too

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schmilersmilers on 10/15/2009 5:23:26 PM

Girls you got your whole life in front of you don't let some alcohal ruin your life think smart don't start so what if your friends are doing it?

LIL_MAMA on 10/14/2009 5:13:21 PM

you can talk to your parents if you're worried about stuff like that at parties. my mom told me that anytime i'm at a party and i don't feel comfortable, i can just call and say i'm not feeling well, and she'll come pick me up. it's just our little code.

klutz123 on 10/12/2009 1:46:06 PM

Hunn, it is ok sometimes. i am 15 and do it, i do it because i have alot of depression and stuff going on.

&i do it when im at a party, Juss start doing it with her.[:

it is fuun, and i drink wine, and my parents don't know.
alcohol! isn't that bad! it helps me forgot the pain for that night.

People do it because they're stressed-out, depressed, pissed-off, and stuff. Sometimes i do it for fun. lOl.

i started drinking when i was 12, no lies.

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vfactoryrocks101 on 10/6/2009 6:58:39 PM

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Hey there.

I love all of my friends, but one of them is getting on my nerves (just a tad). She calls so much, that even Mom asks if she has any other friends! The problem is that when I tell her that she calls too much when were all school, she gets sort of upset and says 'OK. I wont call today, or tomorrow, or the next day'. It's not that I don't enjoy talking to her on the phone (I do!), it's just it would be nice if she didn't constantly call. How can I tell her without hurting her feelings? :S - Brooke

Hey girlie! When she calls, just let her know youre a little busy and ask if you can call her later. She probably just really feels attached to you and wants your attention!

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vfactoryrocks101 on 10/6/2009 5:26:50 PM

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I am trying to convince my mom to let me go to parties. I'm in grade 9 now and like every single one of my friends is going and partying it up at bush parties etc. Its really hard to try and even just go to a BIRTHDAY PARTY?!? I want to start going out and partying and just having a good time i mean i know there might be alchohol there but its not a big deal! i don't understand why she is so strict about it! what can i do??!

Hey babe,

If there's alcohol, your mom's right - it could be really dangerous, even if you know better than to drink. Have your own party with friends who you know won't be drinking and let your mom see that you know better and she might be willing to let you go out more often

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

Ringette #9 on 10/2/2009 6:47:22 PM

MOD! MOD! Also with my problem with Ally. Well when I moved to Tennessee my first best friend here was Corrina. So she's always gonna be specialer and be my BEST friend. Well I was talking to her yesterday and Ally told me to stop talking to Corrina and talk to her! What can I do?

Hey girl, be polite and tell Ally you're busy but you'll talk to her later. Remember, niceness wins the war!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

4evamusicluver on 10/1/2009 6:56:04 PM

MOD! MOD! MOD! Ok so I am freaking tired of one of my friends. Her name is Ally. Well she is really mean to her family. She says her mom acts retarded and stupid, calls her brother gay, and her dad annoying! Her motheer is tots nice and her brother is just too adorable and her dad is awesome! She is also very controlling. She always wants me to wear my hair down and today she told me to take the jacket I was wearing, she told me to take it off because she didn't like it!!! I really do hate her. And she is saying retarded stupid, and crap a lot more bcuz she is hanging out with another one of our friends who says that a lot. Her name is Lauren. Well Lauren knows when to stop. Lauren respects and is nice to her mother, nice to her brothers, but she doesn't like her dad. She knows when to stop and when it's too far. But Ally doesn't know when it's too far. She keeps going and it's really getting annoying. Lauren has been out all week and I really hate having to be stuck with Ally. What can I do about my "friend"? I have more friends, Breanna, Paige, Hannah, and Corrina, they are more better friends

Hey girl, stick to your other friends and maybe have a heart-to-hear with Ally. Have your friends there when you tell her what she's doing isn't cool -- strength in numbers. If she doesn't change, let go of her. You've got better friends. Be polite to her but stick with 'em.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

4evamusicluver on 10/1/2009 6:50:55 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD.....
one of my friends is really getting on my nerves. She has always been the one who can be really nice to you and then turn around and be a real jerk. The other day she said some extremely rude things to one of my Bff's and that just put me over the edge. I am so mad at her now and i really would love to be the one who finally standa up to her and tells her that i'm tured of the way she thinks she can treat people poorly and get away with it. Should i tell her off or just leave it alone. I really don't care if we are friends or not i just want it to stop. Help!

Hey babe,

I think you should definitely talk to her about it, but try to keep calm when you do. she's more likely to listen to what you say and change the way she's been acting if you're calm and at least relatively nice about it.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

luv2cheer124 on 9/28/2009 10:46:37 PM

MOD or anyone
My friend...Lets call her "Ann", loves alcohol! I want her to stop drinking it because she's always lying to her parents about sneaking it and she's only 13! She won't take me seriously if I talk to her about it and she's been drinking more lately! What should I do???

Hey babe,

You might have to talk to her parents if she won't listen to you. she's way too young and if she gets started now things could get even worse for her later. she might be mad if you talk to her parents about it, but at least she'll be safe. she'll realize that and forgive you eventually.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

happyrainbowchicken on 9/28/2009 10:08:40 PM

MOD MOD MOD i'm friends with emma and emma's friends with anna. but sometimes me and emma hangout then. 3 minutes l8r after we r done talking she goes 2 anna. anna the glares @ me 7 gives me a look like score! emma came 2 me cuz i'm beta and emma's my firend not ur's. also last school year anna told emma that stole something from the teacher when i didnt what should i do MOD MOD MOD

Hey girl! The best thing to do is talk to Emma. Let her know that you and Anna are having some problems. But let her know that you didn't steal anything, and you want to be her friend. Also, try talking to Anna. Let her know that it's not a competition, and you three should all be friends. If it works, great! If not, atleast you tried and were the mature one. If she's still mean to you, don't be mean back. Just ignore her. best, Kristen

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ypsichic10 on 9/27/2009 7:28:10 PM

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My bestie is really pissing me off lately. Example 1: She's a drama club freak and she knows like everybody in it because of her older bro. The fall play only has 10 parts this year. So she tried out, got called back, but didn't get in. However, a freshman girl tried out, got in, and landed one of the leading lady roles. The thing is is that my friend keeps dissing this poor freshman [who I actually know and she's a sweetheart], saying that she didn't deserve the lead, and seniority should have pushed her out of call backs, and that her audition was terrible etc. I stood up for the freshman saying that apparently the director saw something in her that no one else did, and my friend is like, no, everyone thought her audition was terrible. This happens all the time.
Example 2: If she and I are walking to class together and she sees a drama club friend, she completely ditches me! I was in the middle of a conversation with her and she just up and ran down the hall yelling for one of her other friends to wait up. I wanted to cry [though I also was PMSing that day]. Then when I got to class after her, she was like, Where'd you go? And I said, No, where'd you go? You completely left! And she got all defensive and was like, I did not. I only talked to Breanne and then I couldn't find you. I felt like yelling at her and saying that she's a liar, that I saw the whole thing because I was walking behind them!!! Why is she acting like this? Am I being a jealous control freak? I don't think I am, but please tell me your opinion.
Thank you so much!

It sounds like your friend may be having some issues feeling secure with herself. By bashing the freshman she's just doing so out of her disappointment in not getting the part. Deep down the freshman is probably very talented, but she doesn't want to see this talent because she's jealous that the director didn't choose her. Support your friend, she's probably more upset than she shows.

The way she ditches you for her drama friends is not nice at all. You should sit down with her and tell her it bothers you. If she still does it, it's definitely a security issue. She wants to show you she has friends...maybe she thinks you have more friends than she does? Regardless of the underlying issue,remember that you deserve friends who are going to be nice and treat you with respect. If your friend is going to keep ditching you, she's not being a good friend.

Megan R.

_savvygirl_15 on 9/26/2009 10:24:51 AM

That's really tough. I'd tell your friends that you don't think alcohol is a good idea for you and walk away.

pointeprincess on 9/26/2009 9:57:23 AM

oh my gosh :[.
if a party makes u uncomfortable, then leave asap.

EbonyWolf93 on 9/25/2009 11:25:27 PM

MOD- At the begining of the summer my BFF told me that she drinks and does other bad things. I thought about it and I decided that I couldnt hang out with her if she was going to try to get me to do bad things. I havent talked to her in over a month but I miss her like crazy. I think about her everyday and it breaks my heart everytime I do. Should I try talking to her or should I just let time heal my heart?

Hey missy, yes you should talk to her. Let her know you love having her as a BFF, but that you're not too fond of her habits. Ask her to hang out with you, to show her you can have fun without doing all those bad things.

Lynae P.

twilightdreamer on 9/25/2009 11:11:50 PM

Yikes,Thats Tough.Hang in their!!!!

Katy Perry2 on 9/24/2009 10:36:42 PM

I can't stand the smell of alcohol I think it's absolutely disgusting!!!!!

eckogirl567 on 9/24/2009 8:54:58 PM

MOD!!!
for the last five days i have been waking up very unpleasantly to very heavey discharge does this mean my period is coming soon? oh and i have had discharge since fifth grade and i am now im seventh

Hey girl, sounds like it. Keep a pad on you and wear a panty-liner for now. You're way close to becoming a woman.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

hotpopluvr on 9/24/2009 7:35:57 PM

Ugh. I never understood the appeal of drinking. Beer tastes gross and then if you get drunk you act like a huge idiot and just make a fool out of yourself. You're also likely to get hurt. Great job not caving in on the peer pressure.

rawrmeansi<3uindinosaur on 9/24/2009 7:18:43 PM

Everyone!!!

Plz don't do any underage drinking or anything. Even if your pressured just try your best and say no and walk away. Teenage drinking is terrible plz don't start it!

And great job girl for not getting caught up in peer pressure!

iheartdegrassi101 on 9/24/2009 6:43:19 PM

I have a guy friend that I talk to ALL THE TIME outside of school. Like, seriously we are IMing right now. The thing is, we see each other a lot in school too and he acts like he doesn't know me. Outside, I know everything about him. All his crushes and secrets and everything. But it's like he doesn't know I exist during school hours! What's up with him?

BubbaleeEmalee123 on 9/24/2009 3:39:20 PM

underage drinking (and drinking at all) is stupid. i have already decided that im not going to drink now or when im an adult. good job for being yourself and not giving in.

soccerluvv on 9/24/2009 2:15:51 PM

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ok so i was talking to my friend on myspace and he said he was coming back to school. and i was all like yay and stuff. and then he was like i gotta ask you something but i had to go so i dont kno what he was gonna ask. i told my friend and she said i was flirting with him and it did seem like he was trying to ask me out. but now i feel bad for leading him on

Hey girl, I'm sorry to hear about your case. The thing when dealing with a BGF that wants to be more is to be gentle. Hint to him you just like being friends. And if he does drop the bombshell? Politely decline. Tell him you're flattered, but you only see him as a friend. It will sting, girlie, but it'll draw the line and better now then later, right? Good luck!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

cnell411 on 9/23/2009 9:49:49 PM

BubbaleeEmalee123 on 9/23/2009 9:40:26 PM

That is good advice, and it is really cool how you did NOT pick up a bottle of booze and gulp it down. Stay true to yourself, chica.

readerhi1234 on 9/23/2009 9:31:26 PM

Thanks so much mod i will definantley talk to my brother and if that doesnt work then i will talk to my parents

Cali_babe on 9/23/2009 9:26:30 PM

Dear mod!!! My brother drives me to school but he is a very careless driver. He goes 77 in a 65mph zone, he plays with his ipod so we drift off road, he doesnt come to full and complete stops behind the stop line. Yea the driver was being stupid and inconsiderate but he shouldnt of done that. It scares me that he does this especially wen i am in the car with him. Wen i say sumthing to him he just gets pissed and says he doesnt have to drive me to school and if i tell my parentsthey probably wont let us drive to school anymore and i love that freedom and want to keep it. Please help me i dont know wat to do.
And one more question i have droopy eyes and i was wondering how to makes my eyes look bigger or less droopy.
THANKS SO MUCH

Hey girl, I'm way sorry to hear about what your bro's doing. The big thing though is that those habits are doing more than just worrying you -- they're putting both of you in major danger. Speeding and being a reckless driver can lead to some serious bouts with the law and more. You need to tell your folks and your bro you don't feel safe with the way he's driving. Talk to your bro first and tell him if he doesn't clean up his act, you'll tell your folks. And if he still doesn't let up? You need to tell your mom and dad. Better safe than sorry, girlie because accidents are all scary and zero fun. As for those eyes? Make-up products like concealer can help take away the shadows but the best thing you can do is eat healthy and get enough sleep at night. Take care of yourself, girlie, and you'll sparkle inside and out!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

Cali_babe on 9/23/2009 9:10:26 PM

Wow, that's a hard situation. But ur a really strong person for not giving into that peer pressure. Stay strong and never give in. If your friends continue going down the wrong path, maybe try to distance yourself from them. Try to go to parties with your other friends that aren't into that stuff.

ShopperSoccerGurl on 9/23/2009 8:54:30 PM

Oh wow.That's scaaaaaary!Good thing you didn't drink!

actress96 on 9/23/2009 8:42:51 PM

MOD please help me: I'm really really sad right now cause my friend texted my bgf or my ex-bgf and he hasn't texted her in 4 ever , well this time he texted her back. She texted him & put u need to call Anna (me). He didn't answer that text. So then I just *67 him cause ik he wouldn't answer if I didn't. He picked up and he said hello so I said hey then I said y don't u ever talk 2 me anymore and the HE HUNG UP!!! I haven't done a thing 2 deserve this!! He used to B really sweet and nice , maybe that was cause he liked me but still. Y would he do that and what should I do! I'm sooooo sad!!!!

Hey babe,

Unfortunately, guys typically don't like to talk about their feelings as much as girls do and if he won't even answer your calls you might never find out why he's upset. It's a sad situation, but you can't make him talk to you if he doesn't want to. If he could cut you out of his life so easily then you're probably better off without him anyway!

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

annaclare on 9/23/2009 8:25:18 PM

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when will my profile be visible? I have had it for 2 weeks and it is still not publicly visible! my friend got it after and it is now visible!

Hey babe,

If you're under thirteen your parents might still need to have approved it.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

koalaluvr13 on 9/23/2009 8:03:41 PM

drinking underage is horrible.

PicturePerfect on 9/23/2009 8:02:01 PM

ouch that's hard i'd just stay away from them

hit.the.surfs. on 9/23/2009 7:23:45 PM

wow that must ove sucked, you mussed be tough for you

twilightaddict on 9/23/2009 7:19:50 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!
Yestorday I finally admitted that I have an eating disorder to my guidence counseller at school that I've been seeing for a couple months. She phoned my parents and now my parents are taking me to the docter on friday and they're making me see a new counseller outside of school. I'm really scared. I don't want to talk to a new counseller, even though I know this one specializes in food disorders. I don't want to tell a stranger everything. What do I do Mod???

Hey babe,

You probably felt the same way when you first started seeing your school counselor, but she's already done a lot of great things for you! It will be the same way with your new counselor, you just have to be brave and remind yourself that you're doing it to help yourself and your new counselor wants that just as much as your old counselor does.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

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i i really like this guy and he always texts me back when i start a convo. but i texted him this weekend and he didn't reply. he never talks to me at school either, how do i change that?!

Hey babe,

Next time you see him at school, you be the one to start the conversation. You can even ask why he didn't text you back. Once he gets used to talking to you in school he'll probably be more comfortable doing it again.

xoxo Allie

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luvxtennisx3 on 9/23/2009 6:45:14 PM

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