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Between texting, instant messaging, Facebook and MySpace there are tons of chances for you to talk and flirt it up with crushes or BFs. Being so easily connected offers you tons of great opps to chat with the guys you like. But what happens when “just talking” or "flirting" turns into harassing?
Yep, you can feel forced to do stuff outside of your comfort zone even when you're not face-to-face with a super-cute sweetie. According to thatsnotcool.com, a new website and campaign designed to prevent teen dating digital abuse, one in three teens say they have been textually harassed by a romantic partner. What qualifies as a cyberspace creep-out? Asking you for inappropriate pics, constant iming or texting, or having lewd convos with you are some of the most common probs. Even worse, half of teenage girls say pressure from a dude is the reason they send sexy messages or pics.
So, take note techy sistahs! Be aware of what’s going on with your guy virtually. If the sound of your cell getting a text makes you cringe with the thought of what the message is about, it's probably time to stop hitting REPLY. When your inbox is full of inappro messages, it might be the time for you to consider a big de-friend or saving Creepy Colin's number in your cellie as DO NOT RESPOND. Even if the guy may be your perfect Prince Charming, there’s no reason you should feel forced into doing things that'll make you uncomfy. If stuff turns serious and you really feel harassed or threatened, talk to mama, your guidance counselor or head HERE for more resources.
BLOG IT OUT! What do you say, girlies? Have any of you felt harassed this way? How did you deal?
BY CAITLIN R. ON 9/22/2009 3:06:00 PM 105 COMMENTS
No big deal can turn horrible. I thought my guy friend liked me cuz he would always joke and tease me, then he just kept teasing me and putting me down. I was depressed. So, TAKE THIS SERIOUSLY.
fastbutterflyer on 3/14/2010 5:51:30 PM
It's just flirtexting! It's not that big a deal!
candylips92 on 2/23/2010 2:01:04 PM
Really dumb! I mean, if guys like you, then they wouldn't ( or shouldn't ) be a complete jerk to you!
cats-r-the-best on 2/20/2010 9:41:10 AM
scotland
!!RAWR!! on 2/2/2010 2:33:45 PM
haha thanks i wont b friends wit him! lol guys are so dumb
RobPatz<3 on 1/25/2010 7:42:36 AM
heeey! if you want some guy or fashion, or any kind of advice, comment on my profile! luv ya!
hottiexox9 on 1/22/2010 7:41:23 PM
ashhagan104 on 1/11/2010 7:01:29 AM
chocoholic4ever on 1/6/2010 3:42:37 PM
DebutanteGirlyGirl on 12/29/2009 4:36:29 PM
musicmaniac93 on 12/4/2009 12:57:24 PM
snicolaysen on 11/29/2009 1:52:52 PM
brookeyy on 11/26/2009 10:41:46 PM
Hahaha, my brother in college is being textual harassed by a sophomore in high school. (not a joke)
i_luv_devin on 11/25/2009 12:13:27 AM
singasolo on 11/22/2009 2:47:22 AM
PLEASE stop with the chain mail. it's stupid and it dosn't work. nd this website is already spamed up enough
ImAStrangeChild on 11/18/2009 6:48:34 PM
annabanana21 on 11/16/2009 10:00:10 PM
HeartsGetBroken on 11/12/2009 3:24:24 PM
MOD O_o creepy
sans11 on 11/10/2009 9:53:02 PM
wow i like a guy buy wow
jonasfan23 on 11/9/2009 8:03:22 PM
BabyGirlx on 11/8/2009 11:40:37 AM
I hate it when people harrass others. It's rude and harmful.
WaffleAddict on 11/7/2009 4:00:26 PM
kristinaxomack on 11/6/2009 6:59:27 PM
jadekat98 on 11/4/2009 10:58:42 PM
ok, there is this guy andwe ran xc together.he always compliments me and teases me. and wen we text he always likes to ask me who i like.and at the one party he was being so nice and wen we were eating him and his friends were all whispering and looking at me but idkk. and telling him just to ask her..im not really sure who "her" was... i always catch him glancing my way.. if isay something lik, oh i hate wen people are so lazyy, he'll be like oh i dont do that... or he'll be like i can change.. and im like no be yourself... one downfall hes kinda into himslef sometimes sorry so long just confuzzled
lalaworld321 on 11/4/2009 7:35:24 PM
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Stargirlcandy3 on 10/31/2009 3:02:18 PM
NJHCHEERLEADER97 on 10/31/2009 2:19:16 PM
Heal_The_Wounds1052 on 10/31/2009 1:21:21 PM
camel490 on 10/25/2009 11:29:10 PM
dalejrcutie08 on 10/23/2009 10:58:35 PM
Photochickie, I am on girlsense, too!! And I met him. He was just being not cool lol
karikaylee on 10/23/2009 9:29:35 PM
lifeisgood68 on 10/23/2009 8:33:01 PM
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*clubmusichearts* on 10/23/2009 7:55:05 PM
i'm going out with a guy that i really really like there's nothing wrong but he asked me what i would do if he kissed me. what should i say? <3
shortie56 on 10/22/2009 6:00:34 PM
shabalabagal on 10/22/2009 5:49:44 PM
do u think its harrasing well i kinda no it is but the guy i like calls me like his rhymes with or and his rhymes with witch does that mean he likes me hes not really like that good boy hes like one of those guys that arent the most polite and appropriate but like i dont no because everyone says he might like me and to like him if i want
shabalabagal on 10/22/2009 5:42:54 PM
great tips!
KcgPink on 10/20/2009 10:14:01 PM
i agree with u girls sayin the friday thing is fake
jellybean2010 on 10/20/2009 3:12:50 PM
oh amd for the last comment i sended it was a MOD MOD
*BEAUTY* on 10/18/2009 10:19:18 PM
i need help my friend has a new boy friend and he touches her in the private parts and somehow she's okay with it and the guy is so used to it he thinks he can do it to me and my friend doesn't care
*BEAUTY* on 10/18/2009 9:54:48 PM
i eaven tried the whole friday thing and when i pressed f6 nothing happened
*BEAUTY* on 10/18/2009 9:40:32 PM
Girls the Kiss your crush and the if u dont bad luck its all fake..!! No need ot send it please Kayla
Paramore_247 on 10/18/2009 11:58:32 AM
ok that 'your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday' thing is a bunch of junk idk who even came up with it
me~o~my on 10/16/2009 10:39:15 PM
1. Say your name 10 times. 2. Say your mom's name 5 times. 3. Say your crush's name 3 times. 4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS
kittylover342 on 10/16/2009 7:27:52 PM
MOD, this helps a little but not really for my situation: this one football player that I used to have a crush on let this other football player have his phone and lead me on through text messages. I was mad, but then a few days ago, it got worse: he was supposedly with friends and they all got his phone and were like "this is really [insert name here]! I've been thinking and you're really cute and nice and very pretty. so what I'm asking is will you go out with me?" I told him that even if it was him I didn't know anymore, and he said to come up to him at school and he'll prove it (I'm out of town right now) then he started asking innapropriate stuff. he later texted me again and wrote "hey that wasn't me it was my stupid friend so yeah". I feel really violated and used. I feel like the laughing stock of the football team (they all know about the first texts; probably the mroe recent ones too now) and as a cheerleader that's awful. I'm scared they might try to grab me or touch me innapropriately or something worse. I don't want to be in cheer uniform around them. I don't know what to do except call them jerks and act like everything's fine when I feel really self-concious. I'm a VERY modest, Christian girl who doens't believe in participating in that kind of innnapropriate behaivor. please help me. -cheerleader2478 Hey girl, What those guys did to you was very mean and totally inappropriate. Good for you for standing up for your beliefs and not playing into their little prank. Sometimes when guys think a girl is pretty, or out of their league they do stupid stuff like that. If it continues and they start getting more agressive towards you, then you might want to tell a teacher that these guys are harassing you. You shouldn't have to feel violated or unsafe. If it doesn't get worse and they knock it off, then I wouldn't say anything to the teacher. But in the mean time, I might talk to the guy you used to like and tell him his friends freaked you out. i didn't know who was modding now so i just posted all this again. I could tell the football coach. He's also an Algebra teacher and when my brother was a football manager as a senior. He was also affected when my brother died. And my brother was just like me; would NOT stand for ANYTHING like what they were doing to me. Coach knows this...my parents said it might be better to go to him than anyone else (the principle already has done nothing for my friend who's getting beaten up on a daily basis.) since he knows that my brother would not let any of this happen if he was still here, and he could talk to the boys personally since he's their coach, my parents and I think it would be best to tell him if they continue. what do you think? -cheerleader2478
cheerleader2478 on 10/16/2009 2:20:40 PM
cheerleader2478 on 10/16/2009 3:34:13 AM
PLEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY. 1. Say your name 10 times. 2. Say your mom's name 5 times. 3. Say your crush's name 3 times. 4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN.
sportygirl#2 on 10/15/2009 2:41:22 PM
HEY LADIES!!! i was talkin to my bf and he told me the most beatiful thing ever. He gave me his definition of love and what it means to him. i thought it was beatiful and wanted to share it with y'all! (he sais this in kinda a 3rd party tone so when he says gf he means me!! arent i lucky?!?)so here it is: i said: so what do u think of when u here the word love? and his response was: well, when i think of love, many things pop into my mind. i think u and ur beautiful eyes. i think of my family and my dad in iraq with our servicemen who love our country. i said: well whats ur defention of love?and he said: umm well love is the feeling you get when youcallyour girlfriend and sit in silence to hear her breathing when you havent seen her in a long time. love is the rush of adrendalin you get when you embrace your gf. love is staying up an extra hour when u have to ge up early in the morning to listen to your gf/bf talk about a rough day. when you fall asleep and you wake up to your gf combing her fingers thru your hair, thats love. when you love someone, you dont care if she shows up 2 hours late looking like a racoon b/c she got in a fight with her parents. when your in love, it doesnt matter how she looks cuz ur just staring into her beautiful eyes.
brittneybball on 10/14/2009 10:49:42 PM
1. Say ur name 10x 2. Say ur mom's name 5x 3. Say ur crushes name 3x 4. then paste this in 4 other spots, if you do this your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday!
tayofan4ever3196 on 10/10/2009 4:05:30 PM
88lyssa88 on 10/9/2009 11:57:17 PM
REALLY WORKS! TRY IT OUT! 1. Say ur name 10x 2. Say ur mom's name 5x 3. Say ur crushes name 3x 4. then paste this to 4 other quizs, if you do this your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday! But if you read this and did not paste this, then you will have very bad luck
88lyssa88 on 10/9/2009 11:53:33 PM
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