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Help! I have big thighs and I'm embarrassed about it. I can't wear anything short or else I'm self-conscious the whole day, and trust me, that's not good.

I lie to my friends and tell them that I'm skinnier than I am. I have a friend that's my height and she's really skinny, but she's OLDER than me!

Hey girlie, you're not the only one who's totally obsessed with her bod! Remember, at this age, your body is going through so many changes, and sometimes it takes a little bit of time to fall into your look. I'm sure you're stunning and perfect just the way you are, but here are some tips to make you feel even better.

Stop stressin'

I know it is SO hard to not try to constantly compare yourself with your friends and other people. Hey, I even have trouble. Sometimes I measure myself up against those stick figures I see on the covers of magazines, in the movies and on TV...until I realize that those peeps are totally NOT what us normal gals look like. What you have to realize is that no one is exactly identical when it comes to their bodies. Your friend may be skinnier, but she may not have your stunning curves! What is most important is that you're happy and healthy. Are you eating properly and exercising regularly? If so, than it sounds like you're on the right track. Take a deep breath and relax, girl. It's not healthy to stress about your appearance.

Inner beauty is what counts!

So, take these tips to mind but don't worry so much. I KNOW you're a great, smart, beautiful chica just the way you are. Focus on the stuff on the inside that makes you sparkle...like those great grades you're getting in school, what an amazing writer you are, how much you and your BFF laugh when you're together, and how your crush makes you feel when he smiles at you in the hall. Be happy!

-Jackie E.

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I have big thighs, but it's because i have a big butt... i have days when i feel so confident in my self, but others not so much.. mostly because i think boys just don't like girls that have chunky legs, and sometimes i get a little fustrated when i see skinny girls wearing shorts, and they look pretty nice.. GOD blessed all of us with a beautiful body and we have to be GRATEFUL for that.. like skinny jeans, i don't have a pair and i don't know how good it will look on a girl that has big thighs and a big butt. idk?? i really need help!!! can someone please help me?? i need someone to talk to!! help...please.. <3elmorockz1252

elmorockz1252 on 3/16/2010 2:37:16 AM

MOD MOD MOD Hi!!!!!! I am not so confident about my thighs and i was wondering if you had some great workout for thighs! Thx!

Hey girl! Check out around GL's site. We have pages and pages of workouts that we post every week!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

mojo41 on 3/6/2010 5:21:30 PM

MOD Hi do you have any excercise ideas on how to like make your waste thinner because my stomach isnt like really big but i feel like my waist is and I really wanna shrink it before summer. Oh and any excercises that will really focus on my inner thighs too. Thanks!!

Hey girl,

Here's a great link for some fun workouts: http://www.girlslife.com/category/workouts.aspx. Remember, more important than your waist size is how you feel about yourself. If you treat your body right, you will feel and look beautiful!

Marie H.

lauren68 on 3/3/2010 3:57:56 PM

I used concious about mine too! What I found out is I shouldn't be. Even if you're afraid maybe guys will think your fat you're sooooo wrong! You have a figure unlike so many girls! Embrace it!

popsweet838 on 2/25/2010 7:55:08 PM

~~~MOD~MOD~MOD~~~ Im in 6th grade. Tall for my age im bout 5'2 maybe 5'3! i wiegh almost 100 pounds and im not fat around the waist AT ALL. everyone tells my i have skinny legs but i just dont believe them. i just want smaller thighs just like those tiny short girls in my grade! Help. How do i get the convidence(and get smaller thighs)?!!

Hey chica, well there might be some truth to what people are saying. From what you're telling me it sounds like you do have skinny legs, so don't try loosing weight that isn't there. Take a good look in the mirror and decide if you really need to loose weight. I don't think you do. And remember you're not alone everyone has something they want to change about themselves. I actually want me legs bigger. Try looking at the good things about your bod, that will make you feel a lot better about your legs.

Lynae P.

vballgirly28 on 2/24/2010 6:56:20 PM

Just a tip:
If you are streesing about your legs, try wearing things that add emphasis to your arms, waist, or chest! Ex. Cute belts at your waist, lacy tanks under your shirts, jewelry, and shirts with really big and colorful designs will all show off your upper half!!! You can also wear a semi pouffy skirt over leggins to hide your thighs and still look really cute. Hope I could help!

cookiedough on 2/10/2010 7:43:24 PM

I have the same problem but i can wear medium aero shirts but my pant have to be like extra largeis that weird?

Jdog123 on 1/23/2010 11:24:04 PM

mod mod I just asked you what are some easy ways without excercising to loose some body fat expecially inmy thighs/butt area and you said to eat healthy but I am trying to eat more healthy but what are some tips to healthy eating? Thanks

Hey girl! try not to eat junk food and you coulod try squats.

Eryn G.

soccergirl95 on 1/2/2010 10:29:03 PM

mod mod whats and easy way without excercising to loose some body fat expecially inmy thighs/butt area? Thanks

hey girl! You could try to eat healthy.

Eryn G.

soccergirl95 on 1/2/2010 10:24:19 PM

mod mod I want to work out or get active like in my house from the olipticals that we have. If I do my family will think I am weird because I dont need to. I am not fat I just want to get active becuase I dont do any sports and I want to excersise. A few days ago I went on the oliptical when my sister was home and thats it and when she saw me on it she was like your weird even though my mom said it was ok. I dont want to be made fun of becuase I am trying to stay healthy. What should I do becuase I dont want to work out when I am at home alone? Thanks

Hey girl! you just need to tell your fam that you are trying to be healthy.

Eryn G.

soccergirl95 on 1/2/2010 10:12:54 PM

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soccergirl95 on 1/2/2010 10:02:00 PM

Mod mod I have large thighs and kinda a big butt. I thinned out but I'm not as skinny as I was last year. I am getting taller. Do you think I'll get a little thinner becuase I'm still growing? Thanks

Hey girl!

It sounds like you will -- with height, it will help. But exercise, no matter your weight, is so healthy and recommended. 30 minutes every other day!

xoxo

Sammy D

Sammy d.

Soccergirl95 on 1/1/2010 8:34:32 PM

i have always been chubby but i got thin the past two yrs so i could wear a bikini, i wore board shorts with it tho and it looked great an coverd up my muscel-y thighs

football playa 4eva! on 11/28/2009 11:00:25 AM

hey girl, don't worry. That is what happens around ur teen age. You get chunky then you thin out and get tall. I know some one who was little and chunky(kinda fat) and now she grew taller and thinner. Everyone dose that. Just think, I will be thin and tall and not have big thighs. And if you have strech marks, try CoCo butter. it takes it ways. not instantly but in a slow prosess. Hang in there

xxrascalxx16xx on 11/26/2009 11:59:04 PM

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I feel like my thighs are HUGE! I asked my mom and she says that they aren't big, but I can't help but get over this! I feel so insecure when I wear a swimsuit and declined my friends invite to her Sweet 16 because it was a pool party. I even feel insecure around my family, my dad especially. My mom has said that he thinks I need to get outside more and so basically, to me that means he thinks I'm fat. So, if I'm insecure already, I feel even WORSE because of that. What should I do to feel more confident about my thighs?

You need to tell yourself youre beautiful the way you are. The only way youre going to be more confident is if you bring yourself up. So i suggest you do that. Lots of people have bigger thighs. So youre not alone. So you should go to the pool party and be confident and have fun. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

fosterchy on 11/21/2009 12:49:48 AM

MOD! I so skinny! I eat alot but I`m still really skinny! Is there something wrong?

hey girl! There's nothing wrong with you! Everyone's body is different. As long as you're eating healthy, there's nothing to worry about. Best, Kristen <3

Kristen Y.

Yoga_Love on 11/15/2009 4:51:06 PM

mod*mod*mod*mod*mod*mod*mod*mod*MOD*MOD* ok so i am 12 and weigh 108 and am like 5'2...what is the healthy weight for my age?mod

Not sure what doctors say is technically healthy but you seem very very healthy! Best,

Miliana B.

cutiepie4567 on 11/15/2009 12:19:19 PM

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can u ell me about ur job? Like when ur hours r,if it is an internship...etc. thx

Hey girl, I worked as an editorial intern for GL during the summer. My friend and I would come into the office a couple days a week and do various tasks for Y-O-U. I was offered a mod position while interning. Modding is different than interning. You have shifts like any other job, but you don't have to work in an office. Different girls have different shifts, but it's a lot of fun. Both are great experiences. Hope this helps answer your Q!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

Jayhawker116 on 11/4/2009 9:39:18 PM

MOD MOD MOD: HI, I have a slight problem. I snack wayyyy too much!!!!!!! I have a very fast metabolism, so I am not large at all...but I still feel unhealthy and wonder If all that snacking will catch up to me.... What should I do?? I don't know if it's a problem since it's not affecting me now...but will it eventually??I cant stop!!!!

Hey girl! It could! Try switching to healthier snacks. Yogurt, pretzels, popcorn, and almonds are all things that will help curve your snacking!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

magzy4 on 11/3/2009 8:26:39 PM

Mod mod mod mod mod, i was wondering if you wax an area, is the hair less likely to come back thicker and darker than when you shave it. I have thick dark hair, so i have some hair around my belly button. I really want to get rid of it. I also have alot of light colored hair on my arms. Im not planning on waxing or shaving my arms but do you know if those laser treatments work well? Thanks for all the help

Hey girl! Waxing is typically more painful but keep the hair away for longer than shaving. I don't know too much about laser treatments, but it might be something you can research further!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

kutietori on 10/13/2009 11:47:38 AM

i have a question. are the girls on the cover of your magazine, girls life, digitally retouched. cause if they are, i just think it's kinda strange that you give people advice on how they don't have to worry about what htey look like and how they're still beautiful, when really, you're changing the way the girl on the cover looks cause she's not "beautiful" enough. i mean no disrespect, i'm just wondering.

chickc on 10/8/2009 7:04:57 PM

MOD I feel really intimidated cause of my body like i'm in grade 8 and i'm 12 and still I still use training bra's...like whenever the guys in my bas ur talking bout girls and stuff i just keep quiet and like i'm not at ease with my self like if someone should piont i me i start to freak out in my mind and i immediately think they are talking bout me not beeing tall or that i have a small chest and more i don't know why but because of that i'm just not confident...it just hurts alot and like alot of people say i should be in grade 7 cause i'm 12 but i really like grade 8 its just that being compared to other girls who r way mature than i am just makes me mad and sad i don't know what to do.

Hey girl, I'm way sorry to hear that. Remember everyone's bodies are going through massive change right now. It's totes okay you're still wearing a training bra. You can't help how your body is developing and I promise, it won't be like that forever. So for now? Don't sweat the comments. Focus on being the best you! Play your fave sport. Follow your passion. Learn more about yourself 'cause now's the time to do it. Your body's growing up and your mind is too. Don't let silly comments get in the way of you doing all you wanna do!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

hip_hop_hottie on 10/7/2009 9:00:21 PM

MOD!!!!!!!!!!!MOD!!!!!!!!MOD!!!!!!!!!MOD!!!!!! MOD!!!!!!MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!MOD!!!!!!!!!!! About one year ago my big sis started getting really obsessed about what she ate and how she looked. Soon after she got a really bad eating disorder and it got so bad that my family and i had to call 911 a couple times beacause she wouldn't eat at all. Now she's eating nonstop and going down that eating disorder road again and now i think i have an eating disorder beacause i always ask about how healthy food is and sometimes i won't eat. Plus my family thinks im fine. They actually think im skinny but whenever i look at myself in the mirror i start crying and call myself fat! I never think about inner beauty anymore all i think about is how much i think im fat. PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!I DON"T KNOW WHAT TO DO!!!!!!!!!!!Thanks

Hey girl! You should talk to a doc or your parents. They will be able to help you out more with your sitch. Remember you are fab the way you are!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

mojo41 on 10/6/2009 5:22:49 PM

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It is cold where I live, and I mean really cold. I want to get in shape and exercise, but where I live is too cold to go outside!! HELP! What do I do?

Hey girl! You can work out inside your house. Try jumping jacks, push ups and situps.

Eryn G.

wallofllamas on 10/6/2009 4:28:09 PM

Girl. I no how you feel. Once i was skinny. then i started stressing out. And i ate my feelings. threw everything that went wrong. Then i got really big. Then! (This mite sound weird!) But i no something that does work, even if it's weird. Ok... When you and your family drink up the milk. wash out and save the jugs. And put them somewhere out of the way. Once you got two. fill them up with water till it's full. Now you can try lifting them and keeping your back rite. Hold one each in both hands. and crouch down. and up and down. and that works off your inner musle. fat turns to musle. And you wanna be heathly and strong.

Maybear198 on 10/5/2009 12:31:02 AM

heyy girl...just so you know, us skinny girls are self conscious too. i have really thin legs and i hate them. they look like chicken legs haha. embrace your curves! tons of girls would DIE to have your body

megabegabyte on 10/4/2009 4:32:14 PM

well i am plus size and people make front of me some one tell me what to do

justice24 on 10/4/2009 12:39:43 AM

MOD MOD MOD how can i gain wieght? my bmi is underwieght and i dont know how ican gain wieght! im picky too! like when i eat i can only eat a little because if i eat a lot i feel sick then an hour later i am hungry again! help!!!plus i have like no muscles

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Hey girl! You could talk to a doctor, but you should eat a balanced diet and exercise. You should eat whenever you are hungry

Eryn G.

loveit7 on 10/3/2009 3:27:50 PM

MOD MOD MOD okay so the bra size 30AA makes me have the boobs i dont have and i dont really fit in it that much... but if i wear a training bra or undershirt you can see my growing boobs really well.... what should i do?!?

Hey girl! You could wear whichever one you feel the most comfortable with. You might want to wear the bra to get more coverage.

Eryn G.

loveit7 on 10/3/2009 3:25:54 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD okay so i am 12 and am small for my age... i am 4ft 9in. and i wiegh 67 puonds... is there any clothing line that is cute like other than forever 21 cuz i dont fit in that

help!

Hey girl! You could check out american eagle or aeropostle.

Eryn G.

loveit7 on 10/3/2009 3:23:49 PM

i don't have that big of hips but there kinda big but i luv my really curvy body

GlamorousFabAshley on 10/3/2009 10:14:35 AM

Don't worry about because a lot of girls do.

katybugle on 10/1/2009 6:54:13 PM

MOD! MOD! MQD!
Is there any possible way at all you could ever lose your period? I mean any possible way? Or is it possible you couldn't get it or you stopped yourself from having it? My BFF thinks she's never gonna get her period bcuz she hasn't got hers yet and she'll be 13 in february. Am I right saying no?

Hey girl, you can not have your period 'cause your body isn't there yet -- that's for sure. But there is one way you can lose your period and that's by not eating enough. If you're malnourished, not getting your period is a BIG sign you need a 'lil help. Other than that, little things like stress can throw your period off a bit, but for the most part, it should be pretty consistent and there -- it means you're healthy!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

4evamusicluver on 10/1/2009 5:58:44 PM

Hey, hey girls calm down. There is NO such thing as an ugly girl.......U girls r not fat, not skinny, not anything....except what u want 2 be.
If u think ur fat or skinny or have bad skin and exc. go see a doctor or a family member and ask 4 a second opinion don't go crying 2 ur friends.

lovemenot on 9/30/2009 8:43:02 PM

hey chika!!! dont feel bad about the way ur thighs r!! i went through the SAME xact prob, what u can do is jog 1 time EVERY dayand in a few weeks, youll c AAAAAAAAMMMAZZZZINGGG results!! i know i did!!!!

whitney malvitz on 9/30/2009 8:20:01 PM

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I've been getting cuts and scraps everywhere and really need 2 know how 2 fix them without buying some special product just something most people would have in their house. I scar 2. _ _"'
Please help so many cuts and scrapes and bruises....I don't know where I get them...
I'm 2 clumsy....

Hey babe,

I've heard a mix of lemon and tomato juice works, but I've never known anyone who tried it. I think you're better off using a medication like neosporin to be sure. You should also try getting more iron in your diet (like from beans and some meat and fish). It will make your skin stronger so you scar and bruise less.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

i_luv_devin on 9/30/2009 6:45:32 PM

omg my thighs are somewhat big but u kno wat? It actually turns out that athletes tend to have big legs and a big butt(not that big but like not super skinny)

ldrocks66 on 9/30/2009 5:41:05 PM

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I'm starting to get a chest, and they are starting to show in my shirts, but I can't tell if need a bra. What are the signs that someone needs a bra? Thanks

Hey girlie! It sounds like you might be ready for a bra. There are many styles for girls who are just starting to develop breasts, so talk to your mom and the sales lady at the bra department (they are sooo nice!) and they will help you figure out what is best for you!

XOXO

Liz

Liz L.

13Jazz on 9/30/2009 12:18:24 PM

I have the same problem! The rest of me is perfect size... And then you get to my thighs... *sigh*.

Tip #1... DON'T wear skinny jeans. Some girls on here are saying that it'll make your thighs look slimmer, and that's not true. While it shows how skinny the rest of you is, it'll make your thighs and butt stand out that much more.

Tip #2... Wear longer-ish tops. If you find a top that clings around the bust and middle section, it'll show off your curves, but still cover up your trouble spots.

Tip #3... You've probably got curves that other ultra-thin girls would die for!

Tip #4... You're less likely to have heart troubles down the road. Apple shapes can have excess fat and stuff closer to their heart, which is not good. But pear shapes are in the clear!

Tip #5... I've learned that dark-wash flare jeans can do wonders. Also chunky boots help balance you out.

Tip #6... Most likely as you get older the rest of you will follow up, and your shape will even out. Puberty does horrible, horrible things... (lol), but once you're an adult it will most likely be fine.

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hollistergurl3338 on 9/29/2009 8:44:42 PM

skinny jeans make bigger thhighs look GREAT! and they are generally slimming, also this i swierd but shirts that are tight-ish aroud the bust then billow out 2 ur thighs make u look thin curvey and MEGA great!!! FOR MORE ADVICE JUST ASK!!!

staR gazer on 9/29/2009 8:19:35 PM

if u have big thighs dont worry. no one should like really care i bet you that have the people that make fun of u have twice as bad problems than u. I promise so girl dont worry you will be fine girls promise. And im positive no one looks as bad as they think im sure your pretty as evr talk l8r girly!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

bratrocker97 on 9/29/2009 8:14:32 PM

Hey guess whta? Today my science teacher told us that it's good to have big thighs, because that means us girls can bend over way better than any boy can! and it lowers your risk of premature death! And some heart issues! Or something like that.
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lasagna on 9/29/2009 3:43:21 PM

OMG I'm with you there girl! It stinks when you can't feel good about yourself while wearing clothes you want to wear.

DramaQueen52 on 9/29/2009 2:35:07 PM

i totally know how u feel

twilight4-ever on 9/29/2009 11:53:40 AM

Don't worry. I know how you feel!

BlackMage on 9/28/2009 11:23:21 PM

MOD!ok so i started my period over the summer for the first time.i usually get it at the beginning of the month this month(sept.)i got it at the begining of the month and i got it again the same month again!(2day)but is it normal since ihts sept.28 and it's almost the beginning of nxt month when i usually get my period?
plz and thank you!

Hey babe,

Your period will be really irregular for the first few years, so this is nothing to worry about. Just keep an eye out and you'll see signs that it's coming before it happens, whether it's at the beginning of the month not.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

smarty3 on 9/28/2009 11:21:37 PM

MOD!
i think i have dyslexia. not very badly i just mix up numbers and letters every once in a while. lately its benn getting worse though. its not bad but it affects my life is it actually dyslexia? how can i tell?

Hey babe,

Talk to a teacher or a counselor at your school. There are tests you can take to figure out if you're dyslexic and they'll know how to get those to you.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

fired up on 9/28/2009 10:27:09 PM

MODMODMODMODMODMOD!
Just now, I noticed that my eyelashes are a lot fuller and longer than last night. I don't use makeup, but I do touch them a lot.
What happened? Not that I'm complaining, but how do your eyelashes change in 24 hours? Will it stay?

Hey babe,

They've probably been changing for awhile and you haven't noticed. I don't think there's any reason they would just change over night.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

pinksakura on 9/28/2009 10:25:36 PM

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