I have an issue with my boyfriend.
I really love him, BUT there's one huge issue. He's Methodist and I'm Southern Baptist. I don't know what the differences are, but I'm sure there are some. Can you tell me what they are and how to kinda overcome them?
I know we're both Christians, so that's good, but I don't want to say something and accidentally offend him. I truly know NOTHING about the Methodist religion.
P.S. I'm eleven and he's twelve, so we really don't have any control over anything like going to other churches.
Hey girl! I’m so happy that you’ve found a great guy! Even though you are both Christian, I'm sure there are a few diffs.
A li'l lesson
Traditionally, Southern Baptists are more conservative, and strive to “save” souls. They also believe in adult baptism instead of infant baptism. Methodists usually have broader views, and they allow adult baptism and infant baptism (christening). The church organization and leadership works in a lil’ bit of a diff structure, but both religions have pretty similar worship and beliefs.
Talk it out
Do some research. Investigate a bit to find some basic info on your BF's religion. But, the best thing for you to do is to talk to your BF. Next time you’re hangin’ out, talk about your religions. It could be as simple as, "Hey, I'm headed to my church this Sunday, but just curious—what goes on at yours?" Explain your traditions and beliefs, then listen to his. You’ll find there are prob some diffs, but there will also be a ton of values you share. It could def bring you two closer, and help you understand each other’s faiths.
Love your differences
The most important thing to do is to keep an open mind. No two peeps agree on everything, and I guess religion is one of your things. If you two have diff beliefs, don’t try to change his mind, and don’t let him try to change yours either. Look at it this way—how boring would it be if the two of you felt the same exact way about everything? Snore! Accept it as a difference in views, and you two will be good to go. It’s important to be able to talk about serious things like this, and I know it can be kinda scary. But in the end, if you’re accepting of each one anothers' beliefs, it will only bring you two even closer. I hope this helps!
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POSTED ON 10/2/2009 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN dating advice, religion