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I feel like I'm the mom

 

Lately, my mom has been making me babysit my brothers after school and on school vacation days because she works a full time job and is a single parent. I never get to do anything with my friends on vacation. I was even unable to join the track team because I have to watch my brothers. I feel like I am a parent because I’m watching them more than my mom is. 


Whenever I try to talk to my mom about it she says I’m being ungrateful and that I don't do anything around the house to help out. She has no idea how much I appreciate what she does but I just feel like I need to spend some time with my friends, too. I don't know how I can spend more social time with my friends while I’m depended on to watch my brothers. It hurts that my mom thinks I don't do anything to help her out.


Hey girlie,

This is a pretty tough sitch. Props to you for trying to be so responsible! It sounds like your mom is prob under a lot of stress working all the time and trying to provide for you and your bros. So, try to be understanding of that.


Start a sched
 

That said, I think it's super important for you to get in some time socializing with your friends. Sit your mom down again and try to talk her again. Make sure it’s just the two of you in a quiet place so you can completely focus. Suggest making a sched that works for both you and her. Do it week-by-week or month-by-month. It will show her you want to help out but also that you need a little more time for you. Leave a day on the weekend or a few days during a school break free for you. Write down a few chores you can do while you watch your bros that you can do for each day of the week. At least this way, you'll be helping out but giving yourself some time to chill out and be a kid!


Tell mama you heart her, but...
 
Explain to your mom how important it is for you to have some hours to spend with your girls. And IT IS really important! Let her know how appreciative you are of her, how much you respect and love her and understand that she must be tired. But tell her that you need some time to de-stress. See if you two can compromise on an idea.
 
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MOD MOD MOD!!! My mom is a single mom with 6 kids AND a home daycare. I'm on homeschool because its an unsafe situation for me at the local highschool, but I think mom is taking advantage me being home all day. She has me watch the babies a lot. When she goes to see her boyfriend every 3 weeks, she has my older sis watch us, but she just sleeps all day, and /I/ end up watching them! Like 1 time, my cousin asked if I wanted to spend the night, and I had to say no because I didn't trust my sister to watch the babies! And then when I roll my eyes or something about having to put up the dishes(and I know I shouldn't) she just says "You don't do anything around here! Some kids have to babysit CONSTANTLY" And I just want to scream, "HELLO?! WHAT AM I? A GARBAGE CAN? I'M ONE OF THOSE KIDS!" Yeah,I only have 4 "official chores", but what about the stuff I do anyway? I do almost all my brother's chores, and some of my mom's chores too! I only went away 3 times during the summer! One was to work with my sheep, and the other two my friend called. I never call my friends to go somewhere, or even to stay over, because I know I'll have to watch the babies half the time!Another thing my mom says is "Why don't you ever tell them to act right? I'm always saying it, you're their older sister, you should encourage them to have manners!" And you know what gets me? 2 things. 1)That's HER job. 2)I DO do that. I just never let her see, because I don't want her to feel like she's a bad mom, cuz she's not! She's great! It's just its almost November, and she has some things that hit her hard during Nobvember. Its really hard for her. So how do I gently explain all of this to her without making her cry??? I really need help! Answer PLEASE!!!!!




Hey girl, you're right. You need to sit down with her and tell her this nicely. Ask her for an evening the two of you can talk alone -- maybe even get someone else to watch the kids and go get an ice cream together one-on-one. Explain that while you love helping her, you want to have a bit of time to go out with friends and be a kid too. It's def not good to tell an adult their responsibilities, but let your mom instead know this is too much for you to handle. She should understand and care about the way these things make you feel. Be mature and calm, sweetie. It'll all be alright as long as you're open.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

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by saltyspoon303 on 10/18/2009 2:11:19 PM

 
 

PLEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY.

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

by ashton062698 on 10/17/2009 2:39:49 PM

 
 

LEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY.

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

by tatertot71798 on 10/17/2009 12:00:49 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD please answer...
Okay, I met an amazing guy at a party and he was laughing and flirting wih me and being really nice to me.
So, we go to the same school now, and since my friend goes to his church, she's trying to set us up, and we're supposed to "meet" on Monday...but I know him! We will probably go out, so when should I tell him I'm the girl at the party??




Hey babe,

I think you should tell him right away. You can say something like "hey, don't I know you from somewhere?" and if he remembers you that's probably a pretty good sign that he's been thinking about you too!

xoxo Allie
Allie S.

by tap_dancer on 10/16/2009 7:59:21 PM

 
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