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My BFF’s boyfriend creeps me out. When the three of us hang out together, he stares at my chest.

And once, when my best friend left the room, he asked me, “Can I just sit and look at you forever?” It was really weird, so I didn’t tell my best friend.

But eventually I’m afraid he might try to kiss me or something. I don’t want to hurt my friend. What should I do?

BILL: You’re totally right to be creeped out. But I’m not sure keeping silent about it is the best thing. After all, wouldn’t you want to know if your BF were acting this way? I recommend a three-step approach: 1) Tell him, firmly, to keep his opinions and glares to himself, making it very clear to him that his behavior is inappropriate. 2) If he persists, tell your BFF what’s been going on. 3) If he still persists, tell a parent or teacher. Being treated disrespectfully should never be tolerated, no matter who the guy is.

DAVE: It doesn’t matter that it’s your BFF’s BF. He’s a CG (Creepy Guy), and you should take Bill’s advice not to put up with his crude stares and comments. Your BFF might not like what she hears but, in the end, she should appreciate hearing the truth about her misplaced affection. If she’s a true friend, she’ll respect you for being honest with her—that final F in BFF ain’t for nuthin’.

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sparklemonkey11 on 12/31/2009 1:11:05 PM

Mod i just logged off yoville (an interactive virtual world clubpenguin for teens game through facebook) because i was @ a teen party. 1 guy asked who else was his age and said his age. he was my age so i said i was and he insatantly friended me. he came over to me and asked if i could go somewhere with him in the game so we could talk (he didn't say where) i got freaked out and quickly said bye. do u think he was just a harmless teenage boy looking for a friend or do you think he was a creep? what should i do if this happens again?

Hey girl! You should only do what you feel comfy with. Def be cautious and question everything. Don't do anything you're not 100% okay with.

-Taeler

Taeler L.

HeavicanQuinn777 on 11/29/2009 9:03:12 PM

hey!!! my best friends bf and i were in that same situation. he was over my house cuz we we assinged to do this project together. we were just working then he said so i can just dump your friend and we could make out right now! and i was like, listen you are going out with my best friend not be so you better be respectful to her or im gonna tell her and neither of us will go out with you and then he didn't try to hit on me ever again

ilovethesteelers43 on 11/24/2009 3:50:22 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD me and my bffl like the same guy!!! we decided we wont let a boy ruin our friendship, but whenever one of us tells stories about him 2 the other one, we feel jealous.... i dont even know if he likes me!!!! how can i tell if he likes me??

Hey chica, watch what he says and his body language when he's around you to figure out if he likes you or not. Doe he smile and hold eye contact with you? Is he touchy feely with you? Things like this will let you know if he likes you or not.

Lynae P.

MissManicure on 11/15/2009 4:09:42 PM

say your name 10x
say your moms name 5x
say your crushes name 3x
this actually works.... on the nearest friday, you will be kissed by ur crush! post this on 4 other comment walls

cutiepie4567 on 11/8/2009 6:01:23 PM

We appreciate that you girlies wanna post on GL, but we’ve received tons of comments about spamming with chain letters. To keep everyone happy we’ve decided to take ‘em down. Thanks again for posting.

Lynae P.

glitterkay1221 on 11/6/2009 9:56:21 PM

Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

glitterkay1221 on 11/6/2009 9:53:22 PM

okay i have a really cute story for anyone intrested who's afraid of just saying something to someone that they like.
My sister was best friends with this guy and at first, the thought of them dating each other, disgusted each other, but then slowly they started to like each other. they both didnt want to say anything because they were afraid the other person may not feel the same way.
but, my sister ended up just deciding to tell him. and he didnt say anything, so she ran away.
The next week, he came up to her and said "i know we've been friends for a while but i really like you, and u like me, so do you want to go out?"
It was adorable! so dont be afraid to say what you think anyone!

lgsoccer123 on 11/5/2009 9:54:06 PM

Um, instead of telling your friend, you should tell a coucliler. He is a weirdo

bubblegum4 on 11/2/2009 10:08:04 PM

...anyone there?

MightyMidget on 10/27/2009 5:53:35 PM

Mod****
My crush sits by me in alot of our classes so when the teachers pick our partners for assignments we are always partners. He makes me laugh and he teases me and steals my stuff and writes on my binders, all my friends think he likes me but when I talk to him about girls he starts to talk about how hot all they are and later I find out that they have made out. Do you think he likes me or is he just leading me on?

Hey girlie,

Usually teasing is a clear cut sign that a guy likes you, BUT this one sounds like he could be a bit of a player. Flirt back with him and send him hints that you might like him too. If he likes you then he'll make his move.

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

Mackrelllover4041 on 10/23/2009 5:47:10 PM

MOD
I am totally freaking out!
This guy I've liked asked me out.
But I have never really dated.
I think it would be TERRIBLY awkward with the 'rents.
I feel that he is asking me out as sort of a "back-up". He asked out one of my friends (and she said no).
I really have no idea to say yes or no.
Any advice????

Hey girl! Do whatever feels right to you. If you feel like a backup, you prob shouldn't get into anything like that. You can try talking to the rents to about one day starting to date and see what they say!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

band_geek13 on 10/20/2009 7:45:17 PM

MOD!!Help I like this guy and he sits across from me in lunch and he always looks at me and when i go to my friends house and he's there he always teases me and jokes around...Does he like me or does he just think of me as a friend? Please Help!!!!
-cassie

Hey Cassie,

He defo likes you! Flirt back and let him know you're into him. He'll make his move once he realizes you are feeling the same way.

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

CassieMarie on 10/19/2009 9:07:38 PM

REALLY WORKS! TRY IT OUT!
1. Say ur name 10x
2. Say ur mom's name 5x
3. Say ur crushes name 3x
4. then paste this to 4 other articles, if you do this your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday!!!!!

kdr5105 on 10/19/2009 4:35:07 PM

That is weird! He is so creepy! If I were you, I would totally tell your BFF what was going on!

REDHAWK455 on 10/19/2009 4:27:24 PM

wow that is a mod! he is messed up! i think if it gets worse, you should tell your friend the truth... but for now just see how things go...

360floppers on 10/18/2009 3:52:32 PM

MODMODMOD!!!! I know u dont no anything about me but i dont no wat i should b 4 halloween!!!

i think i have 2 choices in my mind they r dorothy from the wizzard of ozz or a little girl???

wich 1 is ur fav??? please help me!!!

thank u!!!

Hey girl! I think Dorothy would be way cute! Def look around to see if you can find a good costume. Have fun! Best, Kristen

Kristen Y.

frootloop33 on 10/17/2009 10:55:27 AM

um... i like "aaron", he sits next 2 me in 1 class n pretty close 2 me in 3 other classes. we're pretty good friends. we flirt a lot, but thats just our personalities. we flirt with every1, so its hard to tell if he likes me. as i said, we're good friends n we're both single. but its SO hard to tell if he likes me! what makes it worse is that his friend "victor" actually does like me! so if i ask him out n he says no, it could be because vic likes me, or because he just doesnt. idk wat 2 do. HELP!

lalalalucy on 10/17/2009 12:50:09 AM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!! Please help!!! I just got the number of the guy I like. People say he likes me too, but whenever I text him, he either doesn't respond, or he doesn't do anything to keep the conversation going. When we're in person, he's perfectly fine, but outside of the one class I have with him, he doesn't talk to me at all, or just doesn't try. What should I do?

Hey chica, it might be best to let this guy go. If he doesn't make any effort to talk to you, why should you like him? Don't waste your time on a guy who isn't worth it.

Lynae P.

absolute_mayhem on 10/16/2009 11:10:47 PM

MODMODMODMODMODMODMOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! So I made friends with the new kid at my school. He was really nice at first but then he started following me around EVERYWHERE! It's really annoying when hes with me ALL the time.How can I tell him to leave me alone with out sounding too rude?

Hey chica, tell him gently that you want him to leave you alone. Let him know you enjoy his company but want to hang with your other pals sometime. If you're too shy to tell him face to face leave him a letter or send a text.

Lynae P.

Crazy Chica 14 on 10/16/2009 10:38:04 PM

MOD~MOD~MOD

I have a huge guy dilemma. We had an overnight field trip yesterday.

And we had a dance there. We got paired up randomly, and my friend got paired up with my crush (call him Sean) and I got paired up with another boy who is funny and nice (call him Anthony). So, we had to square dance, and it was actually alot of fun, there was a lot of hand holding with your partner though. So, I'm kinda upset cuz my friend was saying "haha I got paired up with Sean" so I'm kinda hurt cuz I've liked him for 3 years.

1: What do I do about my friend hurting me?

2: After the square dance I started to kinda started to like Anthony. He was my first crush in 2nd grade plus he was really sweet at the dance. I don't know what to do. After that, today we had like an obstacle course and whenever I was about to fall off something another boy (call him Steven) would always catch me and steady me back by holding my hips and hand, but my other group mates did nothing. So I kinda started to like him too. HELP!!!! Liking three guys just isn't me.

I really like Sean, but I'm starting to like Anthony and I kinda like Steven. PLEASE HELP!!!

maddie246 on 10/16/2009 10:01:11 PM

***MOD*** Ok, I've hated this guy for almost 3 yrs now but the more i hate him the more i like him, so now i have this major crush on him, but he has a girlfriend. I am so jealous of her and want this guy to like me, for the past 2 wks i have been going out of my way 2 talk to him, and he sits next to me in history, and is in my art class. HELP!

Hey girly, before you make a move, you may want to wait until he's out of a relationship. Because the last thing you wanna do is get caught up in a love triangle, so just wait until he's a single stud.

Lynae P.

sodapoprocker on 10/16/2009 9:54:24 PM

1. say your name 5x
2. say your moms name5x
3. say your crushes name 3x
post this in 4 other places and your crush will kiss you to the nearest friday

sunnyside on 10/16/2009 9:51:07 PM

LEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY.

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

maddie246 on 10/16/2009 5:46:43 PM

PLEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY.

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

scarlyt_angel on 10/16/2009 5:25:02 PM

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So I really like this boy and my BFF's locker is next to his. My BFF is charming and flirtacious and so she asked him who she liked for me. He said, "I think you know, you know her too much!" I'm scared he likes her! What do I do?

Hey babe,

Get to know this guy so he knows you too. He sees her more so he probably just knows her better than he knows you.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

Smileygirl86 on 10/16/2009 5:18:43 PM

1. Say ur name 10x
2. Say ur mom's name 5x
3. Say ur crushes name 3x
4. then paste this to 4 other articles, if you do this your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday!!!!!

hi! on 10/16/2009 5:15:33 PM

Idk if it works or not I'M JUST TRYIN'
1. Say ur name 10x
2. Say ur mom's name 5x
3. Say ur crushes name 3x
4. then paste this to 4 other articles, if you do this your crush will kiss you on the nearest friday!!!!!

hi! on 10/16/2009 5:15:15 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD
I have a similar prob but he doesn't stare at my boobs he stares at my face and he didn't say anything like that. But he flirts with me ALL the time and talks to me more than her talks to my bff. It's kinda getting me to think about what is going on and his twin says hi to mke evry 5 seconds but see the thing he's dating someone at my school and she's cheating on him and he knows it! They both are stareting to creep a little bit.

Hey babe,

If these guys are creeping you out, try to avoid them for awhile. They'll get the message.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

hi! on 10/16/2009 5:13:12 PM

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN.

iddyb123 on 10/16/2009 4:10:22 PM

Mod so lately ever since school has started the guy that i've liked since last year looks at me first and like if i ingore him a lot and what i mean by that don't look at him he will look at me.He also knows that i like him.He has talk about me when i was right there to his friends.Like today he went like a different way to a class and he turned around and i'm pretty sure he was looking at me and then he kept on walking he did that last week like twice to.Does this mean anything? Kayla xoxo

Hey chica,

I get why you're confused! Totally just be yourself, see what happens! Have fun with your friends, do whatever you'd normally do! If something does happen, awesome! If not, it's his loss! ;)

claudia n.

redsoxlover on 10/16/2009 2:48:50 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD!
heyy(: i going over to my boyfriends for the first time! i have no idea what to wear! im going to his football game and its supposed to be FREEZING! i want to look nice and warm without trying to hard! AND, todays is our one month anaversry! do i get him anything? thanks SO much(:

Hey Girl,

Wear something cute, comfy and casual! Try a pair of jeans with a cute graphic tee. Bring a coat, scarf and maybe even clothes for the game!

claudia n.

sydneylovesyou13 on 10/16/2009 1:58:35 PM

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i am going to my boyfirends house for the 1st time! i have no idea what to wear !? have any ideas? we are going to a football game and its supposed to be cold. thanks1(:

Hey Girl,

Wear something cute and casual! Jeans and a cute graphic tee, don't forget a jacket, scarf and maybe even gloves for the cold weather at the game!

claudia n.

sydneylovesyou13 on 10/16/2009 1:56:00 PM

mod mod mod mod mod i absolutely love this guy but the thing is that he doesnt go to my school and i have only been seeing him lately cuz of this bball skill development camp that we have 4 nights a week. he is rly great but im scared that i will rarely see him once our camp is ovr.we only have 4 more times left. :-( he plays on my bgfs bball team but i dont watch em very often any more. what shuld i do? thnx karrisa's bff (i dont have any account yet so im just using hers

Hey girlie,

That's tough. Try to get as friendly as possible with him so you will be able to feel comfortable texting him or facebooking him after the camp is over! Also try making friends with his friends, so you can have the opportunity to hang out with him more.

Megan P.

Megan P.

karrisa1 on 10/16/2009 10:45:36 AM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD PLZ HELP!!!!! i like this boy and he says he likes me too but, when i dont answer some of his questions he will get nad at me then not talk to me 4 ten minutes then he aplogizes for what he did... he does this a lot then he says he loves me........... PLZ HELP!!!!!

Hey girlie,

My advice to you is to stay away from this boy. His behavior is not normal. If you don't answer some of his questions and he makes that big of a deal about it, then just think of how big of a deal he will make other more important things! And why is he telling you he loves you? How long have you known this boy? He might be getting too serious too fast!

Megan P.

Megan P.

nireal39 on 10/16/2009 1:30:03 AM

DISGUSTING. What a creeeepp >:O

[xganzxalleinx] on 10/16/2009 1:23:50 AM

MOD
thanks for the advice

hunny-puff87 on 10/15/2009 9:00:20 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
i have so many blackhead on my face and i do not no how to get rid of them. i have tryed the WAVE but that does not work for me. i do not feel prity at all. i am also over weight i am trying to lose weight by watching what i eat and runing on my tredmill but i am so busy with school work and after school stuff can you please give me some advice
thanks

Hey girl, with the weight loss, it's all about adding exercise into your everyday schedule. You can make it work, you've just got to manage your time to fit it in -- treat it like a homework assignment. If you make yourself find the time, you def will. And the blackheads? Try calling your local dermatologist's office and ask for product recommendations or try other products. There's more than one product on the market that will help those blackheads -- you've just gotta find the right one.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

hunny-puff87 on 10/15/2009 8:15:13 PM

TwilightFan1696 on 10/15/2009 7:20:40 PM

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i really like this guy but when we are alone it is awkward when we run out of things to talk about. What could i say?

Hey girl, why not try breaking the silence by falling back on a discussion of your other friends, hopes, dreams, fave music, movie, etc. Just ask an open ended question and let it go from there.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

animaluver438 on 10/15/2009 7:18:35 PM

blackanaconda on 10/15/2009 6:34:17 PM

CiCi840 on 10/15/2009 6:13:59 PM

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I like this guy. he likes me, 2 . . . or at least i THOUGHT he did! 1 day he's sneaking secret glances at me, being loud and obnoxious 2 get my attention, etc., but the next he's just . . . there. all he does on those days is try to be in my line of vision OR be near me, but doesn't TALK 2 me! it's REALLY annoying but i like him so much!!!!! HELP!!

Hey girl, why not try breaking the ice yourself? Guys like a girl who's confident so instead of waiting for him, go straight to the guy and strike up a convo yourself! (;

xoxo

Alyssa B.

hollywoodgirl37 on 10/15/2009 6:10:09 PM

hollywoodgirl37 on 10/15/2009 6:07:25 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!
My face is really dry and peels (yeah, I know gross) thanks to the face medication my dermatologist recommended to me. Now I still have very noticeable acne, and I want to use concealer, but I can't put it on with out my skin becoming VERY noticeably dry. What product should I use to keep it from peeling?? Thanks!

Hey girl, try adding some moisturizer to your skin routine. Brands like Aveeno and Purpose (Johnson and Johnson) have gentle moisturizers that'll help keep your skin clean and moist when you use your dermatologist's ointments. Tell your dermatologist next time your skin is dry too so she can recommend the right moisturizer for you.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

bluebubbles444 on 10/15/2009 5:51:37 PM

Smileygirl86 on 10/15/2009 5:21:57 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD A guy in my grade who asked my friend out, keeps on staring at my chest and butt. What do I do?

Hey girl! Just ignore it. Boys will be boys. If you're really annoyed by it, tell him to cut it out!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

Smileygirl86 on 10/15/2009 4:08:52 PM

say your name 10x
say your moms name 5x
say your crushes name 3x

if u post this four other spots and do this then your crush will kiss u this nearest friday

swimmer13 on 10/15/2009 1:05:55 PM

say your name 10x
say your moms name 5x
say your crushes name 3x

if u post this four other spots and do this then your crush will kiss u this nearest friday

swimmer13 on 10/15/2009 1:05:35 PM

say your name 10x
say your moms name 5x
say your crushes name 3x

if u post this four other spots and do this then your crush will kiss u this nearest friday

swimmer13 on 10/15/2009 1:02:01 PM

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