Every time my mom leaves the house, my dad has video conferences with another woman. He always says how comfortable he feels around her and how much he loves her. I JUST CAN'T STAND IT!
I miss how my mom and my dad loved each other. He doesn't even wear his wedding ring anymore because he says it's "too small.”
Please help me!
I’m so sorry that you have to go through this really tough situation. Don’t let this bring you down, 'case it's totally not your fault.
Come clean with mom and dad
First of all, you should really write an honest, open letter to your dad. Let him know that what he's doing is hurting you. Tell him what you’re going through so he can realize that his actions just don’t affect him. But leave the judging or anger out. Simply let him reflect on how his behavior is affecting you.
Next, confront your mom. It might not be your place to mention what your dad is doing because that’s something your 'rents have to work out. However, tell your mama that you think she should talk to your pops.
Let it out and don't lose hope
Lastly, don’t lose your hope. If you're feeling sad, call your BFF and vent it out or write everything you're feeling in a journal. Whether or not you can take control of the situation, we don’t know. What you do know is that both of your parents will love you regardless of what happens. Your dad’s behavior isn’t something you should overlook, but I can promise you that there is a silver lining for everything and you WILL get through this.
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POSTED ON 10/10/2009 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN problems with my parents, secret, cheating parent