I have been homeschooled my whole life and I recently started eighth grade at a private school. All the girls know each other, and they never talk to me. I try to be friendly and talk to them, but they just look at me like I'm crazy or something.
To make it all worse, I'm not like them at all! I have a completely different style, and I'm not a sports girl. My mom is making me do volleyball, which I hate. She says it will help me make friends, but it's not working. Sometimes the girls will say something to me, then I try to reach out, but I just can’t make any friends.
All of my friends live far away from me, and very few of them have internet, and lots of them can’t talk on the phone. I pretty much never get to talk to anyone outside of church or youth group.
Please help!
-New No-Friendy Girl
Hey there hon, being different is nothing to be ashamed about. You should be proud to stand out from the crowd. After all, no one remembers girls who simply blend in. All you have to do is find some friends who accept you for who you are, which is awesome!
Do what makes YOU happy
First, you should be honest with your mom and tell her you’re just not that into volleyball. She will understand, especially if you’re not happy. Your mom really does have your best interest at heart—she wants you to make friends.
But the best way to make pals is to find girls who share some of the same interests as you. If you love the stage, join the drama team. If you can’t get enough of Twilight, join a book club. Most importantly, do what makes you happy—this way you'll make some pretty cool friends AND have fun.
Make new friends but keep the old
And as for your old besties, you’ll find some creative ways to keep in touch. Instead of e-mails, send handwritten letters. Yes, it’s a little old-fashioned, but it’s more personal. And maybe you can get together on the weekends for slumbies and movies. Best of luck, hon!
Lots of love,
L’Oreal
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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/15/2009 7:00:00 AM 70 COMMENTS