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Dear Carol

Mom and Dad Might Get Divorced

 

Today my dad was talking about leaving my mom if some things kept happening. I have friends whose parents have gotten divorced, and it doesn't look the least bit fun.


Is there anything I can do?


-Parent Trouble

Dear P.T,
 

You can say "I love you both and I hope you can work things out." You can even suggest marriage counseling. But your parents are adults and are going to do what they feel they must. Although divorce is definitely not fun, for some kids it works out better in the long run than living with parents who stay together despite rage, scorn, or indifference.


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Please Answer this! My moms email pops up when I want to post a topic and my topic is bad and really conserning so please help! Why is this and is there a different way?!

 

Hey girl! I'm not sure! Your mom may have some settings programmed on her e-mail. Try setting up your own e-mail or asking your mom whats up!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

mazola on 11/10/2009 8:22:10 PM

Thanks Alyssa!

waterbug13 on 11/9/2009 7:55:09 PM

 

Hey chica, I know this is easier said than done, but try not to think about it so much. The things your dad views are apart of his private life, and it deserves to be kept private. And just because your dad watches that stuff doesn't mean he's a bad guy. He's still the same dad you always had, so cut him some slack. Smile

Lynae p.

kay17 on 10/30/2009 11:23:30 PM

MOD!!!
How long does it take for a comment to post?




Hey girl, it depends on how much traffic is on the site. Right now, there's a lot of Qs from you girlies, so it can take around an hour. For other times, though, it can be as little as five minutes.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

waterbug13 on 10/22/2009 6:11:18 PM

Just hang in there! Remind them that you love them both and you want everyone to be happy.

waterbug13 on 10/22/2009 6:09:22 PM

Hey! Ummm... I'm 12 and in 6th grade in an elementary school. and this boy and i secretly wanna kiss each other!
Question 1Smile Am I 2 young?
Question 2Smile Where's the best place?

DeAndafan11 on 10/22/2009 6:07:55 PM

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PLEASE ANSWER SOON!! I love playing soccer and training with my team trainer. There is this girl on my team who is making me like soccer less and less. She screams at me and is so mean. My mom cancelled my training session and said I'm making her pay. I feel really bad! She isn't talking to me now. My Dad really wants me to be like my sisters so I don't know what to tell him! Should I quit? I really want to!




Hey girl, don't let one mean girl make you give up a sport you love. I know it may be hard, but tell your coach what the girl is doing -- he or she can talk to her and get the behavior to stop. As for your 'rents? Understand where they're coming from too. They know soccer is something you love, and they want to see you stick with it. Tell them what's up and don't give up. The best athletes don't crack under pressure -- even if that pressure is a not-so-nice teammate. You'll persevere!

xoxo
Alyssa B.

Smileygirl86 on 10/22/2009 4:14:11 PM

hey i heard about the divorce! its a really hard thing to go through. My parents aren't divorced but a lot of my friends parents are. Just tell them you love them both and whatever makes them happy should make you happy to.
-clgo44

clgo44 on 10/22/2009 3:38:25 PM

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hey! ok so im 15 and i really need a job! what are some stores i might be able to apply at?
thanks!




Hey girl, why not try applying at retail stores? Stores like dEliA*s and Justice tend to take younger girls, especially once you turn 16. And if retail doesn't work? Try your grocery store or even just babysitting. It's little things that add up. Be sure to put lots of apps out there and see what you can get. Good luck!

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

countrygal28 on 10/21/2009 9:27:50 PM

thx your the best mods

Dogyocatyo on 10/21/2009 9:17:17 PM

i really miss germany

Dogyocatyo on 10/21/2009 9:04:54 PM

please answer the g i asked

Dogyocatyo on 10/21/2009 8:57:44 PM

MOD!MOD!MOD!
I know this sounds silly but...... i miss Germany!
My family came from Germany in the 1800th
or 1700th centry.I live in america now and....
i dont like it!I want to go to my homeland in
Germany!America is just to harsh!I mean all my
friends and family are here but i think......
that Germany would be a lot more peaceful
place to live!America is wayyyyy to stressful!
i just REALLY want to go to my homeland......
my home in Germay!But my parents would NEVER
even THINK about the idea.Ive never been to
Germay but i feel..... I feel this like bond
between me and my homeland Germany i know that
sounds off the wall crazy but idk. I dont know
what to do!what CAN i do?look up pics of
Germany?I think that would make me want to
go to Geramny even more.But Geramany!how i long
to go to my homeland!




Hey babe,

I think you'll have to make the best of it for now, but you can take German classes and maybe get a chance to visit on an exchange trip to find out if it's as great as you think it is, or you can study abroad there in college.

xoxo Allie
Allie S.

Dogyocatyo on 10/21/2009 8:39:45 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD!! I want to get to know this guy a lot more. He is nice, and considered popular. I'm not really considered popular. But anyway, Laughing I keep feeling mixed signals. He winks at me and he also told me that I looked good with my hair curly and lipstick and all that. Then he goes and talks to his other friend that's a girl, and asks me for a pencil. I asked him if he was feeling ok one day, cuz he didn't look good, and his friend is like "Why do you want to know how he's feeling?" And he just gave his friend kind of a dirty lookand we didn't talk the rest of the hour. I'm not sure if he likes me or not, and I'm not even sure that he knows my name! These mixed feelings are TERRIBLE! PLEASE HELP!!!! THANK YOU!




Hey babe,

If he's talked to you and complimented you, he probably likes you, even if he doesn't know you yet. Talk to him more and keep getting to know him, preferably when his friends aren't around if they get in the way.

xoxo Allie
Allie S.

AcePrincessGal on 10/21/2009 8:24:34 PM

I'm so sorry my parents got divorced when i was six which was sad but i had my brothers and sisters to support me it was hard at first but then we went to my dads house every weekend and it was like before. if you don't have an brothers and sisters to help you through this ask some friends that parents divorced to help you out im sure they will understand i did when my friend needed some help and someone to comfort her i hope you'll be ok if you still need some help and support you can go to my page and ask me =) I'll always be there for you girl!

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cupcake*cutie on 10/21/2009 6:00:24 PM

ok mod thanks i did that last time, said exactly which one it was and everything, just nobody took care of it

karatejenn on 10/21/2009 3:33:53 PM

MOD ( i tried to post this earlier, but the site is a little slow) I just got my page moderated cause there was a rude comment on there and I wanted it off. So today (after about 3 days of it being not visible) i saw i could see my comments and the rude comment was never removed, so should i just report the problem again. is anything going to actually be done this time? Thanks!

 

Hey girlie,

 

Try reporting it again and make sure you say it's the second time you've reported it. Make sure you say exactly what the rude comment is.

 

Thanks!

 

Megan P.

Megan P.

karatejenn on 10/21/2009 3:30:19 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!! My friends have been excluding me from activities. This has been going on far a very long time and i dont think i can put up with it that much longer. When i tried to hangout with another group, they didnt love having me around, but they didnt hate it either, but probably they hated it more than they loved it. What should i do???

 

Hey girlie,

 

If this has been going on for a long time, it sounds like it's time to have a chat with your friends. Just say that you've been getting a weird vibe from them and you want to make sure everything is okay. Say something like "I hope I didn't offend anybody, but I feel like you guys have been avoiding me and I wanted to make sure everything is okay."

 

Megan P.

Megan P.

msepaul on 10/21/2009 3:00:34 PM

My parents are divorced it IS NOT FUN! Your mom will move then lose her job then get a mean boyfriend and your not RICH then your dad can't afford your home alone then moves in with his parents and he will get a long distance relationship. THIS is my life. IT SUCKS!

brycie99 on 10/20/2009 7:32:49 PM

MOD AND GL READERS
I hope everyone is having a great day!

chocolate hop on 10/20/2009 5:52:13 PM

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How do you ask Carol questions?




Hey girl! Just go to the Dear Carol page and click on the purple 'send a question' button! 

-Taeler
Taeler L.

fanpire2015 on 10/20/2009 4:58:44 PM

Oh, not this profile, my personal one, lasagna

Club Creativity on 10/20/2009 4:54:24 PM

MOD
Ok, so I took a pic with my webcam of a paused moment of Green Day's 21Guns music video. It is now my icon. I just wanted a pic of them, but umm, is this legal?




Hey girl! As long as it is appropriate, you'll be fine! 

-Taeler
Taeler L.

Club Creativity on 10/20/2009 4:53:31 PM

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Club Creativity on 10/20/2009 4:52:19 PM

***MOD***
I have 3 Q's:
1. How do you tell if a guy likes you?
2. What is an easy hairstyle to do in ten min or less and i have a little past sholdier leght wavy hair?
3. What is a cute look for about 70degree weather that makes a guy look at you but not revealing.
THANKS SO MUCH!




Hey girl,




1. He'll either act awkward around you, flirt with you or make fun of you. 




2. French braids, pony tails, scrunch and go messy hair.




3. Sun dresses, shorts, tank tops, bohemian-style skirts.




xoxo Keltie 
Keltie E.

sodapoprocker on 10/19/2009 11:13:48 PM

mod mod mod Okay, so my friend is a straight A student and in class her crush is always looking at her. She thinks its because he likes her but one day I heard him talking about how he was cheating off of her. I'm afraid if I tell her she won't believe me and she'll think I'm jealous! What should I do?

 

Hey girlie,

 

If your friend continues to talk about how she thinks he likes her, and she gets emotionally involved with the idea that he likes her, then you might want to very gently and respectfully break the news to her. If she doesn't talk about him that much, then just leave the situation alone.

 

Thanks for posting!

 

Megan P.

Megan P.

emsha81 on 10/19/2009 3:09:44 PM

Hey i totally know wat your going through. My parents got divorced when i was four and i thought my life would change and totally be devestating. It wont. BE with a friend or relative that KNOWS wat your going through. Dont give up hope. now you can have some more quality time with a seperate parent. dont think about the fact that they split. think of the fact that you will have more quality time. But here's wat helped me. To be with someone through troubles and things.
*^*girl

luvstargirl on 10/18/2009 10:01:03 PM

im sooooo sorry 4 u!!!!my parnets might as well right now there not togther and they havent for about 6 years i will tell you its hard but it gets easyer after a bit and to know your parnets still love you and its not a good idea for parnets to stay together just for there kids cause its not better it can but a lot on them and you dont want to be around parnets always fighting and its your parnets chocie so you will get though it

graceygirl77 on 10/18/2009 6:36:43 PM

WOW that sucks

sarabachi on 10/18/2009 6:27:42 PM

Mod!!! Hi there, I'm wondering if you can help me: I really really like this guy who I think might like me too, but I'm not sure about that. He and I will talk on the phone and attempt to make plans to see eachother (we go to diff schools and live 30 minutes away from eachother). Anyway, he says he'll call me back the next day or whatever, but he never does! He's done this quite a few times. Is he just giving me the brush off?, or is it some weird guy thing? Thanks! xoxoxox

 

Hey babe! The only way to know for sure is to ask him and confront him about it! Guys can be clueless, so if he's just busy he may not realize what he's been doing!

Megan R.

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The Shugo Chara Club on 10/18/2009 2:55:44 PM

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Thanx Miliana!!
Do you think he likes me tho?

 

I do : )  Best, Miliana
Miliana B.

tap_dancer on 10/18/2009 12:23:48 PM

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Okay, so, my bestie set me and my crush up to meet tomorrow on the way to the science lab because his friend described me to him and he "really wants to meet me".
1. What should I say?? What should I wear??
2. My bestie told him I was pretty, funny, smart, and nice. From all of the given information, do you think he might like me??

 

You should wear something youre comfortable in and when you see him, joke that your friend is setting you up and see how he responds to that. Just smile and have a joke ready. Best, Miliana
Miliana B.

tap_dancer on 10/18/2009 12:02:09 PM

sometimes when parents get divorced it will make life happier at home because who wants to hear constant fighting everyday??

missunperfectxo on 10/18/2009 11:34:53 AM

REALLY WORKS TRY IT OUT!
1.Say your name 10x
2.Say your mom's name 5x
3.Say your crushes name 3x
4.then paste in this 4 other places,if you do this your crush will kiss you the nearest friday

holinesj on 10/17/2009 9:51:43 PM

REALLY WORKS TRY IT OUT!
1.Say your name 10x
2.Say your mom's name 5x
3.Say your crushes name 3x
4.then paste in this 4 other places,if you do this your crush will kiss you the nearest friday

holinesj on 10/17/2009 9:50:51 PM

REALLY WORKS TRY IT OUT!
1.Say your name 10x
2.Say your mom's name 5x
3.Say your crushes name 3x
4.then paste in this 4 other places,if you do this your crush will kiss you the nearest friday

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CLUB GLAMOUROUS! on 10/17/2009 4:32:27 PM

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My cousin's parents might get a divorce, and I really want to help her but I'm not sure what to say to her... I don't want her to turn into someone gothic! please help me




Hey girl! Its just important that you are there for her and can support her with everything.
Eryn G.

peacelovechrist23 on 10/17/2009 3:59:16 PM

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I really like this guy. He's a year older than me and he's in my science class. I think I caught him looking at me a few times during class and in the hallway I think we made eye contact. I'd like to talk to him more. Should I send him a friend request on facebook to kind of get his attention? And what should I even talk to him about if I get the courage to talk to him? Thanks. :]




Hey girl! You could do that if you wanted to, but you should also talk to him so you guys get to know each other better. 
Eryn G.

nikki01195 on 10/17/2009 2:38:26 PM

Eryn Do you think he likes me or not?
Kayla xoxo




He might like you, but im not sure. 
Eryn G.

redsoxlover on 10/17/2009 1:21:52 PM

Mod so lately ever since school has started the guy that i've liked since last year looks at me first and like if i ingore him a lot and what i mean by that don't look at him he will look at me.He also knows that i like him.He has talk about me when i was right there to his friends.Like today he went like a different way to a class and he turned around and i'm pretty sure he was looking at me and then he kept on walking he did that last week like twice to.Does this mean anything? Kayla xoxo




Hey girl! He might have figured out that you are ignoring him, so he might be doing the same thing. You should talk to him and pay attention to him. 
Eryn G.

redsoxlover on 10/17/2009 1:06:21 PM

PLEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY.

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN.

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Club_Paramore on 10/17/2009 12:05:07 PM

LEASE DON'T READ THIS, YOU WILL BE KISSED ON THE NEAREST POSSIBLE FRIDAY BY THE LOVER OF YOUR LIFE. TOMMORROW WILL BE THE BEST DAY OF YOUR LIFE. NOW YOU'VE STARTED READING THIS, DON'T STOP, THIS IS FREAKY.

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

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Club_Chicas on 10/17/2009 11:45:15 AM

My parents almost got a divorce. My sisters tried everything to help them. But i knew that my parents are adults and need to deal with this as adults, they don't need there children to help out. Sure you can suggest consuling and talk about the situtation, but at the end of the day its not your fault and you shouldn't haft to deal with it. Though it does effect you, i finally realized none of it was my fault and they had to deal with it with each other. I hope everything between your parents is ok.
xoxo, nikkirocks33


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nikkirocks33 on 10/17/2009 11:38:49 AM

Hey girl, I hope your parents and you are okay, Smile

guitargirl21 on 10/17/2009 11:23:52 AM

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN.

polishtaurus on 10/17/2009 9:03:10 AM



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