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My BF always compliments me. I mean, about everything. It’s really sweet, but I’m not so sure he’s sincere.

DAVE: Are girls ever satisfied? What’s a considerate BF to do? Should he ignore your new haircut or outfit so you can assume he doesn’t like it? Or should he nicely mention it to let you know he’s paying attention (even if it’s not his favorite)? Perhaps your guy sees potential pitfalls in staying quiet, so he’s playing it safe by laying on the compliments. However, since he says he likes everything, his flattery seems to have become meaningless. Give him the heads up that a few sincere compliments go much further than a bunch of hollow ones.

BILL: Wasn’t it Oscar Wilde who wrote, “When the gods wish to punish us, they answer our prayers”? Be honest—you’ve probably dreamed about a guy who would tell you all the time how great you are. Now you’ve got him, and you’re wondering what the catch is. Enjoy it while you can. Pretend you think he’s sincere (he could be!), and you might start believing him after all.

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/18/2009 7:00:00 AM 33 COMMENTS

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MODMODMODMODMODMODMOD!!!! Last night i was talking to my cousin who is really close to my BF and he said to her and his other friend tht he wanted to kiss me. I asked him if he wanted to and he said yes. i told him yes also. But now that i know that we are going to kiss, im scared but very excited. Hes my first boyfriend and hes by best friend. I have never kissed anyone so what if i mess up or something?? What if he wants more than a simple kiss?? How do u even kiss?? Please help!!!

Hey babe, we have a ton of helpful articles just for situations like this! Try these:

http://www.girlslife.com/post/2008/08/18/TYPES-OF-KISSES.aspx

http://www.girlslife.com/post/2010/01/11/kissing-guide.aspx

http://www.girlslife.com/post/2009/05/26/First-Kiss.aspx

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

beccamae23 on 1/25/2010 5:27:00 PM

MOD! okay so this week me and my BGF both discovered we like each other alot he told me face to face bu he hasnt asked me out...whats up??

Hey gal, he could just be waiting for the right time to tell you. If he doesn't do it soon, ask him out!

Lynae P.

addison99 on 12/16/2009 7:10:39 PM

~MOD please!~ So, I broke up with my boyfriend of 7 months awhile ago. I told myself and a lot of my friends after that I wanted to stay single for I was getting sick of how guys were treating me. Now this guy that's a year older than me wants to go out with me, he says I'm "perfect" for him and everything, he loves everything about me and such. We've gotten a pretty good bond between each other over the past year, and we know a lot about each other and what we want in relationships. He seems like a good guy, but I'm not sure if I should go out with him now or to wait since my ex still likes me, yet he's trying to get over me. Help please? Thank you. (=

Hey chica, you have to think about what you really want. Don't worry about your crush, this new guy or anyone else. Think about you. Are you ready for a new relationship? Are you ready to move on? Once you know the answers to those questions, you'll know what to do. Just remember to follow your heart, but use your head.

Lynae P.

untilxthexend on 12/13/2009 3:40:33 PM

MOD!MOD!MOD!MOD! mod i have to ask you 2 really important questions. i have a best best friend who is a guy. we know each other pretty well except he knows me way better than i know him. he never likes me to be by myself and his gf told him to go back to their table and hang out and he told her no. she walked away and then he looked at me and told me and i quote"im not gonna leave you alone."the first question is does he really care about me???and okayy some peopleare saying that i shouldnt be friends with him or "its okayy to be best friends with him just dont tell any one" i would ask them why and they say "just dont" he has a rep for cheating on gfs and being rude and hurting girls's feelings. but he doesnt act that way with me i kno the side of him that everyone else doesn't should i be best friends with him???im so confused.... so once again my questions are 1)does he really care about me?? and 2)should i be best friends or even friends with him??? please HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey girl! I think he definitely really cares about you. The fact that he is protective and looks out for you, even when his gf is asking him to go over there, shows that he really cares. Before my bf and I started dating, we were really good friends. People didn't see the same soft, sweet side I saw, and some people told me to be careful like they're telling you. Now, two years later, we're still perfectly happy, and he has always been sweet to me. I think that if your friend has always treated you well, there is no reason to stop being his friend. People can be wrong. It sounds like he really cares about you and is a good friend, so I think you should definitely stay best friends with him. best, Kristen <3

Kristen Y.

forever in my heart on 11/15/2009 7:06:06 PM

MOD ! Theres this guy i really like and he used to talk to me but later on he stopped talking to me probably because of my friends who i'm pretty mad at now (because of so many other reasons) and 3 days ago one of my friend told me that he complimented her like ''Hey nice skinny i wish i had one'' etc and i sorta got mad cause i'm thinking that hes a player which is making mad cause i really like him and i noticed his really nice and compassionate to girls and stuff. so do u think hes up to something? And how do i get him to talk to me like he used to ? Whats up with him! What do i do about the sitch.?

Hey girl! I wouldn't get too mad or upset about anything just yet. Try talking to him more and asking him questions. You may be able to strike things back up again soon!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

hip_hop_hottie on 11/8/2009 10:05:36 PM

~MOD~MOD~MOD~MOD~MOD~
My boyfriend told me he loved me a little while ago, and I was so happy! I know it's a big thing, but I love him too, so I said it back. Now he says it all the time when we text or anything, and it really annoys me! It's like he's using it as a conversation filler because he has nothing to say. I really like him, but how do I tell him that saying it is special, and it shouldn't be said every other text??

Hey babe! Confront him about it. Tell him the truth about how you feel! If you tell him that you can't tell if he's really being genuine or if he's just trying to hold a conversation, he'll be more careful about what he says. He could be really excited if he's saying it for the first time, and it could be just a phase that he can't stop saying it for a couple weeks. Still, it's important for you to let him know, he doesn't have to say it 24/7. you guys have other things to talk about! good luck! xoxo

Megan R.

skellington on 11/7/2009 1:46:51 AM

HELLLP
i like a guy and he likes me back. we go to school together and the problem is his dad, AND mom work at the school. HELP

candy_cutie181 on 11/2/2009 1:26:07 AM

MOD MOD MOD I have a big crush on my bgf. i dont know if he'll like me.

Hey girl! Try flirting with him a little and seeing how he responds. Hinting you think he's cute or funny may make him look at you a little differently!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

jbeny on 10/27/2009 6:28:50 PM

Mod-
I'm kind of obsessed with a guy from my school.
He asked for my number so i gave it to him and we txt a lot.
But if we don't text for like two hours i get ansy and want to text him..but i don't want to bug him.
and of course guys don't express their feelings so i never know if he minds texting me or not.
i'm usually the one to text him first..so i'm just not sure.

Please help!!

God bless~

me girl on 10/26/2009 7:59:55 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD! me and my bff have HUGE crushes on two of the most popular guys in school. she has a facebook and is always talking to her crush, but i can't have a facebook so i don't really talk to my crush-actually he doesn't even know my name! I really wanna way to talk to him, but I just don't have the courage to talk to him face to face!

Hey girl! Try saying hi to him one day or smiling. He'll take interest soon enough. Be confident and be yourself! You only live once!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

spazzychick101! on 10/25/2009 9:00:38 PM

MOD MOD MOD
I really really like this guy, but there is a problem. I have never talked to him because we don't have any classes together. My friends already told him i like him, but he doesn't know who i am. So I guess my question is: How can i talk to him if i dont have any classes with him? And how can i talk to him if i get SERIOUSLY nervous talking to him?
P.S. I have tried talking to him for about a week, but I just get too nervous and chicken out!!

Stop being nervous and just do it! You won't regret it. Best,

Miliana B.

abby777 on 10/25/2009 10:30:57 AM

HEY BABES!!!! MY PROFILE IS NOW AN ADVICE PROFILE!!!!!! I'LL GIVE YA ADVICE ON ANYTHING, CAUSE, BELIEVE ME, I'VE BEEN THROUGH IT ALL! SO COME TO MY PROFILE AND I'LL LISTEN AND HELP YA OUT!

CurlyBlonde8684 on 10/23/2009 10:09:25 PM

My crush always flirts with me but i never know what
to say back. I usually flirt with him back but i never know what to say without looking like an idiot.
And this is kinda embarrassing sometimes i just start giggling around him when i usually don't do that. how can i stop it?
God bless~

Be yourself! Try calming down before you see him, deep breathing and just relaxing. If you're super nervous you could always try practicing talking to him when you're at home. Try to talk to him like you would a good friend, say whatever is on your mind and go with the flow. Don't force anything, but also don't hold back if you have a question for him!

Megan R.

me girl on 10/23/2009 8:41:43 PM

Dear Mod-
I just had my first boyfriend. We were friends b4 we started coin out and I dumped him cuz I just wanted 2 be friends again. He said he was cool with it. But then in English I always catch him staring at me and smiling and laughing at my jokes and stuff. When I asked him if he still liked me I txted him 4 a long time before I could get ann answer. But then he glirts with me the next day! I wanna be friends without it bein awkward but how can I do tht if he might still like me. And I don't Ono if he likes me! HELLLLLLLLPPPPPPPPPP!!!!!!!

Hey girl, just 'cause you dump someone, doesn't mean their feelings go away. This guy probably still has a spark for you, no lie, and it's going to take time for it to extinguish. You can't rush through it. But for now? You've gotta let it die out on its own. Now may not be the time to be BGFs, but it won't be like this forever. Let him get over you himself and then you'll def be on that right track.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

bballplaya23 on 10/21/2009 9:52:23 PM

okay my friend has a "boyfriend" the only talk a lot but the dont really go out anyway i told her who i like right? so she asks me y i like him soo much all my other friends ask me that !! So like they say i should ask him out i say no to them my mom says that i should play hard to get. I dont know if he has a gf . but now i am reconsidering to ask him out at my friends halloween party !! MOD MOD what should i do?!?!?!? MOD . HELP

Hey babe,

I think you should get to know him first. If he knows you he'll be more likely to say yes if you ask him out and he might even ask you out first.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

LindaCrohn on 10/21/2009 8:18:14 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
Ok I used to really like my BGF and we got in a fights and now we just dont really talk to each other anymore. So tonight i made an effort to try to be friends again and now he saying "I dont wanna be friends with somebody that is in love with me" I used to like him but i dont anymore..!! So he told everyone in the class n im trying to tell them i dont like him anymore and they wont let up or believe me...!! Im getting really upset and im trying to ignore it and focus on more important stuff but its really getting to me even how hard I try..!!! My BGF is really rude even my 2 BFFS think so i just wish everybody else could think so..!! But im really gonna miss him especially when i think of the fun times we had..!! PLEASE HELP ME..!! What can I say to him..!! PLEASE HELP ME!!!

Hey babe,

It sounds like he's looking for a reason not to be friends with you so, unfortunately, I think it won't matter much what you say to him. It's really sad to lose a friend but it's also important to realize that you can't waste your time on someone who isn't going to appreciate you. It will take some time, but if you move on you'll be able to make new friends to replace him and maybe some day he'll realize how much he misses you.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

Paramore_247 on 10/21/2009 8:00:25 PM

~mod~
how do i flirt? i never know how. sometimes whn i talk to a guy my sister says i'm flirting. but i don't try. how do i try? ohhh, and what's a way to get my crush's number without him getting the vibe i like him?

Hey babe,

If you're already flirting, you don't even need to try - it actually works better when it's effortless! But you can try laughing at his jokes and complimenting him more. The best way to get a number without letting him know you like him is to have a real reason to ask for it, like if you're working on a project together or you ask him for help with a homework assignment or planning a party.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

bobbert1230 on 10/21/2009 4:33:18 PM

~mod~
how do i flirt? i never know how. sometimes whn i talk to a guy my sister says i'm flirting. but i don't try. how do i try?

bobbert1230 on 10/21/2009 4:31:01 PM

MOD*********** I have lavender purple, silver and several diffrent colors of eyeshadow is there a certain way to apply the eyeshadow and eyeliner to make you eyes really stand out without making it look like u have a ton of makeup on?

Hey girl. Remember, the key to having your eyes stand out is not to make it look like you are wearing a ton of makeup. Apply the eyeliner on the top lid of your eyes, going from corner to corner and apply on the bottom, but only go from your outer corner to about half way. Remember, this shouldn't be a thick line. Make it as thin as possible. Apply the silver eyeshadow, or any light eyeshadow to the inner corners of your eyes. This will make your eyes look brighter and bigger. Apply darker shadow to the outer corner. So you will be going from light to dark and blend along the way. If you have a shimmery color that's a little bit lighter than your skin, brush that underneath your brown bone to create an even more dramatic eye. Experiment and see what looks best.

xoxo

Liz

Liz L.

pink15 on 10/21/2009 12:26:16 PM

thanks so much mod!

gardengale on 10/21/2009 7:46:54 AM

Hi Mod,
I need some advice. I had a BF last year. We talked for a little while, and it was fun, but it got really weird. We never talked after that, and after we broke up we were never good friends again, although we did stay friends. This year, I like a boy, but I am afraid that if he asks me out that it would get weird and then we wouldn't be good friends if it didn't work out. But I don't want him to think that I don't like him either. I am really confused! Any advice or help would be great!

Hey girl! Not every relationship will be like your first. As long as you make a point to still talk to them and try to be their friends again, it will be easier when you break up!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

gardengale on 10/20/2009 8:42:04 PM

Bill and Dave rock!!

Starpanda123 on 10/20/2009 8:11:55 PM

mOd
uhhh hi. whats up? anyway, im in a tough stich. i like my ex's best friend. he used to really like me alot, but he says he doesnt like-like me because my ex isn't copletly over me. :-( i feel like my ex pressured him into saying that. i really want him to admit he likes me. i get jealous wen he's with another girl. e said he thought i was hot, sweet, and funny. i could tell he ment it because of the way he said it. is there anything i can do?

Hey girl! You should talk to him. If he isn't ready to admit anything though, don't push him. He could be trying to be loyal to his bud and he might not want to hurt him. Just keep being friends with him and maybe you ex will move on soon!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

red_orange_yellow_green_blue on 10/20/2009 12:44:41 PM

mod mod mod..
i find it hard to be friends again with my ex. it just doesnt seem the same as when we used to be friends before we dated. after we broke up, i couldnt see him as the same friend anymore. he isn't much of a talker or a conversation-carrier, and that makes it even harder. he still wants to be friends too, but we're both having trouble trying to be good friends again.

Hey girlie,

You need some time away from each other before you can truly be friends again. Both of you need time to get over your romantic feelings and realize that you had a good thing going before you started dating. It's going to be a bit hard at first, but once you've both completely moved on you'll get your old friendship back.

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

violindollie on 10/19/2009 11:27:08 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!
I have the most awesome BF in the whole entire world. He is really sweet and he cares about me, and since this is my 1st relationship, i dont wanna screw it up. I've been having some problems lately...
1. His ex keeps harassing me and telling me lies about him. I ask him about it and he says she's making him miserable. How can I get her to back off both of us so we dont break up?
2. I feel depressed and lonely when I'm not with him. Is this unhealthy or something I should be concerned about?
Thanks for all you do GL! Sorry this was so long!!!

Hey girlie,

First, it's normal to miss your BF when he's not around, but it could be a bit unhealthy if you are feeling completely depressed. When you're not with him spend time doing things that you enjoy, surrounded by good friends or family, playing sports you love, reading a good book, etc. As for the ex, tell her that even though she thinks she is helping you in some way by saying these things about your ex that you are happy in your relationship and would appreciate it if she would respect that and let you find out things about him for yourself. If the two of you really like each other you won't want to break up over someone else's lies!

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

BooWorm2309 on 10/19/2009 10:08:27 PM

Ive got that same problem.......

herecomestheladybug on 10/19/2009 4:12:33 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD..........
I like this guy and he has flirted with me befor and we have this good kind of weird friend thing going on and I want to ask hime to the school dance coming up but I don't want to ruin what I have going with him, cause it's the closest I'v ever gotten to him. what should I do?

Hey babe! How about asking him to the dance, as friends!

Megan R.

Pugglegirl1008 on 10/18/2009 7:17:10 PM

This is great advice. Rock on, Bill and Dave!

selenaFan97 on 10/18/2009 4:21:17 PM

nice advice && i love the quote!

iluvnickjonasxx4evaxx on 10/18/2009 4:21:04 PM

Nice advice Bill and Dave!

lasagna on 10/18/2009 12:18:11 PM

yeah girl give him another few days and see if this keeps up. if you really truly see that he has no honesty in these complements, then yeah, just ask him about it like dave suggested. good luck! (:

girlzrock07 on 10/18/2009 11:38:48 AM

lol so true
love the quote btw

CiCi840 on 10/18/2009 10:51:18 AM

Woah, where did that come from Bill and Dave? LOL thats rlly great advice and I have to agree with everything they said.

Check out my profile girls, and please leave a comment, thanks!

SportyGal on 10/18/2009 9:17:02 AM