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She Set Me Up!

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Your BFF hasn't been all that honest with you. She made you seem like a bad person and you aren't friends anymore. Hmmm...what to do?

My (once) good friend texted me one day asking what I thought of a bunch of people. Since I thought she was my friend, I told her the truth. When I saw some of the people she asked about, they wouldn't talk to me.

Turned out my "friend" told everyone what I said!

BFF Fix- It: This BFF hasn't been too honest has she? Dealing with all the people you talked about could be hard, but you have to solve a problem one at a time. First, tell your BFF how this hurt you and ask her how she would've felt if you did the same to her. Give her a chance to see what she did wrong. Take into consideration why she would've done such a thing. Was it popularity?

Unfortunately, this friendship seems like it's taken a turn for the worse. No BFF should betray any cool girl like that! And as for dealing with the people you talked about? Just be super-nice and give things a while to cool off. If you said some really mean things consider writing personal notes to the peeps you hurt.

TELL US NOW! Are you dealing with a backstabbing BFF? Vent it out and we'll try to fix your sitch! Click the blue SUBMIT YOUR OWN button and we'll help you erase that evil sistah, ASAP.

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/26/2009 7:00:00 AM 24 COMMENTS

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omg, thas so mean!!! she dusnt deserve u!!!

veggigurl123 on 1/23/2010 8:07:59 PM

ya I texted one of my "friend" about my tempory crush (though I change my mind about guys like every hour unless they're like my super crush (pop. 1))and she forwarded my exact text which read something like "he totally turns me on...idk i just really like him although he could be taller..." to his BFF!!! and he showed it to every one else including my no longer crush (I got over him like 30 min. after the text but nobody believes me!). I'm still getting harrased about it and it's been close to 3 months! When I asked her why she did it all she said was that she was bored and felt like it. When I told her how hurt I was and how it affected me, she just told me to chill! Now she treats me like I'm garbage and since she's the ringleader of the whole 7th grade, almost every one else thinks I'm weird too! I mean sure i'm a little different but that really really hurts! What should I do?

flirtatious on 1/17/2010 3:47:43 PM

hello

beauty-girl1999 on 1/16/2010 1:27:05 AM

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Ok... theres this girl M who thinks shes great at everything, at basketball she thinks shes best....no offense, shes not. She gets on my nerves..... HELP!!

People like that are a waste of your time. Those people dont understand how to be humble. I suggest you just ignore her and know that being humble is much better than being like M. Just ignore her shes not worth your time. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

pandalover458 on 1/9/2010 5:58:46 PM

MOD MOD MOD Recently one of my friends....lets call her "K"....colored her hair, and I really like it. But then she messaged me and told me that my other friends(lets call her "S")told her that I said it was ugly. I didn't know why she would do that, so I asked S why she lied, and she insisted that I did say that. Now K, S, and some of their other friends are mad at me and sending me these mean messages about how I talk behind peoples backs, when really they were doing that about me. I don't understand why they would do that and I've tried to fix the problem, but they all think Im a mean person when I never said anything. My parents said to just ignore them but they keep messaging me. Im so hurt and I dont know what to do. Please help! (Sorry its so long)

Hey doll,

You should get S and K together and straighten it all out. If you didn't say the color was ugly and S said she never said you did, there shouldn't be a problem. The messages should stop after that since they started because of the misunderstanding.

tyler j.

smartergirl on 12/30/2009 3:33:50 PM

girls r so catty sometimes

chicacherrycola on 12/19/2009 1:40:53 PM

if these ppl are ur "best friends" why would they do something like that? they dont deserve to be called ur "friend"

xXBeautiful_DisasterXx on 12/14/2009 6:22:17 PM

my friend would do that

OneoftheDudes1996 on 12/13/2009 12:16:54 AM

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rightfield1 on 11/18/2009 8:35:18 PM

i wouldn't be surprised if MY friend did that....

cutiepie4567 on 11/8/2009 4:14:49 PM

that is soo mean. why did she do that?

GreenEyedBeauty12 on 11/3/2009 10:24:48 AM

My bff would never betray my trust like that. I can't beleive your friend did that to you!

megan512 on 11/2/2009 9:18:27 AM

dude doesnt everyone has this problem? hate drama!

vana903 on 11/2/2009 8:37:50 AM

What does mod mean!? Serously! What does it mean?

Junetikky on 11/2/2009 1:24:47 AM

that really sux. I completely understand where you are comeing from. but i dnt trust people easily. There is like only 2 people in the world id trust with my life.

eagle on 11/1/2009 4:13:45 PM

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For the last few weeks, I have been feeling like my friends don't like me anymore. I have known one girl all of our lives, and the other girl since we were 4 and a half. Last night, my 'BFF' since we were born threw a sleepover Halloween party and invited everyone but me. They tried to keep it secret, but I found out. I feel like she is avoiding me, even though the other 2 are still acting somewhat normal. What should I do??
Sorry this is sooo long! Thanks!

Hey babe! You should confront them and let them know your feelings are hurt! Hang out with people who make you happy and just be yourself! You're a great girl and they'll be lucky to have you as a friend.

Megan R.

musiclover1396 on 10/31/2009 12:38:15 PM

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My 'friends' who are now my ex friends said that the reason they're not talking to me and being my friend is that i was talking about them and plotting against them. Okay there are a few things wrong with what they said, 1 is that i HATE talking about people and it's against my philosophy to hate things but i hate talking about people. the second thing is that I'm not the kind of person to plot. The person who told said i was plotting is my friend from last year. My other ex friend is my friend from elementary school and she knows me i don't like being mean to people it makes my skin crawl. And when i asked my ex friend from elementary school, let's call her Alice, is she was mad at me Alice just said i don't know should i be mad at you. When i asked my friend from last year, I'm gonna call her Nancy, who told her i was talking about her she said she couldn't tell me. Nancy use to talk about people to me but i didn't listen because like i said i hate it, but when i started ignoring her and making friend that weren't her friends she started hating me. I don't want to be Nancy's friend anymore but i want to be Alice's friend because she is nice but was brainwashed by Nancy. I do have a lot more friend then i did before when i was only Nancy and Alice's friend so should i just forget about them or try to reason with Alice?

Hey babe! All you can do is be yourself, try to forget about them, and they'll come around. If you act like yourself, they'll see that it was all lies and that you're an awesome girl and an awesome friend!

Megan R.

hugatree4life on 10/31/2009 9:46:32 AM

lol my bff tells my secrets ALL the time. she keeps tellin ppl who im goin out with!!! my otha friend got mad at me cuz i didnt tell her right away but i fixed it yay!

camel490 on 10/30/2009 12:09:46 AM

let me tell u something i learned: if u really want something to be kept secret...keep it 2 urself even ur besties can let one slip..

soccergirlie on 10/28/2009 8:58:50 PM

my friend does that. once she asked someone what they thought of me on the phone (i could here her) and she lied. the person thought i was nice and stuff but thats not what she said.

blueeyes67 on 10/28/2009 12:38:16 AM