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My grandpa passed away suddenly a few weeks ago. He didn’t have significant health problems, he just died in his sleep. My siblings and I were pretty close to him and it feels like a part of me is lost.

I just can't accept that he is gone. Every time I see something that reminds me of him in any way, I feel like crying. I cry myself to sleep at night sometimes.

I don’t want to go to my mom because I don’t want to make her more upset than she already is. I need help about how to deal with this because I can tell it's going to be very hard!

-I Can't Deal

Hey babe, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandpa passing. Death is a very hard thing to deal with and there's really not much anyone can say to make the pain go away. But don't keep all your feelings bottled up.

Let it out

Your family members are probably feeling the same. It might feel better to talk to your siblings about what they're going through. This way you'll know that you're not alone. If it feels weird to say your feelings out loud, jot down some of the thoughts you're having in a journal. Just getting it out on paper releases a lot of your pent-up emotions.

Somebody to lean on

Write down some of your favorite memories you've had with your grandpa. I bet your mom would appreciate hearing some of those stories. That's a great way to open up a convo with her. I know she's sad too, but even she would probably like to have someone to talk to. Right now your mama needs your support as much as you need hers.

Stay strong!

It's going to take a while for you to feel better. Grief takes different amounts of time for different people, so be patient and supportive to your entire family. If you still feel really alone, see if you can set up an appointment with your school counselor. You could show him/her your journal entries or just talk about what's been going on since he passed away. Keep your chin up and you'll be able to get through this, babe.

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my suggestion is hang around friends and family and try to have a good time!! and i'm sure ur grandpa would want u to do that!!! maybe going to visit his grave or talking to a guidence councilor might help and thinking about all the fabulous things he's done in his lifetime and about all the good times u had together best of luck!!

blueberry1357 on 11/20/2009 3:31:59 PM

I'm sorry about your grandpa, I know how you feel. I lost my dad in April 12 of 2009. and my grandpa Ray in March of 2003.

sixteengirl93 on 11/18/2009 4:00:19 PM

MODMODMODMODMODMODMODMOD-------------- My bf's grandma died today and i feel sooooooooooo bad for him!! Can you give me any advice on anything i can do to make him feel better? My grandma died a few months ago so i can relate and i really feel for him. i even cried when i found out. thanks!

Hey babe,

I'm so sorry to hear that. It's a tough situation. The best thing you can do is to be there for him, hug him, listen to him, make him cookies, just let him know that you are there if he needs anything. Do for him what you wanted someone to do for you when you lost your grandma.

xoxo Keltie

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peacelovechrist23 on 11/16/2009 10:04:47 PM

my granda passed on by birthday almost four years ago, so i know how you feel. im so sorry

RisaLuvsYou on 11/5/2009 6:15:18 PM

hi my grandfather just died last june he was blind but he could find his way around better then all of us.i really miss him and i believe he is in a better place now looking over me. youre grandfather is probably watching over you right now

skatergirl13 on 11/3/2009 8:11:55 AM

Hey girl. Sorry for your loss. My Grandpa died in May, so I know what it feels like. And so do many of these awesome other girls here on GL! It can be really hard sometimes when I go to visit my Grandma. I always want to ask her, "Where's Grandpa at?" But, then I remember. It makes me feel really sad sometimes, but I always smile. Just thinking about him makes me smile. I'm sure you have a lot of wonderful memories with your Grandpa, too. If you are finding yourself down in the dumps, do what you love. Whether it's sports, art, music, anything. And it is ok to cry! It's good to let it all out. And who knows? You could start feeling 'almost normal' in a few weeks. Or it could take a few months. It all depends, but it doesn't matter. Good Luck girlie! I know that it's hard, but you can get through it just fine!

-Ace

AcePrincessGal on 11/2/2009 10:33:32 PM

IT IS HARD LOSING A LOVED ONE CAUSE IT BASICALLY LOSING APART OF YOUR SELF BECAUSE AS YOU LIVE AROUND THEM AND GET TO KNOW THEM THEY BASICALLY ARE APART OF YOU I KNOW WHEN I LOST MY GRANDPA I FELT LIKE A PART OF ME HAD BEEN LOST AND ALMOST DIED THAT CAN NEVER BE BROUGHT BACK SO DON'T FEEL BAD EVERYONE GOES THROUGH THIS WHEN YOU LOSE A LOVED ONE

star53 on 11/1/2009 10:23:41 AM

I'm really sorry for your loss! But, remember, bottling it up and just letting it build up inside you may not be the best solution. I think you should just remember him, his accomplishments and all the moments you spent together. You should be proud of him for what he did. And you should talk to your family, I'm sure they are as sad as you are.
Hope I helped!
Soum

judo.is.life on 10/30/2009 11:09:32 PM

when my gpa died, i was shocked. i know i didn't get to spend that much time with her, but i felt like a different person. and i felt like i should have spent more time with her. its cunfuzzling. i dont like it when somebody dies. even a pet. <3

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MeatLoversUSA on 10/30/2009 5:41:51 PM

MeatLoversUSA on 10/30/2009 5:40:07 PM

My papa just died and it makes me wanna die so bad!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Memesputerpunkingirl on 10/30/2009 5:14:29 PM

My grandma passed away in August and it has been very hard. I just get through it knowing I will see her again someday.

peacelovechrist23 on 10/29/2009 9:04:00 PM

what i think you and your mom should do is talk about it yes it will be hard but at less u guys can cry together and you may be surpieingly shocked how your mom takes it she probally will be very open about it! Just try to talk talking always helps and its better to tell someone how you feel then hide it! I know that for a fact!

Good luck girl
and God bless you and your family

mylife*11 on 10/29/2009 6:07:30 PM

Aww... It's OK. My grandma died of Alzheimer's Disease over the summer. She had broken her hip last X-Mas, too. Alzheimer's makes you loose your mind also. She died not remembering my dad, (her son), and me. I'm very sorry that your grandpa died so unexpectedly. It's very hard. Just think that he's in a better place now.

Moon Dance on 10/28/2009 10:01:53 PM

awww im sorry! my grandfather passed two years ago. And i felt like crying for days. But i survided by my loving family and my caring friends. I hope your friends are helping you out,.. it can be very stressful! Best of luck! xoxo Aly (:

cheerbabi98 on 10/28/2009 8:52:59 PM

That is a really good picture to put with this article.

xoxo Mariah

yellow_mariah on 10/28/2009 5:07:12 PM

Um hey i am so sorry for your loss, i lost my grandpa too in february. It was tough, especially at the funeral. It helps me to talk to him. I know it kinda sounds wierd but just talk to him, maybe before you go to sleep and just say hey i love you and i really miss you. hope it helps...

xc binz on 10/28/2009 4:55:47 PM

I am so sorry that you lost such a special person. When I lost my grandpa about a year ago, I thought the pain was never going to end. But, about 3 weeks after he died, the sadness started fading away. Now, I am left with mostly happy thoughts of him. So, even though, now it may awwm like the world is crashing, that give it some time, and concentrate on happy thoughts of him.

girlzrock97 on 10/28/2009 7:27:13 AM

I know exactly how you feel . I've had someone die every year for three years and those people were my grandmother grandfather and my Uncle who just recently die because someone punched him in the head . I know exactly how you feel after a couple of months you'll feel much better just remember all the good times you had with him
hannah

hank212 on 10/28/2009 6:27:32 AM

i fell sorry for you! i love my grandpa. My mom doesn't though.

hi!!! on 10/28/2009 12:20:59 AM

The same exact thing happend to me a few weeks ago. My granpa died in his sleep from Arsnic cancer becuase He was exposed to Arsnic from Lake Tahoe's Lake for 24 or 34 years. I feel the same way. I cry every time i see something that he loved and cherished. The day after I heard he died when I went to school I started to burst out crying in class. But I still feel that he is with me as a spirit. He protects me, my family, and my grandma becuase the day after he passed a fairy ring appeared on my grandparents house and it was NEVER THERE BEFORE! so i know that he is with me as im writing this. and he will never leave me just as your grandpa is with you. but the sad thing is the last time I saw my grandpa was 6 years ago when I was 4 but I used to talk to him on the phone. but remember that my heart goes to you and I hope you will know that your granpa loves you and always will.

SweetStrawberry101 on 10/27/2009 10:11:05 PM

im sooooooo sorry!! i feel sooo sorry 4 u!

PicturePerfect on 10/27/2009 8:32:03 PM

hey girl. i know exactly how you feel because i lost my grandfather who i was extremely close to when i was 10. it was probably the hardest thing i've ever been through. there are always people to help, keep your head up high and be aware that your not alone.
love,
ellie

hugatree95 on 10/27/2009 8:19:24 PM

awwee so sorry 2 hear tht. anyways good advice!!

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sportygirly23 on 10/27/2009 7:06:40 PM

Aww girl, talk to your friend about this and she will be there for you. Know that your grandpa was a great man, and we all have to pass away sooner or later. Maybe you can talk to your grandma about some memories she has when she met your grandpa or things they did together. You will get through this!

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Abriella123 on 10/27/2009 6:55:40 PM

MOD MOD MOD! Ok sorry if this is long.....but this year in March, i met an amazing guy...the problem is he's 16, and i'm 13! Also...he's my older brother's friend! But when i saw him at my house i like instantly fell in love with him. He gives me sweet smiles and he's sooo cute and i swear whenever he walks by i get all tingly everywhere! He's all i ever think about! But next summer, he's moving somewhere really far away! And i have a feeling i'll never see him again. And even though he's older, my brothers friend, AND he's moving, i STILL really like him! And I have no clue wat to do! I really like him, and i dont think he'd ever like me because of my age. Should i just forget about him??? cuz thatd be hard...

Hey girl! You can keep crushing but try to focus on some boys your own age for a while. Talk a cutie or make friends with one in a class. You'll be thinking about one of them soon enough and still have your crush to smile at every once in a while.

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crazysoccergirl on 10/27/2009 6:46:09 PM

i am sorry. i lost my dad when was 5.

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lasagna on 10/27/2009 4:40:49 PM

I know how that feels my brother died 2yrs ago, it still feels like it was just yesterday. i cant believe he is really gone....

littlemiss139 on 10/27/2009 4:35:43 PM

i know how you feel

i lost my grandma last week

lechair on 10/27/2009 4:32:57 PM

Sorry. Losing people isn't any fun.

lasagna on 10/27/2009 4:13:51 PM

So hard. My grandma died unexpectedly two years ago. And that's the second time my grandpa's lost a wife...
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eckogirl567 on 10/27/2009 3:32:35 PM

I know how you feel my grandpa passed away suddenly a year ago. Try to talk about it with your friends if you don't want to get your mom upset. Think about the great times you had with him and remember he is in a better place

gabap29 on 10/27/2009 3:30:35 PM

Oh I'm sorry! My great aunt just died on Friday, but I didn't know her all that well. So I'm sorry, I don't know how you feel!

Smileygirl86 on 10/27/2009 3:23:10 PM

Same here, i lived with my grandfather , and he had lung cancer and he passed away. but that was last year, im so sorry though.

Maddyrox92 on 10/27/2009 3:22:55 PM

Wow im so sorry my grandpa passed away when my mom was like my age so i nvr meet him. Thats a good idea to keep a journal for all ur thoughts.

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