My grandpa passed away suddenly a few weeks ago. He didn’t have significant health problems, he just died in his sleep. My siblings and I were pretty close to him and it feels like a part of me is lost.
I just can't accept that he is gone. Every time I see something that reminds me of him in any way, I feel like crying. I cry myself to sleep at night sometimes.
I don’t want to go to my mom because I don’t want to make her more upset than she already is. I need help about how to deal with this because I can tell it's going to be very hard!
-I Can't Deal
Hey babe, I'm very sorry to hear about your grandpa passing. Death is a very hard thing to deal with and there's really not much anyone can say to make the pain go away. But don't keep all your feelings bottled up.
Let it out
Your family members are probably feeling the same. It might feel better to talk to your siblings about what they're going through. This way you'll know that you're not alone. If it feels weird to say your feelings out loud, jot down some of the thoughts you're having in a journal. Just getting it out on paper releases a lot of your pent-up emotions.
Somebody to lean on
Write down some of your favorite memories you've had with your grandpa. I bet your mom would appreciate hearing some of those stories. That's a great way to open up a convo with her. I know she's sad too, but even she would probably like to have someone to talk to. Right now your mama needs your support as much as you need hers.
It's going to take a while for you to feel better. Grief takes different amounts of time for different people, so be patient and supportive to your entire family. If you still feel really alone, see if you can set up an appointment with your school counselor. You could show him/her your journal entries or just talk about what's been going on since he passed away. Keep your chin up and you'll be able to get through this, babe.
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BY KATIE S. ON 10/27/2009 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN dealing with death