My BFF and I have been friends since we were really little, and suddenly this year she is hanging out with a whole other group! I don't care if she has other friends, but whenever I want to hang out with her, she usually ignores me and talks to her other peeps.
Also, all of her new pals are really popular. I'm kind of shy, so I don't fit in with them. I want to stay friends with her, but I just don't want to get mad at her and ruin our friendship.
Hey babe, I totally feel your pain. I think every girl has gone through something like this at some point in their lives and it can make you feel really lonely and confused. You have to remember that if your friend is true blue she's not going to just ditch you as soon as a new group comes along.
Excited about new peeps
Your pal is probably enjoying the new excitement that comes when you start hanging out with a new group of people. Give her a little time to get to know her new friends without putting pressure on her to hang with you every sec.
Plan a friend date!
When you think you're ready, talk to her about what's been going on. Maybe you could plan an outing just the two of you with a movie and pizza. When the time is right, tell her that you've missed her. Can't get the words out in person? Write it out in a note. Ask her if you can come with her the next time she hangs out with these new girls. Chances are, if she likes them then you will too, and vice versa.
Do your own thang
And don't forget that it's always great to make new friends! So why don't YOU seek out a new group to hang with, too? Join a new club or sport that you've always been interested in. You'll meet a whole bunch of buds who share your passions so you'll have puh-lenty to bond about. Go for it!
-Katie S.
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POSTED ON 10/28/2009 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN group, growing apart