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Sometimes you want to flirt with your crush but freak out at the thought of even talking to him. Guys always go for a chica with confidence, so practice being positive and focusing on all the things you love about yourself.

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 10/29/2009 7:00:00 AM 50 COMMENTS

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This is so easy to me...im not one of those who lik gets nervous when they're with their crush...i jsut act lik i normally do but with a little bit more flirty (; <3

xoxozRita on 2/19/2010 6:35:39 PM

Got this one covered way up. I don't even have to pull the confidence act. I just act confident normally!

bluebubbles444 on 2/18/2010 10:43:21 PM

MOD MOD MOD, K There's this guy i like but he already has a gf and its kind my fault cause i didn't make any move when i could have he even gave me compliments b4 but i didn't really act on it. Now i would kill to have him as a friend if not anything else. So do i have a chance to talk to him and be friend him ? How can i go about it without making his gf hate me or something.

Hey girly, you could start by saying hi and holding little conversations with them when you see them. Try inviting them out with you and your friends sometime. As long as you're nice and cool they'll want you to be their friend.

Lynae P.

hip_hop_hottie on 12/23/2009 5:56:56 PM

Mod pls can u reply to my previous commment thanks

Hey girl!

You've been commenting a lot for someone to respond to a problem you've posted but nothing is coming up. Try posting it again.

Liz R.

hip_hop_hottie on 12/23/2009 2:05:44 PM

Hey moders!
I have got a boy prob.
I have a major crush on this boy (lets call him bob)
Anyways Bob and I are friends but we have nevr actually talked outside of school.He asked me to slow dance with him at the winter dance last week. He flirts with me to.Sometimes he even compliments me on my penmasnhip or hair or something.When we talked his pupils are dilated and he looks me straight in the eye. Bob always starts convos with me and finds little reasons to high five me and such.
Does he like me??
Thnx!
COnfused crusher.

Hey girl!

Well from the reasons that you're giving, it sounds like he does! If you like him too, just flirt back. It's completely up to you if you want to make the first move or not.

Liz R.

sunnycloud on 12/23/2009 10:36:43 AM

MOD MOD MOD
when was your first kiss, your first boyfriend, and when did u start liking boys?

Hey girl! I started liking guys when I was in middle school.

Eryn G.

SierraRylee on 12/20/2009 4:50:33 PM

MOD MOD MOD
please help...there is this really shy guy in my class that i sorta have a crush on but i have no idea how to start a conversation with him! oh ya, my friend thinks he likes her but she has sorta been trying to make me jealous lately idk why. what should i say to him and what do i tell my friend?? thanx a ton!

chicacherrycola on 12/18/2009 5:28:28 PM

MOD, i started having life skills class in physed and there's this guy i'd like to be friends with but its gonna be awkard making friends in life skills though so how do i come about the whole making a friend sitch.

You could make jokes about the awkward parts of class or try talking to him outside of class if you'll feel more comfortable that way!

Megan R.

hip_hop_hottie on 12/15/2009 8:54:08 PM

guess what ive got! mistletoe! i cant wait to bring it to school and use it on my crush, most my friends say he likes me!

CrazyXP on 12/6/2009 7:39:18 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
Okay. I'm in 7th grade and there's this kid in 6th grade that wants to go to the dance with me. He's nice, but I don't like him like that! Waht should I tell him? How do I let him know I don't really want to go without breaking his heart?
PPPLLLEEEAAASSSEEE HELP ME!!!!
Tahnks so much!

Hey girl! You can just tell him that you are already going with your friends but you will save him a dance.

Eryn G.

clairedancergirl on 12/1/2009 3:28:45 PM

MODD
this guy (that I also liked) liked me back, we flirted, texted, emailed, and facebooked all of the time. We were practically dating (but had never actually hung out), and decided to wait for the school year to wind down. After about two weeks things started getting a little weird...he would say he loved me like always, but it seemed half hearted. Later after a football game, I go on the computer and he had emailed me saying something along the lines of "Im confused about our age difference, I kinds still like you, but idk". I'm no dummy! Right away I was like "if u don't like me just say" and the whole thing turned into he liked another girl and us not being close anymore. He still talks to me
ahhlot, but I can't tell what's going on at all. All of my friends and even my mom are like "Who cares about jake? You're too good for him and don't need him". These generic lines are annoying and I don't believe them one bit. I really can't live without this guy, and don't/can't let him go, being best friends like we used to is okay, but I want us to be together.
--heartbroken--

Hey girlie,

It's hard getting over a break up and even though you think you can't, you can actually live without this guy and things will start to get better soon. If you want to remain friends do, but maybe stop talking to him for a little while so that you can actually get over him.

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

Shopbballbri on 11/30/2009 11:43:41 PM

MODMODMOD~
Theres this guy in my class and I like him and he's like my bgf but a little closer, and he is always putting his arm next to mine in class and leaving it there so they touch. Also, he asjusts his body so his knees are touching mine, but he doesnt like it when my friends accidentally do that.Only me. And he is always trying to make me laugh which is really easy, and asking my opinion on things and just talkng to me all the time. Do you think he likes me or should I just forget about it?

It sounds like this guy is crushing hard core! I think you should keep chattin with him and see where things go!

Megan R.

selenaFan97 on 11/29/2009 6:53:17 PM

~Mod!!!~ So, I know it may sound dumb, but how do you flirt with your boyfriend? I mean, I don't want him to get tired of the same old thing, ya know? I just want a way to... attract him even more. He says I'm perfect the way I am, but I want to step it up a notch. Help?!

Hey chica, you could try switching up your style. Try something different with your hair or throw on a flashy outfit. You could try kissing him more often or leaving love notes and messages. Pick different places for you gus to hang out. One weekend try a cool restaurant, the next hit up a skating rink. Hope this helps ya out!

Lynae P.

lexibear41 on 11/27/2009 9:39:29 PM

I get my confidence up by sharing a joke with my BFFs
I luv 'em to death!
✌ It's Super Girl

ImSuperGirl on 11/22/2009 2:11:11 AM

Im in 6th grade and I have a crush on this guy who`s also in 6th grade but has a gf in 7th grade EWW I know right!I can`t keep him out of my mind but My friends tell me to let go (even my twin sis who`s also in 6th grade!)but I just can`t !What do i do! -confuzed! <

hey girl! If he has a gf, you shouldn't try to go after him, atleast not right now. It's never a good idea to be that "other woman." you can keep talking to him in case things with his gf don't work out, but definitely keep your eyes open. There are tons of fish in the sea, so get to know other guys. If another guy comes along who's more available, see if he wants to hang out! best, Kristen <3

Kristen Y.

coolio528 on 11/15/2009 5:39:49 PM

MOD
I asked this guy out, and I'm super-crazy about him, but he said that he "just got out of a really long realationship(which is true)and he's not ready for a new one yet, maybe later". I'm not sure if he likes me back at all, but he's very friendly and nice to me all the time. Do you think I should move on, or pursue this again in a month or two? Or maybe just wait it out and see if he asks me?

Hey girl! You might want to give him some time and wait a little bit. You might want to try to talk to him more and try to hang out and then see where things go.

Eryn G.

kazthespaz on 11/14/2009 2:30:42 PM

MOD!!! I really like this guy in my Challenge L.A. class. Him and I talk a little bit and we've been together in groups before. The prob is whenever I talk to him which is only in L.A. and science, I always end up babbling about boring school stuff(like the novel we're reading in L.A.) or asking him questions about the sports he's in (and I've asked about everything already). I can tell it bores him. How do I spice up conversation?

Hey chicky, try asking questions about him. Ask him about things he's interested in besides sports. Like what is his fave color or fave movie. This way he'll see you're interested in him and really fun to talk to.

Lynae P.

Fearless221 on 11/13/2009 8:55:22 PM

Laugh at yourself when you do something really dumb or clumbsy.

bubblegum4 on 11/13/2009 6:39:16 PM

MOD PLEASE K THX

so in health class the seat next 2 me was empty & so was the one next to my bgf and he kept saying he was 'lonely' even though there were a bunch of people sitting by him so he moved his seat next to me and then in french we always talk but never get in trouble

and like hes always trying to make me laugh and stuff and we just started bein friends this year and like i cant tell if he is flirtin or whateva(im rlly bad at that) can you help me and give me some tips 2 recognize when a guy is flirting w/me???? srry this is sooo long <3

Hey girl, trying to get you to laugh is one big sign. Also take note of his body language. Is he leaning in towards you or making intense eye contact? Those are both some serious signs a guy is into you. Good Luck If you like this guy I hope everything works out.

xoxo Olivia

Olivia A.

littlestarr22 on 11/12/2009 3:31:11 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD.. ok so i really like this guy and i thought he liked me too..but it turns out he likes this girl whos my friend and blushes when his friends say her name...but she doesnt even like him at all...and i still like him..i cant get over him..but he doesnt like me..should i get over him?
thanks lots <3

Hey babe,

You can keep trying to get to know him. It might still be too early to give up. If your friend doesn't like him then it's not like he's taken and he'll probably be looking to move on from her soon.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

jemyrox on 11/11/2009 7:03:13 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!
What should I get my crush for valentine's day?!? I want to show him that i want to be his gf but i don't want to sound desperate.

Hey babe, why not make him a mixed cd for him with your fave songs? Also, just a sweet card would work!

katelin s.

becca1357 on 11/10/2009 9:14:56 PM

Hey MOD MOD MOD MMMMMMMMMMOD!!!!!! what are ways to flirt with you're crush?!?

Hey girl! Talk to your crush and laugh with him! Touch his arm casually and smile a lot. Let him know you're interested by being interested in his life!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

becca1357 on 11/10/2009 8:57:26 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!! I have a HUGE crush on a guy who i think likes me too but i dont know if just as a friend or more than that. We hang out alot and text eachother too. I really want him to ask me out, but he isn't and i want to know how i can make him ask me out.

Hey girl! He could really like being able to talk to you and being friends with you! Try flirting with him a little and seeing how he responds!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

becca1357 on 11/10/2009 8:06:45 PM

MOD I just had a sucessful conversation with this guy (i don't like just wanna be friends with) and we mostly talked about cars and stuff so how do i start a conversation with him again cause i dunt want it to be the last time we talk cause i'm shy

Hey girl! Try asking him how he is or how school is. Ask him about his classes or teachers and I bet you can get a convo rolling off that!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

hip_hop_hottie on 11/10/2009 9:14:09 AM

i met my bf thru a friend when i couldnt eat outside cuz i almost failed! ive never been so happy for a C on a report card!

CrazyXP on 11/9/2009 11:54:14 PM

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN.

blakehater2398 on 11/9/2009 7:31:25 PM

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blakehater2398 on 11/9/2009 7:25:58 PM

MMMMMMMMMMMMMOOOOOOOOOOOOOOOODDDDDDDDDDD!!!!!!!!!! MOD MOD MOD MOD! Please help I like this boy and gave him a note saying that I did. I know he likes me because he flirts with me and sits next to me! But he never talks to me and he even blows me off when I try to start off a conversation. I know he's probably shy but he's got the guts to sit next to me? Boys never make ANY sense. Please help me!

Hey girl! Guys can be way confusing, especially when they send mixed signals. Next time you're chatting with him, casually ask him why he ignores you sometimes to see what he says. He may just think he's being funny, when you're so not getting it. Best, kristen

Kristen Y.

fashionluver on 11/8/2009 6:25:37 PM

MOD! i really like this guy and im almost positive he likes me back.the problem is he wont ask me out. all my friends say he luuuuuvs me but if he doz then y doznt he ask me out? how can i get him 2 ask me out? thares no way im askin him out and ive flirted w/ hhim alot so idk wat 2 do 2 get 2 ask me out. plez help me!

Hey babe,

He might be shy and not sure how you feel. Try to be more direct about how much you like him, even if you have to come out and just say "I like you."

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

Mrs.Pattinson on 11/6/2009 7:17:27 PM

MOD! It's me! I've kind of been flirting and teasing him and he's been laughing and enjoying it. I can tell my friends notice, but it doesn't weird them out TOO much. Thanks so much!

Hey Girl! Just have fun with it and be yourself! If your friends seem ok with it, then it's totally fine!

claudia n.

ActressInTheWings on 11/6/2009 3:39:45 PM

I got my crushes number but i am afraid to call him. I dont know if i should start out "hey" and he not know who it is or say "Is this blake" like a little kid or idk. I dont know what to say. Help please???

Hey Girl, maybe start out by sending him a text! That way you can plan what you want to say, and once he responds, you'll have time to think about your next move! Send something friendly like, "hey this is _____, what's up?!" or you could ask him about his weekend plans, or maybe a question about homework!

Claudia N.

club colors on 11/6/2009 11:02:57 AM

~MOD~
hey i have a 70s night tonight and i have no idea what to do with my hair... i want an updo but i dont know what to do for 70s... can you give me some ideas for either up or down but id prefer up?? its in like 2 hours so if you could get back to me ASAP that would be great... thanks!!

Hey girl! The 70s was all about the stick straight hair, so that would be the best for a 70s night. You could do a sleek, straight ponytail, or a loose braid.

xoxo

Liz

Liz L.

hildwannab on 11/4/2009 3:37:19 PM

Mod!!!!!!!MOD!!!MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! I NEED your help!!! Alright. The guy I like is kind of a nerd, but super nice. I know he likes me. He has for 2 years. I used to always tease him a LOT. My friends now love to tease him and they think he is super weird and freakish. I told one of my friends, just to let it out. She's fine with it though. I want to let him know I like him without my friends knowing.

Hey girl! Just let him know! Try flirting with him and talking to him more. If you want to really like him thought you might have to let a few of your girls in on your crush! Don't be embarrassed!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

ActressInTheWings on 11/3/2009 4:57:03 PM

mod mod mod mod mod mod ! i dont know what to do my friend told me she wants a boyfriend. i told her i would help her get one. what else can i do. such as her look or anything else plz hurry!

Hey girl! Just tell her to be herself and be confident! The right guy will come along; she will just have to be patient!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

princess24 on 11/1/2009 10:29:33 PM

thanks kristen!

idance_17 on 11/1/2009 7:09:00 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD Hi mod. It's weird.... I don't like compliments. Well, if one of my friends (whose a girl) tells me i look good or im funny or something, I'm ok with it. I just don't like compliments from guys because I'm not used to them and whenever a guy compliments me, I feel insecure or wonder what's their purpose for saying so, especially if they think im pretty because im not. Is this weird?? Is there any way i can like calm myself if someone says something like that? I know, weird question but thanks

hey girl! It sounds like you're a bit insecure about yourself. If a guy tells you you look good, chances are, he means it! You may not think you're pretty, but that doesn't mean other people agree with you. If you start to get upset when you're complimented, must tell yourself to calm down and just accept. They mean it to be a nice gesture, so you really shouldn't worry about "what their purpose for saying" it is. You're gorgeous just the way you are. Best, Kristen

Kristen Y.

camel490 on 11/1/2009 6:48:31 PM

MOD PLEASE ANSWER TO THIS: Me and my crush I think are now friends. He will come out of his way to talk to me sometimes, and we always look at each other & smile. But my problems are it gets awkward sometimes, and I don't know what to say to ask him out. How do I ask him? Should I wait for him to ask me? I really like him and I think he might like me, what shout I do? Anyway to feel more comfortable around him? I get nervous sometimes and I'll kinda avoid him in English because I don't know what and how to talk to him! HELP me please!

Natalieee123 on 11/1/2009 6:48:21 PM

Mod- i really like this guy & idk whether he likes me back. he's been sending me a lotta signals lately--like he's a lot shy-er around me than other girls and i catch him looking/smiling at me a lot. i took the "does he dig you" quiz and it said he's into me and my bffs think so too

. prob is idk how to send "signals" back to him to let him know kinda "i'm-into-u-if-you're-into-me" sorta thing. how can i flirt and start convos and keep him interested? i've read every single thing on guyville but i'd like to hear your suggestions! thank you so so much! the advice really means a lot to me!

God Bless! --ashley

Hey girl! Flirting can be as subtle as just shooting him a sweet smile or flirty wave from across the room. When he's near you, say hi and strike up a convo. Just intiating conversation will show him that you like talking and hanging out with him. Feel free to ask him to join your and some friends when you go out or even ask him to hang afterschool or on the weekends. It sounds like he does like you, so just relax and let your gorgeous personality shine! Best, Kristen

Kristen Y.

idance_17 on 11/1/2009 6:30:14 PM

I always talk to my crush........we hug sometimes too, but we have known each other since forever.

peacelovecandy on 11/1/2009 4:52:59 PM

MOD i have a low self esteam and my friend told me that the guy i like will never like me cause he thinks am a staker and i dont think i will ever get over this guy what should i do help

It's not low self-esteem. It's a low-quality friend. Tell her that her words were cruel and that she shouldnt say stuff like that. In the meantime, realize you decide how you impress your guy--she doesnt. Best,

Miliana B.

toby1 on 11/1/2009 10:53:01 AM

~~~~~~MOD~~~~~~
Okay so i like this guy and hes popular. He is in 2 of my classes and i have seen him look at me a few times and when i look he smiles and i have seen his check me out before! Does this mean he likes me? and how can i signal to him i like him too?? Also i am quite shy but once i know the person im no where near shy

Hey girl! He is pbly interested in you, smile and strike up a convo with him.

Eryn G.

lulu7 on 10/31/2009 11:45:07 PM

MOD ok so i need some suggestions. One of my close friends just cannot get over this guy. Shes liked him since last year and they dated a little bit and they broke up and then they got back together when school started again but they broke up because she wouldnt talk to him, though she obssesses over him. Whenever you talk to her its ethan this and ethan that.its been months since they broke up and he didnt really like her in the first place! But she still cant get overhim and its really starting to get on all of our nerves because shes always unhappy just cause little things that he does and the only thing she wants to talk about is ethan. is there any way i could help her move on for her sake and her friends too? sorry this is so long and thanks for all you mods do!!

Hey babe! I've been there before! It's so frustrating when a girl friend just can't seem to get over a guy who does not deserve her time! Try distracting her and doing girly things...like mani/pedis, shopping, crafts, etc! The most you can do is be there for her, try to distract her, bring up different topics, and try to meet new people (including new guys). I know it seems like she'll never get over him, but it will pass! It's just a phase...even though it may seem like a very long phase! Good luck!

Megan R.

DisniC on 10/31/2009 9:42:47 AM

I'm really shy but when I'm around my friends and having a good time I really open up(:
LOL.
it's kinda weird how much I change...

reggee on 10/31/2009 1:27:27 AM

It definately makes sense!! We need to take charge!!!

Maddie22Lou on 10/30/2009 5:34:24 PM

That's soo true =)
I'm always happy!! It's a gr8 feeling wakign up in the morning and loving yourself!!!

fendii96 on 10/30/2009 1:20:48 PM

Yeah but sometimes it is hard to be confident when you are a really she person...=)

Alidster on 10/30/2009 10:17:04 AM

I'm usally very peepy and have no trouble gettting guys to like me. Just they're not the right guys! It sucks!!

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Club Creativity on 10/29/2009 5:21:46 PM

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