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My parents have been fighting a lot and my dad left. He moved to a different state and wants either me or my sis to move in with him. The thing is, we're both happy here and if we go anywhere, it's together. My parents don't understand this and they said we have until next month to decide.

I want my little sister to feel comfortable, so I'm letting her choose where she goes but I really need help. I don't want to leave my friends and school. And, I don't want to leave my sister! I haven¹t told anyone because it's embarrassing. They aren't even divorced yet! Please help me!

Hey chica,

I'm really sorry to hear that you¹re stuck in the middle of this pickle. Let¹s take it step by step and I promise you that you will feel more secure about this whole sitch.

Discuss it with mom and dad

First talk it out with the 'rents. Neither your mom nor pops should ever expect you and your sister to simply make a choice and be fine with it when it can change your entire lives. There is no question that you should have a say in solving this mess, or at least a way to let out your feelings. Don't feel comfy confronting mom and pops? Give them a letter where you respectfully and maturely tell them your thoughts on the situation.

Lean on your BFFs!

Secondly, don't be embarrassed. Sure, it's not something to tell the whole world, but you shouldn't feel like you can't tell anyone. Whether or not you tell the details about this problem is your choice. However, it never hurts to vent it out to the girlies you trust the most. After all, you and your sister's decision could affect your friends.

Stay strong

Lastly, whatever the outcome is, stay strong. This doesn't mean that you should totally ignore your true feelings and simply move on. Instead, find a stress-free zone by surrounding yourself by the people you love. Listen to encouraging music (how 'bout "Keep Holding On" by Avril Lavigne), and remind yourself that everything will work out in the end. If you can keep yourself together, that will help your little sister and the 'rents get through this rough time just a li'l bit better. Support each other and find a way to compromise.

Making a decision within the next month will be something tough to do. But the care you show for your sister and your sincere concern will definitely work for you and your sister's advantage in the end.

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My 2 best friends just recently got their first bf. I feel really left out. Our school is really small and there is only 1 class per grade. They are going to double date and stuff. But they don't sit with me at lunch anymore. Id feel really weird if i sat with them. I am starting to feel insecure because nobody asked me out.and 2 make it all worse....my friend is going out with the boy i like well...liked. but she knew i did. i kno she didnt do that 2 make me mad and she also apoligized but i am still a little sad.
any advice?
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puddingprincess on 1/21/2010 4:06:08 PM

My dad left about a year ago and things are starting to get better. Problem is.. he thinks everything he did is ok!!!!! He has no idea how his choice has hurt all of my family. So what i'm trying to say is I know who you feel. Stay strong, and stick to your guns!!

CapeMay03 on 11/26/2009 8:17:08 PM

girl that happend 2 me last summer sans the state thing and maaaaan did i have a decision 2 make but what i would do is follow you're heart do u have a family member that lives like right in between? u can live there? and i chose 2 stay with my mom and just visit my dad and do stuff and now he has a gf shes a total cougar! seriously shes probably had like a million bfs b4 i'm so mad! so thats it!

sorry

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dancerchick10101 on 11/23/2009 11:09:24 PM

My parents got divoreced when I was 7 years old but im still sad but I happy to because my mom found a new husband and they got married on june 5th. When you think that it can get any worse my dad is unimployed and he lives with my really craxy aute and uncle. And my dad cant buy me clothing for his house so I allways have to pack for his house. and when it gets worse my dad talks badly about my dad and I told mmy mom and she told my sted dad and now his always swearing aboout my dad whitch really makes me sad and then I cry and hide in my room the whole night. but hope fully all the girls out there dont have to go through this nonsence......... see ya and have fantabulous day comment + im on this every day.......

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sans11 on 11/3/2009 11:48:49 PM

well... you could talk to your parents ??? sorry good luck

sans11 on 11/3/2009 11:47:49 PM

I don't care if you have a boyfriend or girlfriend right now.

I don't care if you are a guy or a girl! Just read this, it will make a difference.

When she stares at your mouth, kiss her. When she pushes you or hits you cause she thinks she's stronger than you, grab her and don't let go.

When she starts cursing at you trying to act all tough, kiss her and tell her you love her.

When she's quiet, ask her whats wrong. When she ignores you, give her your attention. When she pulls away, pull her back.

When you see her at her worst, tell her she's beautiful. When she's scared, protect her.

When she teases you, tease her back and make her laugh. When she looks at you with doubt, back yourself up.

When she says that she loves you, she really does more than you can understand.

When she grabs at your hands, hold hers and play with her fingers.

When she bumps into you, bump into her back and make her laugh. When she tells you a secret, keep it safe and untold.

When she looks at you in your eyes, don't look away until she does. When she says it's over, she still wants you to be hers.

When she reposts this bulletin, she wants you to read it. Stay on the phone with her even if she's not saying anything.

When she's mad hug her tight and don't let go. When she says she's okay don't believe it, talk with her because 10 yrs later she'll remember you.

Call her at 12:00am on her birthday to tell her you love her. Treat her like she's all that matters to you. Stay up all night with her when she's sick.

Watch her favorite movie with her or her favorite show even if you think it's stupid. Give her the world. Let her wear your clothes.

When she's bored and sad, hang out with her. Let her know she's important. Kiss her in the pouring rain.

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blossomzzz13 on 11/2/2009 10:21:10 AM

Mod! Mod! Mod! Yesterday i was watching T.V quietly and stuff and my mom came downstairs took the remotes from me and threw them against the wall and for like a minute or two started verbally abusing me, not saying that i was ugly and stuff but just yelling at me and it made me cry for like 2 hours. Now im kinda ignoring her, and she keeps saying "i hope you're getting the attention you want." What should i do? Also, she keeps saying im depressed and not socializing with my family, which i know im not but i just don't feel like it these days. Could I be depressed? Sorry its long!! Thanks a bunch!!

Hey girl, sorry to hear about the rough sitch. It doesn't sound to me like you're depressed, just upset. When you've calmed down a bit, try making more of an effort to talk to your family. Let them know what you've been up to in school and see how their days were. Also, know that there is a difference between verbal abuse and yelling. While yelling is angry and frustrated, verbal abuse is intentionally saying things to make someone feel worse about themselves. It's extremely degrading, and very different from just yelling. Best, Kristen

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Club Girl's Only on 11/1/2009 2:25:31 PM

Stay Strong and keep being your beautiful self. stand up for your rights. your doing great

emilyb1997 on 11/1/2009 1:54:53 PM

Thats so sad! my parents didnt make us choose where to live we just go over by the other's on the weekends so everything works out

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SportyGal on 11/1/2009 9:22:45 AM

Eryn,

idk who to believe. he swears someone is making it up but idk.

sportygirly23 on 11/1/2009 12:05:56 AM

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Okay so i like this guy and hes popular. He is in 2 of my classes and i have seen him look at me a few times and when i look he smiles and i have seen his check me out before! Does this mean he likes me? and how can i signal to him i like him too?? Also i am quite shy at school but once i get used to hte person im no where near shy

Hey girl! hes pbly interested, smile and strike a convo.

Eryn G.

lulu7 on 11/1/2009 12:00:00 AM

MOD,
idk what to do. Me and my bf bill have liked each other FOREVER since kindergarten. we are in 8th grade. we went out for 5 months last year but then he broke up with me because he wanted to be single. now this year we have been going out for 2 months. i just found out today that some time during these 2 months, my friend kay has sent him picturess....of her in her bra. and bill sent one back of him in his boxers!!! i really would rather not break up with him because i really love him. and he is sweet most of the time. last night he came over and we watched scary movies and he was so nice and everything was perfect. until one of my friends told me about these pictures. i just asked bill about it and he said it wasn't true...
what should i do?!

Hey girl! You need to talk to him and tell him about what you heard and then figure things out.

Eryn G.

sportygirly23 on 10/31/2009 11:55:33 PM

Hey girl! hes pbly interested, smile and strike a convo.

Eryn G.

lulu7 on 10/31/2009 11:53:54 PM

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Hey, I wanna invite my boyfriend over to see a movie next weekend, but I don't know what to rent/watch. Any suggestions? P.S. Happy Halloween!

Comedies are always perfect for dates. I suggest you try and find who his favorite comedic actor is and get a movie that has them in it. Have fun! And happy halloween xoxo kerra

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n3rdyg1rl911 on 10/31/2009 9:02:35 PM

My parents were divorced and I just visit my dad every weekend or once a month. Maybe that's what you and your sister can do. Don't worry you will get through this.

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Abriella123 on 10/31/2009 4:37:56 PM

MOD MOD MOD Ok so there is this really cute guy that I like that hunts out to my gmas. I have been trying to talk to him but then I always wimp out. He keeps saying hi to me through my brother and a few other things. But he hasnt been out to my gmas for three weekends and I really want to talk to him and get to know him more. My brother is friends with him so i dont know if that will help. How do I talk to him with out wimping out? How should I walk up to him with out making it look noticeable? Also his moms boyfriend is always with him she i just talk to both of them..?!?! What should I do? I really want to get to know this boy more there is just something about him.

Hey girl! You should just talk to him and get to know each other better and then maybe you could hang out.

Eryn G.

cutiecakes on 10/31/2009 4:00:52 PM

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hugatree95 on 10/31/2009 1:19:21 PM

Hey Girl,

Okay explain to your mom that you and your sis are a package deal, you dont want to go to a new school, and you don't wanna leave your Bff's. If you dont feel comfortable telling her this maybe you could write her a note. Also if you have to go to court for visitation tell the lawyer/counsler/person that you don't wanna leave your life you have right now. And kudos to you for letting your little sis choose, she is very lucky to have a sister like you.

peacelovecandy on 10/31/2009 12:56:04 PM

thats tough
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tang454 on 10/31/2009 12:55:55 PM

aww thats tough.
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Happy Halloween!!!! i need help!!! whats a last-minute costume that i can put together??? i leave for my friends house in like 4 hours so i hav time but i dont know wat to be! help!

How about a hippie or a beach bum?

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red_orange_yellow_green_blue on 10/31/2009 12:39:03 PM

that sounds really hard and i would never separate from my sibling if i had to make the choice

hit.the.surfs. on 10/31/2009 12:31:40 PM

im so sorry My parents arent getting a divorce or evr got one so i cant say i kno how u feel. I would say to my parents that id want to stay with my mom and see my dad over school breaks or the summer

camel490 on 10/31/2009 11:45:37 AM

hey girl tough sitch and u should tell your friends especially the ones thet have gone or is going through the same thing i feel ya sis but u no youll either be better of with or without your rents if not you should move in with a relative or friend with ur lil sis best of advice u should just stay or go what is in your heart,or where u feel most comfortable even if its without the lil sis.... love and cherish,emily

bluemily on 10/31/2009 11:45:32 AM

It's great you are letting your sister choose. Your parents really shouldn't do that to you if they wanted you to be happy.

lasagna on 10/31/2009 11:21:28 AM

Jeannie's right, Keep Holding On is a good song to help you get through tough things. This must be a very tough decision you have to make. Good luck !!!!!

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eckogirl567 on 10/31/2009 9:57:41 AM

That's a hard choice. Idk what I'd do in the situation...
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My bf texts 24/7!!! I don't, and I don't want to be hooked up to a phone all the time, but if I don't talk to him, then he texts my friend, Becca and tells her how much he misses talking to me and then she gets on my back to text him too. How do I communicate to both of them that I don't want to be hooked up to a phone all the time without making either of them mad? Thx!

Hey girl! I hate constantly texting too! It's annoying and tough when you're trying to hang out with your friends and you feel like you have to constantly text back! Let him know you'll be busy and designate a certain time where you'll be free and open to text back. He shouldn't take offense! You're a busy girl with a life, and the fact that you have your own stuff going on will most likely make him want you even more !

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BubbaleeEmalee123 on 10/31/2009 9:53:53 AM

Heyy girl. Be strong through this difficult time. Best of girlie!
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Ok so I am going out with this incredibly sweet guy. And one two of my friends with him at ddifferent times and they just broke yp. Now he talks bad about them to me. I really like him and don't want to do anything but be with him. My friends want me to break up with him and I'm not going to because I'm not feeling threatened and I'm going out with him not them. Now they won't talk to me. My bf told me not to worry that things will be alright and to ignore them until they fix things up. But I've also become suspicious. He seems really nice and perfect but why did my friends break up with him them? I'm just confused and seriously mad at my friends.

You could ask your friends why they broke up with him, and it would answer your curiosity. Go with your heart and surround yourself with the people that make you happy. If your bf and certain girl friends make you happy, hang out with them ! Good luck, I hope this guy is nice. Remember, girl friends will be there in the long-run. Guys come and go Good luck!

Megan R.

GreenEyedBeauty12 on 10/31/2009 8:49:41 AM

Dear Mod,
I am absolutely devastated. My boyfriend of 2 months just broke up with me. We were best friends for two years, but since we go to different high schools, we won't talk to eachother ever again. It's been 3 days, but I'm still crying at night and I feel like I got punched in the stomach. Its so weird not to talk to him everyday, but he said he wants to be friends. I dont know what to do. It was all my fault that he broke up with me, I was too jealous of the fact that he and his ex girlfriend still talk ALL the time. I can barely get through the day, all i do is think about him. I think I loved him, and now I'm scared he's out of my life for good. I can't stop thinking about him, but he's gone and I'd do anything for a second chance. He even said maybe we could get back together, but I still feel like an empty shell of a person. My friends are not supportive at all, they just tell me he was a jerk and to move on. I honestly wish I could, and I wish I could hate him like they want me to. But I need a shoulder to cry on. I need him in my life. I feel so lost. What do I do?
~nickj29

Hey babe. I'm so sorry, that's really tough. Losing someone you love is never easy. But just think, you really aren't losing him. The fact that he still wants to be friends means that he still wants you in his life and you will talk to him again. Try not to be so down on yourself. There are other people out there who will be supportive and love you. You deserve all the attention and time, and if he's not going to be there for you he's not worth thinking about all the time. I know it may seem like he's the only person you could ever want in your life, but I promise there are other people out there who will be more worthy of your love. Stay strong, I feel for you! and Remember you are loved!

Megan R.

nickj29 on 10/31/2009 8:27:45 AM

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