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lindz535 on 11/17/2009 8:43:01 PM

I go through the same problem. I am really smart too, (not to be snobby) and I have a lot of guy friends. None of them are interested in me. But I noticed that there were tons of other guys out there that are smart like me. I used to think that it would be weird for me to date somebody "not popular enough". But in the beginning of the school year, I was in a new class and a really smart and nice guy was in my math class. We talked all the time and started hanging out. When he asked me out, I was really excited. I noticed that if you find a guy who is really smart too, they don't care if you're smart enough. Just be yourself nd the right guy will come!!

libbycm135 on 11/17/2009 6:57:49 PM

I am really smart and advanced in school and guys don't really like me either. I am pretty attractive, not mean, but not too popular either. And sorry, kelsey.m.16, playing dumb is never the answer. I think I am also very unique, not go-with-the-crowd-and-wear-the-same-brands-as-everyone-else-in-your-whole-class at all. Which could be seen as intimidating...

emypig on 11/17/2009 5:35:28 PM

I know how you fill but I think guys are afraid to date girls who are smarter than them they are intimidated of you I whould just tone down the smartness

kelsey.m.16 on 11/16/2009 9:32:11 PM

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this boy asked me out and hes 2 years older then me and he asked me out over txt and we talk on the phone(by txting) all the time but now that i see him in school he like talks about the same things that we talk about when txting but i cant get myself to convince myself that he really is into me! HELP ME!!!!

Hey girl! If he's talking to you through texts and at school, I bet he's definitely into you. He wouldn't take the time to talk to you if he wasnt

xoxo

Liz

Liz L.

amo495 on 11/16/2009 1:13:22 PM

MOD MOD MOD There's this guy I like that's a year older than me and we're both in high school. He says he doesn't like anyone even after I told him I liked him. We text often but it seems like he doesn't want to meet up later even in a group. My friends mentioned he may be using me to get other my friends opinions on him and he is sort of insecure about that. I just don't see why he would continue to text me if he just isn't into me like that. What is this guy's deal and what should I do?

Hey girl! He may just like you as a friend. You can keep hanging out with him and being friendly but try doing your own thing and maybe crushing on a new guy!

-Taeler

TwilightLuva8 on 11/15/2009 10:27:38 PM

I know thats tough, cuz i dont have a bf, and i think i look pretty too! Dont let the guy fool u, u R pretty! (even tho i dont know u, but i bet u r) dont EVER let a guy make u think ur not pretty, anyway, he should care about whats on the inside!!!!!

rebel15 on 11/14/2009 9:51:00 PM

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ohkay so last week i went to this dance and my crush asked me to slow dance for all the slow songs.! (there was 4 of them <3) ANYWAYS so during the first slow song we were talking bout just random stuff and then during the second slow song he was asking me who i liked and he was guessing and stuff and thn my friends came over and were flipping out about how we were dancing and thn they walked away and i was like sorry they just found out i liked you... and he was like really.? and he gave me the cutest smile EVER.! and thn the song ended so he gave me a hug (: so thn i saw him walk up to his best friends and thn this huge group of guys surrounded him and a huge grup of girls surrounded me and all the girls were like ARE YOU GOING OUT.? and i heard my name alot from the guys surrounding him, so then all of a sudden his 2 best friends came up to me and were like JACK LIKES YOU AND HES GOING TO ASK YOU OUT DURING THE LAST SLOW SONG! so then the 3rd slow song came on and it was already gone by kelly clarkson (my new fav song btw) and like we were dancing and i was trying to guess who he liked and he was like you havent guessed the most obv person and i was like i dont want to guess me because ill get sad if you say no and he was like trust me you wont (: and thn like he got really close to me and i put my head on his shoulder ;D it was so sweet he gave me a hug and thn the last slow song started and he was just like looking into my eyes and he told me they were really pretty and i was like AWW THANKS. and thn i was like u have to tell me who u like and he was like well do u like me? and iwas like yuhp. and he was like i like.... aAND THEN MY FRIEND CHELSEA CAME OVER AND INTERRUPTED HIM!she was like u guys should go out.! and we were both like oh.? and she was like jack do u want to go out with lindsey? and he smiled and then she was like well lindsey ddo u wanna go out with jack and i was like mhmmm.! and she was like ohkay,and thn she left and jack and me started talking again and i was like sorry bout tht and he was like its kay (" and thn the song ended and he gave me a hug and walked away.! THEN ALL HIS FRIENDS WERE LIKE DID HE ASK U? AND I WAS LIKE NO.. AND THEY WERE LIKE FLIPPING OUT.
but then during school this week we were flirting a ton, and stuff.!
do u think i should ask him if he likes me? because im so confused. like i want him to tell me! even though hes shy :/
what should i do?
ahh geez sorry its so long
PLEASE AND THANKYOU FER ADVICE.!!
<3 lindsey

Hey girl! It sounds like he likes you, and he just might be shy.
Wait a while and try to hang out with him, he might tell you when you
guys are alone. Just keep the flirting up and see what happens!

xxlindsey44 on 11/14/2009 1:52:25 PM

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ohkay so last week i went to this dance and my crush asked me to slow dance for all the slow songs.! (there was 4 of them <3) ANYWAYS so during the first slow song we were talking bout just random stuff and then during the second slow song he was asking me who i liked and he was guessing and stuff and thn my friends came over and were flipping out about how we were dancing and thn they walked away and i was like sorry they just found out i liked you... and he was like really.? and he gave me the cutest smile EVER.! and thn the song ended so he gave me a hug (: so thn i saw him walk up to his best friends and thn this huge group of guys surrounded him and a huge grup of girls surrounded me and all the girls were like ARE YOU GOING OUT.? and i heard my name alot from the guys surrounding him, so then all of a sudden his 2 best friends came up to me and were like JACK LIKES YOU AND HES GOING TO ASK YOU OUT DURING THE LAST SLOW SONG! so then the 3rd slow song came on and it was already gone by kelly clarkson (my new fav song btw) and like we were dancing and i was trying to guess who he liked and he was like you havent guessed the most obv person and i was like i dont want to guess me because ill get sad if you say no and he was like trust me you wont (: and thn like he got really close to me and i put my head on his shoulder ;D it was so sweet he gave me a hug and thn the last slow song started and he was just like looking into my eyes and he told me they were really pretty and i was like AWW THANKS. and thn i was like u have to tell me who u like and he was like well do u like me? and iwas like yuhp. and he was like i like.... aAND THEN MY FRIEND CHELSEA CAME OVER AND INTERRUPTED HIM!she was like u guys should go out.! and we were both like oh.? and she was like jack do u want to go out with lindsey? and he smiled and then she was like well lindsey ddo u wanna go out with jack and i was like mhmmm.! and she was like ohkay,and thn she left and jack and me started talking again and i was like sorry bout tht and he was like its kay (" and thn the song ended and he gave me a hug and walked away.! THEN ALL HIS FRIENDS WERE LIKE DID HE ASK U? AND I WAS LIKE NO.. AND THEY WERE LIKE FLIPPING OUT.
but then during school this week we were flirting a ton, and stuff.!
do u think i should ask him if he likes me? because im so confused. like i want him to tell me! even though hes shy :/

what should i do?

ahh geez sorry its so long

PLEASE AND THANKYOU FER ADVICE.!!

<3 lindsey

xxlindsey44 on 11/14/2009 1:39:51 PM

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Okay, so yesterday I went to this dance. There were tons of slow songs and pretty much everyone had already danced with a guy at least once, except me. I was really bummed out, and I told one of my friends about it, so she tried to get someone to dance with me. Well, she asked like three guys, and all of them were like "Ummmm, NO!"
or "HECK NO!". One of them ended up dancing with HER! Then the last slow song popped up and EVERYONE found a partner except me. It was so weird. Even the weird girls who don't fit in so well danced with eighth grade guys. Then one of my friends started to dance with my crush, and she knew that I had a crush on him. SHE DOESN'T EVEN LIKE HIM! When I came home I just started to bawl and I couldn't sleep yesterday because I couldn't stop thinking about it. My dad just told me that they're intimidated by me. I be nice to everyone and I just be myself, and I am pretty cute. I just don't understand this! I feel like crap.

Hey babe! Your dad is right, they probably are just intimidated by you. you are an awesome girl and will have plenty of opportunities in the future to dance with guys. I promise! I've been in your shoes before and it really sucks not to have someone to dance with when all of your friends do. Remember how amazing you are, and that just because your friend danced with your crush doesn't mean they're going to start dating. I think you should sit down with your friend and let her know that it bothered you. She really hurt you by dancing with your crush, and it wasn't considerate of her at all! There will be other chances for dancing. Try to keep your head up, believe in yourself, and remember all the characteristics you have that other girls don't! You're unique and beautiful! Good luck chattin with your friend!

Megan R.

sushigirl_5 on 11/14/2009 9:19:14 AM

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im so scared my bf is wrestleing and iz n one of the top classes which means he is going to be competeing with HUGE dudes and last year 6 out of 10 of the class was hurt the the first 3 challeges im soooooooooooo scared should i be?

Hey girl, I know it may be hard, but you've gotta remind yourself there are TONS of people there to make sure those matches are safe. Take a deep breath. Your boy's strong. He'll be fine.

xoxo

bridoll on 11/12/2009 6:31:18 PM

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ok,,, one of my bgfs likes me,,, and today at lunch he kept bein rlly mean to me he knows who i like and he like told everyone who i lke and almost told the guy i like!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! i just found out that he likes me today,,, and im freakin out!!! idk what to do!!!!!!!! hes my friend, but i culd NEVER like look at him like that! i dont like him!! oone of his friends told me, and he was flirtin majorly. he got all jealous when i was talkin to other guys, and its rlly annoyin and he doesnt know that I know that he likes me!!!!!!!!!! i dont know what to do!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! please help! i was yellin at him earlier for tellin everyone everything now his friend tells me that hes depressed! UGH HELP ME GET THROUGH DIS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Hey girl, try texting this guy and telling him carefully that while you appreciate him looking out for you, you really like this new guy. Don't lead him on. Continue acting as if you don't know he likes you. Ask him if there's anything wrong/if there's anything going on with him because he's not himself. Approach this as a concerned friend and let him tell you he likes you if he's ready. And if he does? Just politely tell him you're super flattered, but you only see him as a friend and you don't want to lose what you have. He's going to be sore def, but it's better the truth comes out now than later.

xoxo

Summerinski ♥ on 11/12/2009 5:56:42 PM

dont give up ya brains for boys! the boys wont last forever but a good mind will!if a boy is intimidated by ur brains it is time to find a new one

redupp on 11/12/2009 5:48:32 PM

1. Say ur name 10x
2. Say ur mom's name 5x
3. Say ur crush's name 3x
4. Paste this on 4 other articles, if you do your crush will kiss u the nearest friday

loveforyou09 on 11/12/2009 4:43:05 PM

hmmm, this is kind of like me!!

MiniSpell on 11/11/2009 10:31:33 PM

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I have 3 things 2 say. Sorry this is long.
Two days ago, my crush's bff (Anthony) tried prank calling me from his fone even tho I have his # and then he sent me a pic of my crush's other bff(Nick). Is something weird about this? He's prank called me 2 times b4.
Yesterday, 1 of my bffs and bgf started goin out. I liked him til then and they both knew that. So, I'm kinda mad and jealous and happy for them, I don't know what to think!
Also yesterday, my crush(Sean) walked in my classroom (the science room) when we were supposed to be going to homeroom, either he didn't realize he was in the wrong place or he was gonna sit in his seat on purpose, it's the seat next to my homeroom seat!!
Today I heard Sean say something about me, I wanna know what he said cuz I def heard my name, he was sayin something 2 Nick, I think about the pic, but I don't know.
I've had a very eventful 3 days. Can u help me sort through any of it?

Hey girl, the first one does sound a li'l weird -- maybe he's hinting Nick likes you? As for the BFF/BGF dilemma, it may be hard, but put your resentment aside. Know they're happy and while you may be a little sore, you should cheer 'em on. You'll find that perf guy for you and maybe closer than you think! As for your last sitch? Hate to say it, but all signs seem to be pointing to the fact there might be something up with Nick and you. See where it goes and don't sweat it too much for now. Time will give you the answers you want. (;

xoxo

maddie246 on 11/11/2009 10:23:50 PM

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There's this guy at school that I'm becoming really close friends with lately. I like him and I think he might like me back. Whenever I talk to him outside of class, everything's fine between us. But when we see each other in geometry things get really awkward and he seems scared to talk to me. I hate when things are awkward between us. Can you think of anything I could do to fix this?

Hey girl, the best way to deal with the ice is to just break it. Try playfully teasing him about the way he acts -- i.e. is something up in math class? Be playful and light about it. Somewhere in the jesting, you might get to the root of the problem.

xoxo

beachbabe141 on 11/11/2009 9:13:08 PM

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I'm so confused, I don't know if I have a crush on my BGF. I'm always looking forward to seeing him, but I never get nervous when I'm around him. I just feel like myself. But I always like talking to him, and I get really jealous when he doesn't pay attention to me. Or I don't know if everything is in my head because to me, it seems like he actually has a crush on me. What's going on?????

Hey girl! You might like him. You should try to hang out with him and get to know him better so that you can see what you really feel.

purplegirl51794 on 11/11/2009 4:10:12 PM

Well, I don't think guys are intimidated by intelligence, really. Like, I get good grades, but I know a lot of guys that have liked me. And sorry, that sounds really stuck-up and everything, but I have a 4.0 GPA and at least seven guys have had a crush on me since the beginning of the year. (And I'm not guessing... either them or their friends told me that they liked me.) But actually I think intelligence can help, because they kinda use my grades as an excuse to talk to me... asking for help in class or texting me later for homework help, or just teasingly calling me a nerd. Which I am, but still. =)

evah713 on 11/11/2009 2:30:14 PM

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I'm going to be seeing a crush at a party Saturday night. I used to be WAY nervous around him, but lately I've been more bold and I can talk to him with no problem. =] The only thing is, he's kind of quiet and I seem to run out of things to say easily when conversing with him... What are some topics I can bring up? We are both into art and some other stuff, so I could always say something about that... But what? "Been making any art lately?" LOL Help!

Hey babe, good for you for making the first, bold move! I would ask him what kinds of music and movies he's into right now or yea, ask him what artists he's been following. Just be casual and confident and you'll do fine!

katelin s.

RainbowStar on 11/11/2009 12:00:58 AM

Mod I'm not sure if this two things means anything but can you help me out so last week i almost got pushed into who i still like and his friends when i did almost got pushed who i liked yelled his friends name when i almost got pushed.Then on friday I was looking at him at the pep rally and once when i notice that he was talking to his friends while i was looking at him and it could of being about me.Mean anything?
Kayla xoxo

Hey girl! I am not sure, this guy might be interested in you. You should try to talk to him and try to hang out with him so that you can get to know each other better.

redsoxlover on 11/10/2009 4:22:15 PM

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Hey today is my birthday! Sorry just though I'd share that... I'm happy... well not really cuz here's the problem, I'm in 8th grade and I have this kinda guy friend I guess in 10th (we know each other cuz our parents do). There are rumors that he likes my bff's (she's in 8th like me) sister (10th grade like him). There are also rumors that someone in 8th grade likes him, which is true, my bff has a huge crush on him. Except, my bff didn't tell her sister that she liked him so now when my bff's sister told him the rumor that he was 'popular with the 8th grade chics' he was like who? Then he automatically thought of me. He won't even say hi to me anymore. This really bugs me because no one beleives that I don't like him at all because I won't tell them the name of the 8th grade guy I really do like! And this is all going on behind my back too! My bff, her sister and the guy are the ones talking about me and this whole thing. What should I do? I want to either talk to her sister or him about it, but I don't see how I could get them to beleive/ and or listen to me without saying my bff is the one who likes the guy and the name of the 8th grade guy I like. Help?!?!??

Hey girl! Happy Birthday! Sounds like you are in a really sticky
situation. You should try talking to everyone so that the understand
the truth. You might want to also give everyone some time to cool down
before you talk to them.

lilmssunshine on 11/10/2009 3:19:29 PM

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Hey Hiya well um i posted a rlly long question for my friend and it hasnt been ansrd but its already up as a comment if u have the time can u please ansr it she needs help :] thankyou and she wants to know if u can delete it aftr a day or two thankies again lovvee youuu Modssss <3

Hey girl! I am working as fast as I can to answer the questions.

Miuluver789 on 11/10/2009 3:18:11 PM

they better not becauase eventually theyr gonna have to relize that all girls have more common sense than them ;)

swimmerxox on 11/10/2009 1:59:27 PM

i so felt like that but you just have to wait for the right guy. I did and it worked i now have a BF. But my point is don't stress the right guy will come along and like u for who u are and thats all that matters.

balletgirl7 on 11/9/2009 6:12:48 PM

That's true.
I skipped a grade, and no boy will even look at me. Despite my friend Jason, but he's more of a friend of friend.

orangeslice on 11/9/2009 5:42:14 PM

Mod- my dad doesnt want me going to a concert, but my mom wants me to and my grandma will take me with her and my older sis.he is angry, but i really wanna go! What should i do?

Hey girl! You should def sit him down and talk it out. Tell him the plan and how you feel about going. Maybe you two can come to a compromise!

-Taeler

Mrsedwardcullen1234 on 11/9/2009 12:26:06 AM

MOD MOD MOD There's this guy I like that's a year older than me and we're both in high school. He's so confusing and I can't tell if he likes me or not. We talk in class all the time and friday he walked and talked with me until we had to split ways because he goes right and I keep going straight. We both text each other a lot, and usually I start the texting with just a 'heyy wat's up' or something, but recently, he started texting me first. It was only once, but I still thought it was an interesting change. Sometimes I see him in the hallway and for some reason I freeze, like later I don't remember if I smiled at him when he passed or not. That doesn't happen that often, thank goodness, but I still wonder what's up with that when it does happen. I invited him to the movies with a bunch of other people a few weeks ago and he said he would if he could but he might have a baseball game. He never answered my texts later that weekend. Just last week, I found out he apparently hates the one of the girls in his grade that was coming. I thought that might be why, and also because his ex-girlfriend was going. I didn't think that would be a problem because it was in middle school about 4 years ago. Could that be why he didn't show? Afterward, he seemed fine and still talks to me in class and all. Also, he texted me first after the whole movie ordeal. I'm just getting so many mixed signals and I wanna know what's up. Sorry it's so long, but I'd really really really appreciate it if this confusion was cleared up! Thanks so much!

Hey girl! It could be why he didn't show. Things like exes can still be pretty awkward for some people. It was good that he texted you following that though. Keep talking to him and being yourself. Something could turn up soon. It certainly sounds like you have a good foundation!

-Taeler

TwilightLuva8 on 11/8/2009 10:45:57 PM

MOD! There's this guy that sits in front of me in my civics class and is also in my spanish class. I think i'm really starting to like him because he's nice (unlike most guys in my grade) and he wants to be in the military and is really genuine. I want to start talking to him more so that he'll notice me a little bit. He's already talked to me a couple of times but they're like 1 minute convos. Any suggestions on what to say to him?

Hey girl! Sounds like you have a good in! Try talking to him more and asking him questions. It will show you're interested without going overboard!

-Taeler

laura123 on 11/8/2009 9:19:34 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!! i REALLY need advice! Okay so i am 15 going on 16 and i weigh 160 lbs and am 5'4.I play sports so i have some muscle. But I know that i am overweight and i try to exercise and eat healthy every day but it seems like its not doing anything!I am extremly sick and tired of being fat! Do you know any diet drinks or pills that really work? Please help me!

hey girl! I unfortunately don't know any diet drinks and pills that work. As far as I've gathered, they don't usually work all that well. Maybe if you focus on more fat-burning workouts like cardio and try to slim down your portions, it'll help a bit. Besides that, you sound really healthy. I'm not exactly sure what your diet is like but if you swap some of the carbs and meats for fruits and veggies, you'll probably lose some weight too. I hope this helps! best, Kristen

shannonfosho12 on 11/8/2009 8:19:16 PM

soccernerd,
hey! sorry, school's pretty hectic. but as for this new younger guy, i think there's a good chance he likes you! you should keep flirting and see where it goes. maybe get his number, ask about his school, mention yours, or anything really. sounds good, and no offense, less complicated than the junior!

TwilightLuva8 on 11/8/2009 8:02:33 PM

MOD MOD MOD Okay, so I like this guy and he's a year older than me. We're both in high school. We text often and talk in class literally every day. We also talk about more than what's happening in class, like what we're doing and music and movies and other things like that. The problem is I was texting him today and he said he was probably going to drop out of that class. I'm not gonna try and change his mind if he thinks that's what he has to do, but I'm worried we won't talk as often. We just met this year in that class and if he drops... We were in the same lab group but when we switched he didn't talk to me as often. I don't even wanna think about what it'll be like if we aren't in the same class. I'm kinda bummed out and not really sure what I should do. Oh, and does he like me? I mean, sometimes I think so but other times not. But he didn't have a problem with talking about dropping his only class with me and I think he was serious.

Hey girl! I'm not really sure if he like syou or not, but he def likes talking to you! you can always jokingly say, "what am I going to do without you there to talk to?" when he brings up dropping the class. But if you really like him, you can still text him and call him on the phone. Also, since you won't see each other in class everday, you can def get together over the weekend to hang out! best, Kristen

TwilightLuva8 on 11/8/2009 8:00:56 PM

****MOD**** Ok, well can you tell me if this guy likes me? we have been friends since like 4th grade. WE ALWAYS hang out with each other, and have funny little voices we talk with to each other. Whenever he passes me in the hall, he smiles and tries to stop me so i can talk to him. we make so much eye contact and smile at each other in health class. we also hang at tennis together, and sometimes go down to the beach and sit on the steps. and everytime his friend comes, i ask him that his friend should i join our "group" thing, but he says its our little thing. So, does he like me?

Hey girl! It's hard to say, but it sounds like he does have a little crush on you. If you are into him, feel free to flirt a bit when you're alone. Things could defiinitely work out. Best, Kristen

guitarskaterchic14 on 11/8/2009 7:33:35 PM

I like this guy...doesnt everyone 8)..any way...he is sweet, nice, interesting, thoughtful, and he is a year younger than me. I like him and i only see him at church and today when i sat by him and our arms were touching and i tested him to see if i moved would he try to go by me again so i moved my arm and he moved his by mine. He also trys to do nice things for me and he always hugs me. He told me today he doesnt have a gf and he doesnt like anyone at his school( i dont go to his school) then he smiled when i asked him about it. He smiles at me all the time and looks at me.
Do you THINK he likes me. I need your opinion???Thanks8)

soccernerd on 11/8/2009 7:14:33 PM

MOD :] - I have a question..xD I told a boy I liked him and he said ' Mmm..I'm going to keep that to myself right now.' What does that mean? Thanks

, Jess

Hey girl! I'm not exactly sure what that means, but I think he may not be interested in a relationship with you right now. To keep things from getting too awk, keep acting friendly (but not too friendly) to show him you're alright with things. best, Kristen