My mom is always telling me that she's fat and needs to lose weight. She told me I have to help her eat healthy and make sure she gets out to exercise. When I tell her to eat healthier or ask her to come take a walk with me, she either gets mad or tells me she doesn't feel like it.
When I don't try to stay healthy, she'll get mad at me, too! I've tried talking to her about it and she told me she would try to do better, but she's not letting up. What should I do?
Make a game plan
It's awesome that you want to help motivate your mom to lose weight and start living a healthier lifestyle, but you have to remember that ultimately it's your mama's decision whether or not she wants to make the effort to change.
Lead by example
Continue to go for walks, work out and eat healthier. Your mom will notice your efforts. Hopefully this will give her new motivation and she'll gradually start to join in.
Go grocery shopping together, cook together, walk together, do work out videos together. Write up a contract with goals, target weights, meal plans and rewards—for both of you. Sit down together and talk to her about her ideal weight and diet plan.
You can only coach her so far...
Remember that even though she has asked for your help it is NOT your responsibility to make sure that she follows through. Don't push too hard and don't worry about her getting mad at you. Once she starts seeing results and noticing the closer bond that the two of you are forming she'll find her own motivation to work out and eat healthy.
Be there to support her and cheer her on, but also show your mom tough love. She needs to know that ultimately it's up to HER to change.
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POSTED ON 11/7/2009 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN problems with my parents