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I'm in eighth grade and ever since the beginning of the year my bestie has been acting really weird. For example, I'll see her in the hallway and excitedly say hi but she will just pitifully smile at me. We aren't in the same classes this year.

A lot of "popular" girls are in her class and it seems like she is soooo desperate to be "in." It's almost like she puts on a total show just to impress them! I don't want to tell her that I think what she's doing is dumb because she will just think I'm attacking her. Please help!

-BFF with Li'l Miss Desperate

Hey girl, I'm so sorry to hear about your bestie. It's hard when the people you care about change who they are just to please someone else. When it comes to approaching your BFF you gotta be careful. Chances are your girl is feeling a bit insecure and popularity's always appealing (hello, who doesn't WANT to be well-liked?). But there's def a way to make things a li'l better! How? Show your BFF you love her just the way she is.

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Ask your pal when you're alone and out of school if something's going on. Have a heart-to-heart. Maybe it's harder for her to make friends now that you're not in her classes. Let her know that you def understand what's up but tell her she shouldn't have to give up who she is to make new friends. People should like her for the amazing girl she already is—after all YOU do. Think her friends are bad influences on her—like you heard she's tried drinking (eek! Dangerous!) at a party just to fit in? Stress that she should never do anything she isn't comfy with just to impress other people, and if they pressure her, they're not worth hangin' with.

Sisterhood SOS

As for saving your friendship from falling apart? While you may be in separate classes, make a point to spend more time outside of school together. Try scheduling special sleepovers every Saturday. Join a new sport together. See if you can get a part in play together or take a class. Activities like these will keep you and your girl together and a constant part of each other's lives. Let your friend know you're there for her no matter what. The best friendships don't let distance (or separate classrooms) get between them—they stick together and last through thick and thin.

A li'l reminder goes a long way

In the end, friends should accept each other for who they are. While you can't change the way your amiga is acting, you can def be there and ask her what's up. Remind her that chicas should like each other for who they are and that she should never have to change herself for people. And to wrap up? Tell her you love her just the way she is. Sometimes all it takes is those three little words to remind your bestie why you're BFFs in the first place.

Good luck, girl!

Infinite xoxo's,

Alyssa B.

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That is like not right you should be who you are in side and no one should change you even if you want to fit in. I f i tryed to fit in then I think that I would feel good in the out side but in the inside i know that i am not like that so I am happy outside and then i feel like I am going to cry on the in side. And if i did that and didnt let me in all of my friends would say like no you are not on of use so we arent your friend but my one friend is like hey even if you did change I like you for who you are and not if you are cool or not. so you should be you for you. ( sorry i wrote anlong commont )

Coccimiglio on 12/2/2009 8:17:41 PM

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Okay so here is the thing..one of my BEST FRIENDS IN THE ENTIRE WORLD is pretty much a follower..she is either following one of my other BFF's who quite frankly..isn't the type of girl my Bestie is..(if you get my gist) or she is following me...which I'd much rather have then the other one. But, I really want her to be her own person. Because she is a GREAT girl and I love her to death...but I really want to see her be an individual. What should I do?? And I really don't want to hurt her. But we are 13 and its time that we really need to know "who we are" so that we don't get sucked into the wrong crowd. And that we don't change ourselves to fit other people. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!
-PinkGirl15

Hey girl! Tell her that she should express herself and be herself because that's the most important thing you can do in life. The best thing you can do is be honest with who you are and it's important to never change your values for someone else. Tell her that and hopefully she will take it the right way.

xoxo

liz

Liz L.

PinkGirl15 on 11/30/2009 4:33:00 PM

MY bffs are always leaving me out i feel like they dont like me any more

BulldogPrincess on 11/29/2009 3:26:41 PM

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Hey girl, what's uo? Do you have a question because I'm here!

Lynae P.

BulldogPrincess on 11/29/2009 3:25:09 PM

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rightfield1 on 11/24/2009 7:03:25 AM

Well, if it's not too late you could always have your schedule changed.
signed Danielle.

sixteengirl93 on 11/19/2009 5:05:59 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!
There's this guy I've had a crush for a while but I have no clue what is up with him...he is always talking to me and one time he said "Hey, have I ever told you that you're really fun to be with?" (I freaked over that lol!) but he has a hard time talking to people outside of his little "clique." What should I do to help him open up to other people more?

Hey girl, why not try throwing a li'l movie night for some of your friends and inviting him? Introduce him to the gang and let 'em get to know him. It'll help him open up a bit when you're by his side. Good luck!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

meha77 on 11/18/2009 8:57:54 PM

My bestie has been doing this to me, too. But then I thought about it and noticed that even though I don't see her alot at school, we still hang out and talk afterwards. Before you rush to accuse your friend of ditching you, you should put your friend first. If she ditched you for other girls, maybe she hangs out with them more because they're really nice and fun and cool! You should give them a chance, and your friend another chance too. Also, your friend was probably just trying to be happy. Being away from you may have been hard on her. The girls she is hanging out with now are probably not that different from you!

libbycm135 on 11/17/2009 7:05:24 PM

People who are desperate to fit in annoy me. I could never deal if my BFF was like that! lol

-O

3-girls-and-a-computer on 11/15/2009 7:42:00 PM

I was kinda like that too. I was shy because I just got into middle school and I didn't want any of the 8th graders to think I was a loser. but now that im in 8th grade, i don't care. I have friends from so many different hallways so I have many different ways of greeting them. the only this is that it get's awkward when my other friend is right next to me and i suddenly out of nowhere squeal and hug my friend coming down the hall.

NJessicaN on 11/15/2009 12:53:01 PM

ok this is for lyragold2:
it must be really confusing and weird to have a situation like that but i think maybe you should try get to know your cousins girlfriend and maybe make friends with her because if it's really hard for you to come to terms with her having a baby then you can just get how hard it will be for her and at such a young age she won't really know the right way to take care of a child if she's still one herself and i am just asking why did she keep the baby???

blueberry1357 on 11/15/2009 1:31:03 AM

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i feel like my friends are leaving me out of everything lately.they always do things without me like go to the movies and they all went trick or treating without me...they never tell me about it and then the next day i hear about how much fun they had.when i talk to them about it they don't respond and act like they didn't hear me.and once when i told my friend i feel like i'm always out of the loop one of my friends just said "well you are in the loop so don't worry" and when i asked why i'm left out once again i got silence from her.what should i do?????
(sorry if this is long)

Hey girl! You could invite them over to your house to do something that way everyone would be there. You can also talk to all of your friends and tell them how you feel and ask them how things could get better.

Eryn G.

bunnyluvr5 on 11/13/2009 1:39:03 PM

MOD MOD MOD! Thanks for the advice, but she's 12. 12! Oh and the baby WAS due next week, but she's in the hospital today cuz they think she's gonna have her tonight. She was actually 11 when her prenancy began. I think their too young. And i don't think she's mature enough to keep the baby, even though they both are gonna keep her. She said she'd let her daughter do whatever she wants! What's worse, is my cousin just proposed. And she said yes. Right before they left for the hospital. And a few days ago, she was making out with another boy! (He's 18 BTW) What to do?

Hey girl, I really think this is one situation where you need to step back and let them deal with their issues. It seems complicated and you don't want to get involved.

xoxo Olivia

Olivia A.

lyragold2 on 11/12/2009 4:04:17 PM

MOD MOD MOD! OK, so my boy cousin's girlfriend recently got preganant by him. He' 15 and she's 12. My aunt and uncle are OK with it, but his GF's parents aren't. They kicked her out and she moved in with my cousin and his family. They aren't married, but they plan to get married when she's 15. My whole fam is OK with the idea, but i'm not. I told my mom this, and she told me to act like i am and to be happy for them. Please help! PS: She's having the baby in like a month she's naming her Brylie!

Hey girl, this is one of those situations where it is probably best to keep your opinions to yourself. The news is probably hard for your entire family and they are trying to deal with it to the best of their ability. Support your cousin in his decision even if it is not the same one you would make, trust me, he'll appreciate it.

xoxo Oiivia

Olivia A.

lyragold2 on 11/12/2009 3:54:03 PM

MODMODMODMOD my bgf is totally ignoring me now we used to be so tight and now its like he doesnt even wanna be my friend anymore whats up with him

Hey girl! I am not sure, you should try talking to him.

Eryn G.

alyssa+jackie on 11/10/2009 4:35:07 PM

Thank you so much(: will do!

Shopbballbri on 11/8/2009 10:57:22 PM

MOD I have told my mom about these thoughts, but she doesn't want to believe anything I say! It's like she's in denial or something. And it's not like I think about I all of the time, it's just sometimes I don't see a point to living (if I don't get my way, or I I have a bad day) but then I think about my uncle (who did kill himself) and my crush/pretty much boyfriend. That is when I want to be alive. I don't want to go to a psycatrist (or however you spell it).

Hey girl! Then, just make sure you get to do something for yourself every day! You can't get everything you want, such is life. Stay strong, you will feel better soon!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

Shopbballbri on 11/8/2009 10:42:36 PM

MOD Okay I am fourteen, and super tall and skinny. Since I'm. In high school now, everything's tougher and there's a ton more of it. On top of that, I am in two hardcore sports; basketball and cheerleading. So I have two problems... I am losing a lot of weight and because of stress I don't eat breakfast, at lunch I hardly eat a thing, and at dinner I eat 1/2 the normal serving. I told my mom I thought I was getting too skinny, but she said "If you were getting too skinny I would have said something." But won't talk to me about it and leaves it at that. I also think i have depression (it runs in the family) I brought this up at the doctor's and my mom said we would get counciling but never did. And I have thought about killing myself too many times to count.. Help please.

Hey girl! You should def talk to a doctor ASAP! They will be able to help you better and understand your sitch. You should try doing a few things for yourself every day. Try eating some good but filling things for breakfast. It will make you feel better through out the day. Talk to you mom about talking to a doc, too.

-Taeler

Taeler L.

Shopbballbri on 11/8/2009 10:29:36 PM

dont call to her or say hi.

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ClubTreehuggers on 11/8/2009 8:24:03 PM

MOD MOD MOD thanks kristen y.!!! and there's one more question =D hehheh. sorry. ok. well, anyway, my fBFF (let's call her pencil)pretends to be friends with one of my friends (let's call her eraser). i'm the only one who knows about this becuz she told me personally. i don't know if i should tell eraser becuz i'm afraid that both pencil and eraser will get mad at me. (pencil for spilling th secret and eraser for not telling her ALLLL this time) plz help!! (and any other gl chicas out there who could possibly add additional solutions, plz post answers on my profile. Thankss!)

Hey girl! I think with a sitch like that, it's best to not get involved. If pencil doesn't like eraser, suggest that she not hang out with her as often. You don't want eraser to feel like you're keeping anything from her, so if pencil stops seeing eraser as much, there will be less of a chance of drama. best, Kristen

Kristen Y.

goldenhamsta on 11/8/2009 7:15:03 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!! Hi! My friend gets all mad at me if i have a different opinion than her (and over the stupidist things) . Like one time, we were looking at paint samples, and i didn't like this certain section that she apparently liked, and when i said i didn't like them, she got all mad at me and get on saying " i don't understand what's wrong with them!!" really rudely. She didn't talk for me for an HOUR!! that doesn't seen like a long time, but over PAINT SAMPLES? I 'm not sure what to say to her when she does this. And there's also a different problem, she likes to top everything i say. like one time, i was saying (NOT BRAGGING) how my friend got a mac computer for his birthday/christmas, and then she replied back with saying that her cousin got TWO mac computers even though there was no "special occasion". I try to go with the flow and just shrug but its starting to bug me. This happens a LOT. We've been friends since like 2nd grade, and i don't know what i should do as to not hurt her feelings becuz she's kinda sensitive. what should i do?? sorry it's so long!!!

hey girl! It sounds like your friend has a competitive spirit, and it's totally normal that you can get kinda tired of it every now and then. Let her know that as friends, you should respect each other's differences. Even though you don't always agree with her, she is perfectly entitled to her own opinion. And so are you! If you just talk to her and let her know you're not mad, things should be fine. Best, Kristen

Kristen Y.

goldenhamsta on 11/8/2009 6:18:55 PM

say ur name 10x
say ur moms name 5x
say ur crushes name 3x
on the nearest friday u will be kissed by ur crush

cutiepie4567 on 11/8/2009 6:04:31 PM

mod! mod! my friend just told me she was pretending to be my friend. for 2 years. so i blocked her out of my ife. and now she wont leave me alone! what do i do?

hey girl! That's horrible! If she isn't really your friend, she should def leave you alone though. I would definitely talk to her about it so you can atleast voice your feelings. Let her know that you don't want a fake friend. Also, try to start talking with other gals around you more so that you can make some new friends who will be honest with you. Best, Kristen

Kristen Y.

winterlover1 on 11/8/2009 5:23:02 PM

Well, I had the same problem. I love GL, but these tips probably won't work. My "friend" is now popular, and a back-stabber, no matter what I tried.

cg1304 on 11/8/2009 4:29:30 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!! my bestie has a bf but she is cheating on him!!!i feel so bad cuz he was my first love and we r meant 2 b!!!!1 she is sooo not cool cuz this is the 9th time she has cheated. shud i tell him???

You should not. What she's doing is wrong and it's going to hurt him but if you get involved, theyll both get mad at you. He needs to find out on his own. Best,

Miliana B.

livelaughlove4eva23 on 11/8/2009 11:10:06 AM

MOD!!!
i've got 2 issues
theres this girl who is my third bff. she always seems to luv hangin out w/ us but not always when im alone. then 1 of my besties kat, whos like her sister, told me that this girl only pretended to like me, so she could get like answers and gum. its really annoyin cause she'll make plans my other 2 bffs when im right there!!! it's really hurtfull and annoying.
another is the 1st girl is pretty popular. kat, the thats kinda like her sis, is friends w/ another popular girl sarah and sarah doesnt like the first girl. she liked me but then i somhow got into a fight between them and now they're both sayin its al my fault
HELP PLEASE!!!

You all just need to sit down and talk this out. I can barely follow this all and I think the best solution would be to be honest with each other. Drama is so unnecessary so often. Best,

Miliana B.

arw1096 on 11/8/2009 10:00:37 AM

that happened to me to and sweetie its notgoing to get easy. i had to relize that is was either trying to help her or just drop her i did not need that i was going through hell. and my best friend(had 2 main one and she was ones) said ive had it and we stopped bc she kept hurting us. so in 9th grade she is in with that group but no one talks to her. it sux but we wanted to help her but sum times you got to let them go

paramorenskillet on 11/7/2009 4:43:04 PM

Mod!!!!!!! I have a major prblem. I go to a Catholic junior high. My best friend and I aren't the most popular girls.I say sorry a lot and don't have many friends. Recently, I found out that my best friend's neighbor( who is in my grade and I am somewhat friends with) had a party.
I called my best friend last night and heard her next door neighbor's voice in the background. Was she at the party or just hanging out at her house? Why wasn't I invited? How can I make more friends?

Hey girl! I am not sure, you could try to hang out with this girl and get to know her better. You should just be friendly and talk to everyone to try to make friends.

Eryn G.

emma333 on 11/7/2009 1:47:26 PM

mod! mod!
i need some help. my bestfriend is leaving my for another girl..and she was my only friend. what do i do now?!

Hey girl! You are an amazing friend who can be friends with more than one person. You're allowed to have multiple best friends. I'd confront your bestfriend and ask her why she doesn't want to hang out. Remember to try and not be possessive of her. Your best friend is allowed to have more than one best friend too. She's allowed to hang out with different friends, and you are too! The world would get boring if we were only able to hang out with one friend for the rest of our lives. Try to expand your social circle. Be yourself, be outgoing, and you'll make friends super fast! Good luck and believe in yourself!

Megan R.

winterlover1 on 11/7/2009 1:07:46 AM

You know what I happen to have a friend that can't fit in any popular group. Only the geeks like her. But I stated to be popular. And she speak to me. So What I did is, I talked to her. And I started to hang out with her again. And then all the sudden she wasn't a geek anymore. So I think you should just go talk to her again and hangout with her. I'm pretty sure that it would make her happier...
Lynae P.

SassyGirl888 on 11/6/2009 10:25:47 PM

MOD MOD MOD! Thanks, and I have 2 more questions.
1. She called my BFF last night. We 3 wayed and she didn't even know it. She was talking about how much she missed me, even though I was mean to her. She said if i apologized, that we could be friends again. My BFF said that maybe I should give her another chance. Should i? She was so nice before. But i can't forgive her for what she did, let alone apolgize to her. What should i do?
2. Is it possible to become addicted to the site? I get on every 5 minutes

Hey babe,

If you want to forgive her you should but you can't make yourself if you haven't yet. It will probably take more time for you to feel like you're ready to go back to how things were, which is fine. Addicted is probably a strong word, but you can try to cut back a little bit if you're worried about it.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

lyragold2 on 11/6/2009 8:04:54 PM

MOD MOD MOD! Well thanks for the help and I did do that. However, she's still going to the camp reunion next month (it's a camp requirement to go unless you send a letter at the beginning of the summer stating that you can't make it) and so will everyone else. She can get clingy and most likely she'll keep bullying us. Our counsleres are no help. She made it seem like we were the bad guys and they believed her, even though she said some rude things about them to their faces. Plus she's coming to my BFF's sleepover in a couple of weeks. I can't ignore her when it will be a couple of other girls with us. My BFF knows her from when she was nice. I won't know how to act around her at either occasions. Also, the guy she told me was her boyfriend just transferred to my school. I asked him if they were going out, but he said no, ever since the middle of 5th grade (which was when she became popular at her school and starting to become mean) he has hated her. All my bunkmates minus her called me last night and they supported me, since i'm dealing with the worst of her bullying. Could you help me some more? What should I do at these occasions? I can't skip either of these since people would be let down. What should i do?

Hey babe,

Be polite when you have to see her but try not to spend too much time talking to her. stick in small groups away from her if you can and try not to sink to her level if she starts to get mean. You'll only have to see her these few times and then after that you'll probably never have to deal with her again.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

lyragold2 on 11/6/2009 7:37:52 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!! Alright, so i have a friend who is perverted...really perverted! She says disgusting words, and it gets annoying. Today, I opened my locker and it had a sign that was calling me something disgusting. (She doesn't know my combo, but another friend opened it for her) I told my mom about it, and it might be better if I didn't talk to her a lot. I got mad when I saw that sign, and she was just like, "you can't take a joke and it's kinda making me mad right now!" What should I do!?!?!

Hey babe,

Explain to your friend that's it not the joke that bothered you, it was the word. Just be clear that you love that she's got a sense of humor but you don't share her idea of what's funny.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

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lyragold2 on 11/6/2009 5:36:58 PM

MOD MOD MOD! OK, so 2 years ago my camp BFF was the most popular girl in the bunk. She was always surrounded by our bunkmates and they would do anything for her. We were exactly alike, and she was so nice. Then, this year, she changed. She yelled at people for touching her things and would never listen to me. She always excpetced me to listen to her problems. Nobody liked her that year and people would talk about her behind her back. I was her only friend. She started being mean to me. One day, she was like "I don't have to be nice to you, but you have to be nice to me, since your my only friend" She cried a lot wondering why everybody hated her. She started bragging about going to a magnet school and getting a big allowance. she gave my email away to a couple of her friends, telling them to email me. I broke it off with her, and the next day she was all nice to me. I was like why are u being nice to me and she said it was cuz we were friends. She started sending me annoying emails. I told her to stop sending them but she never did. I told her if she did again i would block her email. she called me and asked why i was being mean to her. i told her why. she apoligized and started bragging about her school and life. i told her i had to go and hung up. she kept sending me those emails, so i blocked her account. she created a new one and sent me an email calling me mean. she sent out a chain email to our bunk saying how mean i was and for nobody to talk to me. luckily all of the bunk sent me the email commenting on how mean she was. what do i do? i tried breaking it off with her a few times, but it never works. she isn't coming back to camp, which im glad for. I don't want to tell my rents cuz they might not want me to go back cuz of all the drama. HELP!

Hey babe,

If she's not coming back, I don't think you have to worry about it too much. Just keep blocking her e-mails and try to stay away from her. she sounds like the type who loves to start drama and if no one's around to watch she'll probably realize she needs to straighten herself out.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

lyragold2 on 11/6/2009 5:24:54 PM

MOD! my friend has really been getting on my nerves lately. she's always saying shut up to everyone when they're not talking and she flirts with the guy i like. she always takes forever at our locker and doesn't move, even though i need to get my stuff. i cant really avoid her tho cuz shes in 6 out of 7 of my classes and we're locker partners, plus we dance together 3 days a week after school. shes also very conceited and always asks me if she looks ok, when she just asked a few minutes before. why do u think she does this and what should i do about it?

Hey Girl! There might be a bunch of reasons why she's doing these things. Maybe something is going on that is really bothering her. I think the best thing to do would be to talk to her and let her know how you're feeling. Start off by saying you don't want to hurt her feelings and that you are coming to her as a friend. Offer to help her with any problems she may have!

claudia n.

babyhay15 on 11/6/2009 3:22:57 PM

MOD MOD MOD So there is this girl who is my "friend". She is really mean to me and stuff and I don't really consider her a friend, but I hang out with her because she is my only friend. Just this week she started to get in with the popular group and is now sitting at thier lunch table and going to the middle school dance with them tonight. I'm not going because I have no one to go with and I can't just show up by myself. I feel like a loser and don't know what to do

Hey Girl, I'm sorry that totally sucks! Go up to a table, whether it is where your "friend" is sitting or not and ask if you can join! I know it will be a bit scary, but just be friendly, confident and calm! Talk about weekend plans or complement them on their outfit, start up any kind of conversation. Outside of lunch time, join any new clubs (inside or outside of school!) so you can meet new people. A lot of times it's super easy to become quick friends with gals who share the same interests as you. Are there any new students at your school? Introduce yourself, maybe they want to go to the dance too but also have no one to go with! If not, skip this dance and treat yourself to ice cream or a manicure instead! And you're not a loser! All of us GL girls have missed out on a dance or two before!

claudia n.

indigo on 11/6/2009 2:28:03 PM

my bestie is really nice and she is like a sister she is really smart and kind of looks dorky. here is the worst part she just got GLASSES!!!!! now she looks really dorky! I want to tell her i could give her a makover but nicley so she doesn't feel ugly but i don't really know how to hell her HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Oh and she is coming over in like a hour

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CLUB GLAMOUROUS! on 11/5/2009 10:19:18 PM

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hey my freind and I are really close and I think that she steals. on halloween we had a sleep over and in the morning I layed out all my clothing on my bed like my panties , my new pink bra, pants and shirt and when I cam back my bra was gone....... then the following monday she was wearing a tang top and you could see the bra strap and it was my new pink bra!!!!!!!! I know it was her because my mom saw her take it

Hey babe, I would approach her one-on-one and be casual about it at first. Don't accuse her, just say something like, "Hey, I'm missing my pink bra, did you take it with your stuff by accident or anything?" See how she responds and if she still denies it say, "Well, my mom saw that you had it so I just wanted it back." Let her explain herself and hopefully you can work it out.

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Club Lauren Myracle on 11/5/2009 8:39:25 PM

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my parents have been divorced since i was two. my mom got remarried, divorced, and remarried again. i have 4 step siblings. my dad is also remarried. my best friend thinks her parents are going to split up. she always talks about how much she hates her dad and that she WANTS them to get a divorce. it really hurts when she talks about it. is there any thing i can tell her to explain how much it hurts me and how horrible it is to go through a divorce???? my other friends agree with me. HELP PLEASE!!!

Hey girl, just tell her what you told me. Tell her that while you understand how she feels, you've gone through the same thing and it's not that easy. Tell her to please be sensitive because it kind of hurts you when she talks like that. She'll understand, girlie. Let her know you'll be there for her too.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

savtrixiemixie on 11/5/2009 8:22:05 PM

Thats what happen to all my friends... it sucks but you have to live with it.

iceylime_11 on 11/5/2009 8:08:46 PM

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Heyy

What do naiil poliish colors do yooh thiink would look niice on me? ii have Dark Brown eyes & haiir, wiith liight skiin but ii stiill have a tan from the summer.
-Tina <3

Hey girl, I'd go for a dark purple matte. Dark colors are way in this fall and winter. Think Twilight too with darker reds. (;

xoxo

Alyssa B.

angelgurl22 on 11/5/2009 6:42:39 PM

omg! same here! only i have every class with her witch makes it worse bekus she litterally ignores me!

Pinkdramaqueen<3 on 11/5/2009 6:30:57 PM

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freestuff on 11/5/2009 5:35:13 PM

My best friend is coming over tomorrow. We're celebrating my birthday. (13!) We already know what we're doing at night, prolly just being our crazy selves, Guitar Hero, and like, a food party. On the bus ride, the person I really like is there, my bff sort of has a crush on another guy... Uh... Any ideas? She's sleeping over.

Thanks (:
Love, Shannon <3

AsIAm. on 11/5/2009 3:43:37 PM

Thanks but she's not my friend.

cbb123 on 11/4/2009 11:35:23 PM

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There's this girl in my school and just recently she moved into my homebase. I tried to be her friend at first but she just has these moments where she can be really mean, and even one time she cussed me out and them a second later she acts like it didn't happen. She also has no respect for the teachers and sometimes I get in trouble because she trys to talk to me in class. I try to ignore her but she will not leave me alone. Now she is in every single one of my classes. Please help!

Hey girl, let her know you don't appreciate the way she treats you. Be open and gentle. If your friend continues getting you in trouble or bothering you, let a teacher know. You shouldn't have to sweat it.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

cbb123 on 11/4/2009 11:14:36 PM

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