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My BF broke up with me because he thought I was holding hands with another boy, who’s really hot.

But I wasn’t!

How do I get my now-ex BF to believe me?

BILL: I wouldn’t mention the “really hot” part to your ex. Do something special to let him know he’s your main guy—before his warm feelings for you go cold.

DAVE: Even if you didn’t hold hands, you were probably close enough to this dude to plant some suspicion in your boyfriend’s head. So you need to create plenty of space—much more than arm’s length—from the hottie if you have any chance at getting your ex back.

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1. Which is your favorite color out of: red , black , blue , green , or yellow ?

2. Your first initial?

3. Your month of birth?

4. Which color do you like more, b ! lack or white?

5. Name of a person of the same sex as yours.

6. Your favorite number?

7. Do you like Flying or Driving more?

8. Do you like a lake or the ocean more? &n bsp;

9. Write down a wish (a realistic one).

When you're done, scroll down. (Don't cheat!)

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1. If you choose:
Red - You are alert and your life is full of love.
Black - You are conservative and a ggress ive..
Green - Your soul is relaxed and you are laid back.
Blue- You are spontaneous and love kisses and affection from the ones you love..
Yellow -You are a very happy person and give good advice to those who are down.

2. If your initial is:
A-K You have a lot of love and friendships in your life.
L-R You try to enjoy your life to the maximum & your love life is soon to blossom.
S-Z You like to help others and your future love life looks very good.

3. If you were born in:
Jan-Mar: The year will go very well for you and you will discover that you fall in love with someone totally unexpected.
Apri l-June: You will have a strong love relationship that will not last long but the memories will last forever.
July-Sep: You will have a great year and will experience a major life-changing experi en ! ce for the good.
Oct-Dec: Your love life will not be great , but ev entually you will find your soul mate.

4. If you chose:
Black: Your life will take on a different direction, it will seem hard at the time but will be the best thing for you, and you will be glad for the change.
White: You will have a friend who completely confides in you and would do anything for you, but you may not realize it.

5. This person is your best friend.

6. This is how many close friends you have in your lifetime.

7. If you chose:
Flying: You like adventure.
Driving: You are a laid back person.

8.. If you chose:
Lake : You are loyal to your friends and your lover and are very reserved.
Ocean: You are spontaneous and like to please people.

9. This wish will come true only if you send this to five people in one hour. Send it to ten people, and it will come true before your next birthday

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mileycalyx on 1/30/2010 4:13:41 PM

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my bf never wants to hold my hand or anything...
i havent got a problem with him not kissing me yet as we've only been going out for a week. But everyone keeps taking the mick because the only thing we do is hug and hang out at school(never out tho)
its as if were just mates.
Is there something wrong with our relationship?

Hey girl! Theres nothing wrong with your relationship, however if his not holding your hand bothers you, you need to talk to him about it. Relationships are all about communication.

xoxo

liz

Liz L.

sophsoph555 on 1/30/2010 11:55:10 AM

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okay... well last night i had a friend over and my twin brother had a frend over.... we were all playin truth, dare, or extreme dare...... well i got dared 2 hold handz wit zak (my bro's friend) 4 a minute.......... i have a bf... and zak is like my bf;s best friend.... wht shuld i do? we all kinda swore tht nothin wuld leave the room we played in.. bc i also had 2 kisss him on the cheek... wht shuld i do1!!!!!!!! keep quiet? or tell shy (my boyfriend?)

Hey girl! You have to be honest with your bf so maybe you should tell him.

Eryn G.

cooline on 1/17/2010 7:53:58 PM

MOD!!
well i went over my friends house one time and talked to her friends cousin who likes me. hes only a year younger then me but thats not the problem we havent met and im starting to like him becuz hes really sweet but i dont want my parents to know so what do i do??

Hey girl! You should let your parents know so that they can trust you.

Eryn G.

softball0709 on 12/13/2009 8:11:39 PM

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Hey, so one of my really good friend's twin brother likes me. He asked me to dance at our school's last dance, and I said yes because he's nice, and I kind of felt bad for him. But at school now, he never talks to me, or if he's talking to his sister andi come up to say hi, he just kind of leaves-it's very awkward whenever i go to her house... I don't really like him like that, but I would like to be friends with him... What should I do?
Thanks so much!!!
xoxoxox

He probably realized how you feel and didn't want to make things worse. Give him some space for a couple weeks, and then approach him asking what's up and saying you regret that you two don't seem to talk anymore recently. If he agrees that everything's OK, then you two can start anew! Best,

Miliana B.

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abercrombie13 on 11/22/2009 4:53:11 PM

MOD <3
im a sophmore and my boyfriend of two months is a junior. hes really sweet and a well-rounded guy but lately, ive been feeling a little guilty about things weve done (physically). i mean, nothing regretful but things i wouldnt want my mom to know about. i realized that i dont think im ready for a relationship. it feels like my boyfriend is an obligation rather than a glimmer of happiness amongst stress and other not so great things in my life. also, i think my feelings for him have faded. i think its best for me to break up with him. the problem is, i

Aw, girl, I hate to say it, but I've been there so I know just how you feel. If it doesn't feel right, and it seems to me like youve thought long and hard about this, then it's time to break up. Don't prolong the process out of pity or hesitancy. Just tell him you don't think youre ready for a relationship. Do it somewhere where you can keep the convo brief and have your own ride home, OK? Props to you for knowing what you want. Best,

Miliana B.

paige on 11/22/2009 1:51:45 AM

Mod- I want to talk to him, but sometimes he pretends like nothing is wrong and then i feel embarrassed if i'm making a big deal out of it.

Since you know how he is, when you talk to him, stick to your point. Don't let his attitude make you sway from your point.

Lynae P.

me girl on 11/21/2009 10:59:13 PM

Mod- My crush and i met each other at the beginning of the year. We instantly really liked each other and he flirted with me and io did it back. We gave each other nicknames, he texted all the time. Then suddenly we sort of faded. He wouldn't come over to me in class or i would be the first one to text him all the time. Well i thought he needed some space so i gave it to him. So know we're not as close as we used to be at all and i hate it..but i'm tired to be the first one to do everything. Please, please, please help me! God bless~

Hey chicky, talk to him. Ask him what's up and tell him how you feel. If you don't say something he'll never know his behavior is affecting you.

Lynae P.

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DayDreamer67 on 11/21/2009 9:22:06 PM

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ok so after this really long thing with a good guy friend of mine he found out i liked him and he just wants to be really good friends. were good friends now, better than some of my girl friends even! I really wanna get his cell phone number along with some other guys'. what is the best way to get their numbers? should i ask my guy friend 4 his or not b too pushy? is it better to ask a guy directly for their number, let them give it to u, or ask someone else for it but risk sounding stalkerish when u text and say hey i got ur #... plz help asap! i need this quick!

I suggest you just ask him for his number. If you two are really good friends he'll be willnig to give it to you. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

mkroberts96 on 11/20/2009 9:49:29 PM

i kinda have a problem like that. i been hanging out with this boii for a while a all of a suden he thinks we go out. sumtimes he will say things like u cheating on me n i dont like it. H e would flirt with girls in the street when i am around but when i talk 2 boys on aim he will get jelous. I mush have simpaty for him when he does things 2 me but dont like when i do them back 2 him

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sixteengirl93 on 11/20/2009 4:48:49 PM

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I knew this guy since I was three.I totally have a crush on him and he totally has a crush on me.His friend are kinda weird and they are staring at me like the lost in your eyes staring. I think if I said I liked him in front of his friends he would hate me. Help!

Hey girl, it's hard to tell with gazes, so I'd just ignore the stares from his friends. If you want to flirt with him or tell him you like him, tell him when it's just the two of you and not him and his extended party.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

animallover234 on 11/19/2009 7:07:49 PM

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disneygirl0579 on 11/19/2009 4:20:48 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD tonite there are a ton of people going lazor tagging im going nd so is my crush. were riding in the same car along with my bff and her bf. its gonna be sooooooo awkward. he doesnt kno i like him.my bffs both like i should make a small move tonite.......HELP! MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD

Hey girl, #1 thing don't freak out. PLay it cool, be smooth, and be yourself. That's all you can do. Show him who you are and hopefully he will like you back

xoxo

Olivia A.

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rightfield1 on 11/18/2009 8:33:03 PM

thanks SO much, MOD. i was FREAKING out!!!

rubynelawafer on 11/18/2009 8:24:13 PM

There is a dance 2morrow @ school, what should I wear?

17ann on 11/18/2009 8:08:50 PM

We have a dance tomorrow at my school. What should I wear?

17ann on 11/18/2009 7:59:59 PM

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i really like this guy in my class, Logan. i liked him since the begining of the year, and we talk and flirt sometimes. i told him i like him and asked if he liked me back in PE. he kinda furrowed his brow and didn't answer. my 8th grade friend MAddline is tight with his big sis so she got her to talk to him for me yesterday. it looks like it worked 'cause we talked a lot today, but i'm still not sure if he likes me or not. whenever my friend Lauren talks to him about me he gives her that same unreadable expression. what do you think and what do i do now?!
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Hey babe,

When guys learn that a girl likes them it sometimes changes their opinion of her a bit and that takes time. It might be for the better! Just give him time to think about everything. He knows how you feel now so if he likes you'll he'll almost definitely tell you!

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

rubynelawafer on 11/18/2009 4:42:52 PM

mod mod mod i liked my bgf a lot and one day i was textin.i said that i liked him.he said he didnt like me like that.then the next day he told 2 of my frends and his cusin.he promised he wouldnt tell any1 else but today in class he was talkin to these girls and i heard him say something that might be about the secret.i have 2 questions.how do i get over him.how do i ask or find out if he told.

Hey babe,

If he's your BGF, I would just ask him. OR ask someone else who they heard it from. Tell him that that wasn't cool and you thought you were friends regardless of it you told him you liked him or not. It's going to take a bit of time to get over him, but start focusing your attention on other things and find a new guy to crush on. Your BGF is going to realize sooner or later that he missed out on an amazing opportunity.

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

sparks432 on 11/16/2009 11:00:19 PM

MOOOODDDD!!!!!!!!!!
okay so i really like this guy and i have for awhile. he never knew and he used to talk to me a lot. but somehow he found out i liked him and now he never talks to me and always acts weird around me. and worst of all....a really good friend of mine flirts with him all the time!!!! and he flirts back!!!!!! i tried to talk to my friend, but it made her talk to him even more!!!!! now what should i do!!! i'm soooooo confused!!!!!

Hey babe,

I don't want to hurt your feelings, but he might be distancing himself from you because he doesn't feel the same way. Or he might be nervous about how he acts around you now, knowing that you like him. I think you just need to talk him like nothings change. If he doesn't come around, ask him straight up why he's ignoring you.

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

luckygirl25 on 11/16/2009 9:13:26 PM

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The boy I like shows all the signs that he likes me back (We tease eachother back and forth, were into the same things, He smiles at me, ect) Theres only one thing... he has a girlfriend. What does this mean?

Well thats no good that hes flirting with you. But you cant do anything until he is single. Sorry girly. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

smilewhenyoursad on 11/14/2009 11:51:14 PM

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im 12 and my crush is turning 14 on monday- is he to old for me? am i too young 4 him?

Hey girl! You are a little young for a 2 year age difference, but talk to your parents and see what they think. You guys could always just be friends.

Eryn G.

dozeriscool on 11/14/2009 4:16:00 PM

MOD-i need guy help! ok, see, there's this guy that i like, and everyone says that he likes me too, but i don't know for sure, because i'm bad at reading flirt signals! here's a few of the things that he does: -in class, he always sits behind me, no matter what -the other day, he put his shoes on the back of my chair and asked me if i liked them over and over until i said that he did -whenever i run out of lead in class, he always makes a big deal out of giving me some, like "i don't know, jess, i only have 5 full tubes left...." -his friends joke around a lot and say that he likes me in front of him, but he doesn't do anything, he just smiles -we talk and joke around a lot, and whenever we talk, it's like it's just the two of us in the room, and we're oblivious to anyone else does he like me, or does he not? and what should i do, because i don't want to ask him if he likes me straight out! thanks!!

(and sorry this is so long!!)

Hey babe, I think he does like you. The next time it's just you guys talking, ask him if he likes you. Tell him it's okay if he does because you feel the same way about him. Ask him to hang out with you after school so you guys can spend time alone and get the chance to really know each other.

Lynae P.

sunflowerlicious on 11/13/2009 10:13:42 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD heyy... so my birthday just passed and my bf got me the most beautiful necklace. I've been thinking about what to get him for christmas, and have no good ideas. what do you think would be something i could get him that would represent my love for him, but not be too mushy-gushy like a teddy bear would be?

Hey missy, you could get him that new video game, a new set of headphones for his ipod or even a cool shirt. Just think about things he likes and try to buy something off of that. For example if he's a sporty guy, he might want a jersey from his fave football team, so think about what would make him happy. Hope this helps ya!

Lynae P.

chewonkigirly08 on 11/13/2009 10:12:59 PM

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my ex boyfriend and i broke up because we were going to 2 different high school, and it just wasn't our time to be together anymore. But the problem is, is that i still like him. A LOT. i have a new boyfriend now, but he isn't the kind of guy i usually like, so its taking me a while to get used to this new relationship. i know its not so good, liking someone else while you have a boyfriend, but i cant help it!
i have days where i want to break up with my boyfriend because i dont think im ready to be back in the game yet, then i have days where i want to stay with him because hes better for me in the long run and i do like him a little bit. i swear my feelings about this situation are switching more than you can flip a light switch!
what should i do?

Hey babe,

Maybe you should take a break with your bf and really figure out how you feel. It's not fair to him if you like someone else while you're dating him, but he could also be exactly what you need to get over your ex. Take a week or two and think about it.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

CaliSuz3 on 11/13/2009 7:08:34 PM

mooodd.....
have you ever liked two guys at the same time... and they both liked you back. and were both amazing guys ?
if you have .. how'd yu deal with it ??
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Hey girl,

Hmm do you really wanna make one of them your BF? Make a list of pros and cons and decide who's right for you.

Caitlin R.

Kgoalie30 on 11/13/2009 4:32:05 PM

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I like this guy and I'm 99% sure he like me back. Anyway he is really shy and I kind of am too. He has asked me who I like but I'm not going to say straight to him that I like him (I'm just not that kind of person.) Anyway I'm worried he is just to shy to ask me out and he will just move on. I'm not really sure what I'm asking but can you help me? Thank-you sooo much!

Hey babe,

If you're both shy, one of you is going to have to take charge sooner or later if you want anything to happen. Either make it clearer how you feel about him or ask him out yourself.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

sarah99999 on 11/11/2009 5:57:12 PM

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I like this guy but he has a girlfriend but he still compliments me what should i do??

Hey! Just answered ya! Check on the other comment.

xoxo

Liz

Liz L.

alliecat1010 on 11/11/2009 2:45:25 AM

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I like this guy in my grade but he is already dating someone but he still compliments me what should i do???

Hey girl! Say thanks and move on. If he's not gonna break up with his gf then there isn't anything you can do than accept his compliment and find a new cutie to crush on.

xoxo

Liz

Liz L.

alliecat1010 on 11/11/2009 2:43:05 AM

MOD!
I really like this guy. he's in 5th and im in 4th. i know his # and his family knows my family since for like ever. i dont why but im kinda scared of him. please help!
MOD!

Hey girl! There is no reason to be afraid of him. You should try to talk to him and then maybe you could hang out with him.

Eryn G.

rainbowscolorfully on 11/10/2009 3:28:34 PM

yeah lol don't mention the "pretty hot" part...what about ur BF?

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Paramore_247 on 11/8/2009 7:26:40 PM

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For geography class I have to make a powerpoint slides.I've never done it before so I'm not really sure what makes a good powerpoint.Our topics are endangered species. There are 5 animals and I have to include where the animal lives,environment of living place,why endangered, and steps taken to prevent it.Picures of animals and maps are required. So how many slides should I have? How should I split all the info between the slides? How much writing shoud I have? I'm totally lost.

Stargirlcandy3 on 11/8/2009 4:13:52 PM

*****MOD***** For geography class I have to make a powerpoint slides.I've never done it before so I'm not really sure what makes a good powerpoint.Our topics are endangered species. There are 5 animals and I have to include where the animal lives,environment of living place,why endangered, and steps taken to prevent it.Picures of animals and maps are required. So how many slides should I have? How should I split all the info between the slides? How much writing shoud I have? I'm totally lost.

Hey chica, you should organize your information by animal. Have about three pictures for each section for each animal. For example three pictures for their lives, three for their environment and three for why they're endangered and steps taken to prevent it. That way you'll slides will be easy to follow and understand. It will also show you did your research and found good information. You should have about seven sentences for each section, because you don't want it to be too long, but not too short. Try to find colored pics and add music to make it really interesting. Good luck!

Lynae P.

Stargirlcandy3 on 11/8/2009 3:54:53 PM

WHy are you worried about holding hands i'm 12 and i havn't even had a boyfreind!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Mostly cause i'm to ugly to get 1.

cocoaqueen136 on 11/8/2009 3:25:14 PM

Well my BFF is going out with my hugest crush ever and I don't know what to do! It hurts me so much to watch them hold hands and stuff. My BFF doesn't know I like him nor does he. Should I forget about him or not?

Hey chica, I think you should forget him. Although you really like him, your best friend should be happy. But watching your crush go out with another girl can be really hard to get over. So jot down your feelings in a diary or journal. You'll feel better you got them out of your system.

Lynae P.

live.laugh.itunes. on 11/8/2009 1:57:27 PM

Mod- I really like this guy and he likes me. We aren't going out but it kinda seems like it sometimes. We put hearts when we say goodbye when we're AIMing and texting..but he hasn't asked me out yet. He's a total flirt and kinda popular so i'm really glade i have him, but its hard to tell if he likes other girls. He said that he doesn't but can i really trust him? PLEASE HELP ME!!! God bless~

Hey girl, flirting is just a natural thing for some guys, but I think you may be able to trust him. Spend time with him and to see if you can really trust him and then make your desicion to date him or not.

Lynae P.

me girl on 11/8/2009 1:48:58 PM

hey. if you dont want to be so skinny, get some muscle.

jewels96 on 11/8/2009 1:38:07 PM

MODMODMOD okay i am really skinny..which is good, except that i cant fit into anything!!!!!!!!! i never look right in skinny jeans because my legs are so skinny! so even SKINNY JEANS look baggy on me! It is so frustrating...is this just something i'm not gonna be able to change? It's pretty much impossible for me to gain weight- i have a not so healthy diet but I run 2-8 miles every day. Is there anything I could possibly do to get bigger legs but still stay skinny everywhere else?? Is this a stupid question???? HELP!!!!

Hey chicky, well your bod is still developing, so you'll gain weight eventually. But if you want to start gaining weight right now, the trick is to eat healthy. Ditch the chips and soda for smoothies and whole grains. Eat five to six balanced meals versus three large meals. You can munch on fish, lean meats, nuts, seeds and fruits. Remember it will take a while for you to gain weight and it will seem like your legs aren't getting any bigger but if you just be patient and follow a healthy diet, you'll see results.

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annabanana11 on 11/8/2009 1:01:33 PM

Ohhh that is good advice! (PS You really shouldn't mention the "hot" part!)
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