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DEAR CAROL: She's a Show-off. Do I Dump My BFF?

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I just got back from a weekend camping trip with my BFF, and I’ve noticed some things about her that I never noticed before: her sarcasm and “show-offiness.” She really seems to need attention and will do anything for a laugh.

I have other friends, so should I dump this one?

-Different

Dear Different,

When the two of you are alone, why don’t you try to ask what’s going on—maybe even mention that you’ve noticed she’s been a bit sarcastic lately? Even if you don’t have a heart-to-heart, she might be able to be more honest when you’re one-on-one because she won’t be trying to get laughs.

On the other hand, if you and she keep growing farther apart, you may want to take a fresh look at this friendship. Just because two people were once best friends does not necessarily mean they have to be bonded for life. Try to join various sports, clubs, and activities so you can keep making new friends. (With any luck, your old BFF will do the same.)

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/7/2009 7:00:00 AM 8 COMMENTS

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I think u should ask why she's doing that and give her a chance. She may not even know she's doing it.

Saphire Rose on 2/20/2010 4:34:53 PM

i have friends like that. i dont talk to them much anymore. [then again, i dont talk to much of anyone at skool. im kinda emo and kinda a loner]

xXBeautiful_DisasterXx on 12/14/2009 6:13:51 PM

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too many people are hanging out with me! My one friend wont grow up! Shes all I want too grow up, but she doesnt. two friends just started hanging out with me and are so annoying! i just want to hang out with my two closes friends! I dont want to hurt my "friends" either. My friends are breaking apart. Mostly me and my closest friend from kindergarten! HELP!

Hey girl! You should have a get together at your house and invite the people that you like so that you can reconnect with everyone. Maybe spend less time with the people that are bothering you.

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animallover234 on 11/28/2009 1:21:01 PM

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okay, my friend is getting kinda mean
like 2day at lunch I was really mad because all my friends are always late and leave me alone for a while. So me and my friend who I told, told her how I felt, and she went "oh well me and (my other friend) m have lives and you guys don't so we can take as long as we want" and then later she did something like that too. me and my friends always play little jokes on eachother, like hiding stuff in eachother's binders and stuff. So today one of my friend takes my water bottle and puts it in her lunch box. My friend catches my other friend and she says "don't do that because my mom will kill me. doing that means your babies and i'm not so don't do it" lately, like every day, she's been saying things like that to us. I'm really getting sick of it. what should i do??? (ps sorry it's so long)

Hey girl! You need to talk to her and figure out if there is anything that you can do to fix this problem. You can always make the situtaion better you guys should just talk about how you could improve the problem. You can always ask an adult for extra help.

Eryn G.

elizabee28 on 11/18/2009 3:41:33 PM

I don't think you should ditch her. Just tell her what she looks like she is doing from your point of view and she should understand. And if she really does want attention, give it to her! Does she have a bad family life? Troubles at camp? There is most likely something behind her behavior.

lasagna on 11/11/2009 5:25:03 PM

when i post comments, they never show up. why?

xlittlexorangexwolfx on 11/11/2009 9:29:46 AM

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Ok so I have this friend who's been my friend sine the 4th grade, and we're in 8th grade now. well lately she's been really braggy about everything she does and she's alway's like "OMG I'm so hot!" She also talks about all the guys who "like her", but she hasn't had a BF since the 6th grade. How do I tell her that the world does not revolve around her and she's not the greatest person on earth? Thanks!!
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Hey Alexis,

Talk to her gently and take a look at your friendship and if you even still want to be friends with her. It's GREAT that she is bursting with confidence, but she needs to tone it down a bit. There is always a nice way to tell people to take a chill pill, but it's up to you on how you approach it. Tell her how much she means to you as a friend, but she doesn't repeatedly need to preach how great she is to you because you already know and aren't going to hold it against her if she doesn't say it anymore.

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