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My dad is cheating on my mom, and I am aware of it (he has no idea I know).

How can I deal now that I don’t trust him?

Keeping any secret is tough, but harboring something this big can be unbearable. You feel betrayed and probably very angry. You shouldn’t have to deal with this alone.

Talk to a family member you trust or your school counselor. Work through your emotions, then decide how to handle the situation: Do you want to confront your dad and tell him how you feel? No one can tell you exactly what to do. That’s ultimately your decision.

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/12/2009 7:00:00 AM 82 COMMENTS

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Hello I kinda know how you feel because before my dad used to constantly call this woman.My big bro and I always saw him on the phone.He talked sweetly to her and they gave each other presents.My mom always got mad when she saw a bill that was from the florist.One day they fought and my dad left and my mom started to cry.My brother and I saw everything to my mom pushing my dad away from us to seeing my dad's car leave.It was the first time I saw my big brother cry.I'v seen this woman before.I told her that I hate her and that she was going to burn in hell.But I'm happy now and wre still a great family

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naya on 12/4/2009 4:32:21 PM

Hey Mod Im new but my mom is not a great one. Do you no wat i mean? She has4 kids and lost 2 , me & my bro because of abuse and fighting w/ my 1st father I have had 3 stepdads and she is engaged again to an exconvict I now liv w/ my grandma. My mom does not have enough money to pay the bills ad I have already gave her all my savings/$200.00 and I am only 11! PLEASE HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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RandiMae11 on 12/1/2009 7:02:17 PM

sorry! tell ur dad how you feel! maybe it might be a misunderstanding! def go to ur dad first!

best wishes!

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Labluver1996 on 11/27/2009 5:47:39 PM

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pinky373 on 11/27/2009 1:29:22 AM

I am so sorry

sk8chix997 on 11/25/2009 2:00:31 PM

nvm i confronted him and he said he didn't know that that was gonna b bad and he keeps clicking off of things when i walk bye is bcause he is looking for things to buy me for christmas

erinn521 on 11/21/2009 10:33:51 PM

srry ok so my father keeps clicking out of whatever he is on whenever me or my sister walk by. one time and one time i caught a glimpse of it and was this lady on top of this man and it was really gross but he clicked out of it really fast when he saw me. so should i confront him or should i do some more investigating or should i tell my mom or what cause i am sooooo confused srry it is so long but thanx for the help.

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brandytwin on 11/19/2009 7:42:48 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!

Hey girl, what's up? xoxo

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erinn521 on 11/18/2009 10:44:03 PM

MOD MOD
MY friend has a problem with her parents. Just lately they have been yelling at her frequently when their voice can just be a little lower because the reasons would be nothing. She just told me this and well I'm basically the only one that she relys on and I wanna keep her up beat and happy.. yet she spilled this problem to me crying. Her mom and I know each other well are comfortable to be in the same room... so I'm having the nerve to talk to her mom but i wouldn't know how to start. Can you help?
Thanks

Hey girl, I know it may be hard, but this isn't your thing to talk about -- this is your friend's prob and her mom's not going to take it well if you talk to her. What you can do, though? Encourage your friend to talk to her parents and be there with her when she does. Your support is invaluable in this case!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

Rossi72 on 11/18/2009 9:06:43 PM

sorry tell your dad

9girl8 on 11/18/2009 8:42:38 PM

hey I have a huge problem... there r two boys that i really like. They are both my friends to. i don't know what to do cause i like em both a lot! HELP!

Lily billy jim on 11/18/2009 3:30:46 PM

Here is the thing. I have always been the alpha in my group but a new girl came in and now she is. All the boys like her and stuff like that. I try to be the kind of girl who people think is sweet and I am NEVER mean, but I know that she is not prettier than me. So why does everyone like her? And what can I do to get back on the top with the guys and girls?

Jaden Shae on 11/18/2009 1:53:15 PM

mod mod mod mod mod hey i tried to change my profile pic and it didn't work! i waited overnite in case it took a while, but its not different! never had this prob before

Hey girl! Just try again and see if it works this time!

xoxo

Liz

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iloverupert on 11/18/2009 10:07:45 AM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!
When I was younger my mom abusd me. Finally one day I told someone-other then a friend because she never told, she just conforted me. But I told my teacher and she got me some help. I was only 9 at the time. I wasn't taken away from my mom, but she stopped. My dad always blamed me for that day because I could've been taken away with my brother. He never conisdered what my mom did.
Now, 5 years later, my mom gets mad at me when I giver her an attitude and don't treat her with "respect". Well she didn't respect me. She acts like it never hapepned. And my dad recently brought up the whole mess that hapepned 5 years ago and AGAIN blamed me! I feel worthless please help!

Hey girl! No reason at all for you to feel worthless. You did the right thing 5 years ago and got your mom to stop. No one should be abused or feel worthless. Your dad is just making you feel this way because he probably has low self-esteem. You hold your head up and know that you did something to improve your life for the better!

xoxo

Liz

Liz L.

webkinzgirl427 on 11/18/2009 8:50:57 AM

omg please stop with all the "club" postings in GL! its so annoying! i try to c peoples comments on the article and all i c is "join club savvy" or "join club glamorous"! please stop! go make a club with friends you can actually see and stop all this!

vhscsoccer95 on 11/17/2009 8:04:06 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD my brother i sooooooooooooooo lazy his dose nothing once in a while he dose something like stack wood but stahts it. i would clean the intire house and he would do nothen. when he is asked to do something he gets all ticked off any advice thanks

Hey girl! Just feel good that you're doing what you can. You're pulling your weight; so feel confident in that!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

hunny-puff87 on 11/17/2009 6:44:47 PM

Cheaters suck.
Just saying

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Club_Paramore on 11/17/2009 4:11:58 PM

Wow! Sounds tough. I's confront my dad if I were you.

Swimming4812 on 11/16/2009 6:51:05 PM

MOD thanx so much. that's one thing less to worry about!

alexaprincess on 11/16/2009 4:11:45 PM

MOD MOD MOD i have been having discharge for a year, and i havent had my period. is there something wrong? 2) i have a HUGE crush on my bgf. how can i tell him my feelings and not risk our friendship?

Hey girl! Nothing is wrong. Discharge is completely normal. I wouldn't tell your BGF yet that you like him. Just talk to him and keep being friends and see how he feels about you and other girls (he might be crushin on someone else). Remember, you don't want to risk your friendship, so don't tell him how you're feeling until you are absolutely sure how he is feeling.

xoxo

Liz

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alexaprincess on 11/16/2009 4:06:12 PM

1. Say your name 10 times.
2. Say your mom's name 5 times.
3. Say your crush's name 3 times.
4. Paste this to 4 other quizzes. If you do this, your crush will kiss you on the nearest Friday, but if you read this and do not paste this, then you will have very bad luck! SEND THIS TO 5 QUIZZES IN 143 MINUTES. WHEN YOU'RE DONE PRESS F6 AND YOUR CRUSH'S NAME WILL APPEAR IN BIG LETTERS ON THE SCREEN. THIS IS SO FREAKY BECAUSE IT ACTUALLY WORKS

alexaprincess on 11/16/2009 4:01:42 PM

hey girlies everywhere!!!! come check out my profile! it's sweet and a bunch of fun! thanks! xoxoxo

rightfield1 on 11/15/2009 6:30:08 PM

sorry to here this but you'll get through it.

LoverofU411 on 11/15/2009 2:27:49 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!! ok,so 4 the past few months i had been noticing something sorta strange.when my dad was on the computer,he would tab onto something else when someone paased by.i got so suspicious that i started looking at the computer screen as soon as i passed by him.i looked,and my dad was looking at dirty images and videos.i kept it a secret(except 4 telling my bestie),untill 2 or 3 months ago.it was a very painful experience,but i told my mom.my dad apologized when he found out that i had caught him.it's been bothering me a lot lately,even though i had forgiven him.i DON'T wanna bring it up,but i just don't feel the same around my dad.i feel kinda uncomfortable around him now.thx,i can't tell u mods how much u all mean 2 me

Hey chica, I completely understand how you feel. But you have to remember that even though your dad was looking at that stuff, he's still the same dad you've always had. He's still the one who loves, cares and wants the best for you. It may be best that take a break from him for a while so you can get comfortable with him again.

P.S. I think it's really good you told someone, you got your feelings off your chest and I'm sure you felt better after you did.

Lynae P.

morgo1300 on 11/15/2009 1:17:58 PM

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hey girl.
i was in the same situation. i was keeping that secret for at least 6 months and it was eating me alive. when my parents got a divorce (which by the way had nothing to do with the cheating) my mom found out on the computer he was going on dating websites. thats when i told her i knew. i felt a million times lighter (literally). the point is to tell someone...anyone. counslers are the best though. please...whatever you do.... dont keep it in. tell someone. you will feel so much better.
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britster13 on 11/15/2009 10:44:36 AM

MODMODMODMODMOD!!!
okay lately my parents have been so strict, like they wouldnt let me go to a football game with my bf, they wouldnt let me go to a sleepover, anddd they wouldnt let me go to a birthday party. idkkk what to do!? ive already tried talking to them, and told them that they can tust me, i only want to hang out with my friends but they dont change at all. and i havent ever gotten into any trouble or done anything bad in the past when i was hangin out with my bf and friends. what should i do??????????????

Ask them why theyre suddenly being strict. Maybe theres a reason. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

emilylilaluvscheer on 11/14/2009 10:57:21 PM

MOD MOD MOD!
In my email, from you guys, I got this: Congratulations, fizzydrinkmixer1!
Your profile on girlslife.com has been approved. Check it out here
And it still won't let everyone see it! HELP!

Hey girl! It make take some time, but I am not sure.

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fizzydrinkmixer1 on 11/14/2009 4:49:14 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD! I haven't had my period yet but I get this really gooey stuff that i get EVERYDAY! its really gross and its like...almost like snot! i know its disgusting but I was wondering if this is normal!

Hey babe this is normal! It's called discharge, and it's a part of puberty. Have more Q's about it? Check this website out:

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spazzychick101! on 11/14/2009 11:43:04 AM

Once, I went on the computer, I must have only been about 10. I noticed my dad being VERY VERY secretive about his holiday, he went alone, he bought a flat from my mum's money, and I noticed also that he spent a LOT of time on the computer chatting! Then I went on, he forgot to click off his conversation, and being curious, I read his conversation. It was a lady, who my dad introduced to me before, she was saying, "Don't tell anyone about our affair" I dint know how to react! I was just shocked, my parents fought alot and eventually they applied for a divorce, but my dad knows he'll live like a tramp without my mum so he begged her to take it back. I told my mum about it when she told me about the divorce. I can never love my dad the way I used to.

BabyGirlx on 11/14/2009 9:44:08 AM

MOD!!!!
ok, last night i had a dream that my dad IS cheating on my mom.... could it have anything to do with the real world?!

Hey girl! Dreams do not mean that it is real. BUT Dreams are often signs of what you're worried about. Maybe you're worried your parents are not having a good marriage or are cheating on one another? Try chatting with them if you're worried. Then they'll reassure you that everything is okay. No worries

Megan R.

cheyz09 on 11/14/2009 7:55:03 AM

My mom is doing this I cry almost every night about it!

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rosebubbles101 on 11/13/2009 8:12:42 PM

Cheating like that is terrible and worse you know about it. I dont know what I would do if I knew one of my parents were cheating but I do know two people, one is a good friend and their moms are cheating on their dads behind their back. Its very sad that things like that go on.

luckykel on 11/13/2009 6:15:35 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
i have a question.....what if you won something from the prizes thing- then what do you do?

Nothing! Just sit tight and wait for the prize.

Caitlin R.

kgebben on 11/13/2009 3:13:20 PM

MOD MOD MOD im kinda worried about my parents. they fight alot and a few days a go in their fight my mom yelled at my dad that in three weeks 3 WEEKS!he could go and find his dream woman and live happily ever after. i wanna know if they're getting a divorce and i don't know how to ask. Plus we're going to Disney soon and i don't wanna think about that the whole time HELP

Hey girl,

I'm so sorry to hear this. I think your mom just mighta been a li'l mad and don't think she was being too serious. But if your 'rents keep fighting and you're concerned try talking to a trusted adult or school counselor and tell them what's going on.

Caitlin R.

b-ball babe 11 on 11/13/2009 2:57:27 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
Is there any way to stop your period?? Just for a litte while?? Thanks!

Hey babe,

Im sorry, but no. Some people say that your period gets lighter or stops in water, but everybody's a little different. I know it can be an inconvenience, but you just have to let it run its course, which is usually 3 to 7 days long.

xoxo

Katarina E.

askme923 on 11/13/2009 9:14:09 AM

thats bad... my dad cheated on my mom a few years back... she found out, but she took him back. im mad at her for that - cuz he is really mean to her. and she knows it.

cheyz09 on 11/13/2009 7:53:53 AM

*********Mod********
I was texting a guy and we were playing the question game, he's my ex. He made me feel uncomfortable by asking me my bra size. I told him. I'm so scared now I feel dirty! Am I being too hard on myself? What am I supposed to do now? I regret it! HELP? PLEASE!?
thanks...

Hey babe,

I'm sorry that your ex put you in a position to feel uncomfortable, but next time you have to stick up for yourself and tell him that he's crossed the line. Being scared and feeling guilt are signs that you did something that you normally wouldn't. Don't be too hard on yourself though! Everyone does things they regret every now and again, the important thing is that you learn from this experience so it wont happen again. I hope this helps!

xoxo

Katarina E.

adriannababy on 11/13/2009 12:50:02 AM

Mod!
Two of my friends like the same guy and they don't talk much anymore. I feel like I can't be hanging with both or they will be mad at me. Also I kind of like this guy too...
What should I do?

Hey babe, encourage them to talk to each other about it. It's never ok to let a guy get in the middle of a friendship. Try not to get into the middle of it and remain neutral and you'll be fine.

katelin s.

abbey13301 on 11/12/2009 11:00:40 PM

MOD, MOD, MOD!!!!!!!!!!!! ♥
My former BFF had that problem 2 years ago.
It never changed, b/c i told her to someone about it and she got scared. Then she was like she still loves him b/c he's her dad and I told it doesn't matter, it's wrong. And now she doesn't ever want to talk about it.
Should I just leave it? It's a big issue and she acts like it's ok. Do I help her?

Hey babe, I would talk to her when the time is right and let her know that you're always there for her if she wants to talk but don't pressure her or force her into it. Knowing she has a friend to lean on will be a good help for her and then maybe you can suggest she talk to your school counselor about it.

katelin s.

istylista on 11/12/2009 10:30:32 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!! The guy I like is in my first period Art class. We can pretty much sit wherever we want, so should I go sit by him? He knows I like him.. do you think it would be weird? Please and thanks!

Hey babe, I think it'd be ok to sit near him. Just be cool and casual and you shouldn't have anything to worry about.

katelin s.

Bookworm :) on 11/12/2009 9:57:15 PM

MOD

Tomorrow I am going to my best guy friends birthday party and his best friend is going to be there, and she NEVER lets me talk to him! And he doesnt even know that he is ignoring a lot of his friends (aka me) and I dont know what to do! Whenever Im with him and her its a disaster! I cant even talk to him because she always interrupts. I cant talk to him about it because it would ruin the whole night. There are going to be a lot of people there...

Hey babe, I think since there will be a lot of people there you won't have to worry about it so much. He'll prob be preoccupied with all the guests so I'm sure you can squeeze in some one-on-one time there.

katelin s.

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Club Beauty on 11/12/2009 9:33:50 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!
I have this big whitehead on my arm how and should I pop it???

Hey babe, I wouldn't pop it just yet. Try to put a warm, damp cloth on top of it for a few minutes and maybe it will pop itself.

katelin s.

Pugglegirl1008 on 11/12/2009 9:07:16 PM

i'm so sorry, girly!!! that rough, but you can make your way through. good luck(:

erin_girl on 11/12/2009 8:29:22 PM

that's tough my parents are diorced so that would not happen but if they were togther i would tell my dad that i know and tell him to brack it off in the next 24 hours or i would tell mom and i would tell
him if he liked this girl more than mom he needs to tell mom himself and move out

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ClubTreehuggers on 11/12/2009 7:55:19 PM

OMG I am so sorry! maybe you should talk to your dad alone about this, or maybe see a counselor..that's what I would do!

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