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Online Safety 101: What NOT to Post

 

From Facebook, to MySpace, to Twitter, and more, there are so many ways to get connected and have fun. And let’s face it: who doesn’t want to post pictures, update statuses, and chat with your chicas in seconds? It’s great!


But you gotta be aware that some of the info you're putting out there could get into...eek! The wrong hands. Here's the scoop on what NOT to post.

 
Don't get TOO personal
 

Let’s say you got a new screen name or, better yet, a new cell phone. Hitting up all your peeps through texting is a lot of work for a busy girl. So you decide to post your new number on Facebook for everyone to see. Ummm...major DIS-like for this one since it's super dangerous.


You should never post info that could let people track ya down for the wrong reasons. So never ever, put up stuff that could put you at risk. This means no: e-mails, screen names, addresses, phone numbers, etc.

 
Don't make new friends...with cyber strangers
 

When you’ve got 3,658 friends on your page, it can feel really good. Everybody loves to be popular, right? But if someone requests you, saying, “Oh, I’m your friend Bob's soccer teammate,” and you have no idea who he is, changes are you should just hit IGNORE.


Follow your instincts and don’t accept friend requests from anybody unless your absolutely, positively sure you’ve met him/her before. And if some creepo starts sending you personal messages or harassing you? Block him or report!

 
Don't play paparazzi
 

Yeah, you probably heart taking photos with your pals and making long-lasting memories. That's cool. But some pics should just be kept private—in your scrapbook or just between you and your BFFs. Say you and your chicas decided to dress up totally silly or something. Would you really want other people to have access to those photos? Probs not.

 

When a photo is posted up online, it’s no longer yours. Anyone can see it and it only takes three simple clicks to save and use it for different reasons. In other words, don’t upload photos that don’t represent who you really are. Save it for yourself and share pics that you wont regret showing.

 
Don't think it's OK to insult people since you're doing it online
 

Just because you aren’t directly interacting with other people online, doesn’t mean that you can say whatever you want. FYI: most sites now have a “report” link or a system that will allow users to alert admins if something’s amiss. If you make a mean joke or insult others online, don’t expect people to take it anonymously.

 
Manners matter—even in cyberspace. Communicate online as you would in person. There’s no need to be mean. Be respectful of others and others will respect you.
 
-Jean Lee

BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/10/2009 11:27:00 AM 71 COMMENTS

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mod,,mod,,mod
there is a girl who was in my class back when we were kids,well,i gotta say i used 2 b really mean 2 her,and i was like the class's head b,so she was all lift out ,when we were like in 6th grade i kinda grew up and things started 2 get better ,but we werent like friends or anything .Today she called me and told me stuff about that she wants us 2 start a new page and she wants 2 hang out more,and 2 b friends with me ,well,i dont like her we r in the 8th grade now ,and everything has changed ,i dont wanna be mean 2 her and shrug her off,but at the same time i think i've losed friends enough this year so shall i give it a shot ,,but SHE IS JUST SO NOT MY STYLE AND LAME!!
help,,what shall i do ??




Hey Girl! If you think that there is a ranking of better and not, then you are mistaken. Try giving her a chance based on her personality rather than how she dresses. Being the queen bee sometimes isn't always the best thing. You should be nice to everyone and gain friends that way, those relationships will last a lifetime. xo Lizzie
lizzie n.

haneen.pop.princess on 3/17/2010 2:39:24 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD!!! ERYN
Thank you Eryn Laughing She just said she would make me up Smile

samm213 on 2/28/2010 8:21:43 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!
Hey, I'm talking this girl Kaycee, and she wanted to base a character off me for one of her stories (its a poem/story etc., website) and she wants to know what I look like. I don't know if I should tell her or not. Please help IMMEDIATELY (sp?)!!!!!!!!!!!!!!




hey girl! You should not tell her. 
Eryn G.

samm213 on 2/28/2010 8:04:57 PM

mod mod mod mod
ever since i saw "The Lovley Bones" (about a guy who kills girls) ive been a little creeped out. i was always careful, but now im super freaked out. i know its not very likely but im so afraid to trust anyone now...what




Hey girl! You might have been freaked out but the story is not true so you have nothing to worry about. You could always talk to your rents about it. 
Eryn G.

twee teen on 2/14/2010 5:50:51 PM

This is soooo true. I have billions of friends on websites and I never relized gow dangerous it was. but my brother, only has one friend on websites:his girlfriend. Guess like he's read this article before me!

dani4011 on 12/5/2009 9:43:09 PM

MOD.
I just found my best friend in the world looking in my bra and underwear drawer. I dont know what to do because she gave me this story about how they were already open and she went to see what it was. Of course I had to forgive her because she started crying. Please help!!!!




Hey girl!  Hmm...well that's scary to think that your friend was snooping in your room, but I have a couple ideas as to why she was looking in your drawers.  She may be curious about bras.  Maybe she hasn't started wearing a bra yet, or is curious about what your bras look like.  She might not be as open with her mom as you are with yours.  I suggest giving her a hug and telling her you don't care, but you're just curious why she was looking around. let her know you'll still be her friend, you just want to be able to have trust in one another and respect one anothers space.   
Megan R.

iloveweekends on 11/29/2009 5:53:27 PM

MODMODMODMODMODMODMODMOD SO....about that not insalting people online thing...i herd about this one guy (under 16) he was bullyed online and comided suiside...Frown he deid Frown Frown Frown Frown that is so sad!!! :^(

 

Hey girly, yup that was really sad. That happens to lots of people. Bullying is such a terrible thing to do and go through. Smile

Lynae P.

sans11 on 11/29/2009 4:48:59 PM

MOD!
I'm new here, and I'm simply just goth. But I'm stuck thinking, "Am I losing myself?" because all of a sudden, I feel not myself anymore! I feel like I've been stopping my usual way of life! For one, I made an account, I never make accounts on ANYTHING! I used to where tons of black, my whole personality was pretty Gothic, but I think something's interfering with it. Am I just a poseur?
Thanks







If youre changing, its normal. Don't worry about it. Just be true to yourself. xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

sarcasticgoth on 11/20/2009 10:02:19 PM

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brandytwin on 11/19/2009 7:44:24 PM

mod mod moddy mod mod how can I be a mod-er?

 

Hey girl! Moderator are interns at GL! So, to be a mod, you'll have to become an intern!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

sundance54! on 11/17/2009 6:42:03 PM

MOD MOD MODDY MOD MOD
how do you add friends?

 

Hey girl! I am sorry, but I am not sure.

Eryn G.

loveZac18 on 11/17/2009 3:50:34 PM

i met one of my bestest friends on the internet O_o

punk_princess.party_chick on 11/15/2009 12:49:33 AM

Thanks so much this really helped me once somebody was harrasing me online so I reported him and the Admin emailed me saying he has been banned! Thanks for the info!

Kate Smiley on 11/14/2009 5:07:34 PM

thanks allie!

Sydney on 11/13/2009 11:22:20 PM

MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! how do u befriend ppl on here? i want to be friends with some1 and thier profile say it is set to private. wat do i do?

 

Hey girly, comment on their page and ask them to add you as a friend! Smile

Lynae P.

brandytwin on 11/13/2009 9:01:40 PM

MOD- I really want a facebook. most of all of my friends have one and i don't. i want to be able to talk to them instead of texting them. i've talked to my parents before about it and they are not really sure about it. i keep telling them that i can make it so only my friends see it and i don't think they believe that. my dad said that when you make an account, people can google your name and can find you. i tried that for one of my friends that has an account and i couldn't find her. so what do i do now? what more can i say? thanks!




Hey babe,

Try giving them a demonstration of the things you've said and let them explore the site a little bit. That might help convince them.

xoxo Allie
Allie S.

Sydney on 11/13/2009 6:01:11 PM

Hey,
I don't have a Facebook, twitter, or Myspace but I think it's better that I'm not spending too muck time online. Ecspecially during Thanksgiving and Christmas!
-H-

CountryCutie4 on 11/13/2009 4:54:47 PM

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hey mod my mom ordered me a lg xenon for my birthday. i looked at the reviews and half are good and half are bad. Is it a good phone?




Hey babe, I don't know about that specific phone. I would talk to your service provider if there's a problem with it but I say give it a shot first and decide for yourself if you like it. 
katelin s.

piggie783 on 11/12/2009 9:53:30 PM

I'm sooo excited the guy I've been crushing on for who Knows how long asked me out today!!!!
he is soooo awesome! Nothing could bring me down!!!!
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Hollerbackgirl on 11/12/2009 6:25:17 PM

GL MODERATOR:
I have long, super curly, frizzy brown hair in bad need of a cut. Although I think I'll get that ut soon (I REALLY want to) I don't know what to do with my hair. I can't brush it when it's dry because it'll get poofy/frizzy, but if I wet it and brush it it will get frizzy as it drys and I always get frizzy poofy hair when I blow dry? Why was I cursed with straight haired peoples envy? I'll trade you! HELP ME PLEASE!!!!!! (Sorry that it is so long!!)




Hey girl, first of all, when it comes to haircuts, it's all about finding the perf cut to suit your natural texture. Try flipping through magazines and finding your fave celebs with your type of hair. Then take a pic to your hairdresser. Ask 'em for styling tips and what kind of cuts they think would help you get that tamed 'do you want. Look out for special products too for curly or frizzy hair. Remember, girlie, everyone think the grass is greener on the other side. Embrace your natural texture, however, and your green will bloom too.

xoxo
Alyssa B.

kita10pony on 11/11/2009 9:39:03 PM

Happy Veterans Day!

tang454 on 11/11/2009 6:38:42 PM

MOD
I'm litteraly invisable. No one knows I exsist. I was even at the mall with my bff and 2 other friends and the next day I came to school and my bff told me she went to the mall yesterday and it was really fun and i should've been there. I WAS THERE. I told her that too. She wasn't kidding either. I want to stand out more. not just my clothes but my personality too.
please Help.




Hey babe,

Try to make an effort to speak up more and be more confident. that's a great way to get people to notice you!

xoxo Allie
Allie S.

jessicaashley11 on 11/11/2009 5:23:28 PM

Have you thanked a veteran today?

Happy Veterans Day!

Thanking all who have served (and serving now)!

~lasagna~

lasagna on 11/11/2009 5:15:48 PM

Want to eat healthy but not ready to go full vegetarian?
Solution: Go semi-veg! This means that you will not eat cow and pig but still eat chicken and turkey (basically cutting out red meat). Or, you can give up all of those and just eat seafood.

Solution2: Moderation! Instead of every meal, eat meat just once a day or maybe once every couple days.

Solution3: Lower quantities! The average American eats 6 servings of meat a day (2 servings per meal) when all they need is 3 a day. How about you eat meat every meal but only half a serving each meal?

glamgirlteen on 11/11/2009 5:03:00 PM

That is why I don't have a Facebook or any other bad web account like that. Just have an email and a GL account. Smile
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lasagna on 11/11/2009 3:39:25 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
me and my buds want to do the talent show.there two(three counting me)of them.we want to do a dance but we want it to be cool.we dont know wat to do here are some songs plz help and tell wat we should do
-shake it(metro station)
-lipgloss(lil mama)
-red high heels(kellie pickler)
-best days(kellie pickler)
-right round(flo rida)
-low(flo rida)
-i wanna(all amrican rejecs)??
-hey mickey(the riplets)
-be good to me(ashlet tisdale)
-he said she said(ashley tisdale)
we could do 30h3! bt theres 2 mant bad words
and how should we dance
P.S GIRLS HELP TO!!




Hey girl! Those are all good options, but you might want to choose a song that doesn't have any bad words in it. You could watch the music video and see how the artist dance and then copy a few of their moves. 
Eryn G.

luvcats676 on 11/11/2009 3:19:35 PM

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is it ok to give your age???

 

Hey girl! Its better to not give your age out.

Eryn G.

luvcats676 on 11/11/2009 1:38:34 PM

In response to your Daily Poll:
Where are you within your group of friends?
-I have a group of friends but there isn't a hierarchy in it, we aren't cliquey or anything and I feel like GL thinks that every group of friends is. None of those choices related to me because we certainly don't "Rule the School" or feel like someone is superior or inferior. Please put more thought in the average group of friends in the future.
Thanks you,
Jakeline B

colombianaj93 on 11/11/2009 11:04:34 AM

try just to post what you are doing . alot of people just post weird things , like on twitter. just don't post the personal stuff. :] ox

peace-star-heart on 11/11/2009 8:10:51 AM

MOD
How do I delete friends on Facebook? I answered a friend request accidently that actually for real is friends with my friends but I dont know him, how do I delete him?
-Chandler




Hey girl! Go to your list of friends and on the right hand side there is an x where you can delete your friend.

xoxo

Liz 
Liz L.

Jadeciw on 11/11/2009 2:52:57 AM

MOD
so I know this doesn't have to do with online safety but some of my friends posted these REALLY awful pictures of me that I seriously cringe at whenever I see them.being not very pretty and un-photogenic is NOT a good combo lol! I really wish they would take them off but I don't want to sound paranoid/uptight/mom-ish etc. Help? thanks

Chic chick on 11/10/2009 11:59:31 PM

HEY GIRLIES!!!Smile

On GL, there's a super fun and stylin club out there call CLUB BEAUTY! We have fun articles on the lastest trends, beauty tips, entertainment, how to catch that cutie's eye, music updates, and so much more! Need help? We have tons of MODS that work on your questions. We even have tons of JOBS available! Smile

Wanna be a member? All you have to do is want to be one and post it on either my personal account JuliaWu or Club Beauty. Your name will be added to the Member list and you'll be included in the latest Thanks~Smile

~The Girls From Club Beauty~ Smile
*personal account JuliaWu*

Club Beauty on 11/10/2009 11:59:04 PM

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is it okay 2 post pix of myself n friends on facebook or myspace??I NEVER put out where or when it was taken n I nvr give out my email address number etc...
***MOD MOD MOD***




Hey babe, I think this is up to your parents and you and what kinds of info they're comfortable sharing. You can always make a profile so that only your friends can see it, so that's something to consider. 
katelin s.

Shmexxii_Sports_Babe on 11/10/2009 11:39:32 PM

these tips are pretty helpful-i just got a facebook, and the chat one is the one that i usually have to remember, because some people just say things to try to get you mad, and it's hard not to reply!!

hey, if anyone needs guy advice, i'm the assistant to head of guys on club mod, and i'd love to help! just post your question/problem on my profile, and i'll get back to you ASAP! Smile

sunflowerlicious on 11/10/2009 9:43:21 PM

MOD i have a clubpenguin account.its a disney chat site for kids. you get to talk to strangers though. do you think its ok to say your grade?




Hey, I think if you say your grade or age that's ok, as long as you don't give any full names or hometowns. 
katelin s.

dolcecupcakes on 11/10/2009 9:30:26 PM

This is good.


Check out my profile; I give the best advice!

God Bless!

Abriella123 on 11/10/2009 9:21:16 PM

MOD
I kind of want a Facebook because then I could communitcate with my friends, since they never get on their emails anymore because of well Facebook. However, my mom really doesn't want me to have a Facebook. Do you know if it is really safe? Also, how should i approach her about it without making her angry? Thanks for your help!




Hey babe, you should ask your mom if she's willing to make a compromise with you. Maybe allow her to know your password so she can check up on you every once and a while. Also, there are certain privacy settings you can do, like only let your friends see your profile, etc., so talk to your mom calmly about it and see what ya can do. 
katelin s.

tennisroxursox on 11/10/2009 9:12:26 PM

good article! Smile

i only have a facebook, but my privacy settings are really good, so I am safe!

readerhi1234 on 11/10/2009 9:00:54 PM

*MOD*MOD*MOD* It says to be polite on cyberspace, right? And that should include friends too!! My normally shy friend always insults me (not anything totally major but stuff like "You rarely play volleyball. What happened?" I know that sounds like a casual question, but it's really just a snippet of the conversation. I'm an avid volleyball player but I don't play during recess because I need to study for tests and stuff so she was kinda teasing me when she said that. I know they are small remarks, but it hurts, and a lot of them can add up. I DO tell her "You know, that's not very nice. Frown" And she apologizes, but I get the feeling she doesn't mean it because she does it AGAIN later. Help!

 

Hey girl! Just try to stay strong. She could just be feeling insecure and trying to make you feel the same! Hold you head high and try to let her comments roll off your back!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

mango.melon on 11/10/2009 8:38:44 PM

MDO MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD !!!!!!!!!!! Hey Taelor! Ya know how I asked you when the GL december issue will be here?? It's here!! Just came home and have it. Of course my sis called it first. Tong Thanks!!!!! Lauren

 

Hey girl! haha, I'm so glad! Enjoy the new issue!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

LaurKat on 11/10/2009 8:17:19 PM

***MOD***MOD***MOD*** I am going to Washington DC in 2 days for a leadership conference. I'm going with my school and it's for 4 days. I am super pumped for daytime, but I never sleep well anywhere besides my house-i never go to sleepovers. Now I found out I have to share a bed and I won't be able to go to sleep at all. I lie in bed while everyone else is asleep and its horrible. On top of that, I think I have like panic attacks or something. Sometimes randomly during the night when I'm trying to go to sleep, I get freaked out and want my mom so bad! I start crying uncontrolablely! And I hate being out late past like 5 pm with my friends and I start crying and want my mom really bad! I know it sounds babyish but I hate it and it scares me and this horrible feeling that I can't describe comes over me! Please help me MOD! I don't know what to do when I will be away from my mom for 4 days!!! Please help SOS!!!!!

 

Hey girl! Try taking a blanket from home that will comfort you! Know that you'll be back soon enough. Take an iPod or headphones with you that you can throw on to help you sleep!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

SummerRox on 11/10/2009 8:12:08 PM

CHECK OUT MY PROFILE!!!!!!!!!!!

winneconnerocks on 11/10/2009 8:04:35 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD I did the first one and I put my number on facebook. I thought it would be ok since only my friends could see it. Now I'm getting harrassed throught texts by an 8 digit number. He's been harrassing me for 2 days now. Should I change my number? Do I tell my parents about this? They might be mad at me because I texted him back and told him to stop.

 

Hey girl! Def tell your parents. It's good that you told him to stop; they will be able to help you out from here !

-Taeler

Taeler L.

smileygirl567 on 11/10/2009 6:55:06 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD i REALLY REALLY REALLY wanna be famous. i can dance sing and act so im a triple threat. i wanna be on disney channel first to start my career. how do i achieve this? i would like to before im 15 (Im 13) and how do i get my mom to take my dreams seriously? how do i put myself out there in the hollywood industry? HELLP! plz and thank you soooo much!

 

Hey girl! You should try contacting an agent or someone from Disney. I'm not entirely sure but I bet they can put you in the direction of someone who could help you out! Tell your mom how serious you are and show her by working as hard as you can!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

dancer10196 on 11/10/2009 6:39:09 PM

erighn♥hannity630~~
When i got MSN, i had the same feeling. itll go away eventually!! (:

FrenchHornPlayer1 on 11/10/2009 6:29:27 PM

Mod... is it okay to say ur first name on the site?

 

Hey girl! Your first name is fine but keep your last name under wraps!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

erichmo on 11/10/2009 6:19:21 PM

oh a girl in my class said her aunt posted up sum pics on facebook then deleted them and a few years or months l8er they ended up in a commercial in japan.

SMILey103 on 11/10/2009 6:04:15 PM

MOD theres this girl on this website wo is a vegitarian (not glamgirlteen) but a girl who supports her and like glamgirlteen i post comments on peoples accounts talking about how its ok to eat meat she posted a rather rude comment and then i sent her a polite comment back saying i disagree with her now i think shes so mad at me she reported my profiel what should i do? ty so much mod

 

Hey girl! GL loves having all you girls express your opinions but we appreciate you all being respectful and nice to each other. Thanks for trying to be neutral and nice! GL will take care of the rest!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

meatloversusa on 11/10/2009 5:36:39 PM

yeahh this detective/police guy just came our school to do a presentation on this stuff. he told us some stories about these girls whose lives were completley ruined by pics they posted or things they did online. soo ya be careful!

girlzrock07 on 11/10/2009 5:23:29 PM

Thank you so much 4 writing this!!!

cool_birdie4 on 11/10/2009 5:20:12 PM



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