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I am totally in love with my best friend's crush. She has been friends with the guy since third grade. But, I know for a fact he likes me back. If I go out with him, I'm afraid she'll get mad that I'm dating her crush. I don't know what to do!

I want to date him, but I don't want to hurt her feelings. Would that come between us? I don't know what to do anymore.

I also don't think that I can keep this from her any longer. We tell each other everything! I'm afraid when my BFF finds out my life will be over!

Hey there,

Eek! I liked my friend's BF once, so I def know where you're coming from. It's such a tough spot to be in, so let's think this one out!

It's time for a chat

It's a scary thing to do, but your BFF deserves to know what's going on. When you're hanging out by yourselves and it gets quiet, let her know that you have something to you want to tell her. Explain the sitch and let her know that you hate keeping things from her, but you really just didn't want to hurt her. And don't forget to give her time to react. Let her voice what's going on in her head, and really listen to her. She could react in a few diff ways....

Reaction #1: She's A-OK

Sure, she may be a little upset that you didn't tell her sooner (what are BFFs for anyways?), but she understands and doesn't want to let anything come between you two. BFFs before BFs, right? If this is the case, then you two can def work out some sort of agreement. Maybe you'll both try to hold off for a bit and see if it your feelings for this fella sizzle or fizzle.

Reaction #2: She's not OK

Worst case scenario: She's upset and feels betrayed that you didn't tell her about it. Is it really worth losing your BFF over a boy? Put this love on hold for a bit until she's all right. Explain to her WHY you like your mutual crush. Tell her that you think he likes you but you can't go out with her unless she is totally, 100% all right with you doing so.

Who knows, maybe over time, she'll be OK with it. For me, my friend was upset at first, but eventually got over it. I got the guy and my friend!

Either way, you're BFFs a.k.a. best friends FOREVER. That means nothing will split you two up in the long run. It's gonna cause some tension, but you'll feel sooo much better once you get this secret off your chest.

Good luck!

~Kristen Y.

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me and my bff like the same guy but I don't wanna tell her cause I'm afraid she will get mad at me and I think he likes me back cause when ever I talk to him he looks into my eyes then whenever I pass him in the hallway he always bumps into me on pirpuse and he stares at me during luch and I don't want my bff to know but does he like me back I'm confused

Well whoever liked this boy friest has dibs. Its kinda the unwritten code for girls. So if she liked him first, nothing can happen between you and the boy becasue you would be disrespecting your friend and disregarding your great relationship with her. If you were first, then explain to your friend whats happening and ask her to understand. Good luck! xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

mckenzdun on 2/6/2010 7:27:55 PM

ah. i know how u feel. boys mostly like me out of my friends cuz im the nicest and prettiest. no bragging intended. its hard to type it and make it sound humble. but anyways, i'll usually outgrow the boys. just wait a while. and sometimes, if you like more than one boy, but this is the only boy ur friend likes, than OK. just let her have him. think about how ur life would be without this boy and with this boy. =]

mizlizbiz on 2/6/2010 10:11:56 AM

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My BFF has liked a guy for like, EVER. He is absolutely gorgeous, with sandy hair, bright blue eyes and a killer smile. She went out with him last year, but things didn't work out to well. She is still totally crazy for him, but he is totally the opposite. His locker is right next to mine and we have a lot of the same classes so we talk all the time. His best friend told me that he likes me and I was psyched. My friend would die if I told her what was happening and I can't keep secrets (too much guilt). Where do I go from here?

Hey girl, why not tell her you like him too? That way he's fair game for both of you but she also realizes she's not the only one who has sights on this guy. In the end, who he dates is his choice, and a true friend will stick by the other no matter what the results.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

xhscheer on 1/27/2010 11:33:55 PM

My BFF has liked a guy for like, EVER. He is absolutely gorgeous, with sandy hair, bright blue eyes and a killer smile. She went out with him last year, but things didn't work out to well. She is still totally crazy for him, but he is totally the opposite. His locker is right next to mine and we have a lot of the same classes so we talk all the time. His best friend told me that he likes me and I was psyched. My friend would die if I told her what was happening and I can't keep secrets (too much guilt). Where do I go from here?

xhscheer on 1/27/2010 11:33:12 PM

My best Friend once went out with my ex who I still liked. She knew I liked him but still said yes! That hurt me so bad and our friendship hasnt been the same since because we dont have that strong trust anymore. Im just saying, watch what you do before you get with this guy because through all of my drama I learned that a friendship lasts way longer than a boy does!
Boys come and go, but friends will always be there for you!

Rosie boa on 1/22/2010 10:38:39 PM

whoa, lol, I wrote someone else's name for me
I was thinking about someone else while I was writing it, so when I saw it I was just like huh? /random

choc_o_holic on 1/21/2010 12:26:21 AM

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So I have 2 things. First off, my BFF and I both like the same guy, but she didnt really know I liked him so she finally was like, "Oh, I like this guy," And I was like, "I like him too!" Soo it was kinda akward but then I was totally ok with it But now I don't know if im totally ok with it, I mean, I would be really happy 4 my friend if they went out, but I would feel totally destroyed 2.
O and secondly, the guy I like, he always hi-fives me, hugs me, always calls my name when he sees me, he told me that he really liked me, but he didnt know y. He also told me that he loved me, not in like a rlly serious way or anything, but just like, "I love ya, Emily," something like that. is that a sign he likes me, or...?

Hey girl, it's def hard crushing on the same guy as your bff. As for the guy you're crushing on, it seems like his signals could go both ways. I'd flirt a bit and see if he can pick up the hint you like him. It's fair game for you and your friend but realize she'd have to do the same thing too if you got the guy. Think hard about whether your friendship is worth jeopardizing for this relationship and if you both can take seeing the other person with this guy. True friends support each other, but guy drama can make that a little hard sometimes.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

choc_o_holic on 1/20/2010 9:45:53 PM

***MOD***PLEASE READ!- I really Want To date Guys And Kiss them But My Parents Say I Have To Be 16 To date And Kiss And Have a Boyfriend What Do I Do? I NEED MAJOR ADVISE!

Hey girl! I'm not sure how long you have to wait til you turn 16, but try to see where your parents are coming from. They probably just don't want to you to have a serious relationship where you could get your heart broken until you're older. It's natural to meet boys, kiss them, and hang out with them. Try to talk with your parents when it's just you and them. Or maybe try talking to your mom (one-on-one) because she'll be more likely to be understanding. They just want to protect you, but you're your own person and should be free to date if you feel that you're ready.

Megan R.

SuperStyle96 on 1/12/2010 4:46:31 PM

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Dear MOD I need Advise I Like This Guy But HE Does not Know My Name And I Am Scared to Talk To Him What Do You Suggest? -SuperStyle96

Hey babe! Be confident in yourself. The only way he'll ever know your name is if you make the first move, are bold, and start a conversation! Try finding something you know you're both interested in and seeing if he's open to chatting with you!

Megan R.

SuperStyle96 on 1/12/2010 4:42:45 PM

Hey girls! Tired of waiting for MOD to get to you? Well, post on my profile and I'll try the best I can to answer the question! post HELP NOW at the beginning if it's super important and ill try to answer it sooner!

choc_o_holic on 12/28/2009 6:15:24 PM

Ugh that always happens to me. I like a guy and then I tell my best friend and after I tell her, she likes him too! This has happened more than once, and it's kinda annoying. Maybe she's influenced on my taste? I don't even know, but it just makes it that much harder for me to talk to him, when she's right beside me trying to do the same thing.

spacekitty on 12/24/2009 2:31:03 PM

FOR MOD ALLYSA B: Thanks so much for the advice!! I'll be sure to follow it. I had actually already planned a sleepover for tomorrow night! You're the best! XOXO Natalie

Hey girl, Alyssa isn't modding right now but I'll let her know

xoxo Olivia

Olivia A.

taylorswift on 12/10/2009 4:39:07 PM

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Okay, this is a really long story...so here it goes...
I had liked this guy on and off for a very long time when about two weeks ago...he asked me out! I couldn't believe it! I was so happy, especially since stuff like that never happens to me. Honestly, the whole two weeks were great. He didn't really call me, but I was fine with that. At school he acted really sweet. He told me he liked my perfume, he noticed I got my hair cut even though I only got like an inch cut off, and once when I was going to have to sit alone in English because there wasn't enough room at my friend's table, he moved to sit next to me. The only problem was, he's my BFF's ex. She doesn't like him anymore and I THOUGHT he was over her. But even while we were going out, he would call her a lot, he sent her a sweet birthday card and present, and he always talked to her when we three-way called (we used to always do this, even when they were going out, because before he was my boyfriend, we were really good friends). So I was constantly worried about what if she decided she liked him?? But it always seem to be okay, so I didn't worry. But today while COMPLETELY JOKING AROUND with one of my other guy friend via notepassing in math class today, I more or less called my OWN BOYFRIEND a loser. (I know, I am such an idiot!) He, of course, FOUND THE NOTE, and was super-mad at me. I quickly apologized (also via note) like 20000000 times. And in last period, it seemed as if we had made up. I sent him a note that said "So we're good?" And he said "I'll have to think about it" and I said "could you finish thinking about it by the end of the day?" and he said "ok". So I of course being an idiot, thought it was all OKAY...but it wasn't. Near the end of the day, as we were getting our stuff together, two of my "friends" (put in quotes because we're not friends, we're actually frenemies because they're popular and therefore hate me!) pulled me aside in the hallway. They said (not suprisingly with happy looks on their faces) "Brendon wants to dump you because he still likes Maggie (aka MY BFF). I was very confused, mad, and sad. I ran back into the class room and yelled "I don't care" really loud, because I was really shocked. I went and talked to another one of my ACTUAL FRIENDS in the hallway and she told me that my BFF was planning to dump her BF for my EX-BF and that that was why Brendon dumped me. I was really really mad at a lot of people, so I got a little upset. As I was walking out of the building, my BFF's EX-BF and my EX-crush yelled out (AND I QUOTE) "Haha Brendon broke up with Natalie!" in front of the ENTIRE MIDDLE SCHOOL. I was really really REALLY embarassed, but I ignored them. I walked off to my car basicaly crying but my friend Marilyn, being the AMAZING FRIEND that she is, ran after me and hugged me till I stopped crying. I was okay and so I went home. I called Maggie as soon as I got home and found out the whole story. Apparently, Maggie was never planning to go out with Brendon. He had asked her to go out with him and she said she wouldn't until she had broken up with her BF (Who she really likes) and didn't like him anymore, and she wouldn't date him till the end of the year because by then I wouldn't like him anymore. However, she told me she was just kidding about saying all of it. She told me she doesn't like him and I believe her 100%. I'm not mad at her anymore. The only people I'm mad at are Brendon (for dumping me for no reason), Brian (for yelling out "BRENDON DUMPED NATALIE!"), and Morgan and Christina (The two frenemies who apparently weren't told to dump me for him, but he DID want to break up with me). Basically I've tried to cry about this, but I cant. But I still feel really depressed, and I just feel embarassed and REALLY mad at a lot of people. Do you have any advice on how to handle this EXTREMELY complicated situation??? It would help a ton!!!!!!!!!!!
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Hey girl, I'm way sorry to hear about all of this. People stink sometimes, don't they? But it seems like you're working this out yourself too. You know who are real friends and who aren't. My suggestion with the fake ones? Distance yourself slowly. You don't need them bringing you down and you def know that. Stay polite but don't tell them your business. Brian? Brian was just being immature. Middle school guys tend to be that way unfortunately. Let him know what he did wasn't cool and leave it there. He'll grow up sooner or later, promise. And your ex-bf? He made the decision and he lost out on a great person. My suggestion now is to break ties with him. He's obviously not the nicest and not worth you putting effort into. Wait for him to contact you but otherwise, let things go for now. There will be a time to talk about it, but now just isn't it. This weekend, go out with your girls and have some you time. You def deserve it. Good luck, chica, and stay strong!

xoxo

Alyssa B.

taylorswift on 12/9/2009 9:33:17 PM

Dear Mod,
I have this MAJOR crush on one of my guy friends. I have had a crush on him for 3 years. I think he likes me but he also likes this other girl. The thing is I have danced with him at the school dances and he has never danced with her.
I really want to make my move but I don't know how. I need help!

Hey girl! You should try flirting with him more so that he can see you as more than a friend. Then when you are comfortable you should make a move.

Eryn G.

Tomatos97 on 12/9/2009 4:20:39 PM

Me and my BFF have had the same crush many times. We used to tell each other that we had good tastes!lol

Once me a my best guy friend had a crush problem too. He liked this girl named Becca. I liked Becca's brother Eric. lol

Tomatos97 on 12/9/2009 11:39:20 AM

MODWhenever my crush and i text, its usally about school! do you have any other ideas of what i could talk to him about?
i don't feel ready to just say hey, what's up, yet. i would be more comfortable if i had a reason to text right now, and a way to keep the convo going.
Thanks!

Hey babes, text him and see how his day one, ask him a joke, see what his plans are for the weekend. Even something as simple as " Hope your day is fabulous" is a good start. It doesnt have to be insightful or lengthy, just something cute that makes it clear you are thinking about them. xo JANA

jana k.

singitoutloud12 on 12/8/2009 9:34:22 PM

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heres the sitch w/ my crush. i was txting him last yr. and he asked me out. i was so excited and sed yes (DUH!) then i got 2 skool monday and his friend came up 2 me and told me that he had taken my crushs'phone. it was a joke. i was super crushed and humiliated. ever since, nothing has been exactly the same. then over the summer, we went to camp together. he TOTALLY flirted w/ me, sat on my lap, the whole deal. we txted the rest of the summer, and he always sez (even now) how much he loves to be with me and tlk 2 me. but in school, he acts lk a total jerk and flirts w/ my friends (everyone cept me!) i am dying to let him know how i feel cuz i think he feels the same, just doesnt want to show it. HLP!!!!!
~Lauren

Hey babe if he's ignoring you he's not respecting you. Maybe he's afraid you'll reject him. It's important to let him know how you feel and see if he feels the same way. If he's flirtatious with other girls he may not be ready to have a girlfriend. If that's the case, try hanging out with different guys and have fun!

Megan R.

soccergirl524 on 12/8/2009 6:55:58 PM

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I've liked this guy Mikey since the begining of 8th grade. Just recently 1 of my bff's decided she likes him a lot 2. She told me this yesterday at lunch. Right b4 she went over her popular friends house, who happens 2 live right nxt 2 him. She was all xited cause he said he'd drive over w/ them. It's really annoyin cause he seems to b flirting w/ both of us. Wat should I do???

hey girl! Maybe talk to your friend and then just keep talking to him.

Eryn G.

arw1096 on 12/6/2009 7:42:12 PM

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There is this guy in my school who has been teasing me since 5th grade. I'm in 7th grade now.
But he says sorry once in a while. Then starts it again. I already have a crush and don't like this guy at all. But all his friends tell me that he does like me. But he always denys it. What should I do.

Hey girl! He might like you and maybe hes covering it up by teasing you.

Eryn G.

Via C on 12/6/2009 6:59:55 PM

hey mod can u go on my profile?

Hey girl!

I can't go on your profile - but any of the other girls here can to talk to you!

Sammy

Sammy d.

soccergirl524 on 12/5/2009 3:52:49 PM

hey gurl i noe wut ur talkin bout caz thts happing ok i like a boy named tre and he is flirting with me he was about to ask a me the dance untill my friend holly showed up like OMG den she rolled her eyes at ME!?!?! then she look at tre as if she was dating him
so then i got in front of her then im like "bye" then i waved my hands like how a mean gurl would
then i guess thts the end of our friendship =) well i never liked her any ways then in scien class we had to be buddies then she put sum gowie stuff on me and i wasnt gonna take it so i pounched her den everyone was like"girl fight girl fight" but she pushed me so i thuroh her to the ground then she pulls me down then it turns into a cat fight but hay i got the boy anyways hahaha im jus kidding tht never happed ;) lol

dram_gueen1o1 on 12/5/2009 11:49:44 AM

OMG thats just like my prob.
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I've liked this guy Mikey since the begining of 8th grade. Just recently 1 of my bff's decided she likes him a lot 2. She told me this yesterday at lunch. Right b4 she went over her popular friends house, who happens 2 live right nxt 2 him. She was all xited cause he said he'd drive over w/ them. It's really annoyin cause he seems to b flirting w/ both of us. Wat should I do???

Comment on my page and i'll comment on urs 2

arw1096 on 12/5/2009 11:00:00 AM

awwww thats bad luck talk to her!!! don't try to ruin your freindship over a boy trust me he's really not worth it good luck

blueberry1357 on 12/5/2009 12:03:35 AM

awwww thats bad luck talk to her!!! don't try to ruin your freindship over a boy trust me he's really not worth it good luck

blueberry1357 on 12/5/2009 12:03:04 AM

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I've really reeeeelley liked this guy for a long time and my friend new that and she was like "aww i will never dating him so you could date him." the next day she DATES him!!i almost cryed! im dating someone else now and he is awesome but im more in love with my crush. HEEEEEEEELLLLLLLLLPPPPPPP!!!!!!!!!!

Hey, Girl! Sorry for the “stock” message. We’re psyched you’re here but since this is a super busy time, mods aren’t able to answer personal advice or contest questions. We’re approving your comments now so the girls can start offering feedback right away! If you still have questions, please come back, we’re happy to help…or just let the other chicas answer now! (They give awesome advice, trust us!) Love and thanks! ♥, Your Blog Patrol Babes

Sammy d.

LiL sPeNcEr on 12/4/2009 7:49:55 PM

I would say that you should tell your friend the truth and if she says you should go out with him maybe you should but if she dosn't want you to think first....is this boy more important then your friendship with your BFF?

xo3erinjb3xo on 12/2/2009 9:00:41 PM

Hey mod?
this guy asked me out 2day...and i like him but hes my bff ex and one of our best friends i dont want 2 go out with him but there are 2 problems every1 say i should say yes and i dont know how to say no in this situation without hurting his feelings help?

Hey babe, I think you're making the right decision by saying no. Exs of friends should be off-limits! Girl friends last way longer than bfs, and this guy is good to have as a friend. Let him know you don't want to ruin the friendship you have with him, but you think he's really cool. This way you're still letting him down but you're being nice about it and not humiliating him.

Megan R.

emoticon220 on 12/1/2009 5:38:14 PM

Omg!! That happened to me and my BFF last year...except I was the crusher, and she was the stealer...if I were you I would talk to your friend about it. I know what its like to be in that postition and its not fun..at all. So jsut sit her down and have a convo with her about it and if she says "No I wouldn't be okay with that" Respect her choice. Because the question is this "Would you rather have the guy or your best friend?" And honestly you'll change your mind about this guy sooner or later. So its your choice...great friends are limited...guys aren't...
But its your call.

PinkGirl15 on 11/30/2009 4:18:13 PM

DARLING CHILD... WELCOME TO MY WONDERFUL LIFE!!!
SO EVERY SINGLE GUY IVE EVER LIKED... WELL MOSTLY HAS ENDED UP GOING OUT WITH ONE OF MY 4 BEST FRIENDS... THEY ALL NEW I LIKED HIM BEFORE THEY STARTED DATING... MY BEST FRIEND AND I QUOTE SAID
"BUT WHEN YOU LIKE A GUY YOU FORGET ABOUT YOUR FRIENDS CAUSE YOU LIKE HIM SO MUCH. THEYLL FORGIVE YOU BUT HE WONT ALWAYS BE THERE"
WHEN I CALLED HER OUT ON IT. READ THAT AGAIN. ONE MORE TIME. NOW IF YOU DONT SEE WHATS WRONG WITH THAT THEN YOU MUST HAVE LIKE DISLEXIA OR SOMETHING. I DONT KNOW ABOUT YOU BUT IF MY BEST FRIEND LIKED A GUY AND I SAID YES THE WHOLE TIME WE WERE DATING I WOULD FEEL GUILTY.
NOW DONT READ THIS AS ON I CANT DATE HIM. I WAS TOTALLY OKAY IN THE END AND OBVIOUSLY FORGAVE ALL MY FRIENDS. TALK TO YOU FRIEND IS ALL IM SAYING. SHE MAY ALWAYS BE THERE BUT SHE MAY BE THERE WITH A BROKEN HEART FROM YOU AND BELIEVE ME SHELL ALWAYS QUESTION HOW TRUE OF A FRIEND YOU ARE. I KNOW I STILL DO.
*ChAsE*

ChAsEmEhOmE on 11/29/2009 11:45:03 AM

live seems so fun

candieheartsgirl on 11/28/2009 2:20:05 PM

mod! im like in love with this boy chris but hes gf is my best friend...i try to forget about him but i cnt..i dnt want to ruin out freindship...how do i deal wit this??? and i rele rele love him...but the thing is he flirts wit me alot..what if he likes me?

Hey girly, this is a sticky sitch. If you can't learn to control your feelings around him, you may have to stop hanging around him for awhile. You don't wanna loose a friend or make a fierndship akward. If he does like you, it may be best to wait until things are broken off with him and his girlfriend to make a move. The last tinhg you wanna do is be caught in a love triangle. Hope this helps ya!

Lynae P.

sweetlilme123 on 11/27/2009 9:25:19 PM

Hey girl,
Wow! Thats a tough situation to be in. Trust me, I've been there too. It almost ruined mine and my BFF's frendship forever! The best thing to do is to just talk to your BFF. Tell her that you really like this guy and you think he might have feelings for you as well. After you say that just let her think about it for a minute. If she gets mad at you give her time to cool down and try not to bring the conversation up for a little while. If she doesn't get mad then continue. Go on by saying that you understand how she feels about him as well.. and that you're not trying to hurt her. If she agrees to it being okay then go for him! But if not... then he's not the right guy. Move on. I know it can be hard. I have had to give up some pretty Amazing Guys also but trust me, you'll find the perfect guy if you wait Good LUck! and remember.. Communication is Key!

angie0105 on 11/25/2009 10:21:14 PM

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Ok, so I have so many issues about my BF. See, he wanted to talk about our bodies and stuff ALL the time like through texting. I didn't, so I stopped texting him saying I had to go. The next day we didn't have any classes and we were watching a movie and all the couples went to go sit on the ground. I got kind of scared and didn't go. Then, I finally did and he was holding me, letting me just kind of lay on him with his arm wrapped around me. He was really just rubbing my back and making me feel really comfortable. So how do I tell him I want to be comfortable with him holding me to the point where maybe we'd kiss? And then, how do I kiss him? Please help Mod!!

Hey girl! Just let the kissing happen naturally. It will progress if you both are feeling it. And we naturally know how to kiss, so just let your instincts take over.

xoxo

Liz L.

Jesusfreakhrdcore on 11/25/2009 4:26:38 PM

I need help!!!! there r rumers going around my school saying that me and this boy go out when it is not true and people say that he likes me and people say that i like him what should i do should i do becuze we have ben friends for a long time i dont want to miss up that HHHHEEEELLLLPPPP MMMMEEEE :-(

coolgirl43 on 11/25/2009 8:49:34 AM

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I know this sounds stupid, but I just joined the site...what does "mod" or "modding" supposed to mean?

Hey girl, welcome! "Mod" is short for "moderator." We're the ones that approve and respond to all the comments here on the site.

katelin s.

libbycm135 on 11/24/2009 9:54:12 PM

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I need help. I used to date this guy and we agreed to be friends after we broke up. Lately, he has been really flirty and I've been flirting back. I think he likes me again, and I like him, too. I want to ask him out, but I don't know how he would take it. What should I do?

Hey girl! You could just ask him to hang out and then see what happens.

Eryn G.

libbycm135 on 11/24/2009 4:29:06 PM

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I really like this guy I know, but my friends hate him. We once did the trust exercise at break, because my friend Lucy likes fainting on people. He wanted to join in. So, yehh. I was okay with it. And then my friend Lucy said he liked me(Please note: When I said "eeewww", after about 3 seconds he said it like me. Do you think he was just waiting to hear my reply first, because it seemed pretty slow) and it kinda got me really confused. He talks to me LOADS, and he's really nice. The problem was, my friend used to date him and she dumped him just before that happened. Also, his other ex(who I know and will date just about ANYONE, like in fourth grade she dated a really mean fat-ish kid because he was popular) is ALWAYS with him when I'm not, and
she acts like she didn't dump him the first DAY they went out. I think he likes her. Which makes no sense, tho, because she's really mean and they have nothing in common, but me and him have LOTS in common(like we both act REALLY hyper all the time)!

Hey girl! If you like him, tell your friends and then go for it. Maybe talk and get to know each other better before you do anything.

Eryn G.

GracieLuvsCheese on 11/24/2009 3:37:18 PM

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dachshundluver on 11/24/2009 12:41:32 PM

MOD! me and my bff have bascically the same prob but she knows ilike the same boy as her when she talks bout talkin to him on fb i get a little jealous i am happy for her but i am jealous too should i stop liking him all together?

Hey girl! Try focusing on someone else.I know it's hard but a boy is hardly a good reason to come between you and your girl! Do your own thing for a while and see what goes down!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

dachshundluver on 11/24/2009 12:37:55 PM

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Apparently my bff told me that when I was absent this guy stood up in front of the class and told everyone that he likes ( I mean likes...) me. What now?

Hey girlie,

That is so sweet! If you like him too, put it out there. If not, play cool like you don't know anything is up and just keep being his friend.

xoxo Keltie

Keltie E.

littlemissbunneh on 11/23/2009 8:53:19 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!! k i reaally like this guy like i mean really! But he has a gf, except i feel like sometimes he likes me what should i do?

Hey girl! It's never a good idea to be that "other woman." For now, just stay friends with this guy. Who knows, if things don't work out with his gf, he may fall for you. But until then, keep an open mind and meet other guys. Get to know them better as friends, and maybe you'll end up falling for one who's more available than your current crush. Best, Kristen <3

Kristen Y.

GossipGirl;) on 11/22/2009 8:43:13 PM

Mod I tried to post this but I typed it wrong. I have a crush on this guy and he has a crush on my bff. What do I do now? Thanks

hey girl! If your bff isn't interested, feel free to keep talking and flirting a bit. He may end up changing his ming and falling for you instead! If not, there are plenty of fish in the sea. Keep your eyes open and don't be afraid to get to know some other guys better. If you like one who's more available, then go for it! Best, Kristen <3

Kristen Y.

littlemissbunneh on 11/22/2009 5:37:09 PM

i have this friend her names mickayla.me and her love this one guy but she gets so evil and throws a huge fit!!! and to get me jealous she hangs on his arm and rubs his back!! its so annoying. i want to make a move but i seriously think his falling for mickayla. but the thing is he has a gf ugh mickayla has been trying to break them up but its not working. when they break up i know she will just ask him out but i want him!!!! what do i do???

glambrat on 11/22/2009 6:42:45 AM

Mod-
I already sent this ,but don't know if you got it.
My cell is broken and my home # has been changed so I don't know my home #.
Also I don't have the guys #.
now what? Can't email either.

Hey girl! Could you tell the guy what happened to your cell and try asking for his number again? Or try asking a friend who has his number too? Or try IMing on the computer if you can get his screen name?

Megan R.

i_luv_devin on 11/21/2009 1:05:19 AM

thx!!!!!

bluemily on 11/21/2009 12:18:17 AM

Mod-
I like this guy,named Grant and well. He asked for my # once in 7th grade and gave it to him cause I've kind of had a crush on him at that time 2. Though most likely it was probably to start some drama. The next day he went up said he called me (whatever...) and he asked to hang out with my friends during lunch. At that time I was friends with people who.....(long story) ,but when he came over to the place I hung out at the 7th grade everything was all quiet and i bet with that he lost complete interest of me. I still like him wanna hang out with him, date him, text him, and whatever. I've had a crush on him for 1 or 2 years now. I still talk to him ,but I talk to him through a friend of mine. (get it?) I'm in the 8th grade currently.
Sorry for the long complicated story....

I think you should make the effort to call him and text him to get to know him better. You have to establish a relationship with him. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

i_luv_devin on 11/20/2009 9:58:47 PM

mod mod on january my family and my bffs family are going on a camping trip BUT me and my bff were talking about how there wasnt gonna be our crushes/bfs there finally some alone time...till i figured out that my bro invited my bf!!!!how can me and julia spend the whole three days without being next to my bf without hurting any feelings or crushing any hearts???

Hey Girl, Camping trips are definitely more fun when you share them with a lot of people! Make a conscious effort to spend time with your BFF and your BF, as well as your fam! Group activities are the best way to get everyone involved.. whether it's hiking, fishing, or sharing a story around the campfire. It's ok to have some alone time with your BF, but make sure you also have some alone time with your BFF too!

claudia n.

bluemily on 11/20/2009 10:45:08 AM

Mod!
So my boyfriend might break up with me. The reason is cuz we don't c eachother a lot because we have no classes together so I only say bye to him at the end of the day. But I don't understand. Isn't it a stupid reason? And I can't really hang out with him outside school cuz we r both busy and r school is the type where going out only means ur together we don't actually go anywhere. Help I'm so confused

Hey girl, I don't his reason is silly at all. If you don't see each other, you don't really have a relationship, right? Try to make some time for this guy during the weekend if you want to stay together. Relationships take time too, and if neither of you have it, breaking up isn't the worst thing.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

bballplaya23 on 11/19/2009 7:35:20 PM

Hi MOD if you have a minute, I'd like some quick advice.
My boyfriend is a really sweet boyfriend and I wanted to let him that I'm very thankful for him and that I still think that he's the best because I sometimes worry that he feels like he's lost in the shuffle because we sit near a lot of other boys at lunch time where we sit together.
What is something sweet that I could do to let him know that I appreciate him?

Hey girl, try making him a little dessert treat for the two of you to share during lunch. Let him know that while there may be tons of people around you, he's the only one you've got your eyes on.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

volleyuup on 11/19/2009 7:25:32 PM

MOD MOD
I like this guy, and he likes my crush! What do I do now?

Hey girl, sounds like a tricky one, but it's up for the crush to decide now isn't it?

xoxo

Alyssa B.

littlemissbunneh on 11/19/2009 7:19:44 PM

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