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You and your two BFFs had a great friendship until they decide to leave you behind.

Now that one of them wants you back, you're torn on whether or not to forgive her.

I'm in a BF pack of three, which is never a good idea, The one I was closer to abandoned me for our other BFF. She said, "Well, I just want it to be the two of us." I was pretty much hopeless for about a year. But then she crawls back to me and says she regrets it all. Should I forgive her?

BFF Fix- It: Three-way BFF relationships are always tough. It's wrong that your friend turned her back on you and cut you out. But remember, the blame doesn't all go to her because it takes two to tango!

If you feel like she's sincere, forgive her after you hear her out. Have a little chat and talk about how you felt when she hurt you. Let her know it wasn't cool to leave you hanging like that. But don't jump in and be BFF with her just yet. Test her out and see if she has changed. Start off with some group hang outs and if things go well slowly step in to your usual Saturday sleepover routine. You never know if she's going to juggle you back and forth from one BFF to another!

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BY CAITLIN R. ON 11/16/2009 7:00:00 AM 13 COMMENTS

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So I took one of my friends to my church's youth group okay. (btw, my youth group is da bomb!) I already had some friends there that talk to me, but we're not the closest. That night, my friend and I were gonna hang out, and we did. However, the youth group later had a girls night out. Girls could bring sleepover stuff to the church and hang out. (Plus, our lesson was on guys! Who do we like, who do we not like.... anyway...) My friend came. Same with the other not-so-close friends. It was fun and we even made friends with two a-grade-higher-than-us gals. Then, my friend totally starts hanging out with her and leaving more like forgeting me. That friend doesn't come to my youth group as often anymore but the other not-so-close girls do, and they're just as close to those older girls! It's complecated because the oldergirls are nice to me... but go along with the others. i feel like a loner there. idk

rsl on 2/4/2010 7:07:54 PM

im in a group with 4 other girls but nothiung like that ever happens with us.

im not saying that doesnt totally SUCK.

Gale4ever on 12/22/2009 10:53:58 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MODM MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!! DEAR MOD,
I HAVE A FREIND LETS CALL HER BRITTANY WE USED 2 HATE EACH OTHER BUT WE FORGAVE EACH OTHER AND THEN AFTER AWHILE WE BECAME BFFS BUT LAST SUMMER SHE STARTED 2 CHANGE. LIKE JUST BEING REALLY ANOOYING, LIKE IF I HAD A SLEEPOVER WITH LIKE 3 OTHER FREINDS SHE WOUlD JUST SIT DOWN AND START TALIKING 2 ME WHEN IM IN THE MIDDLE OF A CONVERSATION with another freind and i would say brittany im talking to someone else and she would say oh in a sad tone and would make me feel bad and then i would just start talking 2 her and abandoning my freind but not completely just for that conversation now its school and she does that ALL the time but i dont do wat i used 2 do and now i tried distancing my self by getting a bunch of new nice freinds but she clings 2 me like if i walk away she'll die or something and i really want 2 b her freind still but not her best freind cuz i want 2 get closer 2 my new freinds also she is BOY CRAZY its like she needs a boy to be happy and wen she breaks up with the boy or she gets dumped she calls him a bunch of foul names im so sick all of it ive tried talking to her but then she justs gets annoyed,irratated, and upset. and she doesnt listen to me at all sorry its long thanks for ur help!

Hey girl! Start ignoring her when she acts the way you don't like, and be super nice when she is acting nice. She'll eventually realize you will act nice when she acts nice and hopefully that will reverse her behavior.

xoxo

liz

Liz L.

club gemini on 12/10/2009 4:34:37 PM

MOD Last me and this girl were like BFF's but throughout we had fights.The fights were usually started by her over small things.But then in the summer she started a huge fight because my mom didnt let me go over to her house again.So ever since then she has been cursing at me calling me names and now shes trying to apologize for it all when just yesterday she was insulting me.I dont think I should take her back,should I?

Hey chica, people can change, but the question is do you think this girl has changed? If you think she has take her back as your friend. She may have done some growing up and she could be ready to be a real friend. Everyone deserves a second chance so I think you should take her back.

Lynae P.

catiebaby on 12/9/2009 7:40:40 PM

Mod-Mod-Mod!
One of my besties was I.M.ing me 2day and she told me she's crushing on my crush. The problem is, he has said literally only said 1 word to her, and that was only because I was around and talking 2 both of them! She only likes him because he's cute! Then, to make it worse, she started begging me 2 introduce her 2 my crush! Should I be mad, or is this no big deal? Also, should I introduce them or not?

Hey Chica, Never choose a guy over your friends! Girls need to stick together! If you both like him, the chance that he may like one of you is not worth losing your BFF over. You don't need to introduce them.. if she really likes him, she'll find a way to meet him!

claudia n.

flautist7 on 11/27/2009 2:12:51 AM

My friend is a total player, I've heard that she thinks I'm 'Little Miss perfect' and I get everything I want and that I've got the perfect life. So now she's acting all cool and trying to get a bunch of friends that she just leads on, including this girl that was my friend first. I just hope she knows I'm gonna break her stride soon, cause all her friends are gonna trash her! All of her little deeds are gonna come back and bite her in the butt, but thats what happens when you mess with me, darling!
-H-

CountryCutie4 on 11/25/2009 2:12:01 PM

ugh, if i were you i'd be really careful about it.

emygirl11 on 11/23/2009 1:46:34 PM

No, you shouldn't forgive her.

sixteengirl93 on 11/21/2009 11:33:30 AM

MODDDDD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Ok so my BFF hangs out with the populars at praties and stuff and acts like she doesn't know me. But then the next day she calls and talks to me like nothing happened. I have talked to her about it before but now she is doing it again! I need help on what I should say to her. Also she is always putting me/my family down, even my mom noticed; every time she eats at my house she comments on how small out table is, and talks about how HER family does things. And worse than that she is always saying that she is soo busy but calls me every hour complaining that is is bored. Please help! Sorry it is long!

Hey babe, it sounds like your bff isn't acting too much like a bff right now. Maybe you can write her a letter and let her know how it feels when she ignores you. Also, you want your friends to build you up, not knock you down so maybe she doesn't realize how her comments sounds so let her know and hopefully things will change.

katelin s.

makeupx3 on 11/19/2009 9:15:36 PM

MOD*!*!*!*!*!*!*!*! so, my enemy is stealing my BFF. my BFF wont even listen to my side of the story but she said she still wants to be friends with me after insulting me on the same email! Plus, my enemy is being nice to me in front of my BFF but when we r away, she is nasty to me, and is just so whiney. I guess i sound whiny too, but yeah.... THANK YOU!

Hey girl! Well, it's good that you tried talking it out with your BFF. Try telling her how you feel again. Then, watch out for opportunities to find a few new girl friends. It might be a good chance for you to branch out. It might be scary but it could be really worth it in the end. Your BFF will have to make her own choices about friends!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

☮Bubbly☮ on 11/19/2009 9:42:28 AM

MOD MOD MOD MOD! there is this boy that me and my bff know and first he said he likes me. the he tells her he REALLY likes her. she then tells me that he said he didnt tell me he liked me. now she says he lies to me!!!!!!! thank goodness he has a gf so niether of us will be jealous, but i wonder is my bff is just rubbing lies in my face?????????who is he lying to??????

Hey girl! Hard to tell from this. But, I don't think a boy who turns BFF's agains each other is worth it. Try talking it out with you girl and see what goes down!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

haileygirl2105 on 11/17/2009 8:01:42 PM

That's note cool

[xganzxalleinx] on 11/17/2009 6:23:29 PM

Gee, that sucks! but good advice, i mean u never know maybe she's still the same old girl as before

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SportyGal on 11/16/2009 8:07:24 AM

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