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zeus11 on 11/29/2009 9:47:58 PM

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so there's this guy that i am going out with. everyone at school knows and we're officially "together". i go to a really small school so everyone always knows everyone else's business. we've been going out for 2 weeks and he still hasnt kissed me or anything because he's kinda shy about the whole physical thing since im his first girlfriend. but because of it, everyone at school makes fun of us and makes awkward comments in front of us about how we havent "hooked up" yet. i feel really bad for him because of all the pressure, but i also wish he'd just kind of take the hint. i dont know what to do because i REALLY like him but i dont want to like scare him or anything by kissing him myself :S what should i do?

Hey girl! I know it may be scary, but if you really like him and want to kiss him,you should go for it. He's shy and doesn't want to get turned down by you. He's probably just worried of getting rejected and feeling down on himself. If you initiate and make the first move,it will take the pressure off of him, and he'll be happy you did it! Just don't tell everyone that you're the one making the first move, because that may make him feel worse about being shy.

Megan R.

heather_feather457 on 11/29/2009 8:21:06 PM

If i were you i would tell him exactly how i feel and if you tell him he might understand how you feel.GOOD LUCK TELLING HIM!

twilightfan554 on 11/29/2009 1:26:57 PM

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boys like me, but only creeper, stalker-like, wired boys and i feel bad if i am mean to then.
y wont normal boys like me?
thanks.

Hey girl! I am not sure..maybe you should talk and flirt with different guys and then see what happens.

soccerismylife15 on 11/28/2009 3:56:04 PM

Mod mod mod mod So I go to a private school with 22 other kids. So there are very few kids... since March 12 I have liked this guy named Aron. But when I actually started going to the school I learned he was a player. so I now like this guy named Randy.but randy is kinda..mean. I've liked him for 3 months and he's just rude. Whenever I create coversation he just nods. But every once in awhile we'll flirt and everyone tells me he likes me. Everyone is telling me that Aron and Randy and my bgf Chandler likes me. Chandler is sweet but only to me. So what should I do? I've talked to randy about us and he says he likes me too but I don't know where to go from there. He says if we go out that he'll be nicer and treat me how I deserve to be treated. But chandler already treats me so nice and I kinda like him too. But I have a rep of being "hot" and some of the guys admitted that I'm liked because I'm the only black student and I have "curves for days" which kind of creeps me out because they are seniors. Hardly any guys my age like me. And I'm only in the eighth grade Erin

Hey girl, trust your instincts. If you get the feeling a guy is interested just because you're hot and curvy, be careful. Since you're looking for an actual relationship, you shouldn't expect one from a guy who's just into you for your looks. (And yeah, if someone told me I haf "curves for days," I'd be kinda creeped out too.) Randy may say he'll treat you better if you go out, but there's really no reason he should be treating you poorly now. A relationship will never work if he doesn't respect you. If you're liking a few diff guys, hold off on the relationship a bit. That way, you have time to sort out what you want, so you can be completely devoted to your future relationship. Best, Kristen <3

Kristen Y.

erinrox4eva on 11/28/2009 3:25:02 AM

Hey mod mod mod - how can youu get a guy who youu practically see everyday at school to notice youu and come up and talk to youu ? but you've never talked to him before . . ? and he's really cute & youu have a crush on him ? [ by youu, I mean I ] ;)

Hey girly, check out this post on catching a guy's eye: http://www.girlslife.com/post/2009/09/03/flirt-school-crush.aspx. There are some tips to subtle flirting and getting his attention. Don't feel like you need to wait for him to come talk to you. Be bold! Take the initiative to strike up a convo with him. You've got nothing to lose! Best, Kristen <3

Kristen Y.

-hisfavoritegirl<3 on 11/28/2009 1:39:11 AM

Mod mod mod i am an atheist. I always get in to arguments with people at my school, almost everyday. Sometimes i like it and it is fun to express my opinion, but sometimes it goes waaay to far. I am also a libral, prochoice vegetarian, so i have many topics that can be disputed, but atheism is the main one. Are there any resources that i could use to help me stay true to myself and support me?

Hey girly, the only resource you need to stay true to yourself is yourself. As long as you believe what you believe that's all that matters. You don't need any written doucment to prove what you believe is right, all you need is your heart and mind. So keep on expressing yourself chica!

Lynae P.

Soccaqueen16 on 11/28/2009 12:56:47 AM

MODDD!!! I want to send a question to GL to be answered but when I click the link to send one my computer gives me a message saying Outlook (the default email on my computer, even though I use gmail) isnt set up right, so I have no way of sending in a question. can I just get the email address and do it manually instead? I can't find the email address so i decided to ask. THANKS A MILLION!!

Hey chica, yup you can send it manually. Just click Contact Us at the top of the page and hit general inquiry and send in your question.

Lynae P.

emmers365 on 11/27/2009 11:37:58 PM

MOD! okay so there is this guy that i REALLY like. i'm in 9th grade, and so is he. we met about 2 months ago and ended up talking for 2 hours! I've been becoming better friends with him and every one of my friends says that they're positive he likes me too. But there are a couple of problems: 1. almost EVERYONE has liked him. and when i say everyone, i'm not being dramatic. at least 10 of my close friends have liked him and each of them knows someone who has liked him too. i'm afraid that since he's had so many girls like him he'll compare me to the other girls...eek! 2. he was in a really really bad relationship a few years ago and hasn't liked or dated anyone since. we're basically EXACTLY the same, and we get along perfectly. how do i show him that i wouldn't hurt him like the other girl did and that i'm different from the other girls he's liked? sorry this is so long, i'm just stuck!

Hey gal, the first thing to do is to be yourself. That is what has attracted him to you, so don't change who you are. Be sure that you really listen to him when you guys talk, that way you can get a sense of what type of things he likes in a girl and relationship. When you guys hang out, go to cool fun place where you can really have fun. He'll remember you as the girl he had the most fun with. Just be friendly and sincere and he'll see you're the right girl for him.

Lynae P.

frappuccinofreak on 11/27/2009 10:49:36 PM

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There's this boy who's really sweet to me and we've known each other forever, and he said I was his best friend. He's said 'I love you' and we'd e-mail and text for hours on end. But now he hasn't been e-mailing me as much and he hasn't said he loves me in weeks. I know that he's a busy guy but it drives me crazy. I'm afraid i said something wrong.
I'm probably overreacting, but you got any advice?

Hey babe,

send him a message to let him know that you're thinking of him but try not to be too needy. If he feels like you're pressuring him he might back off further but it might make him miss you to know you're thinking about him.

xoxo Allie

Allie S.

Stargurl on 11/27/2009 6:58:22 PM

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I like this guy but I don't know how to respond to him when he talks to me. He says stuff like "Hey babe" or "your very attractive" like everyday!!!! It's really weird how he says that but I just don't know what to say back. What should I say?

Hey babe, just be flirtatious back and giggle and say thank you. Return the comment if you want, too!

katelin s.

kittencat445 on 11/26/2009 9:01:11 PM

MOD- thank you Liz!
There is this guy I like who is one year older than me. I think he likes me but I'm not sure. Yesterday when I got to skool he got there at the same time and he walked to his calss right behind me... Later, I was singing in choir at church and my BFF told me he was staring at me the whole time. After that (some of us have to cross the street to get to our cars) he was crossing the street at the same time and my car was right next to his and I think he saw me walking to my car and he left his friends and lil sis to go sit in the car next to me and wait unitl his bro got our of high school. Btw he is in 8th grade and i am in 7th. Do you think he likes me?

Hey girl! I don't know. Strike up a convo with him and flirt with him a little bit, and if he's receptive, then he might like you. You won't know until you talk to him a little bit.

vbgirl4life97 on 11/26/2009 4:16:48 PM

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ok, so my guy friend who used to like me said he liked my two best friends (i honestly couldnt care any less) and he chose to ask out friend 1 because friend 2 already likes somebody else. now, friend 2 and i know that he can be a little... naughty. and we also think that friend 1 only agreeed to go out with him because she cant say no. we're worried that he might try and take advantage of her... what should we do?

It's important to be honest with herself. She needs to learn how to say "no" and encourage her not to do anything she doesn't want to do. Guys might pressure her to do stuff, and it's important she learns how to say no.

xoxo

fun-sized<3 on 11/26/2009 3:57:21 PM

MOD-how old are mods??? Just curious. You don't have to tell me...

Hey girl! We range in age from 18- to 20something.

vbgirl4life97 on 11/26/2009 3:57:12 PM

MOD! ok me and my bf have only been going out for a few days. He is always saying "i love you" and he calls me babe and baby. his cell signiture is i love (my name). do u think its going wayyy to fast? thanks a bunch!

Hey girl! Sounds a little fast but you don't have to respond if you think it is. You can just smile and be grateful he likes you so much. See how it goes over the next few days and take note of what happens!

-Taeler

bubbagirl on 11/26/2009 11:35:41 AM

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My bf is really shy and doesn't talk to me in person. But he texts me ALL the time. I think hes really cute but how can there be a relationship if he doesn't even talk to me? Also one of my BGFs has a crush on me. He always invites me over to his house, and when I'm there, he hits on me. Idk what to do, and when i say that i have a bf, he says that my bf doesn't deserve me and try's to get me to break up my my bf, so we could "make out". IDK what to do, because i really like my bf, but i have feelings for my BGF! HELP!!!

Hey girl, I know it may be hard but you need to talk to your BF about what's going on between the two of you. Tell him just that: you think he's great but you can't have a relationship with him if he doesn't talk to you. Set the BGF aside for now and tell him that you like him as a friend but only that: you're in a relationship and he needs to respect it. And if he doesn't? Keep your distance for now.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

creampuff123 on 11/25/2009 11:04:24 PM

hey don't do it even if he tries to tell you things to convince you don't give in.He will probably tell all his friends and the word will spread at school about what you did with him and after he gets what he wants he will break up cause he got it and that's not worth it.If he doesn't understand break up with him and find someone who does understand you and wont pressure you.

ekirsc1 on 11/25/2009 9:28:30 PM

I need advice!
Hey guys please post your response on my profile.

Okay, so in a nutshell, guys don't like me. I am 15. Sophomore in High School. My school is small, but there are plenty of potential BF's. The problem is, only geeky guys that I have NOTHING in common with like me, and some guys that are nice and cute and down to earth and real don't like me. I've tried a lot of different things, like wearing makeup, wearing cute clothes and smiling and talking a lot. But I have glasses and braces. Some people tell me Im pretty, but I know I would be prettier without them. (I can get contacts but they freak me out, and I can't do anything about my braces, of course) But what can I do to get guys to notice me? So many girls complain about their BFs but I can't even GET a BF. Believe me, if a guy i like liked me back, I wouldn't complain about a thing. Plz help!!

<3 Please post response of my profile. thanks!

hollywoodhorse on 11/25/2009 6:51:28 PM

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Hey! How come my profile won't show up? I unchecked the box that said keep profile private but idk what's wrong... Thank you <3

Hey girl, your profile just has to be moderated/approved by a GL mod. Check back in a day or so.

xoxo

Alyssa B.

vbgirl4life97 on 11/25/2009 5:55:06 PM

Thanks Eryn G. that helps a lot! (I am pretty sure you've helped me out before too) Thanks a ton, you rock!

dancer.eag on 11/25/2009 5:08:04 PM

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I think my bf is going to break up with me and my bgf will be the one picking up the pieces but i dont wanna hurt him cuz he likes me and i think we will end up goin out soon

Hey girl! Well, don't let your bgf pick up the pieces. Pick 'em up yourself and get over your bf. If you think your bf is going to dump you, dump him first. Just my opinion.

xoxo

LJSOCCER12 on 11/25/2009 4:49:40 PM

Hey, Don't let him pressure you into anything you don't want to do. He should totally respect how you feel about this stuff!

Confessions_from_Luna on 11/25/2009 4:09:36 PM

hey girls!
come join christiangirlsclub for all things christian and great advice!
hope to see you there!!!!

xoxo

christiangirlsclub on 11/25/2009 3:56:04 PM

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My crush and I were talking about hands today and he said his were small, and i said mine are big so he put his hand up against mine. I really really felt like there was something there, not just friend energy. He has a girlfriend and she always calls his name and he never answers...I really think he likes me because he always says "Olivia look!" and he says. "Yo my man." to this kid and they have a handshake. and im all, "Bill!" And I laugh...
P.S. Bill is the guy I always mod you guys about.

Hey girl! I don't know. There very well could be some connection between you and him, but there's not much you can do until his gf and him break up. JUst be a good friend and stick around. Who knows where you might end up!

xoxo

Smileygirl86 on 11/25/2009 3:44:05 PM

Tell him that! If he really gives a crap about you he will understand!

xoSimplyNicolexo on 11/25/2009 3:17:03 PM

Tell him that! If he really gives a crap about you he will understand!

xoSimplyNicolexo on 11/25/2009 3:16:59 PM

MOD but i am desperate for this guy i need him (this is reply from my last coment)

Hey girl! You arent desperate! Just know there are a ton of guys out there. Not just him!

xoxo

prinkelly on 11/25/2009 2:37:52 PM

MOD i have this crush on my neighbor since i was three now i am 16 and he likes someone but i have been wanting to date him since i knew what dating meant!!!!!!!!!! help plz!!!

Hey girl! There's not much you can do if he likes someone else. Just let him know you are available, be a little bit flirty and wait it out.

xoxo

Liz

prinkelly on 11/25/2009 2:35:20 PM

MODMOD MOD MOD MOD MOD i need help my crush which i have been crushing on since i was three and now i am thirteen i have always loved him as a brother but i badly want to go out with him but he likes someone else what do i do

Hey girl! There's not much you can do if he likes someone else. Be a little flirty with him to let him know you are interested, but be on the lookout for other possible crushes.

xxoo

prinkelly on 11/25/2009 2:29:42 PM

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i have a major prob.....my crush's bff, my bgf, told me my crush's aim. i added him nd i imd him. he asked how i got it nd i told him. he said he was on the phone with his bff nd his bff said he didnt, now my crush thinks im a stalker. i told him a few times but he still thinks im one. HELP!!
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Hey girl! Just don't talk to him for a few days and let it blow over. I'm sure everything will work out.

xoxo

Liz

disneygirl0579 on 11/25/2009 12:59:19 PM

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the prob is i have gone out with my bgf before and he kinda has a reputation for changin his mind about girls quickly. but my bf is like bipolar! one minute he will be all lovey dovey and then the next he will be mad at me for something i didnt even do! my bgf is straight out with me and tells me the truth...... and to make matters even worse.. THEY ARE BEST FRIENDS!!! help! please and thank you!

Hey girl! I don't know what you want to do. If you want to be with your bgf, be with him. If you want to stay with your bf, then stay with him. If you don't want to be with either, then don't be.

xoxo

Liz

LJSOCCER12 on 11/25/2009 12:41:38 PM

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, Ellie

DayDreamer66 on 11/25/2009 12:40:22 PM

ok i hav this guy friend and i lik him(sorta)and we always hang out and my bff has startd calln him my bf and hes not and my other bff's bf has askd my guy friend if we wood ever date my guy friend said no way so i said the same thing i dont want im 2 no that ilik him should i just come out and say i lik even if he does lik another girl that goes 2 another school and i realli dont want 2 get hurt if he doesnt lik me bac wat do i do

twilightgirl1996 on 11/25/2009 9:10:53 AM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD ANSWER SOON My crush asked my friend if i liked him and she said no (b/c she is not trustworthy, i didn't tell her i like him b/c she dated him). he said uhhhhhhhhh. she texted me this so i said does he like me? and she was all no actually he was all idc. she is a littlebit of a liar.

Hey girl! Hmm..tricky. I would talk to him directly to avoid any confusion. Try to be trusting of your gal but def go your own way on this one. Talk to your crush and see what went down for yourself!

-Taeler

Smileygirl86 on 11/24/2009 8:58:26 PM

my bff used to like my bfg and now he is dating someone else and they have liked one anther forever but sence she is dating someone she thought she might as well move on she found a new girl that we both approve of but i think she is just trying to bolt him out of her life to stop being depressed help

oochoo on 11/24/2009 8:27:06 PM

My boyfriend and i kissed at an amusement park a week ago and i told my closest friends and so did he but now everyone at my school knows. I dont want to take the kiss back but i am tired of everyone talking about it, i could just scream.

xXCali XXGirlXx on 11/24/2009 7:47:40 PM

MOD!!!! I am a freshmen and my art class is mainly sophmores and junoirs. This junior guy seems to be flirting with me alot. My other girl friends at the table seem to like him too. I go to a Catholic high school and dating someone 2 years older would be kinda scandlous. I'm the type who is "square" I kinda like him, but am worried about what everyone will think of me. I'm also worried i'm not expirenced enough to go out with someone older. (i've only dated one guy) Please help i need someones opinion!

Hey girl! You shouldn't worry about what anyone would think. If you like him, go for it! As far as experience goes, just be confident but don't go any farther than what you are comfy with!

-Taeler

bianca1995 on 11/24/2009 6:44:32 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD okay so this is ganna be long (sorry!) i have an AWESOME boyfriend! he is the best and i love him! but my best guy friend told my best girl friend that he likes me and i think i might like him a lil bit too! i tell him everything and we r really tight so i dont want him to get hurt but i dont wanna hurt my bf eitherr! ahhh helpp pleasee!! :/ thanxx so much!

Hey girl! You should def figure out who you like more. You will be better able to make a decision then. Figure it out soon though, you don't want to hurt anyone's feelings!

-Taeler

LJSOCCER12 on 11/24/2009 6:26:19 PM

MOD MOD MOD !!!!!! so theres this guy i like, and he might like me, but idk. we talk and we r sorta frends,,, and i wanna flirt with him, but im sorta normal around him like not flirt-ish. i dont wanna make it 2 obvious and like him, or make him think, "what is rong with her 2day?" or sumthing. also, if he doesnt like me, how can i get him 2 like me??? shud i like flirt a little and thn gradually flirt more???? thnks! and sorry i typed so much! ~*G*~

Hey girl! Just try talking to him more! I think your idea about gradually flirting more is great! Take it slow and get to know him!

-Taeler

livelaughlove4eva23 on 11/24/2009 6:22:03 PM

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okay, so there are these shoes i want that cost like 160 and i dont know how to ask my mom for them. how do i bring it up. for my b day or xmas or something she usually gets us expensive stuff but i still feel weird about it. how do i ask?

Hey girl! You can ask your mom for them for xmas, just ask her nicely.

bobbert1230 on 11/24/2009 4:22:47 PM

Hey girl! You could just show them to her and tell her nicely that you really want them for xmas.

bobbert1230 on 11/24/2009 4:15:16 PM

i feel really dumb saying this, but what does mod stand for?

kayla77 on 11/24/2009 2:19:24 PM

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K so, my bgf, who used to like me and I used to like him, asked me to the first dance and I said yes. The night before the dance he told me asked someone else, so then we were strictly just friends. I haven't completely gotten over him and now he asked one of our best friends to the NEXT dance. I am really happy for them cause now THEY both like eachother and I see how excited they are, but it really hurts me at the same time. I don't know how to cope with them always talking about it.... Help please! <3

Hey girl! Its good that you are happy for them, I know that it can be hard to watch. Maybe spend some time away from them and spend some time with your other friends while your heart mends.

dancer.eag on 11/24/2009 1:22:59 PM

modmodmodmod ok i liked this guy and we started talkin and he was soo sweet like my sister told him i liked to take charge and he was like oh that could but a prob cause i like to take charge but if it means losing her i guess i can take the lead and stuff like that and we talked for a week and then one friday night we was talkin and he was talkin like we wanted us to date and we were textin and he was textin some of his girl friends and one of them was a girl he like a long time ago and then sat he texted me and was like i really like u and ur vary pretty but i dont have time for a girlfriend but i want to be friends but now he wont talk to me i think the girl he liked started flirting with him and he started liking her again but i REALLY liked him how can i get over him???? thanks

Hey girl! If you want to get over him it might not
be a good idea to stay friends with himat first because you would see
him a lot.You might want to take some time away from him so that you
get over him.