I'm scared of my anger. I'm usually a friendly, mellow, and smart girl. But when I get mad, it's like I just freak out. I don't know what to do or who to turn to because it feels too weird to talk to my mom about it. I turn red, I start to growl, and I can't control it.
I almost never get physical, but I know that I can't contain myself much longer. It feels like I'm not the girl that my parents or even I know! I'm scared...Please HELP ME!
Hey girl! Everyone gets angry every once and in a while. Some people react by keeping it bottled up, some yell, some hit things or slam doors. Some take it on little siblings or friends. Anger's totally normal...until it gets TOO too out-of-control. But, you can learn how to get a handle on this sitch.
It's all about control
When you feel yourself getting mad, take a deep breath and count to 10 in your head with your eyes closed. This will get you settled back into a semi-calm state so that you don’t blow up. Your face might turn red still (mine does too, so no worries!) but you should be able to control your huge freak-out.
Figure your triggers
Whether it’s getting made fun of, a bad grade, or a particular person, some stuff just makes us angrier than usual. Learning what makes you mad will help you control your emotions. If you get mad at your little brother for playing video games, stay away from him while he’s doing that so you don’t get mad.
Solve the problem
If you can resolve the sitches that make you freak out, then there won’t be any reason to blow up. Let’s say you get mad because your sister hogs the TV. Come to an agreement that she can watch when her fave show comes on between 5 and 7 p.m.. Then, after that, you get the remote from 7 to 9 o'clock. Problem solved! No more fighting.
Do your body good
Sometimes if you treat your body poorly you're more likely to have mood swings. Regular exercise can help keep the anger away since it raises your endorphins (that's feel good stuff, FYI!). Eating right can keep you happy and healthy as well, which will give you less severe blow-ups.
Remember, anger is normal, but you need to learn how to control it. By relaxing and thinking about things that make you happy while you feel a freak-out coming on, you can learn to control it and maintain your cool.
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POSTED ON 1/4/2010 7:00:00 AM