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The Problem is Me!

I secretly want to be a singer

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Secretly, I really want to be a singer (or at least sing well).

The problem is that I am pretty sure I don't have even an ounce of talent. I can't join my school's choir. Help please?

Hey girl,

Wow, that is such an awesome goal! I’m impressed by your ambitions and absolutely think you can go for your dreams. You know what they say. “Reach for the moon, and you’ll fall among the stars.”

Motivate your mind

It’s tough to think big when you have insecurities in the way. There’s a reason dreams are called “dreams,” – because we cook 'em up in our heads and hope they'll become reality. Transform your dreams into real-life by saying "yes, I can” instead of "no, I can’t.” You say, you're "pretty sure" you don't have even an ounce of talent, but how do you know until you try? Test things out first and then you can decide if you're destined for the your own album.

Talent is taught

Amazing songstresses (think Taylor Swift!) wouldn’t be so amazing if it weren’t for a little coaching from their voice teachers. Sure, they have natural talent, but to be truly good at something you have to work at it and learn from mentors (and your own mistakes!). I bet that there is more than just an ounce of musical talent in you. You just have to find where it’s stored – and an instructor will help you unlock it and sing it to the world!

Sing your own song

Voice lessons can be expensive. But that doesn’t mean you can’t still sing! Practice as much as you can on your own. Look up the lyrics to your favorite songs and belt it out. Try to match your voice to the tune of the artist. It’s great practice for when you do audition for your school’s choir (which you absolutely should!), or to show your parents how interested you are in taking voice lessons someday.

If Taylor could give you any advice, I’m sure she’d say the same thing. Sing your own song, and you will find the path that’s destined for you! And hey, if singing doesn't work out, keep up that "can do" 'tude--it'll come in handy anywhere!

Xoxo,

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snowman1997 on 3/8/2010 11:51:47 AM

I don't want to be a singer, I'm going to be a singer.

snowman1997 on 3/8/2010 11:34:23 AM

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i found out today that my friends parents are watching her aim account. my mom told me this and i dont know if i should tell my friend. it feels like they dont trust her enough to act responsibly online which she totally does. help?!?!!? thx!!!
I know it must feel weird if you friends parents are watching her and I bet you aren't sure what to do but you shouldn't tell her but you should talk to her parents and say that you know she is appropriate and safe online. If they have someone reassure them she is good then maybe they will stop but dont push them they are just trying to do what is right for her

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pbjrocks7 on 2/10/2010 4:22:04 PM

Mod!!!!! I have a wonderful voice. I have been told many times that I should go on American Idol when I am old enough. Earlier this week I performed "Everytime You Lie" bye Demi Lovato at my school talent show. I was told a few times that my voice was better than Demi's was on her CD! Plus the music wasn't working so I had to sing acapella! I write my own original songs and I love to perform, but there is a problem. My parents don't want me to sing! They say that I am too young. (I will be 14 on Valentine's Day) They say that I can when I move out of the house. I wish they were supportive. I really think that becoming a singer songwriter is my future. Help?!

Hey babes, unfortunately you need your parents support, emotionally and monetarily to get you to superstardom. Its awesome that you have talent, I wish I could sing. In the mean time take voice lessons, participate in school musicals or join a children's choir. Do the things that will give you great practice and exposure to the music world. Once you are cultivated, maybe your parents will be more into helping you make your dreams a reality. xo JANA

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MusicStarr14 on 2/6/2010 9:40:40 PM

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I have the same problem. I write lyrics and I've had signed recording artists read them. (and they've said they're amazing) I know I have a "nice" voice and music is literally everything to me. I dream of performing and recording... But my parents don't want that for me. They discourage me to sing (and write). They say it's not realistic... What should I do? I feel really bad...

Well it may be unrealistic, but if youre passionate about it then you should pursue it! Just in case i suggest you have a back up plan though. Just find something you really like that is more practical that will satisfy your parents. Also one way to prove yourself to your parents is to let them see how talented you are. Show them your songs and show youre amazing talent. Theyll be proud good luck! xoxo kerra

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chellie-bellie on 2/6/2010 12:20:39 AM

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I secretly want to be a singer too! The problem is that Im too scared to sing in front of anyone and I even get embarrassed if my sister or mom hear me singing when I think Im alone. From what I hear I sound good, but I refuse to sing in front of people until I have voice lessons and feel comfortable with it. I hate being in front of crowds but I fantasize about performing concerts and having a band. Also, I hate my voice (talking) when I hear it in videos so I even try not to talk in them. It hurts my self esteem because Im jealous of some of my friends and celebrities like Selena Gomez and Hayley Williams who have pretty voices. Sorry this is so long, but do you have any advise to help me with all this? If so it would be greatly appreciated ! Thanks

Well i suggest you get voice lessons to become more confident in yourself. Do whatever you can to build your confidence in your singing and everything else will work itself out. xoxo kerra

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i<3colesprouse on 2/3/2010 6:54:57 PM

i think that you should show your talent because when my grade had a play i had never sang infront of eney one and they all liked my voice so i got the best singing part and the boy best sing part is my bf so i think you should give it your best sout i mean if you want to but i think that you should.

stephanie512000 on 2/2/2010 10:03:17 AM

i can sing but im scared peopel will make fun of me

prettygirl188 on 1/31/2010 11:08:50 PM

Girl, you HAVE the skill! Music's a rough business, but its fun and you should go for it! Don't let other girls get you down, everyone as their own unique sound, and it could just be a hit! Keep working hard, and we'll all be buying your songs one day!

angelfood123 on 1/29/2010 7:20:16 PM

i think you should get lessons, but remember singing isn't for everyone and some people just don't have it. take american idol for example, lot's of people would love to have good voices, but the truth is they don't. that doesn't mean if your not the great you can't be in a choir or sing kareoke with your friends! if you like it, do it, but maybe just not for your job.

shopper_babe on 1/28/2010 5:51:46 PM

mod MOD mod MOD mod this is really important! please help!! ok so yesterday my friend zach txted me. my parents have never really trusted me too much, and when i saved him as a contact, i put in a fake name. well my mom knew i was lying when she asked who that person was. now she's really upset because she thinks i'm being sneaky and because i lied to her face. i feel really bad, but i did it because i didn't want them to think anything was going on with me and zach, cuz there isn't. and well, she's going to tell my dad, and i feel horrible. i explained why i did it, and apologized. but she's like "you know what, i hear that all the time, like the boy who cried wolf" and i just don't know what to do....

Hey girl!

I def see why you did it, we all do that sometimes. But really you should never lie to your parents-- they have all been-there and done-that!! By trying to hide it, you made it look more suspicious. You should start being more open with your mom, that way she will have more trust with you when it comes to boys. The worst thing is to hide it or lie, especially when there's nothing there. Apologize to your mom again, and tell her you are ready to be honest with her because you have nothing to hide-- then follow through with what you say!! <3 Your Mod Babes

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penguins4emi on 1/28/2010 10:55:46 AM

Awesome advice, Taylor Swift is my idol, I play guitar but my singing sucks check out my profile,I love giving advice

Kenzfijigirl7610 on 1/27/2010 9:13:56 PM

MOD MOD MOD! I like to sing. wait, let me take that back....i love to sing. i also dance and act. i tried out for our school musical last year and got a lead. i tried out this year and i'm a dancer. should i quit? i really wanted to be a lead this year because this is the year i leave middle school and i wanted a big finale. but i guess not. what should i do? thanks.

Hey girlfriend, you should still do the show. There are no small parts only small actors, so command that stage with your hot dance moves! And think how awesome doing High School Musical again will be!

Lynae P.

lolaney on 1/27/2010 4:05:17 PM

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kakiya on 1/26/2010 9:56:19 PM

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ok, so i already really love to sing. i idolize taylor swift because she writes all of her songs by herself, and i want to get into songwriting too. the only problem is that i have no idea what to write about! i've never had a a real relationship before, although i do have a crush that i really like. i just don't know how i should put it into music, and if there is anything else i can write about besides crushes and boyfriends. if you have any advice or ideas, i would realy appreciate it! thank you!

Hey babe! Just because you haven't had a relationship before does NOT mean you can't write really good songs! The key is to just write about what you're passionate about. Write about what you love and what you hate. Write about your world and your experiences! Good luck!

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singer14 on 1/26/2010 6:26:19 PM

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i really want to learn extreme sports such as surfing, skateboarding, or BMX, but my parents think im going to kill myself or something. my dad was thinking about letting me get a surfboard but idk.... any ideas to convince them?

Hey babe! The best way to try is to talk with them one-on-one. Wait til things are relaxed, you're calm, and they're in good moods. Let them know you are VERY interested in trying ____ (pick one extreme sport), you could research it online, showing your parents the facts and how it really isn't that dangerous if you take pre-cautions. Let them know you want to experience the world and you feel restricted and limited. Hopefully they'll see your side and hear you out! Good luck!

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RaceAgainstTheMachine on 1/26/2010 6:19:10 PM

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My sister doesn't like it when i sing. wat should i do?

Hey girl! Continue to sing, just don't do it around her if it annoys her. You could try singing in the shower and singing in front of other people instead!

Megan R.

winneconnerocks on 1/26/2010 5:45:45 PM

I am gonna be a singer so when u hear the name Abbey, that is me!

winneconnerocks on 1/26/2010 5:41:01 PM

If it's what you feel passionate about then go for it! I want to do the same thing... it's easier said than done, for sure, but if you don't share what you have than you'll never know!

hyperpuppy on 1/26/2010 3:59:29 PM

MODERATOR!!!!!!!!!!! I was asking a guy about what we did in science on Friday. Then a rude girl was muttering flirting, flirting, flirting, flirting under her breath. When the guy answered me, the brat was like,"LOOK AT THAT!!!!" while pointing at us. That really hurt my feelings and I was very embarassed. After that, I heard her say to one of her friends,"If Madison puts her hands on him, I'm going to beat her up and make her life a nightmare!" She's been rude to me before. I give people chances, I'm nice to people, but she's just SO rude to me! Does this sound like bullying? I've been told that I'm the nicest girl in my class and little things don't bother me. But all those little things that brat has done to me got me SO depressed and I've been thinking about suicide! What should I do?

Hey Madison,

Don't let one girl get you down. It's not worth it to contemplate suicide because that just means that she wins. I bet she has a thing for the guy that you like, so she's trying to embarrass you in front of him. Or she's jealous of you and your friends and has picked you as a target. Try not to let it get to you and approach her if you need to because there is no reason for her to be mean to you.

xoxo Keltie

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iloverocknroll on 1/25/2010 9:58:22 PM

everyone starts out at the basic level. in the 6th grade i had a horrible voice, it was very quiet and no vowels. after practicing so hard, this year (i'm in the 8th now) i won best performance which only 28 people get out of hundreds of choir students. if you practice every day, you will get better. it isn't a natural born talent, i worked very hard to earn this. i wish more people knew that no one starts out perfect.

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jojoyce_27 on 1/25/2010 9:33:05 PM

Hey chicas!!!!!!!! I'm a really good singer (i'm not bragging!!!) and I could give help to those who want it! I'm actually joining a theater group and I'm going to have a album out next year!!!!!!!!!!!!!
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Purpleboo on 1/25/2010 9:23:57 PM

ever since i started taking voive lessons i got soooo much better.
they are worth it! wellif you got a great teacher

winterlover1 on 1/25/2010 9:16:23 PM

hey i wish u the best luck!!
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Hey babe, Talk to some of the girls that run clubs. We don't run those so they're really the only experts! As for ideas, think about clubs that you want to be in that you wish were already on GL. Other girls will probably feel the same way!

xoxo Allie

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rightfield1 on 1/25/2010 7:09:51 PM

i sing in a band! Its sooo much fun!

Kristin95 on 1/25/2010 7:09:01 PM

You should get voice lessons from your choir teacher. It would totally boost your confidence!

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God Bless!

Abriella123 on 1/25/2010 6:20:11 PM

Totally the same with me! What I'm doing is practicing more and more and more. My parents don't even know that I'd like to pursue a career in singing

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pearlnagem on 1/25/2010 4:49:55 PM

Hey, good luck!!

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soccergirl524 on 1/25/2010 4:30:03 PM

that TOTALLY describes me!

musicgirl<3 on 1/25/2010 4:30:00 PM

omg i've got a silmilar-ish music related problem. i play the guitar, cello, and sing, but i can't find anyone to be in a band with me!!

smileysevvie on 1/25/2010 4:23:37 PM

i want to be a singer too!!!!

FF5Rox101 on 1/25/2010 4:18:20 PM

MOD Hey Gabbrielle!! Are you new to GL? lol, I have a friend named Gabriella who goes by Gabby and I call her Gabbitha.

Hope ya like GL!

Hey, I sure am, its my first day! Its funny you say that, I usually go by Gabby and I have a friend that calls me Gabbitha too! haha Have a great day!

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Official Twilight Club on 1/25/2010 2:44:50 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!! i need your help!!!! im not alloud to wear bikinis and short shorts cuz i have boobs and reallllyyy long legs, but i hate tankinis and bermudas. is there a solution to my brob???? i have looked everywhere and i dont see anything that i like. :-( PLEASEEE HELP!!!!!! thanks your awesome!

Hey girl! If your parents will let you wear a bikini, there are TONS of different styles of tops if you're worried about feeling too exposed. As for shorts, shopping can be hard with long legs, but there are plenty of options that aren't too short or too long. You just have to look around and keep trying them one. Skirts are also great for the summer since they come in so many different styles and lengths.

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lokoyoko on 1/25/2010 1:46:45 PM

Official Twilight Club on 1/25/2010 11:13:32 AM

Hope you live up to your dreams

babygirl1999 on 1/25/2010 10:41:45 AM

hey girls! if you need help with anything check out the advice section of my profile (newly updated!!) and leave me a comment! i have lots of experience giving advice and would love to help you out! talk to you soon!
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hugatree95 on 1/25/2010 10:36:33 AM

cool, you're just like me,I love singing

purple_stars on 1/25/2010 10:36:21 AM

I wish you luck, I'm having trouble starting a band

prettyotter on 1/25/2010 9:16:44 AM

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