There's this new girl that came to school this year, and we became friends and had sleepovers. Last night, I had a sleepover with her. It was only the two of us, and we were playing Truth or Dare. She dared me to kiss her and I ended up doing it.
I feel really grossed out and guilty, but I can’t tell anyone. Help!
Hey girl!
Eek. This one's a whopper. Two of my gal pals kissed once and while one didn’t feel so bad about it the next day, the other felt incredibly guilty—just like you. But don’t fret! After just a little while, things went back to normal and now, they’re totally fine. I’m sure things will work out the same way for you.
Now talk it out
Communication is always key, so you def want to talk to your bestie about this. See how she feels about the smooch, and let her know that you’re having a li’l trouble on your end. If she’s awkward as well, it’s a perfect opp to talk about it. Chances are you’ll both feel SO much better afterwards. And if she’s not so stressed? Let her in on how you’re feelin’ anyway. If she knows you’re upset, she can prob help talk you through it or just listen if you need to vent.
Live in the present
As freaked out as you may be, what happened is in the past. Leave it there and focus on the present and the future instead. If you keep stressing about it, it’s not gonna do any good. It’ll only hold you back. Let it go and don’t be so hard on yourself!
And just for the record, kissing a girl doesn’t mean you’re gay. If you’re worried about it, the fact that you feel grossed out is a pretty sure sign that you’re not into girls in that way. Some gals at your age explore their sexuality, and that’s totally fine. That said, there's nothing wrong with being gay (it's totally normal!). If you feel like you made a mistake, you don’t ever have to do it again.
Friends come first
I know it’s a weird position to be in, but you shouldn’t let it get in the way of your friendship. Yeah, things will be kinda awk at first, but is it really worth losing a great friendship over a silly round of Truth or Dare? If you just let her know how you feel and be clear that it’s not gonna happen again, there’s no reason you can’t stay pals. Give it a li’l time, and you’ll be fine. I’m sure everything will work out in the end.
Good luck!
~Kristen Y. <3
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POSTED ON 1/27/2010 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN by bestie is spilling my secrets, sexuality