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I have been doing horrible things that involve peer pressure, and I’m not the best at following my own path.

I need help.

Most important is the desire to break the cycle. If you’ve been hanging with “friends” who pressure you into doing things that are bad for you, cut yourself off from these influences. It might be hard in the short-term, but consider the consequences if you don’t.

Confide in a parent, aunt or guidance counselor. You need someone you trust to help you get past this time in your life. You will feel so much better for it!

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peaceluvhappiness1226 on 2/9/2010 11:01:01 PM

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I need help to convince my BFF that guys claiming parts of HER body isn't funny. (We;re in eighth)
I spend breaks/lunches helping in the office, so she hangs out with her BF and some other guys. She told me that guys claimed parts of her body (her BF owns her chest, left leg, and lips, somebody owns the other leg, this guy own her arm...) And she thinks it's hilarious. Today some short six grade we don't even know came up and hugged her just so he could shove his face into her chest. And she didn't even do anything.
How can I convince her that it's stupid and rude to her?

Hey babe, Unfortunately, all you can do is tell her how you feel about it. It's her body so ultimately it's her decision, but I guarantee you she'll be embarrassed about it in a few years, if not sooner. It makes it look like she doesn't respect herself and I hope that's not true.

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MissAlicia on 2/9/2010 7:21:14 PM

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My brother is bigger than me and pushes me around a lot. He was really being mean, so I took his homework right in front of his eyes. Then today, he is yelling at me because HE forget to get it back. I know it's wrong to mess with schoolwork, but he wouldn't stop hurting me! And now the teacher is going to yell at me and maybe get me in trouble for it! But he started it, and I'm scared because I have never gotten a detention or referral. What if he tells her to give me one? what should I do? Please please help this is really upsetting me!

Hey babe ! It's okay. You probably won't get a detention or a referral. Stay confident, remember if you explain your side of the story calmly, the teacher will listen to you. You can explain why you did it in the first place,and that you're really sorry it effected your brother. If you apologize and are mature about it, you won't be punished as severely. Good luck, believe in yourself. Brothers can be pains sometimes, but it's good to be level-headed. You can do it!

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hey girl! the best tip is that you just do what the guy is doing. no i didn't practice and for my first kiss i had no idea what to do, but i just opened my lips a little bit and let him do eveyrthing! and i would pull away and peck his lips haha

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username#1 on 2/9/2010 3:40:12 PM

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My mom told me peer pressure has always been around and she gave me examples of how she felt pressured by friends to start doing things. She did say its just happening to us at a younger age then when she was a teen, but it was still the same things. Do you think that is true?
Like I feel I am not pressured by friends to do drugs but I am pressured to do other things. Do some people just pressure but dont realize what they are doing?

Hey darlin, it is definitely true! And I think kids are growing up faster these days and the issues you have to face are more serious than the issues your mom faced at your age. I remember when I was 13 the biggest issue was smoking, now its drugs and STDs and all sort of things I didnt even KNOW about back then. xo JANA

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sarahs advice :D on 2/7/2010 6:22:46 PM

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Okay My cousin has gotten into some really bad stuff lately and hangs out with the wrong friends.. one them is really bad and raped my best friend. Ive been freaking out ever since then cause his "friend" watches me now and gives me really wierd looks like "he wants me" type looks and follows me around and everytime Im around my cousin his "friend" asks for me. I am really freaking out. What if this gets worse? what if I get caught with him alone and he does rape me??! and My cousin wont care obviously... they are pot heads who only care about themselves... Im just really scared.. what do I do??!?!?! please help me. Please.. Im scared to go to school now.. its getting worse.

Hey girl!You need to talk to your cousin that you don't feel comfortable around these people. You don't have to hang out with them. You could always talk to an adult about any concerns.

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soccergirl524 on 2/7/2010 3:50:27 PM

It really is unfortunate that peer pressure has become so dominant among teens these days. Being a teen myself, I look towards my friends, and we make a lot of important decisions together. We know the consquences of a lot of things, and we know to make good choices.

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Sary on 2/7/2010 3:14:55 PM

MOD! I really need your help like asap. cuz i have no idea what to do.. alright so i am in high school and almost EVERY person in my grade have gone "all the way' or have done everything but it. (hopefully you know what i mean) and well i haven't really done anything.. i've had a bf before and we kissed but thats about all. and i really need advise if i should just start going at it with any guy or keep saving my 'first kiss' for that special someone?? I really need help. people bother me and make fun of me cuz i've like done nothing. they even have a nickname for me but im not gonna say what it is. It all just really bothers me.

please help mod!

thankks.

Hey girly, I know exactly what you mean. I'm graduating from high school this summer and everyone has "gone all the way". Even freshman! But it's important that you save your virginity, your first kiss, first dance, because you are special and you deserve someone special who will appreciate you. All of those people who have "gone all the way" didn't know how special they were. Losing your virginity is like unwrapping a present. No matter how many times you try to re-wrap it it's never the same, so remember that when you get tempted or people start teasing you. Hope this helps!

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I get easily stressed out when I have a lot of homework to do-- especially if it's hard. Sometimes I get to the point where I just break down and cry because it's all so stressful. What can I do to deal with this? Please Help!

Hi darlin, make a list and order it starting with things that you can finish quickly. Then face things one at a time. Dont look at the bigger picture, rather a segment of it. Crank that work off, cross it off and then move onto the next thing. Its much easier that way. xo JANA

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evercole95 on 2/6/2010 11:44:53 PM

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i have had 5 boyfriends (but, only 3 of them were REAL ones) and everytime except for twice i asked the guy out. the two times i didnt were the two times the relationship wasnt serious. so far, i've had good luck in asking the guy out, but one girl told me "u should let the guy make the first move." is it weird that im a girl and i ask the guy out, or should i just ignore her? thanks
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Well normally the guy makes the first move. But i dont see why girls cant. So i say ignore her xoxo kerra

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izzylouua on 2/6/2010 7:39:47 PM

i dont get the deal about peer pressure. not at all who cares what people think??

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AverageGirl99 on 2/6/2010 10:17:49 AM

ahh.. i have friends who get high and do other stuff BUT theyve never pressured me in doing anything!!

verenice<3 on 2/6/2010 1:18:32 AM

MOD!ok, theres these girls that a grade above me and they're friends of my boyfriend.but like they always give me dirty looks and we've never talked so we dont really know each other except for our names.its kinda bugging me and they seem really sweet but idk what to do.i have nothing against them but like idk what to do...thanks

Ignore them. Theyre being immature and giving you dirty looks for no reason. In fact theyre probably jealous. xoxo kerra

Kerra S.

socialchic14 on 2/5/2010 9:58:42 PM

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is it normal for 5th grade boys to be so annoying? all year they keep saying a whole bunch of boys like me. i honestly do not care(i'm focusing more on getting to the next grade). how can i get them to quit it?(don't say to deal with it!)

Hey girlie,

It is totally normal for guys to be annoying - at any age ;) but telling them that they annoy you might make it even worse. I know it sounds hard, but try to ignore them. If they don't get a reaction out of you, they'll most likely get bored and move on to something else.

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kevluver4 on 2/5/2010 6:40:48 PM

i have the same problem. once i said something and every1 was surprised and one boy, with his eyes bulging out blurted, SHE TALKED!!! lol ~God Bless.

gotsmiles:)086 on 2/5/2010 6:24:57 PM

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hey so i moved up a level in dance, and im really happy but the only thing is i have a close friend who is still in the lower level class and shes not ready to move up. for next week i will be taking both the lower and higher level classes which are back to back so if i just DONT tell her then she will figure it out and might be upset that i didn't tell her because she will see me taking the class. and the week after next i will ONLY take the high level so if she doesnt figure it out the first week she would the next. but if i tell her, i dont want to sound like im bragging or showing off or something. or ike trying to make her feel bad. any advice?

Hey girl, first off, congrats on making it to a high level class. I would definitely suggest that you tell your girl right away and not wait around til she figures it out for herself. If she really is your friend, then she should be happy for you and give you congrats. To avoid sounding like you are bragging, you can just simply say something like, "Hey __, the dance teach just let me know I made it to the higher level. But I'm so glad that I'll be doing both classes so that I can still hang out with you." ~G-Blog Babes

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lovemusic!23 on 2/5/2010 2:40:05 PM

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This girl has no right to push you. Now THAT is what you call disgusting. Sickening actually. I understand that she might have been upset and jealous that the guy she liked asked you out but she needs to get over it and realize that you didn't mean to hurt her. Tell her that you had no idea that she liked your current bf and that what she's doing is really immature and downright stupid. If she tries to push you again, then you need to tell a counselor.

starr on 2/5/2010 1:20:39 PM

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guys always like my friends but not me. my friends say im pretty but i have a feeling that they are just saying that. i have brown hair brown eyes cool glasses (another girl has glasses in my grade and has a boyfriend) im kinda tallish and i have light freckles. what can i do to be more pretty?? (and please dont say im fine just they way i am, because i want some tips here)

Hey Girl! Remember that personality beats any beauty! If you really want to get the guys to notice your beautiful looks, try wearing a little makeup but nothing too much. Just enough to accent your looks and highlight your features. Hope this helps xo Lizzie

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jessyjess on 2/5/2010 12:47:04 PM

MOD my friend peer pressured me into stealing somethin but i told her i would go into the boys bathroom insted and she sayed ok do it and i did because i didint want to be known as the chicken. so now since then shes been tellin every one that i went in to the boys bathroom and it was saposed to be a seceret but now i dont want to get back because she has REALY good comebacks so now what should i do?????????? help help help

Hey girl,

No matter what, NEVER let your friend talk you into doing something that makes you feel uncomfortable. You've already gone into the boys bathroom and everyone seems to know about it, so don't fight it. But next time, remember that you know what is good and what is bad - remember that everything has consequences and if you feel like you shouldn't be doing something, don't do it!

Lauren C.

inkysmith on 2/5/2010 7:43:08 AM

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Hey, I have a few quick questions to ask. One, does it matter what tempature of shower you take? I love my insanly hot showers, but if there's somthing better for my skin, I'd love to know.
Two, I've had a crush on my closest guy friend for three years now, but I'm afrade he only sees me as one of the guys, is there anyway I can incress my feminity without making it too obvious?
Three, the scholl dance is comming up, its hollywood theamed and I'm thinking of wearing a lovely black and white wrap skirt with a black top, what sort of shoes would you reccomend? Sorry for all the questions

Hi babes, no it doesnt as long as you arent scalding yourself. I take hot ones too. 2. You dont need to change yourself to be more feminine. I am sure there is a little girlie girl in your already. Try hanging out with your girls every now and then and he will see how you are when you are being feminine.3.Go for red high heels. nice pop. xo JANA

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gussing-girl on 2/4/2010 10:15:50 PM

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Hey! Umm I've noticed alot of things that are kind of offending to other girls on alot of the profiles on here. Alot of the girls talk about how they have millions of dollars, maids and housekeepers, designer clothes, how boys bow down to them, how they go on shopping sprees in NYC every weekend, and just other snobby things like that. The profiles used to never be like that! The thing is, I know that half these girls dont live like this! Shouldnt you be able to be urself on here? These profiles make me feel upset that I live in a middle-class backround and wear Old Navy. I feel like I SHOULD be wearing designer clothes and it irritates me that these girls try to be so snobby! Cant you tell girls to just just be themselves, and we'll love them the way they are?

Hi girl, that is definitely annoying but on the other hand, the blog is a place where girls can have an open forum and say what they want. Telling them they cant pretend kinda goes against that. Just ignore it if it makes you upset. xo JANA

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jojoyce_27 on 2/4/2010 9:42:09 PM

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I am 13 years old and I have given my mom very good reasons why I deserve one. The only problem is that was yesterday and today I got into a fight with her. I apologized but do you think the fight will effect the answer?? And she said I'll think about it but she forget things a lot so what is a suttle way to remind her to think about it???
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Hey dear. I can't not show the comment. sorry. I would let it go for a week or so. If you bug her all the time then she will just be annoyed and say no. When you ask her again say " I appreciate you thinking about it, you dont have to give me an answer but I was just wondering where you stand." xo JANA

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aajah8507 on 2/4/2010 8:55:29 PM

Peer pressure is a major deal in the U.S. If you are peer pressured, try talking to a therapist or parents.

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Hey babe, about eight to nine hours.

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bumblebeexo1 on 2/4/2010 6:30:10 PM

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bumblebeexo1 on 2/4/2010 6:25:59 PM

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wednesday1408 on 2/4/2010 6:08:06 PM

MODERATOR!!! Yesterday, I told my "friend" that I was going to try out for a volleyball team. Instead of wishing me good luck, she told me that I was slow and I suck at basketball. Do you think a friend would do this?

Hey babe, It definitely doesn't sound like the nicest way to talk to someone, but maybe she just thought she was being honest? If she's been mean about other things before this, I would say it's not very friendly behavior.

xoxo Allie

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fieldhockeyballetstar13 on 2/4/2010 5:10:00 PM

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! the v-day dance is comming up at my high school, I'm not the kind of person who will just jump at her crush and ask him to dance, my dress is super hot, but I want another way to get him to notice (and hopefully dance) with me. But pleeze don't tell me to strike up a convo with him, because i'm too nervouse, and would start to blush really bad as I always do when he's around. I don't want to ask him before the dance incase he regects me. WHAT DO I DO????? P.S- this may look familiar because I posted it yesterday, but knowone responded with an asnwer?!

Hey girl!

As scary as it may be, sometimes it's best to be straight forward. You may not need to ask your crush to the dance, but once you're there, he might see you laughing and having a good time and want to approach you. You and your friends can also approach him and his friends. Get to talking, and just ask if he wants to dance. I know it's scary, but it's worked for me, I promise!

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Cherries51 on 2/4/2010 4:58:21 PM

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HI!! I have lots of freckles on my face. Will they ever go away? ANd I also have a spider angioma. How do I get rid of that? Thanks!!
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Hey babe, Your freckles probably won't go away, so you should learn to appreciate them! A lot of people (especially guys) think they're really cute. ;) spider angioma usually goes away by itself, though it may take as long as a few years.

xoxo Allie

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