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I have been friends with this group of people for a long time. When a new girl came, I got pushed to the side and felt left out. That eventually led to a serious depression.

I went to see a counselor, and she advised me to reach out and make new friends. I did, and I'm really close with this one new girl.

I feel like I'm in between groups because my old friends say they miss me, and I kind of miss them. But I still know that if I go back, nothing will change and the feelings will come back.

On the other hand, I'm close with a few new girls, but I'm not considered part of their group. I don't know what to do because right now I just feel alone...help me please!

-Anonymous

It takes a very strong girl to deal with a battle depression. So props to you for acknowledging your problem and going to a counselor to get help. Your counselor had the right idea when she told you to reach out and meet new people. It's great that you found a new group of girls who are supportive.

Personally, I don't think going back to the old group of girls is the best idea. Like you said yourself, you feel like they might turn their backs on you again. So why risk it? Sure they miss you, but that doesn't mean it won't happen again. You should be nice to them, but you aren't obligated to do anything more than that.

Or, why not hang out with a couple of the girls from your old group solo? All because some bad seeds in your past group caused tension between you and the whole, doesn’t mean you necessarily have to not be friends with all of the girls in that group. Rather than reverting back to the group, pick and choose worthwhile friends to still keep in touch with.

If you totally love your new group of girls, and you feel like they're better to you than the last group, give it your all! You just fully let go of the last group so now you can put some serious commitment in with these chicks. That will help you get into their “inner circle”.

Try throwing a BBQ or movie night with your new girls. But please don't forget to be yourself! The last thing you want is for them to get to know and be friends with a girl who isn't the real you! Good luck!

Love,
Jaime

POSTED ON 2/6/2010 7:00:00 AM

CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME WELL THIS IS THE STORY I WAS IN 5TH GRADE I HAD TO CHOSE SCHOOL FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL AND THEY DIDNT ACEPT ME ON ANY SCHOOL SO THEN SINCE THAT HAPPPEND I COULD CHOSE ANY SCHOOL FROM THE WHOLE BRONX SO I WANTED TO GO TO ANOTHER SCHOOL BUT I WENT WITH MY SO CALL BFF BUT I WAS NOT IN THE SAME CLASS AS HER ON 6TH GRADE I MET THIS REALLY CUTE/NICE GUY HE Was in my class so then few months later he was going out wif some gurl then my new friend like the same boy and was jelous no one knew but i was 2 then in the middle of the year my friend went out wif him they really never seem like a couple but then all the the time i was his friend we were cool and all that to my friend and him broke up then at the end of the year my crush best friend told me if i like the boy i like i said idk he said yes u do because i know and then he told me my crush really like i didnt know wat to do so i told him it was a lie the next day my crush didnt come 2 school because he went to P.R the whole summer vacation i thought and thought that i really really like my crush so now that im in 7th grade i was still cool wif my crush so then some 2 months past this girl was going to was going out wif my crush this was a new girl so then i they broke up and i told my crush i really like him since then we stop talking its been 5 months i havent talk to him but now i just want to be friends....but around 2 months ago my crush told me he didnt like me so loud my friends try to convince him but nothing but so alot of things had happend between these months but like 1 weeks ago my crush was going to say sorry etc but i was scared so i didnt go but just before that he got hit in the face with the football so we didnt have time to talk but the day before my friend herd that he said he hates when i hide and i do but yesterday we had to finish some class work we came up from lunch and i saw him and we stare at eachother for like for 1 mn and he was like watz up with his head HELP ME IDK WAT TO DO!!

Well I am 12 and half Cuban and half Black. My Cuban grandfather's mom is from France and her Mom is from the U.K. I know I have some Irish in me (considering my Aunt has a disease only irish people get).
Anyway... I was watching some youtube videos and I came across Irish Dancing. I watched a bunch of videos with the gothard sisters and Healy Irish Dance School. It seems so fun and exciting! Plus it seems like a great way to exercise! I wanted to start some classes this Spring Break, but there is one problem... I don't know if I will be the only Black girl their (I'm not that dark, more like carmel). I have a thing when people stare at me just cause I'm a different color. Plus they don't know my background so they don't know me!
I use to take ballet (still do) and I am one of three black girls there. And there is 23 girls in the class. I am always scared of being in that situation again. Every YouTube video I see there is never any black girls. I don't want to stand out! So what should I do? I am sooooo scared! Please help me!

by LolaVolleyball on 3/27/2010 1:05:40 PM

by crazy4lyfe on 3/13/2010 1:42:37 PM

all the hot guys flirt with me but they have gf tht are my frands and they are all taken and im talking to ppl from McEwen but i dont want to date someone from another county

by hot shot1023 on 2/23/2010 10:25:50 PM

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No single guys are attractive at my school! Just Bob.....

Hey babe! Guys will mature and change over time. You could always try meeting guys outside of school too!

Megan R.

by lexibear41 on 2/23/2010 8:46:18 PM

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Ask anyone who sees. The guy I like is flirting back. One problem: HE HAS A GIRLFRIEND!!! She doesn't go to our school, and I'm glad for that. This guy that I like (let's call him Bob) Bob flirts with me. I'm not misreading signals. He LIKES me. Today, he sat on my lap randomly and leaned back. Against my BOOBS! So I know he does. Yeah. What do I do?! HELP!!!!!!! Can I have some pointers on how to draw him away from her to me?

Hey babe! It's not fair to you or his girlfriend to be flirting with him. If he is taken, avoid him! He's a player and if he'll do that to his girlfriend, he'll backstab you the same way. Unless they are totally done, I wouldn't flirt with him because he'll likely hurt you! Try flirting with single guys instead!

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