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I have been friends with this group of people for a long time. When a new girl came, I got pushed to the side and felt left out. That eventually led to a serious depression. I went to see a counselor, and she advised me to reach out and make new friends. I did, and I'm really close with this one new girl.

I feel like I'm in between groups because my old friends say they miss me, and I kind of miss them. But I worried that if I go back, nothing will change and the feelings will come back. On the other hand, I'm close with a few new girls, but I'm not considered past of their group. I don't know what to do because right now I just feel alone. Help me please!

-Anonymous

It takes a very strong girl to deal with a battle depression. So props to you for acknowledging your problem and going to a counselor to get help. Your counselor had the right idea when she told you to reach out and meet new people. It's great that you found a new group of girls who are supportive.

Honestly, I don't think going back to the old group of girls is the best idea. Like you said yourself, you feel like they might turn their backs on you again. So why risk it? Sure they miss you, but that doesn't mean it won't happen again. You should be nice to them, but you aren't obligated to do anything more than that.

If you totally love your new group of girls, and you feel like they're better to you than the last group, give it your all! You just fully let go of the last group so now you can put some serious commitment in with these chicks. That will help you get into their “inner circle”. Try throwing a BBQ or movie night with your new girls. But please don't forget to be yourself! The last thing you want is for them to get to know and be friends with a girl who isn't the real you! Good luck!

Love,
Jaime

POSTED ON 2/25/2010 10:51:00 AM

CAN SOMEONE PLEASE HELP ME WELL THIS IS THE STORY I WAS IN 5TH GRADE I HAD TO CHOSE SCHOOL FOR MIDDLE SCHOOL AND THEY DIDNT ACEPT ME ON ANY SCHOOL SO THEN SINCE THAT HAPPPEND I COULD CHOSE ANY SCHOOL FROM THE WHOLE BRONX SO I WANTED TO GO TO ANOTHER SCHOOL BUT I WENT WITH MY SO CALL BFF BUT I WAS NOT IN THE SAME CLASS AS HER ON 6TH GRADE I MET THIS REALLY CUTE/NICE GUY HE Was in my class so then few months later he was going out wif some gurl then my new friend like the same boy and was jelous no one knew but i was 2 then in the middle of the year my friend went out wif him they really never seem like a couple but then all the the time i was his friend we were cool and all that to my friend and him broke up then at the end of the year my crush best friend told me if i like the boy i like i said idk he said yes u do because i know and then he told me my crush really like i didnt know wat to do so i told him it was a lie the next day my crush didnt come 2 school because he went to P.R the whole summer vacation i thought and thought that i really really like my crush so now that im in 7th grade i was still cool wif my crush so then some 2 months past this girl was going to was going out wif my crush this was a new girl so then i they broke up and i told my crush i really like him since then we stop talking its been 5 months i havent talk to him but now i just want to be friends....but around 2 months ago my crush told me he didnt like me so loud my friends try to convince him but nothing but so alot of things had happend between these months but like 1 weeks ago my crush was going to say sorry etc but i was scared so i didnt go but just before that he got hit in the face with the football so we didnt have time to talk but the day before my friend herd that he said he hates when i hide and i do but yesterday we had to finish some class work we came up from lunch and i saw him and we stare at eachother for like for 1 mn and he was like watz up with his head HELP ME IDK WAT TO DO!!

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Do you have any tips on how to make new friends, girls and guys?

Hey girl, just be outgoing and friendly. Joining clubs really helps to meet new people too, so I'd be on the lookout for that.

Kayla C.

by music_chica_03 on 3/18/2010 6:49:18 PM

MOD MOD MOD!!! okay plz help!! i'm rlly overwhelmed right now, and i am honestly pretty sensitive. My mom just got a full time job so i am home alone and i miss her, i am trying to figure out/transitioning from private to public school this year, i have recently been diagnosed w/ depression that is possibly bipolar, and i didn't get on the honor roll for the first time. All of this is just crashing down on me and i don't know how 2 change it...do u have any suggestions?? thx <3

hey girl! aww thats really tough. you will get used to your moms new schedule, but maybe you should pick up more after school sports or something to keep you busy. maybe the doctors can give you something to help. as for honor, no big deallll pus you could totally get it next time

Hallie R.

by chicacherrycola on 3/18/2010 4:38:20 PM

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I SO NO WAT UR SAYIN. I WAS SO EMBARESED TO TELL MY BFF. THEN SHE TOLD HER OTHR FRIEND AND NOW AALL OF THE GIRLS NO.

ALL OF THEM!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

by Anna Kendrick on 3/15/2010 12:54:33 AM

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I have a friend who isn't a virgin, and she has been drunk before, she is only 12 and she's done "it" more than once. Do you think she is a bad influence? She is a really good riend by the way!

Hey girl. That's a toughy! I would definitely say the things she's doing is not cool for a 12 year old to do. I would try talking to her about it. But if shes really that good of a friend I would stick with her and help her change her ways.

Lauren R.

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