My friend says I have an amazing voice, but whenever it’s time to audition for a solo in any type of concert for school she always talks to the teacher beforehand, and then my prof assigns assigns them very suspiciously.
I feel like she’s talking about me because she always gets a solo and I never do no matter what. It makes me feel insecure. What should I do?
You definitely have a sticky sitch here, but it’s not anything you won’t be able to solve! On top of that, you should be able to work it out without too much drama.
Investigate with an adult
Talk to Teach before you confront your bud. Don’t mention your friend in the convo or how you feel insecure about what’s going on. Just talk about how much you heart singing and how you'd like his or her expert advice on how to score a solo next time around. Make sure he gets that you really want this. Send out only positive vibes.
Get new critics
Next up, practice (in front of others, preferably). You don’t want to rely on that one chica who may or may not be backstabbing you. Belt it out front of your other friends or your fam and ask for their thoughts. Listen to what they’ve got say and take their suggestions. You think Beyoncé got famous by practicing her pipes to one pal? Um, no way!
Advice from an enemy?
These first two steps might solve the drama. But if your sing-along sistah is still acting shady, time to talk it out. Don't outright offer your suspicions. Just gently inquire: How did she get solos? How can YOU improve? What's her secret to sounding so good? Questions disguised as compliments will make your chica spill the beans. If you can’t figure out how to tackle a problem, you gotta understand it first!
The most important thing is to be confident. Feeling insecure is very much an internal force. Keep your head up, sing your heart out, and show everyone what you got! It’ll all work out!
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POSTED ON 3/3/2010 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN dealing with competition, dealing with jealousy