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My Backstabbing BFF Wants Support!

You and your BFF were super-tight until, suddenly, she starts ignoring you and ditches you for a new group of friends. But then, when she has some major boy drama, and comes running back to you for advice! You want to help, but it's hard for you to feel bad for her when she's been so mean to you lately.

My best friend has completely betrayed me for the past two months. First, she was ignoring me. I didn't know why, but every time I tried to join her when she was with her new group of friends, she would walk away. Everyone else would follow, leaving me looking alone and looking like an idiot. I also kept joking around and saying that she was dating Luke, our grade's biggest jerk. She would deny it.

Just today, she sent me an e-mail saying that she really had been dating Luke for the past two months, and he had dumped her over the phone. It was sort of hard to be upset for her after she had lied countless times.

BFF Fix-It: While it was wrong of your friend to ditch you for a new group of pals, it was also mean of you to tease her about Luke! Both of you have not been very good friends to each other, and it's time to apologize.

Step up and say that you're sorry for teasing her about Luke. Tell her that you want to be there for her, but she has to prove she's loyal to you by acknowledging you around her new pals. Let her know that you need her to be honest in the future, and that it hurts when you're left out.

TELL US NOW! Are you dealing with a backstabbing BFF? Vent it out and we'll try to fix your sitch! Click the blue SUBMIT YOUR OWN button and we'll help you erase that evil sistah, ASAP.

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POSTED ON 3/8/2010 7:00:00 AM

Ok, just warning you, this might be long.
A couple weeks ago, I was part of this group of friends who are always involved in unnessasary drama. But lately, one of the girls was kinda spaced out, and talking to the other quieter girls. So I hung out with the spaced out girl (let's call her Madeline) and tried to figure out what was going on. A few days later, the group of girls that I hung out with decided that they didn't like it that Madeline was so spaced out and decided they wanted to pick a fight with her to see what was going on. I persuaded them out of it, but I also told Madeline what was going on. The next day, she called me and invited me over. So I went, and I discovered that the reason that she wasn't really talking to us was because she didn't want to be involved in all the drama. She didn't want to get hurt. (there was many times when she had fights with the "group leader". Let's call that girl Kirsten.) I didn't like that they were being such drama queens either, so the next day i tried to stay away. I didn't say anything rude, I told them I wasn't mad. But the day after that, the group decided they were all mad at me. So they started this note that everybody wrote about how much they hated me. The teacher found it and tore it up. When I was walking past one of the girls in my group to get a pencil, (she was a really good friend too, let's call her Emma) I accidentaly bumped shoulders with her. She got all mad and told me that she expected an apology. At lunch, they were all attacking me and Madeline and cussing us out. They kicked me out of their band group, and started rumors about me. But then, one of the girls who was my friend in the group emailed me and told me that she thought the whole thing was funny and we should just make up. But the thing is, I'm not sure if I want to be her friend or any of their friends anymore. I'm tired of crying and getting hur. what should I do?

exactly what happened to me accept i got new friends !!!! there the best!!!! better than my old friends by far! well anyway everytime she has a mayjor drama she comes on msn and tells me i just feel like telling her where to go...but now in my practical i dont have any friends but this is a peice of advice to anyone who is the same .... your better having good friends than to have friends just so ur popular some classes

by !!RAWR!! on 6/1/2010 3:41:41 PM

by magyk206 on 5/29/2010 1:55:21 PM

hey girlies!
I know the GL moderators do a great job of answering questions, but they are busy gals! if you have any questions about tough stuff, school work or anything else, come to my profile and I would be happy to see all your fun profiles and stories

by Olivia T. on 5/26/2010 9:31:00 PM

Thanks so much, Hannah D!!!

by roxx.cheerleader578 on 5/26/2010 6:36:49 PM

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So i used to be friends with these girls, let's call them Tina, Natalie, Tracey, Riley, and Leslie. [[just a warning, this will be uber long]].
I've been friends with Tina since 2nd grade, and now we're in 7th. We've always been super close, but this year she turned totally two-faced.
She COMPLETELY backstabbed me! She started bullying me, starting rumors about me, and being openly mean to my face, like talking about me when i was right next to her. She also turned Tracey and Natalie against me. It got bad enough to where i became depressed and wanted to transfer to a different school. It got to the point where my mom had to call Tina's mom and the principal of our school to get it to stop, cuz i wasn't talking to anyone anymore and withdrawing even from participating in class [[even the teachers were getting worried cuz i wouldn't talk in class]].
So, i became REALLY close to Riley. She was my best friend for about 3 months. She didn't like Tina either, cuz Tina backstabbed her last year. Then suddenly Riley became best friends with Tina!!! She stopped talking to me and did HORRIBLE things to me, then she would tell everyone how mean i was. And she even turned the 8th graders against me. That's when i was almost suicidal. I would come home crying on a daily basis, and i didn't want to go back.
That's when me and Leslie totally bonded. She didn't like any of those girls either, cuz they wren't very nice to her, either, but not as bad as me. Leslie was my very best friend, and the only close friend i had left at school. She hated those girls, and said she would never forgive them for what they did to us.
Now, she's friends with them!!! She's forgiven them for the horrible awful things they did to us!!! She doesn't talk to me anymore, and is even doing the special secret handshake I made up for me and Leslie with RILEY. And if i try to talk to her, she just walks away. She's totally backstabbed me, and it's killing me because now im left with nobody at school. I know it's the end of the year and everything, but we had plans to do stuff together over the summer but i don't want to be around her at ALL anymore. What should i do? She was my best friend, and now she won't even talk to me.
Please help!!! Thanks!!!
*~{FlipFlops&Socks}~*

Hey girl! This seems like such a tough situation you are in, and I'm so sorry that they are all treating you like this. It seems really unfair. Do you know what those girls are doing to get your friends to join their group? Are they all still so mean, or have they grown out of that? Definitely don't join the group just because all of your old friends are in it if they are still mean because you know what it feels like to be a victim in this situation. I would turn to another group of girls that you know is nice, and try to be friends with them. It is probably a good thing that school is over because you won't have to see these girls. Do you go to camp? Maybe try to go to a camp to meet some nice girls! I'm so sorry that these girls have made you feel so bad, but stay strong girl.

Hannah D.

by roxx.cheerleader578 on 5/26/2010 1:18:19 PM

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