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My Backstabbing BFF Wants Support!

 

You and your BFF were super-tight until, suddenly, she starts ignoring you and ditches you for a new group of friends. But then, when she has some major boy drama, and comes running back to you for advice! You want to help, but it's hard for you to feel bad for her when she's been so mean to you lately.


My best friend has completely betrayed me for the past two months. First, she was ignoring me. I didn't know why, but every time I tried to join her when she was with her new group of friends, she would walk away. Everyone else would follow, leaving me looking alone and looking like an idiot. I also kept joking around and saying that she was dating Luke, our grade's biggest jerk. She would deny it.


Just today, she sent me an e-mail saying that she really had been dating Luke for the past two months, and he had dumped her over the phone. It was sort of hard to be upset for her after she had lied countless times.


BFF Fix-It: While it was wrong of your friend to ditch you for a new group of pals, it was also mean of you to tease her about Luke! Both of you have not been very good friends to each other, and it's time to apologize.


Step up and say that you're sorry for teasing her about Luke. Tell her that you want to be there for her, but she has to prove she's loyal to you by acknowledging you around her new pals. Let her know that you need her to be honest in the future, and that it hurts when you're left out.


TELL US NOW! Are you dealing with a backstabbing BFF? Vent it out and we'll try to fix your sitch! Click the blue SUBMIT YOUR OWN button and we'll help you erase that evil sistah, ASAP.

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HEY MOD


 

First of all, don't feel bad about yourself! It seems like your old BFF has turned into the kind of person that you don't want to hang out with anyway. You aren't ugly or fat or need braces - but if you feel bad about yourself, you could start up a workout schedule or something. But don't feel like you have to unless you want to — that shouldn't affect who your friends are.Maybe you could try to make new friends through a sport or other group, or just friends around the neighborhood. Even though people seem to already have your cliques, I bet some people wouldn't be opposed to making a new friend! Just be friendly to everyone and I don't think you will have much of a problem with making friends.

Vanessa J.

by hailey108 on 7/8/2010 3:09:14 PM

 
 

1. take a deep breath
2.think of someone you like
3.press f10 five times
4.send this to five pages
5.look at your background

by icestar321 on 6/15/2010 11:25:25 AM

 
 

I think my friend is mad, because I suddenly became friends and am hanging out with other people. Now she is talking behind my back. I was best friends with her for ages but then I moved for two years and she and i have changed. I just don't think it would work out in the end. Am I in the wrong for leaving our friendship so abruptly? Or is she with the backstabbing? Help!!

by peace.luv.happiness on 6/14/2010 10:51:22 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD This is gonna be long! OK so I have these friends. A1,A2,E1,E2,C,K(me),M,and M. We are all super close. One day, A1 and E1 started telling each other everything, and then they started excluding us. Then the drama started.PPL were undesisive about being friends, and we were telling false things about each other, without meaning to. I've cried myself 2 sleep many times b4. A1 broke down in tears 2day becuz of it all. What do I do???
Here are some things you should know:
its the last week of school
we dont trust each other anymore
talking doesnt get us anywhere
we talked to the guidance conseulor
were all ticked @ each other rite now
Me and C are totes tight
E2 and A2 are totes tight
E1 and A1 are totes tight
M1 and M2 found other friends. HELP!!! MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD PLZ PLZ PLZ PLZ HELP! THIS RUINED MY LIFE!!!PLLLZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZZ




Hey girl,

That sounds super tough. If you're all unwilling or unable to talk it out, maybe it's time to put those friendships on the back burner for a while and find some new friends to hang with. Maybe after things cool down you'll all find that you're friends again. Good luck! 
Alissa S.

by jaine11 on 6/14/2010 4:36:58 PM

 
 

Mod
I send in a back stab o meter thing. Is there any way that I will find out if it is going to be on the website? Thanks!

 

Hey girl, I'm not sure when it will be on the website you might want to give it a couple a days then try again.

Paige T.

by writergirl100 on 6/11/2010 10:03:10 PM

 
 

Mod I posted a question a couple of times and I never got an answer! I shortened it a lot, but still no one answered. What gives?







Hey girl, what's your Q?! 
Megan R.

by jaine11 on 6/9/2010 5:52:07 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!
What should i do? ok my ex-bff and i were talking on field day and i said my cuz/bff was flirting with my boyfriend and that she liked him and he liked her back, and she told my cuz/bff that i said he's my boyfriend and that my cuz/bff needs to back off. so as my cuz/bff heard that she told my boyfriend and he said i really like her, and she's flirting with a guy on her team but you don't see me crying about it, and that's what my cuz/bff told me what my ex-bff told her and so i got to my ex-bff's house and i yelled at her and she got the message to not start lies or mix up things on purpose that i told her. but what else should i do? my cuz/bff doesn't like her for what she did, so it's not like i'm all alone, but what else can i do to let her know i'm sorry but i don't want to be her friend anymore and so i don't sound like a weenie or a baby, cuz she knows i not but by apologizing she would start something about me being a baby apologizing, what should i do? MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD, P.S. SORRY THIS IS SOOOO LONG. MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!




It sounds like you need to get both sides of the story straight.  It can be tough when you are caught in the middle of a huge triangle like this... But I would go chat with your ex-BFF.  You guys were friends for a reason, and you don't want something you heard to get in the middle of your relationship.  If you have something to apologize for, do it! Your ex-bff shouldn't call you a baby for apologizing, when really, you would be acting more mature! By admitting to something you did wrong, it shows that you are more mature!  Do what you think is right.  
Katie R.

by luvshorty5 on 6/9/2010 2:20:03 PM

 
 

hey girlies!
I know the GL moderators do a great job of answering questions, but they are busy gals! if you have any questions about tough stuff, school work or anything else, come to my profile and I would be happy to see all your fun profiles and stories

by Olivia T. on 6/7/2010 1:19:21 PM

 
 

That kinda happened to me too. Me and my BFF were best friends for quite awhile, but then about one or two months ago she started to ignore me and my other BFF's and me started to get worried. So then I asked my Bff if I was doing something wrong but she said no and then when I went somewhere else she talked to her and when I came back she was talking to me, being my friend again, just like that. The thing is, is that I want to be her best friend, but I don't want her to do this again and again. So we (my other BFF's) don't know what to do.

by hscmith on 6/6/2010 6:16:32 PM

 
 

I had a BFF. We wouldnt seperate for anything. When my mom came to pick me up at her house we would run outside and hide. I told her EVERYTHING.Stuff i get scared even thinking about telling anyone else. But i found out she was a lie, pretty much. She played a perfect girl but she just loves the attention. I think thats why she is such a good actor. Really. She has been in like 20 plays. But now i am positive that one day her new snob friends will walk up to me and make fun of my deepest darkest serets. I guess ill live though because i have a new Bff who could care less about what people say about her and my ex bff is moving Smile. Theres always the light at the end of the tunnel chicas.

by bubblegurl8 on 6/5/2010 10:35:55 PM

 
 

exactly what happened to me accept i got new friends !!!! there the best!!!! better than my old friends by far! well anyway everytime she has a mayjor drama she comes on msn and tells me i just feel like telling her where to go...but now in my practical i dont have any friends but this is a peice of advice to anyone who is the same .... your better having good friends than to have friends just so ur popular some classes

by !!RAWR!! on 6/1/2010 3:41:41 PM

 
 

Ok, just warning you, this might be long.
A couple weeks ago, I was part of this group of friends who are always involved in unnessasary drama. But lately, one of the girls was kinda spaced out, and talking to the other quieter girls. So I hung out with the spaced out girl (let's call her Madeline) and tried to figure out what was going on. A few days later, the group of girls that I hung out with decided that they didn't like it that Madeline was so spaced out and decided they wanted to pick a fight with her to see what was going on. I persuaded them out of it, but I also told Madeline what was going on. The next day, she called me and invited me over. So I went, and I discovered that the reason that she wasn't really talking to us was because she didn't want to be involved in all the drama. She didn't want to get hurt. (there was many times when she had fights with the "group leader". Let's call that girl Kirsten.) I didn't like that they were being such drama queens either, so the next day i tried to stay away. I didn't say anything rude, I told them I wasn't mad. But the day after that, the group decided they were all mad at me. So they started this note that everybody wrote about how much they hated me. The teacher found it and tore it up. When I was walking past one of the girls in my group to get a pencil, (she was a really good friend too, let's call her Emma) I accidentaly bumped shoulders with her. She got all mad and told me that she expected an apology. At lunch, they were all attacking me and Madeline and cussing us out. They kicked me out of their band group, and started rumors about me. But then, one of the girls who was my friend in the group emailed me and told me that she thought the whole thing was funny and we should just make up. But the thing is, I'm not sure if I want to be her friend or any of their friends anymore. I'm tired of crying and getting hur. what should I do?

by magyk206 on 5/29/2010 1:55:21 PM

 
 

hey girlies!
I know the GL moderators do a great job of answering questions, but they are busy gals! if you have any questions about tough stuff, school work or anything else, come to my profile and I would be happy to see all your fun profiles and stories

by Olivia T. on 5/26/2010 9:31:00 PM

 
 

Thanks so much, Hannah D!!!

by roxx.cheerleader578 on 5/26/2010 6:36:49 PM

 
 

*~MODMODMODMODMODMODMOD~*
So i used to be friends with these girls, let's call them Tina, Natalie, Tracey, Riley, and Leslie. [[just a warning, this will be uber long]].
I've been friends with Tina since 2nd grade, and now we're in 7th. We've always been super close, but this year she turned totally two-faced.
She COMPLETELY backstabbed me! She started bullying me, starting rumors about me, and being openly mean to my face, like talking about me when i was right next to her. She also turned Tracey and Natalie against me. It got bad enough to where i became depressed and wanted to transfer to a different school. It got to the point where my mom had to call Tina's mom and the principal of our school to get it to stop, cuz i wasn't talking to anyone anymore and withdrawing even from participating in class [[even the teachers were getting worried cuz i wouldn't talk in class]].
So, i became REALLY close to Riley. She was my best friend for about 3 months. She didn't like Tina either, cuz Tina backstabbed her last year. Then suddenly Riley became best friends with Tina!!! She stopped talking to me and did HORRIBLE things to me, then she would tell everyone how mean i was. And she even turned the 8th graders against me. That's when i was almost suicidal. I would come home crying on a daily basis, and i didn't want to go back.
That's when me and Leslie totally bonded. She didn't like any of those girls either, cuz they wren't very nice to her, either, but not as bad as me. Leslie was my very best friend, and the only close friend i had left at school. She hated those girls, and said she would never forgive them for what they did to us.
Now, she's friends with them!!! She's forgiven them for the horrible awful things they did to us!!! She doesn't talk to me anymore, and is even doing the special secret handshake I made up for me and Leslie with RILEY. And if i try to talk to her, she just walks away. She's totally backstabbed me, and it's killing me because now im left with nobody at school. I know it's the end of the year and everything, but we had plans to do stuff together over the summer but i don't want to be around her at ALL anymore. What should i do? She was my best friend, and now she won't even talk to me.
Please help!!! Thanks!!!
*~{FlipFlops&Socks}~*
Smile




Hey girl! This seems like such a tough situation you are in, and I'm so sorry that they are all treating you like this. It seems really unfair. Do you know what those girls are doing to get your friends to join their group? Are they all still so mean, or have they grown out of that? Definitely don't join the group just because all of your old friends are in it if they are still mean because you know what it feels like to be a victim in this situation. I would turn to another group of girls that you know is nice, and try to be friends with them. It is probably a good thing that school is over because you won't have to see these girls. Do you go to camp? Maybe try to go to a camp to meet some nice girls! I'm so sorry that these girls have made you feel so bad, but stay strong girl. 
Hannah D.

by roxx.cheerleader578 on 5/26/2010 1:18:19 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!
okay so one of my friends is sorta obsessing over this guy, and she keeps asking me for advice. the thing is, he isnt really right for her and he probally would reject her if she asked him out. i dont know what advice to give her. could help a sista out?




If you think she'll end up hurt, you should tell her that. Ultimately, she will do what she wants to do, and as her friend, you should support her no matter what she decides. 
Freddi N.

by musicalwonder on 5/25/2010 5:03:12 PM

 
 

Help me MOD!!
A girl at my school has been stabbing me in the back, let's call her Amy. The reason why is because she was saying something mean about one of my friends and I stood up for my friend, which made her really mad. She's been saying all this crap about me and just being totally mean. But my "best friend" (who we'll call Aly) has become buddies with Amy the backstabber just recently. I found out they've been hanging out and going to the mall together. I'm so mad my "best friend" would become friends with someone who's been saying crap about me instead of standing for me like I'd do for her. What should I do?




You need to talk to your friend and tell her how you feel. You absolutely did the right thing in that situation and should always stand up for your friends. It seems like "Aly" did not recognize or appreciate what you did at all and she needs to know. If she doesn't change, than she cares more about her reputation than her friends.  
Freddi N.

by bookbutterfly on 5/21/2010 1:01:56 AM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
My best guy friend got a new girlfriend. But then I saw her kissing another boy at the mall when my best guy friend was sick in bed. Should I tell him or should I just let it fly by so his heart won't break? He really cares about this girl. He has never loved his previous girlfriend this much.




Hey girl! If you are friends with his new girlfriend, I would try to talk to her first to make sure that you know the facts about what she is doing. Also, you want to be careful to not be the one to break your guy friends heart and get in the middle of the situation, but it's really good that you care a lot about his feelings. It's definitely a tough situation, but just be careful about involving yourself too much in their relationship. Maybe hint to let your guy friend make sure he trusts this new girl. This is tough but you are being really smart.
Hannah D.

by emilypizazz on 5/18/2010 3:15:56 PM

 
 

if u need advice on anything post a comment on my profile and ill help u!

`JENNA

by ~just a dream~ on 5/15/2010 3:57:39 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
I like this guy but I think that one of my best freinds likes him too!!! what should i do?




Hey girl, if you feel comfortable try talking to your best friend about it. You could be wrong, but if you're not you can let her know that you have feelings for the guy because she would want to know that before she crushed on him. If you don't want to talk to her about it, try not to make it a rivalry because that could hurt your friendship. There will be more guys, but maybe not as many best friends. Good luck! 
Abby C.

by Gymnast4ever on 5/13/2010 10:18:23 AM

 
 

Hey girlies! Don't wanna wait for the busy GL Mods to answer your question's? Just post your questions on my profile! I can answer any questions! Don't feel embarrassed, just ask away!

by hcteh on 5/11/2010 12:28:21 PM

 
 

MOD
There's this girl at my school who my friends are friends with whose name is Anna. Well, yesterday, while I was finishing lunch, I got a call from Anna. I never gave her my phone number, so I don't know how she got it. Well, she immediately started talking about how she loves my boyfriend, Nathan. She was like, "Nathan's gonna break up with you and then date me!" and "Nathan's last name sounds better with my name than it does with yours!" and "I want Nathan's bod. He hates you and he loves me!"
Nathan has hated Anna all year, and he's always holding my hand and trying to get me away from others so we can kiss, so I seriously doubt that he's going to break up with me. Also, I never gave Anna my number, and everytime she calls me (which is about twenty times a day), her number comes up as RESTRICTED so I can't call her back and tell her to stop annoying me. Anna wasn't at school today and I barely know her, so I don't know what to do!
I didn't tell my parents because I wasn't sure what I heard because Nathan's always called gross and stuff at school so I didn't think Anna was really telling the truth. Also, my friend and one of her other friends said they would send me Anna's number, but then they walked off whispering to each other and laughing. What do I do?




Hey babe, it sounds like this girl Anna has some serious issues. She's obsessed with her boyfriend and she's not leaving you alone, which is NOT okay.  You should tell your parents or a trusted teacher or adult that this girl is harassing you. You know in your heart what the truth is.  Try to block her number if you can, and don't answer if it's RESTRICTED caller.  Stand up for yourself, don't let her get you down.  She's very jealous.  
Megan R.

by MathGirl98 on 5/10/2010 5:31:17 PM

 
 

Mod!
ok so my brother asks me stuff about a girl he likes..and advice...and he also always talks about her to mine and his bgf...and yesterday our bgf told my brothers crush all about what he said. All for 75 cents!!! (my brother isn't on speaking terms with him right now) and he has done stuff like that to me too! what should I do to make him stop? thanks sooooo much!

 

Hey babe,

Wow, not cool!  I know you feel protective about your brother and want to make sure he doesn't get mistreated (I would too!), but remember that this is mostly his issue to deal with.  Did he tell his friend that this stuff was off-limits to tell other people?  When you share a secret with someone, there's always a risk that that person could tell.  It's a risky thing, to trust someone - and unfortunately it back-fired here.  Just keep assuring your brother that YOU won't spill his secrets, so he knows he still has the support of someone.

Lauren C.

by *Sigh* on 5/5/2010 3:05:06 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD!!!! I have a problem. So me and my friend got into this huge fight and now we aren't friends anymore. I was her first bff comming into a new school and we were like sisters. Then after the year passed, all of a sudden everyone wanted to hang out with her and she was miss little popular. She then replaced me with someone else and I tried to be friends with her but whenever I tried to, she was always so mean to me. When she moved, I thought me and my bff were going to be close friends again but then she found someone else to hang out with. I kept telling my friend what she was doing and she was like "oh" and didn't change the way she acted like she said she would. Then she started to ignore me and whenever I wanted to hang out with her, she always said she was going over her other friends house and she even told me before they were friends that she didn't even like her and now theyre best friends. Then she got a bf and they've gone out 9 times and everytime they broke up, she came to me. Then after we got in a fight, all of my other friends are ignoring me and going to her and feeling bad for her when I don't get. I was all depressed at school and none of my friends even talked to me. They were too busy with her and I've told all of them how they act but they don't seem to change. I'm at a breaking point where I want to skip school because I don't want to deal with this. All I want to do is cry all the time. What should I do. I need help! (srry this was so long. I tried to shorten it as much as possible.)

 

Hey girl,
I'm sorry to hear about the friend drama.  If she's been treating you the way that she say she has, then maybe she's not the kind of friend you really want.  Try to find opportunities to broaden your circle, like by joining a new club or activity, to find friends who will treat you right.  If you're at your breaking point, it would be a good idea to find an adult - like a parent, teacher, or counselor - that you trust and can talk to for support.  It's great you reached out for help - hang in there, it will get better.  xoxo


Marie H.

by sj96 on 4/28/2010 5:56:24 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD
okay so me and this girl have been bffs for 2 years. in january, she totally ignored me and dumped me. i was very upset. i was only left with like two friends for an entire month and a half. i was heartbroken. in february, we apologized and had a bff makeup. i was so happy to be included again! but then again today i was being ignored. again. what should i do? i really dont want to be in a friendship where im ignored, but i really dont want to start over with a new group of friends!
help me please, im so upset.

 

Hey babe,

This happens in friendships and relationships sometimes - you give a person a second chance but they end up doing the exact same thing.  If you think your friend cares about your relationship and would want to stay friends, talk to her about it.  Give her time to prove she can treat you well.  But you're right - you deserve a friend who WANTS to be your friend, not who ignores you until it's convenient for them.  If your bff isn't sure she wants to be friends with you and isn't sure if she wants to talk to you, she isn't worth your time.  Making new buds is tough but it'll be so worth it to find people who share your interests and genuinely care about you! <3 you can do it.

Lauren C.

by beautiful*smart*brunettte on 4/27/2010 4:25:56 PM

 
 

Moderator im going to florida on friday and i feel fat and i look fat! what can i do to feel more happy about my weight? P.S. Its been raining for a few days where i live.

 

Hey girl, well that doesn't leave a lot of time for actual weight loss, but there is a lot of stuff you can do to make yourself feel better! Try eating lots more fruits and veggies and drinking a ton of water. This will get rid of any water weight you might be holding onto. Avoid salty foods too, since they make you bloat. Try to avoid processed foods and pay attention to how much sodium is in foods before you eat them. Any exercise you can fit in will make you feel better too. Check out our site for workouts you can do in your house since the weather isn't nice where you are. Also, try wearing your bathing suit in your bedroom so you get used to how you feel and look in it. It seems silly, but it'll help! A little sunless tanner always makes me feel better too. Most of all have fun! The happiest girls are the prettiest girls, and you're going on an awesome vacay! Thats something to be happy about right there.

 

- Gabrielle

gabrielle m.

by gwentrent on 4/26/2010 9:20:26 AM

 
 

Can I get some advice Mod? So I was bff's with this girl then we started fighting and we're not friends anymore. So her mom was driving us home and I texted my other friend saying something mean about the girl. And the girl leans over and reads my text. So later that night the girl texts me and said something refering to what I said in the text and was being mean about it. I kinda feel bad for saying it but I don't know what to do..what should I do? She won't accept an apology if I give one.

 

Hey chicadee, unfortunately, I'd be upset too if I were her. Especially because she probably still cares about you since you were BFF's at one time. You really need to talk to her. That is, if you care to clear it up. If she won't talk to you in person, maybe write her a letter, an e-mail, send her a message on facebook or through AIM. You'll feel better after working everything out. And if she doesn't accept your apology still, then at least it's a lesson learned for the future. xxx

Becca G.

by Equestrian110 on 4/23/2010 11:16:57 PM

 
 

MODMODMOD
What do you do when you went out with a guy who did it as a dare and your best friend hates you because she used to like him even though when you asked her she said she didn't and when she hates you no matter what you say?

 

Hey girl, I would just try talking to her about it. She may just need some time to cool off. 

Kayla C.

by 25noodles on 4/23/2010 6:13:14 PM

 
 

***********MOD**************
I have this friend who has been a big brat to me. I went to my "BFF'S" house to talk to her and she told me she was mad at my because I'm a crush stealer!!!!! I didn't know that she liked who I was going out with. I know why that she's been being a brat now but then my mom called. And she still hates me for it! What do I do!!!




I suggest you talk to her about it to see if you can fix it. Good luck! xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by 25noodles on 4/22/2010 11:30:14 PM

 
 

monkeybananas,
The same thing has been going on with me and my BFF.Lately shes been telling me how she's so in love with him and then she'll just say please don't kill me. She knows it upsets me, but she doesn't stop. My mom has even told me to break up with my BFF, but I don't wanna lose a good friend just because of this one guy. I've been trying to get over the guy, but its so hard since I see him in every single class--its like torture!!

by ka-ocho on 4/19/2010 11:52:39 PM

 
 





This article is kinda off..

I would just ditch that 'bff'. No BFF only likes you when they truly need help.




by emmanade on 4/17/2010 7:15:12 PM

 
 

modmodmod
MY best bud and Ihave been friends for like 2 years now with some other girls from our school. Theres this guy i like, and i had liked him for a long time but my best bud(callherB) didn't know so I told her. Recently i told her about a dream that involved her and the guy i like that he asked her out and she said yes. She asked if i was jealous and i said yah, but she replied saying that if he asked me out she'd say it was okay. i got made at that guy (on and off) and told B. B told me that she sort of liked him, and I said thats okay just don't rub it in my face if you evr go out or whatever. So the next day she asked me to ask my other friend what the boy thought of her and I'M like me too and she gave me a weird look. Recently, one of my buds told me that she thinks the guy i like liked me, but B was next to me and thought she was talking to her so she asked if i was jealous, and i flipped out at her and asked why she asked that and she said idk... and now she keeps telling me how much she likes that guy even though she knows i likes him and constantly asks if im jealous, and now acts weird around me. IS this worth breaking up with B over??? what should I do? Sorry it's so long =((




Hey girl, I always think that gfs come before boys. So it depends what you want more in this situation. I would just move on honestly, as hard as that is. I think its the best choice.  
Lauren R.

by monkeybananas on 4/17/2010 1:55:12 PM

 
 

Hey..... I posted and you never answeared!


by ecocutie on 4/9/2010 6:27:28 PM

 
 

MOD
Thanks Allee. You were very helpful!

by orangeslice on 4/6/2010 12:50:41 PM

 
 

MOD
I'm going on vacation in two days to Florida. I was wondering how do I feel more confident about myself. I'm not thin but I wouldn't say I'm overweight either. I'm on the tall side ( about 5'8) so I can hide my weight pretty well (150 pounds). Anyways I'm coming there from the midwest, where I'm able to hide behind layers. I have some belly weight, and a somewhat large chest and behind. I don't think I look that bad, but when I see slimmer girls I tend to get really body conscious. How do I put my appearance behind me and just enjoy the vacation? I was thinking that maybe if I exercise more these few days (because I'm on the tennis team, but we haven't had practice due to vacation) I will feel better, you know? Less bloated. Thanks for your help, and sorry about the second post.




Hey girl,

If you wanna just slim up quick and feel a little less bloated for your vacay, work out the next few days. Do a little cardio, and some ab workouts. You won't lose tons of weight, but you will become less bloated and feel more comfortable in your skin. But most importantly, don't worry about your weight on vacation and have fun! 
Allee S.

by orangeslice on 4/6/2010 11:38:28 AM

 
 

MOD!!!!!!!! K, so one of my friends (call her L) and I have been fighting on and off for months. We'll argue and then I'll apologize and she'll just ignore me. This will go one for days and then she will just act completely normal. Our last fight (not really a fight a conflict) two of my other best friends who L is not nice to at all asked me to be in their group fora project and i said yes. Then, L asked me to be in her group and i said sure if you can work with these two girls also. She said no. So i just figured it was ok, we were just not working together for one project. Then, that night she apologized for not being very nice to those girls and so I said ok. Then, she said something mean right after. So I said how about we just work separately for this project, there would be less tension. she never replyed. Then, at school she acted normal, like nothing had happened. But, that night she texted questions like we were in the same group. So I explained that we weren't. This happened for 2 days. finally she accepted it and ignored me for a week before acting like nothing had happened. then, today I was IMing her and she asked why I had missed soccer and I said I had scheduled something for this project before i new about the practice. And she blew up about how that was my only priority and didn't answer my ims. What should I do? and what do I do if she acts normal on monday at school? Thanks, C

 

Hey chica, it sounds like "L" is a pretty bad friend. I wouldn't worry about her too much....keep hanging out with your other friends and don't lose any sleep over not being as tight with L.
xxx


Becca G.

by clgbear on 4/2/2010 9:39:22 PM

 
 

Hey guys, I'm new here!!! Haven't even set up a profile yet.... But I was just wondering: if I submit a BFF problem here, where/when will it be answered? Thanks,
C

by clgbear on 4/2/2010 9:17:43 PM

 
 

Mod!!!
Hi. Okay...i am really really upset...some of my "friends" started a rumor about my best friend saying alot of horrible stuff and she wound up bawling in the office...she told me to tell eeryone it isnt true (and i belie that it isnt true) so i have been...its only another of my good friends says it is true that she was there when hannah was involoved in that...which friend should i stick with???
Thanks!!! XOXO




Hey girl, stick to your bestie. Stand up for her and take her defense. She needs it right now. Those rumors are def mean and hurtful.

xoxo
Alyssa B.

by ilovedancin9987 on 3/31/2010 10:37:21 PM

 
 

Ok so... our friendship lasted like a year then somthing happened and as time grew.on my friend starting calling me clingy and she would tell me somthing and tell me NOT TO SAY ANTHING TO ANYONE! and i guess they weren't that bad, stuff about her family. and well my relationship with my mom is really close so it kinda slipped out so me and my mom and i would talk about it. and i don't know how she figured it out but she found out that i have been telling my mom. i KNOW my mom didn't say anything she told me so. and now shes on and off (my friend).One shes rude, next day she's happy and wants me to be happy too. She doen't listen to me as much and gives me silent treatments. I am a very kind and caring person and can't hold a grude, she could hold a grude for years! My mom says i let my kindness get in the way, and i know its true..... I would drop her like a hot patato if i could but i really have no other friends! I would dish it out to her when she insutes me but i am tooo shy to say anything in front om my teahers and people that i have known from the 1st grade! Don't tell me to find a new friend because everyone has already picked there friend snice were in the 3 rd quarter. Am i not taking a hint, or am i just pathitic? Please help. Anyone. please.

by ecocutie on 3/26/2010 10:53:04 PM

 
 

MOD!! I recently got into a really bad situation with a guy who doesn't go to my school. I used to like him (let's call him Mark), so my friend (lets call her Susie) friended him on facebook. (I don't have a facebook, by the way) when Mark and I had a nasty brake up, my mom told me to only tell certain people about it, because she didn't want people making fun of him. So I forgot to tell Susie. She AIMs me and tells me she's talking to him. So I freak out, forgetting that I didn't tell her. She has a history of doing really irresponsible things (hitting me as a oke and laughing about it and losing my $140 calculator and not caring all that much) and since I was so flipped out I brought these things up in a kinda irrational manor. Now Susie hates me. (sorry that was so long) Do I have a right to be mad at her? Is there anything I can do? Thanks a lot, Charlotte.

 

hey girl! She had no idea you broke up with him girly so i think you owe her an apology, especially since you hurt her feelings. Tell her you are super sorry but you were just nervous that she had talked to him. Sit with her and have a convo to get everythign straightened out, then go out and get ice cream together!!!

Hallie R.

by musicjunkie007 on 3/23/2010 4:13:18 PM

 
 

----------MOD-------- Okay so my best friend recently started dating the hottest guy in the grade. And I am happy for her, thats not the problem. The problem is that she has been ignoring me for him. Whenever I try to talk t her at a public place she acts like im just another one of those freaks that keeps talking to her and shes too good cause her bf is popular. Whenever its just us two though, she is the same as usual and my best friend again. Its annoying and I'm not really sure what to do about it. I tried to tell her but she went all pysco chick on me and said I was being a jerk and need to get used to it. So, please helpp.

 

Hey girl! It's hard to make the adjustment from dating to keeping your friends in the loop, too. Keep doing your thing and trying to be her pal but if she keeps treating you like that, you should reevaluate!

-Taeler

Taeler L.

by singingluvr on 3/21/2010 9:13:19 PM

 
 

Their is this friend who i realy like but she always get in a mood with me because i have a boyfriend

I nedd advice, And quick !

by lollipop365 on 3/20/2010 5:45:46 PM

 
 

hi,
Me and my friend have a Bff but she keeps coming and going ! I dont know why
There is this girl called Amy and lots of people hate her ! Especily US ! we want Lauren to stay bff's with us and not her

But,How ??
Please help us cause we dont want to lose a friendlike her and we wont stop trying till we Take Amy out the picture ! thankyou ! Smile

by lollipop365 on 3/20/2010 5:42:58 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD!
i always hang out with my bffs everyday.. but i also hang out with my bf and his mates.
But the thing is i hardly ever see my bf! He is always messing around with his friends and i sit with my girls because when i went with the boys they just play fighted (which is boring to me)
We only have one lesson together (1x a week) and we get on really well and have a laugh then!
but i just feel mean if i say can you go away just for today to my mates and his!
Also we cant really hang out after school because my parents hate me going out after school! :O
HELPP
thanks <3




Hey girl! Maybe you should talk to your bf and see what he thinks about the sitch. See if he feels the same way and both of you can try to come up with solutions. You can tell your friends that you love hanging out with them, but maybe you can tell them that you hardly get to spend any time with your bf. If you tell them this way, I'm sure they will understand. Good luck! 
Kelli S.

by sophsoph555 on 3/20/2010 9:49:17 AM

 
 

MOd MOD MOD
so my bff and i were super dooper close, we would hang out every day after school, see each ohter on the weekends, go to the mall, a day would never go by when we wouldnt see each other! But this year in 8th grade she has been sooper dooper busy! She just got done with volleyball,( which i tried out for the team and didn't make it), now shes doing basketball every morning before and after school until 9 oclock and on the weekends. After basketball she's doing track. She even canceled our saturday night sleepovers that we've been doing for years because she's just too busy. I was devastated because now her sports friend now have a new thing after every game they go out for ice cream then a sleepover. I feel left in the dust. I tried all of her sports and i just don't like them. how can i get my friend back?




Hey Girl! The good thing about best friends is that no matter how long you go without hanging out, you can always pick up where you left off. Although she might be making new friends, she won't forget about you. Sports might not be your thing, so try other clubs or activities on for size. Keep yourself busy and when you both have free time, it will be just like nothing changed! xo Lizzie 
lizzie n.

by emilyb on 3/12/2010 3:21:08 PM

 
 

Thx mod!! I really appriciate your help.

by Sam1220 on 3/12/2010 12:14:51 AM

 
 

Mod mod mod
ok so my "friend" laurine likes my crush also,, so I straightned my hair today and she told my other friend "hey Kassi look at Sam she straightened her hair just cuz Ryan (my crush) said it looks good like that!" I just found this out. I cried cuz I
thought she was my friend I could trust.. What should I do?? I'm not talking to her at all btw.




Forget her. Shes jealous. Ryan likes your hair and not hers. So just keep going on with your life and things will be fine. xoxo kerra 
Kerra S.

by Sam1220 on 3/12/2010 12:06:08 AM

 
 

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by basketball4 life on 3/10/2010 11:01:46 PM

 
 

~~~~~~~~~MOD~~~~~~~~~
So, today, I found out my BFF's other BFF likes my BFF's crush, and she's been seriously flirting. I'm afraid that my BFF is going to be mad at her, and I really don't want my BFF to feel sad. Thanks
and also, this is really random, but, i'm going on a 45 minute field trip and I think i'll be bored. any tips on what to do?
THANKS SO MUCH




Hey girl, on the field trip, try bringing an MP3 player or book to read. You could also try chatting with a friend. As for your BFF sitch, it's hard when you're in the middle. My suggestion is to either hint to your friend something may be up or back away and let her and her BFF handle it. Feelings will def be hurt but it's your choice how involved you are.

xoxo 
Alyssa B.

by LOLipops on 3/10/2010 10:04:49 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD MOD MOD
THERE IS THIS GIRL IN MY CLASS WHO PURPOSELY TRIES TO MAKE ME MAD. SHE IS REALLY MEAN. I HAVE TRIED DEALING WITH HER, BUT SHE CONTINUES TO BOTHER ME. WHAT SHE DOES IS TALK TO MY ONE FREIND WHO IS ALSO HER FREIND. WHAT THEY TALK ABOUT IS LIKE OH WE ARE GOING TO HAVE SO MUCH FUN THIS FRIDAY OR REMEBER THAT INSIDE JOKE? HA HA SO FUNNY. WHEN IT IS SOO NOT FUNNY. THE FRIEND OF HERS THAT IS MY FREIND DOESN'T KNOW THE MEAN GIRL IS TRYING TO BOTHER ME. PLEASE TELL ME HOW TO DEAL, REMEMBER THE FREIND IS NOT INVOLVED AT ALL

 



Hey girlie,

I really wish I could answer your question right now!  Unfortunately, I'm busy working on the website so I can't get to it at the moment.  I know tons of users on GL.com have been in your sitch though, so try asking some of the advice-givers for help!  If you still need an answer after a little while, feel free to ask again.



Lots of love <3

Lauren C.

by owlluvrgrl on 3/9/2010 5:19:34 PM

 
 

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by NaturallyWonderful on 3/8/2010 9:57:12 PM

 
 

MOD MOD MOD
My friend (lets call her S) has been friends with me and my girls 4ever. One day she just ditched us and went to hang out with this other girl (lets call her Er) Er and S kept ignoring us and saying jokes about my friend (and S's best friend) N. They also made this group and only people who are just like them can be in it. Today, S came crawling back to us saying that Er was "forcing" her to act that way. No one can really force people to be a certain way. S said that wanted to still be friends with us all along, but why wouldn't she hang out with us then? Should we let S just be friends with us again? How do we know if S is going to just do this again? Thank you and sorry for all the questions!




Hey babe, I think you should have a talk with S and let her know that you were confused by why she left you to begin with.  You should discuss how she ignored you and left you before you decide to make things back to normal!  
Megan R.

by emilypizazz on 3/8/2010 5:16:19 PM

 
 

Exactly right!


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