I really like this guy I’m going out with…the only problem is we’ve never met! I know he’s not a total creep because he’s friends with my BFF.
Most of my friends think it’s weird that I’ve never even met him. Is it weird? I don’t know what to do now.
I’m so happy to hear you’ve found a great guy. Sure, your relationship may be a bit unconventional, but that doesn’t mean you can’t make it work.
The big date night
Your friends are right that you should meet your BF. To have a good relationship, you need to make sure that you’re comfy hangin’ out in person, too. Next time you talk, ask him if he wants to go to the movies or grab dinner over the weekend. It can be kinda hard asking a guy on a date, but the good news is—you already know he’s totally into you! Ease the awkwardness the first time around by asking your dude out on a group date. This way you'll be surrounded by friends if you feel weird at any point.
Don’t worry, be happy
If you and your BF have been getting along really well over the phone, IM and texts, chances are, you’ll get along face-to-face, too. It may be a li’l strange at first (especially if you're super-shy!), but just relax and things will ease up. This is the same guy you’ve been talking to all along, so there's no need to worry. Just be yourself and have fun!
But just in case…
If things don’t go quite as you expected after a few dates, then it might be time to reevaluate. Sometimes guys and gals get along really well virtually, but lack some of that special chemistry in person. If that’s the case, just let him know that you love chatting with him, but you’re just not feeling that spark. If you’re sweet about it, I’m sure he’ll understand.
Good luck, girl! I hope things work out for you and your BF!
~Kristen Y. <3
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POSTED ON 3/19/2010 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN boyfriend Q & A, online