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My good friend’s dad has terminal cancer. I’ve never had the feeling of knowing someone is going to die soon, so I don't know what to say to him. I don’t know how to act around him in normal circumstances or at times when I want to comfort him.

How can I still act normal around him for most of the time, and what can I say to comfort him in this difficult time?

Hey chica,

I’m really sorry to hear about you’re friend and his dad. Losing someone special is always hard and it’s as painful to watch your friend go through it all. However, don’t over think what you can do to comfort him because you’re care and concern is the start of everything that he’ll need.

Be a Cheerleader

Although you’ve never been in your friend’s situation, I would definitely encourage you to try to see it in his view. Would you want everyone to be constantly reminding you of what is going on by acting awkward around him? Or would you rather have your friends there to cheer you up and just be there for you? This isn’t to suggest that you make your friend completely ignore what’s going on, but to make sure that he’s not totally brought down by this.

Just Listen

In order to truly comfort your friend, you can also be a bit upfront about it. Tell him that you are aware of what’s going. Acknowledge it. And then, ask him what you can do or what he wants you to do in terms of supporting him. Then, just listen. You don’t need to bring it up again and again if you don’t know what to say because that just might make him feel awkward too. Whether or not he talks, simply be there to show that you’ll be with him entirely.

As your friend goes through these difficult times, pay more attention to his every word and action and he’ll know that he’s not alone.

Good Luck,

Jean

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POSTED ON 4/6/2010 6:41:00 PM

My bff's mom has cancer too, and it's spreading and she just had surgery. I always feel helpless, but i just try to support her, keep her mind off things and i always listen when she needs to talk. And sometimes she just cries and i hold her and we sit there and cry. She tells me it helps a lot even tho i feel i am not helping. So the main thing is to be there for your friends. It sounds cheezy and lame but it's true. I hope I helped.
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Okay so me and my bff are going to an amusement park on saturday. I can invite one more friend but idk who to invite. I am trying to decide between 2 girls. One of them is my other bff but she is getting her wisdom teeth pulled tommarrow and idk if she will be up for it by then. But she is the kind of girl who will go even if she is in pain because she loves roller coasters so much, and everyone loves her. she is just so fun to have around. My other friend is nice and fun, but she is a bit arugemental (idk if thats a word haha). Like she super sweet but she always feels like she gets left out and stuff and like she always assumes ppl are mad at her when they aren't. I love her so much though because she is always open and talks to u about things. Idk who to bring HELP!!!!!!!!!

I'm so sorry. I couldn't really say I understand, but I am sorry. Try to do things with your friend to get her mind off of it for at least 1 hour a day, and if that doesn't work just listen to anything she needs to say.

by calalove99 on 4/7/2010 9:14:09 AM

My mom had breast cancer and all my friends comforted me until my mom got out of the hospital.

by zumiez on 4/7/2010 8:53:40 AM

Frnd just listen to ur heart as ur frnd is hurted ur frnd need support if u are not going to cheer him up then who be support for ur frnd

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