My grandpa was in the hospital with a strange disease. The last time I saw him, he told me, “If no one fixes me, I’ll kill myself.” I thought he was just saying that, but then my mom picked me up from my friend’s house, she looked really sad and told me that grandpa died. When I asked how he died, she told me he shot himself.
For two weeks, I couldn’t stop crying. My friends support me, but I still have nightmares and horrible thoughts. I’m never happy. Please help.
Hi there, girly. I am so sorry to hear about your grandfather. My condolences go to you and your family. My uncle died from cancer recently and it certainly took a toll on my family, so I can only imagine what your family must be going through.
What your grandfather wanted
As tragic as your grandfather’s death is, he chose for this to be his ending. When he was diagnosed with that disease, he thought he was going to suffer. He chose to end his life now rather than suffer and submit you and your family to such a long, painful time. Even though what he did has hurt you deeply, he was doing what he thought was best for himself and his family.
It’s not your fault
People say things all the time that they don’t really mean. There was no way you could have known that he was serious, and there was nothing you or anyone else could have done. Please, do not blame yourself. It was your grandfather’s choice, and in the end, nothing could have stopped this.
I know it hurts right now, sweetie. And to be honest, there will always be times when it will hurt. But trust me when I say that over time, it will hurt less. Your family is going through a rough time right now, so don’t be afraid to look to them for support. Talk to them and let ‘em in on how you’re feeling. You can all help each other. After all, families are a support system, right?
I know things are tough right now, girl, but stay strong. With a little help from your friends and fam, I know you can get through this. And as always, if there’s anything else I can do, you know where to find me.
BY KRISTEN YEUNG ON 6/1/2010 10:57:00 AM
POSTED IN dealing with death, dealing with tragedy