All my friends are girls, but I really want guy friends, too. I'm starting to get a little sick of how my girl friends are so caught up in how they look. Sometimes I feel more comfortable with boys.
I talk to them a lot, but in my school, no one has BGFs. You are either dating a guy, or you're not. How can I approach boys so they will be my friends, and how do I make it clear to other people that we are NOT dating?
I totally get you, girls are for sure great, but some times hanging with guys can be a nice break from lots of drama.
Though most people think just talking to a guy means you like them, it’s not true at all. I have plenty of friends that are guys and I’m not interested in a single one of them. Same with my boyfriend, he’s the love of my life and he has plenty of good friends that are girls, but none of them have feelings for each other. So I would just say go up and find a guy you’re not crushin’ on, and chat! See if you guys have some things in common and get to know each other, like you did your girls.
Black and White
Another thing to keep in mind about being friends with boys is your body language. Even though we can all say a friend is a friend, we have to admit, being friends with the opposite sex is a bit different. Even though boys are girls can for sure be chummy buds, you also have to make sure that you treat your BGF just like you would a girlfriend. Meaning, absolutely no flirting or any other sign that might lead him on to think you like him.
It’s totally annoying when people “assume” things, I know! But all you can really do is be honest, and whenever someone asks, just explain, “we’re just friends.” Let them know that neither one of you have feelings for each other, and your just buds. If they respect you, they’ll understand that. But most importantly, it truthfully doesn’t matter what people think. So if they’re being hurtful, just don’t listen. All that matters is your friends and they’ll know the truth.
Buddy up, girl!
XOXO, Lauren R.
POSTED ON 6/23/2010 2:54:00 PM