Recently my mom started working again after seven years of staying home. It's great she has a job but I'm also kind of worried for her, too.
Her job really stresses her out and she's working all the time (and I mean, all the time). She leaves at 8 am every morning and sometimes doesn't come home until 9:00. But even when she's home, she's still working and never goes to sleep before 2:00. She'll wake up in the middle of the night and can't sleep because she's so stressed. Even her weekends are filled with work.
I never get to just sit down and talk to her. More Importantly, I'm really worried that it could be affecting her mental and physical health. Help!
Hey girly! Sorry to hear you’re a li’l worried about your mom. My BF’s mom just started working full time again, and I know it can be a big adjustment (for her and YOU!). But, there are a few things you can do that will def help ease the sitch.
Take a walk in her shoes
A mom’s #1 job is being a good mother, so I’m sure she had no problem not working so she could be around while you grew up. Work can be way stressful, no doubt about it, but now that you’re older and ya don’t need her 24/7, she may feel like she’d be better off working during the day. I know that’s at least how my mom (a stay at home momma herself) feels. Understanding why she does want to work again is important.
One-on-one
The best way to let your mom know you’re worried is to talk to her about it. The next time it’s just you two, sit down for a chat. Explain that you miss her and you feel like you don’t get to talk to her enough anymore. Let her know that you understand why she wants to go to work, but you also worry because she’s working too much. She needs to balance work and play!
Mommy’s little helper
With all the added stress, your mom’s going to be pretty tired when she gets home from a long day at the office. Make sure to help around the house by doing your chores (and even hers!), lending a hand with dinner or cleanup or offering to run errands. This will help to ease the heavy burden she’ll be carrying. And make sure to help her relax too! Plan a little down time during the evening to do something she likes or to just talk.
Good luck!
Kristen Y. <3
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