My BFF isn't involved in any extra-curricular activities. However, I am involved in a lot of extra-curricular activities. I do tennis, piano, accelerated math, Student Council, and charity work.
Although I hang out with her as much as I can, which is about 3 times a month or more, she complains about me having too many things to do. I don't want to fight with her, but I don't understand why she is getting mad at me because it's not my fault that she doesn't do any activities.
How could I get her to understand that just because she doesn't have anything to do doesn't mean she should get upset at me?
It can be super tough juggling family, friends, school AND extra-curricular activities. But try to understand what’s upsetting your bestie and see if you can make any small changes to make your friendship even better.
See Where She’s Coming From
It seems like your bestie is feeling a bit neglected. Maybe her idea of your friendship involves seeing you more than three times a month. But since your activities are obvs important to you and will def help you later on in college, try to explain to your BFF why you do what you do. You could even invite her to do charity work with you or have a study session together.
Do What You Can
There are plenty of ways to keep being the best BFF you can be, even with a busy schedule. For example, take full advantage of texting! It’s a simple way to have a convo or just say “hey” while you have a bit of down time. You can also encourage your bestie to find a hobby to get involved with, or a charitable cause that interests her.
Make the Time You Spend Together Memorable and Fun
Make sure that the time you are able to spend with your best friend is fun-filled. Plan a themed sleepover, make yummy food and have a serious gab sesh while you munch. The memories will keep you both happy until the next time you hang out.
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BY TYLER JENKINS ON 8/28/2010 3:25:00 PM