Got a great new BF?
Congrats! You’ve gotten over the first big hurdle of teen dating: finding a
cool guy who’s way worthy of you. But here comes that second hurdle: knowing
the secrets of being the GF he can’t wait to hang out with.
Silence is golden. One of the biggest mistakes a new GF can make?
Blabbing to the gang about his mushy texts or how he goes out of his way to
walk you to soccer practice. Of course, it’s all wonderful and adorable, but
the truth is, most guys don’t like their love lives becoming fodder for gossip
sessions. Once he catches wind of your loose-lip fests, he’ll likely be less
than happy about it. So keep those deets on the DL.
Stay true to you. Changing for a BF is bad, bad, bad. If he’ really a
good guy, he should like you for who you are. A guy who pressures you to lose
weight or put on more makeup or wear different clothes, isn’t worth a minute of
your time. This is not to say he can’t make suggestions (“You’re really cute in
that purple blazer”), but your personal style is ultimately up to you.
Let freedom ring. Just like you and your friends enjoy a girls’ night
out, your boyfriend deserves to have guy-bonding time. Don’t take his wanting
to hang with the guys as a rejection of you or your new relationship. It’s
actually healthy for couples to do things apart from each other. Besides, if
you spend every waking moment with your boy, you two are bound to get bored.
No need to be needy. Yes, you adore him. But your new guy doesn’t define
who you are. A guy can tire very quickly of a girl who follows him around like
a puppy and hangs on his every move. He’ll have loads more respect and find you
much more attractive if you show him that you have your own goals and passions
in life.
Think like a guy. As in, live for the moment. Girls tend to fantasize
about the future while guys…don’t. Telling him how much you’re looking forward
to the months-away Halloween dance, while he’s looking forward to a
cheese-steak for lunch, is a recipe for disaster.