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BY CAROL WESTON ON 10/10/2010 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN dear carol, sex ed
It's fine! It's better then going off and really doing SOMETHING
People are so dramatic there is nothing wrong with it
and it is NOT a sin
by redvelvetluv on 2/14/2013 9:05:16 PM
by fashionqn on 2/7/2013 2:20:54 PM
It's not gross it's better then actually having u know what
If anything I think it helps just make sure u wash your hands
Its not something to be ashamed of a lot of girls do it
Don't worry I think in a way in it helps With hormones
by redvelvetluv on 1/11/2013 3:34:27 PM
Omg, I've been doing this since I was really little (at first it was accidental), and I always thought I was crazy or sick! But after reading some articles on this site, I realized that what I do is normal and perfectly fine. I really must thank girlslife for the help it gave me. Meghan D.
by radkid985 on 9/29/2012 1:42:11 PM
by Rainbows_rawr on 7/5/2012 6:49:58 PM
by Danerka on 4/5/2012 5:21:33 PM
If you have a bf or are just attracted to them I think simulating sex and acting it out is going to happen. I think its natural and as long as you dont simulate it too much(like that is all you think about)its normal. My mom never said I was going to do it but we did talk that I would wonder what it feels like and simulating it, but not doing it, with a guy is a safe way to be curious without getting pregnant.
Guys have their way and we have ours, and its just a part of growing up.
by luckykel on 2/6/2012 3:01:33 PM
Simulating Sex is Natural, Safe, and Fun in my opinion. It's human nature to feel like that, but please wait until you find that special someone to actually have sex. Although everyone has different beliefs and views, and I's important to respect them all.
I definitely choose this over getting pregnant or diseased.
I love how this website is open to actual issues, like so.
by GermanGirlsFTW on 1/31/2012 5:35:15 AM
im dealing with the same thing to and i feel sick and still doing it
by redkeys on 1/21/2012 11:08:00 AM
i thought GL was open to giving advice! I am disappointed by mods saying that they can't answer questions about **x, because apparently its a "word that cannot be named" Please visit my Advice Queen page! I really like to give advice to peeps just post a question and i will answer it on your profile as soon as i see it.
by basketballcutie11 on 12/23/2011 6:07:37 PM
thaks for putting this i feel much better about myself now!
by NancyDrew 1997 on 11/26/2011 12:44:18 PM
im dealing with the same thing too thanks for putting this i feel much better now.
by NancyDrew 1997 on 11/26/2011 12:39:13 PM
i just think about i guy i think is sexy
by ponyjumper on 8/12/2011 10:28:39 PM
Thanks, GL! I'm in the same situation and was worried that I was alone.
by iloverupert on 6/19/2011 7:34:41 PM
by Taffy18 on 2/23/2011 9:09:20 PM
by AN2bff on 1/24/2011 8:12:03 PM
by alb90 on 1/23/2011 1:07:59 PM
by hmmc296 on 1/4/2011 12:41:38 AM
by girlygirl1251095723 on 12/4/2010 5:55:23 PM
Okay. I'm not gonna lie. I've done this before. And I still do it when I really want that special guy. Meghan D.
by Cupcake1999 on 11/27/2010 10:31:32 PM
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If you want some advice on anything, comment you sitch. onto my profile! ill write back answering your sitch on your profile page, but if your profile is not publicly visible then i will post my reply on my profile.
Heres some of the things I can give you advice about:
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Thanks for reading!
by bl0ndiegrl1 on 11/22/2010 6:15:14 PM
by BrainSlushieex3 on 11/18/2010 6:21:05 PM
I can tell you once you get a bf and get very serious with each other that wondering what sex feels like and wanting to simulate it is very tempting but I think its also very natural because we are getting at that age where we start to think about doing it. And if you are a virgin like me its even 10xs worse.
And icegirl123, even if you dont like sports you could wear workout clothes or go walking and let him see you that way. Or he may be a guy that likes all kinds of girls, but I think exercising is good for everyone so if you can do that he may be more interested.
by luckykel on 11/9/2010 10:16:58 PM
there is A BOY I LIKE BUT HE ONLY LIKES GIRLS THAT ARE SPORTY BUT I HATE SPORTS WHAT DO I DO
by icegirl123 on 11/9/2010 8:30:56 PM
Hey! I can't really talk to you about this, but it's a subject that you should probably ask a parent or guardian about. Good luck! Helen S.
by rainbowscolorfully on 10/14/2010 4:31:15 PM
Not wanting to do it is easier said than done because we are going through puberty, and especially if you feel comfortable doing it, its hard to stop after you start. I know it makes you feel good, like its a relief after doing it but I think that is from releasing stress and tension.
And as long as you dont get addicted to doing it all the time I dont think there is anything wrong with it. Just be glad there is this release or we would all be wanting to have sex more than we do! Meghan D.
by luckykel on 10/13/2010 7:19:45 PM
I suggest you get a hobby or do an activity the next time you feel 'horny'.it will keep your brain occupied and help keep those pesky hormones at bay
by Halobbez1996 on 10/12/2010 6:10:52 PM
I know this seems harsh, but...unless you know what simulating sex is, don't comment on here for you really have no clue what your writing and the mods have already told more then 3 people, that to find that out, you have to ask a trusted parent, guardian, or friend.& yeah...I get the whole it's a sin to your religion,I'm like that too, but please EVERYONE has a right to an opinion (freedom of speech)...,but like the rules of no cussing on this cite, please keep rude comments/questions to yourself.
Be mature we all should be mainly teenagers on here.
In my opinion,this isn't gross at all (just super embarrassing), the girlie shouldn't feel ashamed but, if you want to stop doing something all it takes is strong will power...and don't worry.Hakuna Matata.
by i_luv_devin on 10/11/2010 3:07:50 AM
Sister, you are going through what all us have or will be going through soon. Do what you feel comfortable with.
When you look at how many of us teens are getting pregnant and how many of us are engaging in sex because society makes you feel weird if you arent doing it, I think it would be better if we could delay having sex.
Before I started dating my mom and I talked about puberty and guys and we went online together and read about what my body is going through. We all have different views about this and whats good and whats not. Meghan D.
by luckykel on 10/10/2010 11:31:02 PM
I know a lot of you commenters are considerably younger then me, but I think a lot of you are handling this very immaturely.
If it doesn't make you feel comfortable, don't do it.
by kazthespaz on 10/10/2010 9:51:32 PM
by volleyskater on 10/10/2010 9:23:17 PM
by alexsoccer23 on 10/10/2010 7:13:25 PM
to whoever asked this question.: ur relatives and friends would probly not think anything bad, unless it is against ur religion or soemthing. its very common i think. and also, ppl, its fine if its against ur religion or u dont believe in it or whatever, but it might hurt other ppl to say its a sin or its wrong. everyone is entitled 2 their own opinions.
by suPerDEEcool101 on 10/10/2010 6:59:06 PM
And how on earth is it not emotionally unsafe?
by mollyluv on 10/10/2010 6:57:43 PM
of course it's alright. the whole 'awkward' thing is just some propaganda Meghan D.
by mollyluv on 10/10/2010 6:56:14 PM
They aren't encouraging it, they're saying that its OKAY. They're trying to make the girl know that its not a bad thing, so she doesn't go around hating herself. You know, I used to feel bad about it, but I don't anymore because other girls do it, so I know I'm not alone now.
by blue3gurlie on 10/10/2010 6:41:16 PM
I agree with musicluva246, this article is definitely sending a bad message! The person who wrote to "Carol" is clearly trying to STOP simulating sex, so saying that its "safe" and "not a crime", doesn't help her at all. Not to mention that it's considered a sin...
by ilove2draw on 10/10/2010 6:09:11 PM
im not sure what simulated sex is either, but to encourage girls to do it just seems wrong. just wait, will ya. sex is for that one perfect guy inside marrige.
by harrypotterfan#1 on 10/10/2010 5:38:54 PM
Ah... this is a sticky topic. However, I think GL handled this quite well.
I don't do this, but I imagine I would much rather do this than actually have intercourse, and possibly have disease or pregnancy. This method is pretty much 100% safe, as far as safety goes.
Thank you, GL for letting us know that this is okay. It's definitely a private topic, but like I said, this is much better than actually having intercourse!
by hlucero on 10/10/2010 4:15:14 PM
u don't have to simulate it. if it makes u uncomfortable just dream about it. when u dream about a cute guy just do it there. i don't do it bcuz its gross and akward but my friend ashley is always telling me how she does it.
by imari63 on 10/10/2010 4:04:33 PM
I would never do this. It would make me feel uncomfortable, but we all feel diffrent.
by caligirl99 on 10/10/2010 3:10:13 PM
I don't like the message this article is sending. Simulating sex isn't okay. I've been doing it recently and if really makes me feel uncomfortable and worthless. Also it can be very unsafe. Not a good idea. Also Catholics consider it a sin. Helen S.
by musicluva246 on 10/10/2010 3:02:06 PM
by meghan1 on 10/10/2010 3:00:30 PM
okay everyone i really want 300 comments before thanksgiving (maybe christmas if ya dont help!!!)
comment on my profile!!!
have a great day!!!
by meghan1 on 10/10/2010 2:58:42 PM
by jbluva217 on 10/10/2010 2:52:31 PM
Sounds like a little help is needed. DONT rush take your time worry about that srtuff later girl.
by pixiechicita212 on 10/10/2010 1:58:53 PM
by maryssacox15 on 10/10/2010 1:55:25 PM
I don't have a lock on my bedroom door :/
by twilightluvr316 on 10/10/2010 1:37:49 PM
or u could dream about it
by imari63 on 10/10/2010 1:16:38 PM
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