My BFF doesn't like it when I hang out with my friend Laura. She always gets jealous and says mean things about her. But I like Laura and I want to keep being her friend.
My BFF has no right to tell me who to hang out with, so I stayed away from her. Now Laura and I are best friends and have way more in common than I had with my ex-BFF, but I still miss her. I’m afraid she doesn’t want anything to do with me because I ditched her. How can we start being friends again?
You’re right: Your BFF was not acting like a BFF. She should be welcoming to the other people in your life. But she also may have felt threatened by your new friendship and did not handle it the right way.
Your ex-bestie might miss you too, but feels rejected. Try being honest with her and let her know that you didn’t like the ‘tude she was giving Laura, but that you wish all three of you could be friends. Or at least that you could regain your old friendship.
Just be straight with your friends, and try not to expect them to read your mind. You might find that you’re more on the same page than you think.
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BY LINDSEY SILKEN ON 12/3/2010 7:00:00 AM
POSTED IN bad friend, 411 on fighting with friends, how can I make new friends