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Is my cuz in danger?

 
 

I have a cousin who’s a year younger than me that I'm worried about. She's dating a boy who's a couple years older than her, and he's in a gang. She said that she told him she doesn't like him being in the gang, and that he's going to try to get outta it, but I'm still worried.

 

Even if he DOES get out of the gang, I'm worried that they could get angry or something and go after him, and she might be with him when that happens. Her mom knows that they're dating, but she doesn't know that her BF is in a gang. My cuz said she'd tell her mom after Christmas, but I'm still worried.

 

I can't tell my mom or else she might tell my cousin’s mom, and she might get in trouble and never trust me again. What should I do?

 

You’re in a very tough sitch, girl. Fam comes first, and when you see a family member in a difficult and potentially dangerous situation, of course you want to help. It might be best to confront your cousin first. After all, your opinion will mean something to her, and it’s important that she hears it. Urge her to talk to her mom, or to another adult who can give her sound advice.

 

If she’s not hearin’ ya and you’re still really worried? It won’t be the worst thing in the world to talk to your mom about it. Explain that you don’t want your cuz to know that you tattled, but that you’re worried and aren’t sure what to do. Your mom will understand and know what to do.

 

Hopefully the situation isn’t as dire as you’re imagining. But it’s always best to stay on the safe side, and that means clueing in an adult to what’s going on. It might be hard for your cousin to hear your fam’s concern, but in the end, she’ll understand that you’re just lookin’ out for her. Good luck!
 
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BY LINDSEY SILKEN ON 12/23/2010 11:07:00 AM

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@anasquirrelygurl That relationship is TOTALLY inappropriate, and if they're still together next year, illegal. Have a talk with your cousin, and tell her that it would be good to break up with this boy and find a guy her age. As her cousin, it's your responsibility to make sure this boy is an overall good person, who respects her feelings. Wish her good luck for us!

XOXO,
Hayley & Bella

by Hayley_finnsessed on 8/18/2011 9:38:26 PM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD
I have the same problem with my cause but its differnt im 14 and shes only 13 but her boy friend is 17. My aunt haes her boy friend and im starting to think hes not so nice either. I Have never acually meet him because my cuz lives in a differnt state from me but im scared for her she comes to visit alot and on these visit she tells me how there make out alot and how she thinks there going to have sex soon. She told me this last year at frist i was really scared because she also told me she would sneak out at 12 midnight to see him but she never said they had sex after that, just tha they made out. I thought they would break up because shes 13 and all but this last time she came to visit she told me they had sex only like for a minute but now he thinks they should do it all the time. She also told me at this church lock in there going to there going to sneak away so they can do it again! I`m scraed i dont want her to get pregant but i dont want to tell on her either?




Hey! their relationship is pretty inappropriate. She is too young to be getting involved in this stuff. You should tell her mom what's going on. It's the right thing to do. simple as that.  
Helen S.

by anasquirrelygurl on 3/25/2011 4:52:47 PM

 
 

Dear Is my cuz in danger,
This is a tough situation girl. My advice is tell your mom even if your scared. Whoever you tell will more than likely understand why you were scared to tell her sooner. good luck! Smile Also I give great advice! On anything, school,friends,family... ect. So feel free to ask! Smile

xoxo,
K-Girl Smile

by kaylarocks2000 on 1/30/2011 10:31:50 PM

 
 

MODMOD I need some help. My older sister is 25 and I'm 13. She has a boyfriend that lives in California and we live near Iowa. Recently, I heard my mom and her talking, and my mom said,"Have you called the doctor for that thing?" and my Sis said yes, but it the appointment would b b4 her BF comes over for a visit so it wouldn't do much good. He is coming a few days before V-day. The doc she is seeing is for down there. When I asked her why she needed to see the doc, she told me not to worry about it. When I asked her BF what they were gonna do for V-day he said that if he told me, I wouldn't like it. And my mom asked my Sis if she was preparing for what they (my mom and Sis) and talked about for when her BF comes over. (BTW, he stays at our house with my Sis, sometimes alone when he comes) My Sis said yes and appeared sheepish. It seems like my Sis and her BF are gonna do it, in our own house! She isn't even married yet, and they havent gone out for a year, what I am to do?




Hey girlie! Well, I'm not sure what your sis has planned, but I'm sure it's nothing too crazy! Try not to worry too much about it! 
Marly Z.

by bee309 on 1/22/2011 5:02:52 PM

 
 

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by sstods on 1/17/2011 4:12:09 PM

 
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