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You’ve snagged a fab date, but in the middle of dinner, you freeze up. What should I say? is the only thing you can think about. Forget about how hot your date is and be natural, girlie. But, when in doubt—and we’ve so been there!—keep these tips in mind.

Be confident
Even if you’re so nervous you’re shaking, remember “mind over matter,” and act like you know what you’re doing. Go up to him with something to say and be yourself. Fake the confidence until you’re comfortable enough so that you don’t have to fake it anymore.

Find the perfect balance
Usually when you’re comfortable in a convo nothing can go wrong (as long as he’s comfy too) but just remember not to answer questions with one word answers cause those are conversation killers, and don’t dominate the convo with long winded stories either, ‘cause the guy won’t even remember what you came over to talk about in the first place!

Don’t plan out the convo
Every time you think you have the perfect line and you wait all day to say it, when you finally get the chance it won’t sound natural and you’ll be beating yourself up for the awkward convo you just started. If you have a great story or joke, sure share it, but don’t prepare conversations in your head and then freak out when it doesn’t work out like you rehearsed it in your room. Just be yourself and don’t stress.
 
Look him in the eye
It’s hard to stare into someone’s eyes when you’re talking because it makes the convo way more intimate, but it’ll also make it that much better and memorable. If he’s into you, you’ll both walk away with butterflies.

Smile
Everyone is beautiful when they smile, and it may seem cheesy, but if you give him a glance of your pearly whites every now and then while you talk not only will you look like a happier more approachable person, but it shows that you’re into the conversation and that what he’s saying can make you smile.

BY JILLIAN ZACCHIA ON 1/22/2011 7:00:00 AM

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okay so i had a bf and he really seemed to like me over the summer i called him alot and he seemed okay but on the 1st day of school his old gf said he when out with her i asked him about it and he said he did i also heard he went out with other girls. so anyway we broke up but i still like him he is going out with his old gf my bff told me he said he felt sorry for her adn not to spread who he was dating around. my other bff told me he is tring to ask out this other girl who doesn't go to my school but the girl doesn't like him. my ex-bf is still nice to me and when i asked him to slow dance he said yes. my bff told me to talk to him about going out again or just telling him i know who he is going out with but i always get shy around him what should i do? thank you

 

Hey girl,

 

If he's dating someone else, you should probably back off. If you were his new girlfriend, would you want someone doing that to you? If he's nice to you but is interested in other people, you can either be friends with him or if it's too awkward, take some time apart.

Meghan D.

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by 8horselover on 12/21/2011 3:49:25 PM

 
 


Mod! Mod!
I like this guy but I only see him like once a week not even. He looks at me and he knows that I like him but he won't make a move or talk to me. How can I approach him and talk to him without making it seem so planned? I really need advice!


Hey girl, start off by just saying hi when you see him. Wave and smile and occassionally say "how are you?". You could even start complimenting him and asking him different questions, maybe about his day or plans for the weekend. That way when you go to have a full out conversation with him it won't seem like it came from nowhere. Plan out things you want to say to him, so you don't get tongue tied or loose your train of thought. As long as you're confident you'll be fine. Good luck! Smile Smile


Lynae P.

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by caligirl99 on 12/10/2011 8:06:23 PM

 
 



Thanks Lauren C. Great advice!! I used to know him well but we grew apart Frown(




You're welcome, lovely. That happens sometimes, unfortunately <3 
Lauren C.

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by chick987 on 10/23/2011 11:27:58 AM

 
 



MOD MOD MOD!
I'm sorry i mod so much I just have so much problems!! Frown
There is this guy at my school and hes "loved me" since kindergarten. He's a lil cutie and lil chubby and i acctully kinda like him. Only 2 problems. Iv'e dated him before and when it got super awkward which is like next day i break up. And he gets SO upset and dates another girl. And he acctully kissed her 2 times! ANd now he's back to me and I feel like if i date him it will be awkward and i dont want to break his heart again. What should i do? I feel really betrayed he would kiss her if hes in love with me. Is he real or just in for kisses? ANother fact in 1st grade i was at his house and he told me he loved me. So real or just kisses. Thank you!!




Hey girl,

Think of how breaking up with him made him feel! I totally understand him trying to date another girl (and yes, maybe even kissing her) to make himself feel more confident of his ability to date a crush. As long as he didn't kiss her while you two were together, then he didn't technically do anything wrong! You also can't base your opinion of him on things he said in first grade - in first grade, he was way too young and didn't really know how serious the word "love" is - and he may not even know now! What you can do is talk to him and try to grow closer as friends to see if you really like him or if you just like the idea of him being around, liking you, and being a dating option. Since he's always been there and liked you, you could just be attached because you like the attention! (Not saying that in a bad way - we're all like that sometimes, promise.) So you basically have to give it time and talk to him so you can see the "real him," to figure out if A) He's serious about liking you (and not just liking girls/kisses/dating in general)... B) If you like him enough to try again... and C) If you are comfortable around him enough not to panic once you do date him, like you did last time. Awkwardness is something that comes with every new relationship - but if you know him well before you start dating, it'll be easier to overcome!
Lauren C.

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by chick987 on 10/22/2011 11:17:13 PM

 
 

MOD!!! I am 13 and I really want a bf!! I even have dreams about it!!! And I have never been on a date or relantionship, and I never kissed a guy, well they wanted to but I kinda said no because I wanted the first kiss to be speacial, and I want one really bad, what ahould I do??

 

Being in a relationship *just* to be in a relationship isn't fair to anyone. If you're crushing on someone, ask them out! And if you're not...wait for those feelings to surface. In the meantime, make some ah-mazing guy friends and put yourself out there so you can meet new people.

Brittany T.

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by istill<3u on 8/22/2011 4:44:56 PM

 
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