I'm 11 years old and have never had a boyfriend. But I
want one. My only crush is Jaden Smith! What should I do?
From all the letters we get from girls just like you, you
are totally not alone, chica! Once you hit a certain age, a boyfriend suddenly
becomes something you want, even something you need to have.
Do you really “need” a guy?
Short answer? No! You def don’t need a guy to feel good
about yourself, to “act your age,” to be mature. That’s all about Y-O-U,
sweetie, not some dude calling ya his girlfriend.
That being said, when everyone else around you is beginning
to pair up—even it’s just for holding hands in the hallway and sittin’ together
at lunch—it’s normal to feel like you need a BF, too, just to fit in.
Unless Jaden Smith is your locker buddy, chances are that
celeb relationship isn’t gonna happen anytime soon. When it comes to dating in
middle school, you have to decide what sort of relationship you want. Do you
want your first boyfriend to be a guy you don’t really dig, just so that you
can be BF and GF? Or would you rather wait and make it somethin’ special?
It’s totes up to you, but I would lean towards the second
choice. It might feel like your way behind, but you’ll be glad you waited once
you find somebody special.
One more thing…maybe your ‘rents are more understanding than
mine, but have you asked when you’re allowed to begin dating? It’s a good convo
to have now that you’re thinking about guys, and if Mom ‘n’ Dad begin to freak,
you can always say, “Hey, I was just wondering. I’m holding out for my boy
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BY BRITTANY TAYLOR ON 1/19/2011 1:56:00 PM
POSTED IN dating advice, GL's best guy advice, crush crash course, boyfriend Q & A